chriscarlander

If you and your partner are curious about having a 3some with another man or woman, what are the things you should ask/look out for? How would you set this up so that it is comfortable and relaxing for everyone? Cheers!

Body language is not meant to be a substitute for verbal communication. 80-90% of our communication is done with our bodies. There are no real standards, but there are guides that will help you to understand non-verbal communication. It is closely realted to a vocal language where individual words (actions) mean little, but when combined into a sentece (gesture cluster) you have a better chance of understanding its true meaning. Holding a door open is not body language, its simply courtesy. How is body language? What would this mean in your terms? This would mean that people use body language for their own benefit. This is true, however, there are very few people who actually know how to use it. Maybe 1 out of every 20-30 people would actively use it. It's not the individual gesture or signal that you should look at, it's the cluster or groups of gestures and signals that tell you what she/he feels or is thinking. Actually, if you spend enough time researching this topic and then observing these signals when you're talking to someone you may know, you find that these signals actually do have meaning. Maybe a little subdued, but they still carry meaning! On the contrary. Considering that there is a very small percentage of people who can lie with their bodies, we should learn mor about body language in order to detect liars. Right, this is done through their subconscious. They're not aware that they're doing this. You've 'seen' or 'felt' that change in their demeanor, but they don't know that they have changed. You could now use body language to help them relax or try asking the question in a different way. Animals use bodylanguage to communicate, not vocals. we've become "so advanced" that we've lost our ability to read body language. We're still basically animals, to deny that is ignorant, so we should be able to re-learn to understand body language.

On your personal location or the victims location? If I'm in Spain and the suicide occurs in the US then they could hardly have me arrested and charged with anything. I doubt there is an extradition agreement between them?

You could just as well spray mace at her. Why show her a defensive weapon that not even cops would carry. Unless she really kows you and what your interests are, don't walk around showing of a weapon, you're not 12 years old, man. Just be yourself, play the game the right way, you're an adult.

So, it's not so much that the forum doesn't advocate advising how to committ suicide, it's simply that it is illegal to give such advice or assistance to a possible suicide case. The authorities could track their online correspondence then charge those who have given pro-suicide advice and the administrators of said forum. Right, got my answer! Thanks!

If you're dating someone, there should be enough trust and freedom between you to allow for each to go about his/her business freely. There's no reason to get worked up just 'cause ther's a time limit on the visit. It apparently doesn't mean anything to him to hang out with some bird, other than you, while you're not allowed to. Either tell him to chill and get over himself, or dump him. This sort of attitude will usually not go away, so unless you're prepared to put up with this sort of crap, go out and find someone who's better!

I reckon what you're doing is creating messages that aren't there. People, uncluding women, are relatively simple creatures who behave the same way in similar situations. If you're seeing these mixed messages 'all the time', then concentrate on their non verbal communication aka. body language. Once you start seeing these TRUE signals, life will become much easier to understand, and you rarely get these mixed messages. People don't generally send mixed messages if you focus on bodylanguage, turn off 'the sound' and just watch them act! As for seeing everything in black, it'll pass.....

G'day! Thanks for posting my topic, I ralize it is somewhat sensitive, but I'm glad to see that it got posted! =) Wouldn't you be held accountable for some part of it? It would almost be like lending a prospective suicide (suicider?) your garage and a rope to go through with it. Nothing legally wrong in lending said equipment, but I can suspect that you would be held somewhat responsible for providing the solution and equipement. I just reckon that if s**t can happen, it will! Ok, understood. What if they ask you for your email or phone number if they want your advice? Would you delete that info? Is there any way that you can give the advice they want. considering that you live on the other side of the planet?

As of now I realize that I can't talk to him because he just keeps blaming me for all his problems. I don't think anger = passion. Passion is passion in its own right. anger is strong, but nothing short of selfdestructive. So is jealousy. Some people say that jealousy is good for the relaionship, makes it stronger. That's a load of BS. Maybe you don't need 'him' but looking for some qualities that he had? Sometimes the wrappers can look the same but the contents are better! =) Your no good to anyone unless your ok with yourself. Even if this ain't over, is it really worth being with someone like this? There are much better people out there!

Mixed signals? Men? I don't think we do, as a rule. It's not necesary for us to rely on mixed signals as women are within their social groups. If we've got a problem, we might get into a quick fist fight over it, and then it's settled. Women are different. You may be picking up "mixed signals" from someone, but they may not be actually sending them. Maybe your looking 'too deep' into it. My suggestion is; take it as it comes and have fun. Don't think too much of it! Just enjoy it! =)

There doesn't seem to much problem here really. He knows your attraction to him, you've already met, and you stay in daily contact. If you feel the ruge to kiss him, I'm confident he wouldn't puch you away. In fact I'm even guessing he might be waiting for you to make that move. Ha maybe shy, even though he knows your attraction. Go for it and have fun! =)

Sometimes you have to suffer for your pleasure. If you want to see her then go to the church. I don't enjoy churches either, but if I had a choice between not seeing her, and seeing her in church; I'd go. Most churches are quite easygoing and they'll want you to join or ask you what you think, just tell them you haven't made up your mind yet. See it as an experience! nothing more!

I've seen some people on this forum ask for suggestions on how to take their own life. Though i'm sure that they've got a pretty clear idea of how they go about doing it their own way, I'm wondering what the law says about actually providing these requests with a reply? Can people legally give them suggestions? Or will we be charged with a crime?

As long as you've defined the limits of what innocent flirtation is and where the line is, then i've got no problem if my girlfriend flirts with someone. I know that at the end of the day she comes home with me. "It is joy to me, to see the heart that others bleed for, bleeds for me." -anon. I'd rather believe to be treated as I treat people. I know that there is a risk that one of us will have a momentary weakness, for whatever reason, and I'd like to think that if it was me, i'd like another shot. That's almost trying to fight nature and human character, isn't it? Trying to stop your mind from thinking what it does? If I tell you not too think of the color red, what are you going to start thinking of? Red. If you try to stop your mind from looking at someone and thinking that they look hot, or look good in that dress, you're fighting your mind. I bet you're going to loose most the time. If you trust him then he probably would give the same massage even if you were around. (I'm not talking about a full-on body massage.) He could probably 'feel' that you didn't trust him, and you suspected him later on that he was cheating, though you couldn't prove it. If he was innocent, he may have felt wrongly accused. Once you've been worngly accused of cheating, though you haven't, then it doesn't take very long for the relationship to crumble. Though i can understand your view, I don't think I would want my girlfriend to have that stance. If she has close male friends prior to meeting me, then of course she should still be friends with them. I trust her completely, i've never doubted her, even when she's getting a massage from her guy friend! =) This is agree with! So you can't have any friends if you're attracted to them? I don't agree, though. I reckon you can be friends with someone you're attracted to, as long as you don't do anything the other person doesn't want to. As interfering with their relationship, etc. Even having a crush on your friends girlfriend, isn't wrong as long as you don't cross the line. Agreed! Kept innocent and clear in your mind and actions that the flirtation carries no intent, then it's ok. The style of flirting would be different if its with intent vs. without intent.

But you do that with your friends, both men and women. According to your description, this too would be cheating. What would "more than you should" be? Where's that line? I don't think that flirting is cheating until you finally cross the line into a physical act, be it kissing or having sex. To add a new question: Would you forgive your partner if they cheated once on you?

Hey, joedown. It seems more like she's trying to cheat on her boyfriend, or they have a really open relationship. She may be looking for a reason to leave her current boyfriend, so you may want to ask her about their relationship and how it's working. This may be the start to her exit, and the start of something much better! Asking never hurt anyone, unless you get slapped.....! =)

I do find that it adds a new dimension to the act of kissing, for both persons. It becomes more of a game than just kissing, it adds a little extra fun to it. But as Mythical_Suicide says, it could simply be that I'm just darned good at it!

Read up on body language and flirting on the Net, that's what the Net is for. You'll pick up some really good tips and ideas on playing this game! Good luck!

Get her to take a good long hard look at her reasons for marrying him. She has to look at it fro ma cold perspective, look at it logically, not emotionally. Support her in any decision she makes, but make her look at her relationship. Chances are she may choose somehting that is mutually acceptable to everyone. She already has feelings about you, and is doubting her marriage, so the ball is already in motion. She may just need some support and help gettin gout of her marriage and someone to see her through it.

1. Where do you draw the line between flirting and cheating? 2. When does it become cheating? 3. How do you define flirting / cheating? I prefer the description: "Flirting is attention without intention."

G'day WhiteFang! Glad to hear that you've found someone better. You'll get over the other one in time, just take the time! As for the links, I assume you mean body language, so here's some: link removed link removed link removed Or just do a simple search on "body language", basics "body language", flirting Good luck and all the best in your new quest!

I agree that it does help to post your q's. I would also say that it is easier to post a new message of your own and sit back and wait of rhte responses to pour in, instead of reading more than 5 or 6 pages of other peoples posts. Especially when you begin to see the 'exact' same posts..... I do this as well fro mtime to time when I see that after 10 pages of threads, you've seen/read them all before in some way. I'm not suggesting that people should stop posting their q's but it would cut to the chase by going straight to the source and reading about body language. I do however get the feeling that very few people are really interested in pursuing more knowledge about body language. They come here for the quick answer, and run off, until they face a new problem. Use the force! =)

....restraining order....?

I've been surfing the posts and threads on this forum, and there are alot of the same problems being repeated, though disguised in a new question or title. If people would start learning about body language and signals, they wouldn't have to keep asking the same questions over and over. Learning it is not difficult, everyone does it anyway, only their not aware of it. if you become aware of the signals being presented, the dating game and flirting becomes more fun and flexible. Do a simple search online for "Body Language" or "Non-verbal Communication" and start at the basics. It won't take very long for you to get the hang of it, and it doesn't matter what your age is, if you want to flirt, then most likely your already displaying these signals. Why not use it to your advantage?

Once you've decided where you want to go, make her understand where you stand. Hopefully she'll feel the same way, however she may become distant, but that's a risk you need to take. She claims not to show much affection and has to remind herself to show more affection. Sorry man, but you should never have to "remind" yourself to show affection if you really have any feelings for someone. It comes quite naturally. Maybe she's co-dependant and just needs someone to be around her all the time. Look carefully and see it from an outside perspective. Your only other option is to take it slow and see how things progress.