JonnyG

To be honest, its sounds like she has already made up her mind. She probably won't be coming back here. Hopefully though she will take our advice and wait.

U got to laugh

Well u don't mention your age. The average male is 5'11" I think, depending where u come from.

U sound like my ex . At the start of the year I was seeing a 30 year old (now 31). Who after 7 weeks decided to get back with her ex (they had split up because "it was getting serious and he was only young") because he begged for her back. It still hurts now after 8 months because I felt so strongly for her. Treated her great and we had a fun time together. She always made out like she was worried that I would leave her and go find some1 else. Ironic really that after accusing me of perhaps seeing some1 else she then goes back a week later to her ex . If this guy is like most of her ex's it won't have a happy ending. Every ex bf she told me about had seemed to be bad boys. Her ex husband was apparently a "penis" (well it was another word but i can't type it due to the rules but u can guess what it was), because he didn't care about her, and of her bfs, 1 cheated on her, 1 was a complete druggie, 1 didn't care about her at all and was completely vain. On our first date I took her for a coffee where she told me she haden't "done this before"??? 30 years old and never been taken for a coffee with a bf I wonder why her ex decided to split up/have a break from seeing her? I think he might of thought she was too old. Decided to look for some1 else who was younger or just because he was getting bored of her. Im guessing it was him who made the decision to split as it was him asking for her back, and she was looking to date other people. Will they last together? Who knows? She seems desperate for him apparently despite the fact he seems to be a control freak and a big hypocrite. Well, I still hope it works out for her . I think there would of been a good chance she would of stayed with me had I been older, but the age gap of 8 and a half years was too much, thereforeeee her ex was the better man to take (im guessing he is 26+, compared to me being 22) As much as I miss her as she was the only the second girl in my life I've ever had proper feeling for (and the first girl I've had feelings for and actually gone out with them), I to would be worried if we were together whether I would be able to stay with her for the rest of my life. When I hit 30 she would be 38/39. At that age I might get tempted by girls younger girls. Its for the best I guess. My mum and dad would be furious due to her age and that she had a child. *sigh*, I still miss her so bad for some reason, even though she hurt me badly (and it still does hurt), I still defend her if my friends mock her, I don't know why, I guess I just don't like some1 mocking some1 I care about. She still responds to my tx messages despite the fact she told me that if she can't be bothered with some1 she will ignore them. Whether she would still respond to my txs now im unsure, I haven't tx her since end of August and don't plan to til Christmas (just to say "Happy Christmas" and ask hows she doing basically) if ever. To be honest talking to her will probably just drag out the pain, so its prob best not to bother. I need to find some1 else P.S: If u are my ex, the coffee offer is still on

Definitely older. More mature/better looking/more sexually active. My ex was 8 and a half years older than me. A recent girl I was seeing (sex only relationship) was nearly 4 years older than me. In fact, strangely enough, older women seem to prefer me than the younger ones. I wouldn't rule out a younger gf though.

My ex was 30 (i was 21 at time). she had a child of 6. To be honest I am mature enough to respect that some people may have children. Although I don't think my mum and dad would be. Were not together anymore anyway

Very good response ck, but lets keep this 1 on the topic at hand, otherwise your get another telling off from Avman and the thread might get locked The book is apparently talking bout long term relationships, not the intial meetings. And I would agree, that if a man is really into a girl, and isn't agans't marriage, he will definitely ask for her hand. He will do anything for her.

Well like I said above, I think u should just monitor it for now. Give it a month or so and see what happens. Make sure that he isn't stressed and isn't tired and see if his sex drive increases again. If after getting over the stress and tiredness, his sex drive doesn't increase, there could be more serious problems

Are u sure he likes u? and he isn't just saying it to make u feel good? If he does really like u, then yes, he seems real shy. U got over the first hurdle to find out u like each other, now u need to get over the second. U need to (because he appears too shy) to try to initiate a conversation with him alone and one which requires a fair bit of talking, something like a homework assignment. Hopefully within a minute or so he will calm down and become less nervous. Then u can swing the conversation and can make it more general. Hopefully after this conversation from now on he will feel more at ease talking to u. It should progress from there hopefully with either him or yourself asking about a coffee or something. GL

Hang on, u reject him for sex sometimes due to tiredness and its ok (im not disagreeing being really tired has its effects) and now he's occasionally rejecting u for the same reasons and your not happy about it? Perhaps he is tired? Is he rejecting it all the time now? Even earlier in the day? Or at weekends? How old are u both? It could be to the "sparkle" yes, often sex dies down a little after years, but if your still doing it a couple of times a week, don't panick. Worst scenrios are that he has lost interest in you/ seeing someone else. But its progbably not that. He is probably just like he said struggling with stress and tiredness at the mo. Give it a month or so and see if things change. GL

Ok, I wasen't sure if it was a first time meeting or a long time dating situation or what. I havent read the book. Well I guess unless a guy is not into marriage, then "yes", he will eventually ask for her hand if he really likes her instead of stringing her along.

*Removed* Flamebait material Depends, i'll still often bottle chatting to a girl i really like the look of, because unless im pretty sure the girl is interested in me, I can't be bother to waste my time and take another rejection. If I've had a few to drink I can usually pluck up the courage to try chat to a girl who really hasen't shown an interest. If she has looked at me and/ or smiled at me (key body language), then I don't need any alcohol, i'll be up there If I do find a girl i like I will definitely call/tx her again after a night out. So, yes the book is true here, but it doesn't take a genius to figure this out. Its a pity that it sounds like a book for women who are told "Don't do any work yourself. Don't risk rejection. Don't call him. He will do all the work if he likes u!" *sigh* How about the other way around? If a girl really likes u, she will do all the work? Get outta here (well some will i guess), so thereforeeee many girls are wasting opportunities due to fear of rejection again. They let the perfect man walk out of their life . Back to the big "R" word again EDIT: I forgot to add that girl pursueing guy thing is utter BS again. How many times will this stupid myth come up? How many guys do u think are not going to be happy to have sarah michelle geller, Jennifer Anniston, Louise, Neve Campbell and other gorgeous women coming up to them?

U have to make sure that u 2 are entirely comfortable with the idea first. Make sure if its a woman that u don't get over involved with her, make sure u spend more time with your wife/gf (especially kissing wise, and also make sure first that she is comfortable with u kissing another woman). O, and make sure u both agree with the 3rd person u choose. go out, have a good night, have a couple to drink, every1 will get relaxed, and let the fun commence Me and my mate had a 3some with a girl. We were embarrassed about it for like 2 seconds (when we had to pull our trousers down ), but after that, it was a good laugh . Next time i'll hope its with 2 girls though

Its a bold statement I don't know what to say, but I don't consider myself "that word" (I don't want another email about rude language issues).

Im sure your parents will find it erm...amusing.

The average penis circumference is about 5.1 inches. I thought that sounded a lot but I measured myself and I was pleasantly surprised that I was bang on that size. I told my mates when we discussing penis size and they thought that 5 inches circumference was huge and didn't believe me til they measured themselves and found they were of similar size. It sounds a lot, but u will be surprised when measureing your circumference of how big u are.

Exactly. U will be in more trouble if u don't tell them the truth. If u hurry up and tell them your dad can phone the bank manager and they can stop the enquiry. Just apologise to them. When u say that your parents "hit you", were exactly do they hit u and how e.g. fist, slap?

U must of seen programs about doctors and injuries and occasionally on these shows u get the funny part were they show x-rays of people who "accidently" fell on things like jars, oranges, phones, shampoo bottles . Im sure many of those items are bigger than penises. Well its a benefit for guys with small penises (my God, there is a benefit for a small penis, surely not )

Yep, definitely go tell the bank manager right away. Im sure he will be sympathetic and understanding. I take it you have checked your account and are £40 down? Hopefully, the money was swallowed by the machine and he will make sure u get your £40 back as well. GL.

I don't understand a word of that U withdrew £40 and left it in the machine and forgot to take it out? In what way has some1 hacked into your account? Did u mean u left the card in the machine as well as the money? If u had the machine will likely have swallowed both the card and the money unless some1 was nearby to pick it up. Why will they think your dad and u have a scam going on if the machine swallowed your card? Or, if some1 knicked the card and money it will probably be recorded by cctv. And u can simply cancel your card so no1 can use it either. "This was never my intention. Im soo scared. My dads calling the police and I have no idea what to do. They can prove the exsact date and time of the withdrawel and its going to be me! " Weren't u ment to be withdrawing cash with that card? Why are u worried that its going to be u? Of course its u, u were getting money out for a night out I really don't understand what the problem is. EDIT: Have u told your dad that u have lost £40 from your account and not told him it was your fault and that some1 must of hacked into your account to knick tht money? Why did u do that? Why didn't u let it go as just a mistake. Or tell him the truth. like i said, the money (and card?) would of probably been swallowed back up and thereforeeee the money I don't think would of left your account as the money wasen't taken. And if it has lef your account, if it was swallowed again they will be able to find out and remburse u that £40 probably.

U tried vaseline for your lips? Surely that must help them? I had to take the stuff for a couple of months because my lips become try while taking ro-accutaine (acne treatment)

I think all girls are different and each has their own opinion of what they want (often a long list ). The majority are complex whether they like to admit it or not

How many people have you kissed before? (excluding family members) erm????..... 30+ people How many people have you been on a date before? How many boyfriends / girlfriends have you have before? Both of these are difficult to answer as it would depend on what people consider a date and what counts as a gf. At home I had 2 sexual flings and 1 gf. On holiday I've had 2 sexual flings and 2 just kissing relationships. These 4 people I knew for at least a week and we went out together during the holiday. While at uni, I have had 4 1 night stands. And relationship wise I have had 1 I would say was a serious relationship (because for the second time ever I really cared about the girl and I was with a girl for a 2 month sex buddy relationship type. And during the whole time quite a few randon snogs over the years Sums up my history of women I guess And although it makes for good viewing on the monitor, it doesn't really add upto much considering that all happened over the last 9 years. Currently I've only snogged 2 girls in the last 4 months and they were like drunken affairs, so im back once again to struggling. Im very lonely , I can't imagine how the triple "0" people feel . I miss my ex so much, im a wetter.

God has a good laugh with men. He takes away the hair u want e.g. your head, and puts it were u don't want it e.g. back, nose, ears If your hair is thinning, then its best to cut your hair short. Keeping it long will emphasize the thinning. So either get it short and spikey or shave it to a short length. U could try like sister suggested, using a regrowth shampoo and see if that helps. As for back hair...hhhmmm tricky. My lower back has a small tuffed of hair and it annoys me a bit, but I got use to it, and girls don't complain. However i do try to get my lil bro to trim it down every 3-4 months or so. I would suggest the same if its on your lower back. If its your upper back u will have to make a choice of either putting up with it or perhaps waxing it . I don't really know what to suggest cause i don't have anymore than the odd hair grow on the top of my back and i should take it off with a razor.

All I can say is your 13. U have a whole life ahead of u. To worry about guys at that young age is crazy. If it makes u feel better I bet 80%+ of the people your age u see together at school these days won't be together after a year. Seriously, there's nothing shameful about not having a guy at that age, and if people mock u it just shows their imaturity. Unfortunately they won't see this til they grow up. I didn't have a gf til I was 16 (best I had managed til then was a few snogs at parties, but no1 to actually hold onto or care about me), and I didn't really have feelings for anyone til I was 18. Go to school, have fun, and don't worry about guys. Sure if a guy comes along great, but don't worry yourself over one. When u are older u will see the real picture when it comes to feelings for other people.