chriscarlander

If you and your partner are curious about having a 3some with another man or woman, what are the things you should ask/look out for? How would you set this up so that it is comfortable and relaxing for everyone? Cheers!

Body language is not meant to be a substitute for verbal communication. 80-90% of our communication is done with our bodies. There are no real standards, but there are guides that will help you to understand non-verbal communication. It is closely realted to a vocal language where individual words (actions) mean little, but when combined into a sentece (gesture cluster) you have a better chance of understanding its true meaning. Holding a door open is not body language, its simply courtesy. How is body language? What would this mean in your terms? This would mean that people use body language for their own benefit. This is true, however, there are very few people who actually know how to use it. Maybe 1 out of every 20-30 people would actively use it. It's not the individual gesture or signal that you should look at, it's the cluster or groups of gestures and signals that tell you what she/he feels or is thinking. Actually, if you spend enough time researching this topic and then observing these signals when you're talking to someone you may know, you find that these signals actually do have meaning. Maybe a little subdued, but they still carry meaning! On the contrary. Considering that there is a very small percentage of people who can lie with their bodies, we should learn mor about body language in order to detect liars. Right, this is done through their subconscious. They're not aware that they're doing this. You've 'seen' or 'felt' that change in their demeanor, but they don't know that they have changed. You could now use body language to help them relax or try asking the question in a different way. Animals use bodylanguage to communicate, not vocals. we've become "so advanced" that we've lost our ability to read body language. We're still basically animals, to deny that is ignorant, so we should be able to re-learn to understand body language.

On your personal location or the victims location? If I'm in Spain and the suicide occurs in the US then they could hardly have me arrested and charged with anything. I doubt there is an extradition agreement between them?

You could just as well spray mace at her. Why show her a defensive weapon that not even cops would carry. Unless she really kows you and what your interests are, don't walk around showing of a weapon, you're not 12 years old, man. Just be yourself, play the game the right way, you're an adult.

So, it's not so much that the forum doesn't advocate advising how to committ suicide, it's simply that it is illegal to give such advice or assistance to a possible suicide case. The authorities could track their online correspondence then charge those who have given pro-suicide advice and the administrators of said forum. Right, got my answer! Thanks!

If you're dating someone, there should be enough trust and freedom between you to allow for each to go about his/her business freely. There's no reason to get worked up just 'cause ther's a time limit on the visit. It apparently doesn't mean anything to him to hang out with some bird, other than you, while you're not allowed to. Either tell him to chill and get over himself, or dump him. This sort of attitude will usually not go away, so unless you're prepared to put up with this sort of crap, go out and find someone who's better!

I reckon what you're doing is creating messages that aren't there. People, uncluding women, are relatively simple creatures who behave the same way in similar situations. If you're seeing these mixed messages 'all the time', then concentrate on their non verbal communication aka. body language. Once you start seeing these TRUE signals, life will become much easier to understand, and you rarely get these mixed messages. People don't generally send mixed messages if you focus on bodylanguage, turn off 'the sound' and just watch them act! As for seeing everything in black, it'll pass.....

G'day! Thanks for posting my topic, I ralize it is somewhat sensitive, but I'm glad to see that it got posted! =) Wouldn't you be held accountable for some part of it? It would almost be like lending a prospective suicide (suicider?) your garage and a rope to go through with it. Nothing legally wrong in lending said equipment, but I can suspect that you would be held somewhat responsible for providing the solution and equipement. I just reckon that if s**t can happen, it will! Ok, understood. What if they ask you for your email or phone number if they want your advice? Would you delete that info? Is there any way that you can give the advice they want. considering that you live on the other side of the planet?

As of now I realize that I can't talk to him because he just keeps blaming me for all his problems. I don't think anger = passion. Passion is passion in its own right. anger is strong, but nothing short of selfdestructive. So is jealousy. Some people say that jealousy is good for the relaionship, makes it stronger. That's a load of BS. Maybe you don't need 'him' but looking for some qualities that he had? Sometimes the wrappers can look the same but the contents are better! =) Your no good to anyone unless your ok with yourself. Even if this ain't over, is it really worth being with someone like this? There are much better people out there!

Mixed signals? Men? I don't think we do, as a rule. It's not necesary for us to rely on mixed signals as women are within their social groups. If we've got a problem, we might get into a quick fist fight over it, and then it's settled. Women are different. You may be picking up "mixed signals" from someone, but they may not be actually sending them. Maybe your looking 'too deep' into it. My suggestion is; take it as it comes and have fun. Don't think too much of it! Just enjoy it! =)

There doesn't seem to much problem here really. He knows your attraction to him, you've already met, and you stay in daily contact. If you feel the ruge to kiss him, I'm confident he wouldn't puch you away. In fact I'm even guessing he might be waiting for you to make that move. Ha maybe shy, even though he knows your attraction. Go for it and have fun! =)

Sometimes you have to suffer for your pleasure. If you want to see her then go to the church. I don't enjoy churches either, but if I had a choice between not seeing her, and seeing her in church; I'd go. Most churches are quite easygoing and they'll want you to join or ask you what you think, just tell them you haven't made up your mind yet. See it as an experience! nothing more!

I've seen some people on this forum ask for suggestions on how to take their own life. Though i'm sure that they've got a pretty clear idea of how they go about doing it their own way, I'm wondering what the law says about actually providing these requests with a reply? Can people legally give them suggestions? Or will we be charged with a crime?

As long as you've defined the limits of what innocent flirtation is and where the line is, then i've got no problem if my girlfriend flirts with someone. I know that at the end of the day she comes home with me. "It is joy to me, to see the heart that others bleed for, bleeds for me." -anon. I'd rather believe to be treated as I treat people. I know that there is a risk that one of us will have a momentary weakness, for whatever reason, and I'd like to think that if it was me, i'd like another shot. That's almost trying to fight nature and human character, isn't it? Trying to stop your mind from thinking what it does? If I tell you not too think of the color red, what are you going to start thinking of? Red. If you try to stop your mind from looking at someone and thinking that they look hot, or look good in that dress, you're fighting your mind. I bet you're going to loose most the time. If you trust him then he probably would give the same massage even if you were around. (I'm not talking about a full-on body massage.) He could probably 'feel' that you didn't trust him, and you suspected him later on that he was cheating, though you couldn't prove it. If he was innocent, he may have felt wrongly accused. Once you've been worngly accused of cheating, though you haven't, then it doesn't take very long for the relationship to crumble. Though i can understand your view, I don't think I would want my girlfriend to have that stance. If she has close male friends prior to meeting me, then of course she should still be friends with them. I trust her completely, i've never doubted her, even when she's getting a massage from her guy friend! =) This is agree with! So you can't have any friends if you're attracted to them? I don't agree, though. I reckon you can be friends with someone you're attracted to, as long as you don't do anything the other person doesn't want to. As interfering with their relationship, etc. Even having a crush on your friends girlfriend, isn't wrong as long as you don't cross the line. Agreed! Kept innocent and clear in your mind and actions that the flirtation carries no intent, then it's ok. The style of flirting would be different if its with intent vs. without intent.

But you do that with your friends, both men and women. According to your description, this too would be cheating. What would "more than you should" be? Where's that line? I don't think that flirting is cheating until you finally cross the line into a physical act, be it kissing or having sex. To add a new question: Would you forgive your partner if they cheated once on you?