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Just ask her to hang out after school one day or on the w/e...Its a common thing to do and it doesnt mean ur asking her out...then use ur stretegy...

What PocoDiablo said!

Thanks 4 the advice Waking up early works... Might snatch me some dolly or cosmo of my gf ...That should put me to bed quick lol Ill have to "borrow" some wine out of my parents bar, to see if that works.

Hey, Don't stress on the inability to find a topic...it makes it even harder to do... Try to just throw things out without thinking TOO much about em and don't worry if you make a mistake, but DO know in your head what definitely not to say... I found that worked the best for me, although I did mess up sometimes I learned from it and now it’s orgasmic And another thing that I found out: if you're feeling too scared about not having a topic it's best to not say anything... AND BE CONFIDENT in anything you say or do...that’s the biggest advice I could give you! Social and communication skills are just like learning to walk and talk. You can’t walk without legs; you can’t communicate well without confidence. And the reason some people are better talkers is because of that and they have and had a lot of experience and exposure... You got all the tools, you just gotta find the right way to use em…It works with ladies 2 Hope this helps... El_Sergio

Theres nothing wrong with drinking now and then... As long as it's not made into a habit. I mean, even in the bible somewhere (i've been told) it says that alcohol can soothe a man's heart. And its true, a healthy level of acohol- just beyond tipsy and under "can't walk and mumble" usually makes people more opened and can increase the amount of fun you have with you'r friends and/or partners, sometimes multiple of those at the same time And its even good for your health if taken in correct proportion... Can't say the same about hangovers though El_Sergio

Hello... In need of sleep...](*,) Lately i've found that i end up laying in bed for hours at night trying to make my self go to sleep, with no luck... I keep thinking over what happened during the day, or past days. Or thinking about lyrics for songs... This has only occurred to me just recently... Its not a big problem atm cuz im on holidays and can sleep in, but school comes back soon and i'd hate to get only 5-6 hours sleep. I tried doing some regular repetative activities before going to bed and then trying to slowly shift the time of the activity so as i go to bed earlier, but it didn't help. Is there anything i can do? Thanks Serge

Hey, I agree with MetallicAguy and Kyoshiro Ogari... You're obviously deep into puberty (the dreams) and don’t be so obsessed with your voice...verbal, makes up only around 30% of your communication when you talk to people (heard somewhere). And the way you talk is usually at the end of the list of the things a girl will remember about a guy...unless its reaaallly different... For instance, one of my friend’s voices sounds not far off from a girls but he scores more chicks then a tampon's section of the supermarket... Forget about the body building, if you think it will improve your voice in some mystical way... Singing help's..It gives you an enormous leap in vocal control... The bottom line is... Stop being so obsessive, it comes out..and girls can smell it... And it can freak them out sometimes... Stop dreaming all these wacky, wild movie like dreams... At least don't do it as frequently... Just let it come to you...be opened up, outgoing... don't sweat over getting a girlfriend... just stick your head out for as much mixed gender social contact as you can...and before you know it things will change...

I so relate to eclipse99fwb... Congrats man... And yeh...masturbation helps everythin lol.. El_Sergio

Honestly... Im not a love type person, have my reasons...but i know this.. People (you) can sometimes get mixed feelings in a relationship which can either mean something is ->NOT RIGHT I would try to spend some time having little communication with both, your gf and Katie and see which way the wind blows. Try not to dig your head in either of them. Keep in mind though your gf is pretty rare and would it be worth loosing all that you have with her, cuz of an erection in a different direction (using that word harshly) You said: "The thing is my girlfriend is great, we have a lot in common, she's smart, loyal, giving, funny, everything I could want...almost" Whats this almost that u speak of? El_Sergio

Heya.. My self, being able to fluently speak multiple languages and english being not my birth language. I would find it really cute and would feel special if a girl would bother to say (try to) something on my language. Infact mistakes would make it even more cute. So yeh..go for it El_Sergio

Hugs usually dont mean anything on their own.. It would be rare to show attraction just by the way you hug someone, or by hugging them at all... On a better note...she might hug u more passionatly than others cuz she thinks u got a "seckthy bodseyy" lol

Dude.. U shouldnt think that way...that impacts on you...and most definitely impacts on the way you portray your self to the opposite sex. Girls can sense when your not confident...](*,) and thats a * * * * *...they also have cooties but thats a dif story..lol youre only 15 anyway bro.. you got a lot of life infront of ya. Think of it differently...dont even try to see your self with a girl...like..doing all this romantic..stuff.. until you have one..instead, when your somewhere, lets say a party or a dance, hanging out with your friends find a girl...make sure shes not in a group of ppl..cuz it gets intimidating and hard to think of things to say that way...specially if you dont know her(them), look at what she is...judge if shes borred or what shes feeling, then set your self a goal: im gonna go over there, and talk to her, and shes gonna love it!! Then take things on from there...if you see shes interested (she will look at your eyes lots, giggle bout everything u say) then suggest a dance, or ask for a fone number..with a silly pick up line like...hey, umm by the way, i lost my number can i borrow yours...after that, youd wanna leave cuz she might think youre obsessed so say something like..i spose i'd better get back to my friends..smile..and say nice meeting you..And most important dont wreck your head on a failure...or on one perticular girl unless you both click... Look through this forum, alot of good advice here T8k care El_Sergio

Well..theres many reasons..none of which r probably really important or have some meaning to them. For instance, he might have just said it because it popped up into his head, due to a possible conversation your ex and him could have had about the park... When you say this guy do you mean the guy you are attracted to?

Actually that aint true.. Look at the most known musicians whom are dubbed the pop-punk, ego-pumped, girls go crazy over, people: Billie Joe, James Hetfield, Dexter Rollan, Travis Barker, Tom DeLonge and others...they are all married some even for many years with kids and so on. From a frontman, punk-guitarist perspective, i would say thats becoz they get borred with the unpredictability (if theres a word like that) of the whole popularity wall. I mean sure, playin a gig, gettin drunk, then waking up in the morning with a hot chick (or guy if youre elton john) completely hung over, would be fun for a while. But it all brings unbalance and thats what they long for in their spontanious, uncontrollable life. ROCK ON!! El_Sergio

I have talked to them, but they keep looping with "when you will grow up you will realise your friends werent worth your time...when we were little we didnt get to do these things...and so on" Thx

Umm...where do i start.. Im just not sure on how to handle some things in my life, and im not really a person that talks bout stuff like that with friends...n i dun think theyd get me either cuz noone of them are in a position like me.. Its about my parents and me and friends. Once upon a time...when i was a kid.. Parents would never let me go play with other kids, id have to sneak out. Then my dad died... Bla..bla.. Now step dad and mum dont let me sleep over...or go out past 7pm, go to parties...i live on a farm and i can hardly get into town till like 5pm... And this is making me feel strange..Insane in a way. I dont know how to handle this... When i go out parties and sleep over at friends houses i have to say that im going to stay at my brothers house. And i can only do that so often because im not even allowed to be there for more than a night or 2 a week I used to be nice and believe in god and things like that, but now i hate relying on others or hoping for better..It seems like..my entrapment makes me unable to get close to ppl. I mean sure, i have friends and mates..but noone i could relate with and do all this stoopid teenage stuff, like a best friend.. And i feel that its my fault... This seems kinda strange posting my deepest insecurities and fears into a forum...But i just dont know what to do I need to end this because im scared if it will impact my social life..more than now.. I just dont know what to do... Thx

Hello, After 3 days of painfull trying i cant get my voice to come back... It astarted of from a cold which i ignored, by playing sport and such...The next day my voice was gone, and its been 4 days now... I wouldnt care that much really if i didnt have to play tomorow, and if my voice doesnt come back ill have to cancel the gig...I tried everything i knew, but nothings helping, im getting..and its annyoing me so much, i can miss out on a lot of money if i dont do that gig...and im dedecating a song to my gf too... I can talk, sort of, but its all in the bass, if i try to sing my normal talking pitch it goes all croacky and if i hold it for to long i sound like someone whos voice just broke, my voice has broken before tho.... Can someone please help me on this.. Thanks, Regards Serge

Noone can choose for you, zam, but before you do (if you do) consider leaving her, think, feel with your heart, because if you do breake up, you might regret it for the rest of your life....and please dont let this over control thing of seeing your loved one admiting she was wrong take over you, that nilly led to a brake up with my baby gurl Though keep your self on the "higher ground", above the situation.... She seems sorry, however. If i was you id just push away a bit, and let her know that your love for her is not as strong because of what she did, but dont over pressure her. At the same time show her that she still means a lot to you. But im not you i suppose.... Hope this helps... Regards. Serge

Hey zam, I think you should just sit down and talk to her about it, try to leave the "heart" side of your self, by which i mean try to take the things on with your mind not your heart when you are talkin to her, that way it wont hurt you. It seems to me like shes just trying to forget about it without having to say sorry, the most likely reason for that is that she doesnt feel any guilt. When/if you do confront her about it, DONT let your self fall for the crying "im sorry" thing and then her trying to change the topic. Most women that cheat try to make their man fall for their tears.(im sorry if im hurtin any females by saying this YOU NEED TO MAKE HER FEEL IT, feel that you are hurt, i mean SHE CHEATED ON YOU!!! By confronting her you will hurt her much, much less then she hurt you. Maybe you need push her back a bit, slow down with the moving in, and wait until she DESERVES your love and trust. And, if you dont see any guilt or regret out of her...im sorry to say this, but i dont think she deserves you in that case... In my opinion cheating is the lowest thing you can ever do. CHeerS Serge 0X

Hey, Well your not a dirty pig, but your excuses are pretty lame.....the only thing i could suggest is telling your girlfriend about what u did, n dont make excuses to her cuz she'll hate you even more....but you will feel better when you tell her. Though if you and her will get past this bump, your relationship will widen. Hope i help in some way. = BAD 0X t8k care Serge

Hello, Something happy to add to this discussion.....(long post) Call me what u want, i wouldnt care, but id call my self in love.....>> My gf and I have been together for a year now, we gone through all i could think of, through ups, downs, suicidal thoughts, cheating thoughts, one way love, and now were still together. We are married but not legaly, we talked about what we are going to name our kids, the boy will be jackson-andrew and the girl will be natalia-jaradina, and if they are the same sex one of them will have to have a girls/boys name We feel each other without saying a word, we say things the same, think the same. The only catch is....WE HAVE NEVER SEEN EACH OTHER IN REAL LIFE!!! Pictures..and such but not person to person...and it gets really hard for both, but we pull through. She lives 800km away from me and im not able to get around there..yet.......We met in a chat room 2 1/2 yrs ago, when msn chat was still open to under 18's..... I hosted a chat room, in a while it filled up, and just before i was going to go off the net, i thought id wisper with someone whom i dont know...there was something i felt when i looked past her nickname.....i clicked it...we became best friends in minutes...she happened to be the same age as i am, then we exchanged msn emails....the next day i talked to her on msn...we were flirting and throwing "kisses" "hugs" and "i love yous" strait away...it was chemistry i cant explain it....then she was grounded of the net for month's....i didnt talk to her for ages...but almost forgot whom she was...then one night i went on..i felt i had to..and i saw her on i didnt remember who she was then, we exchanged hi's n werent as flirty...she told me she was deleting people of her list and was just about to delete me but i went on....that night we got talking away and i finally remembered her and she remembered me....30 mins into our conversation back came the kisses hugs and i love yous, she then asked me if i liked her...i didnt think twice...YES!!...then it got going..... We then talked on the phone...and then were letters through the mail....and all through this i felt like she was there with me all the time...but she wasnt...we sent each other picture messages of our selves, a lot of letters..... Then came wednesday 3rd of March 2004, i told her how i felt about her, how much i needed her in my life, n how much she ment to me...i proposed..THROUGH the WEB!!! she accepted with happines(13 " " means happines right?? ) everynight we talk for 4 hours on the phone without running out of things to say...now it cut back to 2 hours cuz she has to sleep to work early morning shifts, n so do i...it doesnt cost us money because im on optus pre-paid and i get freechat time, shes on plan and can ring any mobile in aus for free from 9:00pm to 12:00pm and from 8:00pm to 9:00pm at only 18c per 15 mins.... It feels like i known her all my life, and i simply cant imagine waking up in the mornings without looking over her, kissing her lips, holding her tight... She makes me feel like i am the luckiest guy alive, n i hope i make her feel like shes the luckiest girl... Call it what you want...but i call it love... im 15 and so is she btw Thank u for readin dis borrin novel.. Cheers Serge

Just a poll question.... If you cheated on your loved one, would you tell him/her that you did. Or if your loved ones confront you and ask you if u did or not, would you give a honest 'yes' if you did?

Id tell her if i was u, maybe not rite away..maybe not rite now....maybe when she is sure that ur serious about this relationship(if u are)...the biggest thing people hate in a relationship is either finding out that they were cheated on from someone else, or a long time after it happened.....think about the ake u will have for the rest of ur life if u do end up spending it with her....i couldnt have barred the pressure...

Heya.. I know how he feels...im a virgin, when my gf, whom i love till death, is not...and it took me a very long time and a lot of patience to get the thoughts of someone else touching the queen of my heart out of my head....what helped me was that she constantly assured me she would have not done it if she knew, and she constantly told me how much she loved me and showed that noone else ment something to her exept for me...so maybe u should show him that too...n be cool wid it..if he didnt wanna get through this problem he wouldnt have told u, or like most of ignorant, dumb *beeps* would have dumped u...n hes love 4 u will go sky high after he goes over this bump...hope i helped out...somehow Cheers

hey SwtAthleticQt10, Thanks 4 dat we had a serious talk bout it, though she always skipped and tried to change the topic anytime i said about this rejection i felt, n we talk bout what we want in our lives and she told me she wants me in her life 4 eva n i want her in mine 4 eva 2 she then told me dat shes acting like that bcoz shes scared that i will dump her again like all of her bfs did, but i neva will and hate my self for doing it b4, she says that "she knows in her head that i wont but her heart still hasnt 4given me and is still scared" and now im scared cuz our love is fading, i feel it, and i dont know what to do, and how to make her heart 4give me, im soooo scared to loose her i have never felt about anyone like that b4 and a thought of me without her in my life is enough to kill me, and now i can feel this sense of her being borred with me and its my fault, and the icing on the cake is that we wont be able to see each other 4 a year or more. Could someone please help me. Thanks, Serge xxxx