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Hey there. Dont be so hard on yourself, like PRSOV said, you are just in a rut. If you don't feel like putting time into your relationship with this guy, then talk to him about it. Tell him that you are looking for someone to be with. Either you could come to the conclusion that you do like him and become closer, or you will find that it is time to move on. There are people in the world who do or will care about you. If he isn't one of them, find one. Good Luck

I agree with maggie, communication helps alot. Getting to know him better will help you put more trust in him. Also, the more comfortable you feel around him, the easier it will seem to take risks in the relationship, like opening up to him. Good Luck.

I will agree with ShySoul on this one. The right person at the right time is just magical. However, tecnique can make it better, in my opinion.

Well I am about 6'3" and my gf is like 5'6, so I know what you mean. My gf made the first move, so I can tell you how she did it. We were sitting in her car and talking. I told her that I loved her, and she looked into my eyes, said "come here" and kissed me. I thought it was the cutest thing in the world, especially because I was planning on kissing her right then, she just beat me to it.

I love that her smile makes me want to smile. I love that when she is sad it makes me sad. I love that she is the last person I think about every night before I fall asleep. I love that when I look into her eyes, I dont ever want to look away. I love that she loves me. I love that I can't stop loving her.

I definitely agree. I would get to know him a bit first in person, breaking the ice over aim is hard, lol. Good Luck

This is a tough situation. On the one hand you have your love for her, which seems to be pretty sincere. You have been friends for a very long time (10 years is amazing). On the other hand you have her being in a relationship. If you try to break that up it could very well blow up in your face. I would say wait it out. After 10 years there is no way that you not telling her who you like is going to make her be any less friendly with you. Wait until the relationship she is in to end (which I think it will because it sounds like she has some sort of feelings for you), then make your move. I know it will be hard, but look at it this way, it will give you time to perfect what you are going to say to her. Good Luck

If he asks you again then you could try this: "well, he is (insert his height here) with (insert his hair color here) hair and (insert his eye color here) eyes. " You can add any other features you can think of. This should clue him into you liking him. If you think that he gets it, and get the feeling that he likes you too, then you could try: "... and I'm looking right at him." If anyone were to tell me that they liked me, that would be a good way to do it. Good Luck.

If she would end the relationship over something that trivial, it doesn't seem that she was that commited to it in the first place. If that was infact the only reason she had for breaking up with you, then maybe this isn't the girl for you. I mean, there is a chance that I missed an important detail or something, but if she would end it to be in a program that you could probably be together in anyway, I don't know if she is worth your time. But that is just me.

well, i know that it wouldn't make her uncomfortable, we have been very close for years through alot more uncomfortable things. I mean, im not really going for a declaration of love, just something that shows her I care about this relationship and think it is a great step up from our friendship that we had for the rest of the time I have known her (which I also value). i don't know, maybe I am just like this because her last boyfriend really never did anything nice for her, which I always thought was horrible. I always thought to myself that if she were my girlfriend I would do special stuff for her all the time, so I am trying to make our first Valentines Day a good one.

Thank you melrich, I thought I was probably over-analyzing everything. I am trying not to feel pressured by the hype, I mean I want every date that we go on to be special, I just don't want any hitches in this one.

I agree. I think you should talk to the other girl and say that you like her as a friend (if you do) but that you are not interested in a relationship with her. Then taklk to your best friend about starting a relationship. If you guys are close you should be able to work something out.

I am fairly young, but I think I have experienced something like this situation. A little over a year ago my gf at the time dumped me, basically tog o out with another guy who I have always thought of as a, for lack of a better word, scumbag. I felt horrible. I thought that we would be together for a long time. However I then fell in love with another girl and we began a relationship. I am still in my relationship with this girl and it is going great. She is much more compatible with me and has great qualities, that my ex did not, that really make me love her. However some of the qualities are the same, I think that is because there are just certain aspects of a person that I find attractive. I think these qualities are what help to define my 'type'. I hope that everyone healing from a breakup finds someone new and better for them. I honestly believe that there is a person out there for everybody, you just need to go find yours.

My gf and I have been dating for a couple of weeks now but had been friends for nearly four years previously. We are very close. This Valentines Day (tomorrow), I wanted to do something special. However in school today I heard that there was nowhere left in town to get roses (its a small town). Because I didnt want her to get hurt tomorrow if I didnt have flowers for her, I mentioned this to my gf after school today. I instantly thought it was a mistake, not a huge one, but just not smart. She said she didn't mind because the way I had asked her to prom was cute enough to make up for it. (basically I did this thing with balloons and roses, long story, but it was a great idea) I still felt that the comment I had made wasn't smart. However, after school I was walking home and stopped at the store. i saw that they had plenty of roses. I felt kind of silly about the whole thing, and I plan to pick up a dozen tomorrow. My gf came over later after her basketball practice to say hi. She mentioned that she was going to stop by the store on her way home. I became worried that she would see the roses (they are right in front when you walk in the door) and think that I had lied to her about the flowers and just not cared. So I told her that the store did have flowers, I also regretted this right away. She said "you're not supposed to tell me that," so I explained why I had told her. She didn't really say anything else about it. Before she left I also mentioned going out to dinner. I suggested a place and she said that she liked that place. I already knew that, and thought that maybe I should have kept it a surprise. I mean, I think it would have seemed sweeter if it had been a surprise. What do you guys think? Am I reading to much into this? (I really want it to be perfect) Or did I say too much? If so do any of you have suggestions as to how to put a surprise into it? I had thought about jewlery, but I dont have alot of spare money, or time, to get it. Any help is appreciated.

This is a very very common thing. Basically when it happens what it means is that the girl does care about you (otherwise she just wouldn't be friends with you) but either is preoccupied with someone else, or doesn't see you as her 'type'. If it is because she is already preoccupied with someone else, then you could either: 1. Remain her friend but move on and try to find someone else to date or 2. Wait it out and be there to support her (though if she also considers you not her 'type' this would just put you farther into the hole) If it is because you aren't her 'type' then you could: 1. Spend more time with her and hint to her that you would like to become more than friends, which could plant a seed in her mind causing her to think about you differently (though in some cases that could be a longshot) 2. Space yourself a little bit. Show her what it is like without you. This may cause her to realize that maybe she does like you but was simply taking you for granted. (When I was in this situation this is the route I took and my best friend did come around and realize that we were perfect for eachother. We are still together) I know that the situation can be frustrating, but as long as you truly care about her and think you two would be good together, it is not a dead end, only an obstacle. Good Luck!

Yeah man it's perfectly normal. Happens to me all the time. As far as I know girls either ignore it or consider it a turn-on, unless they are inmature or just don't know any better, in which case I guess they could find it gross.

They both work for me. Though if I had to chooseI love the feeling of her hands running through my hair and the back of my neck.

I dont know of anything good to say. A good "you look beautiful" never hurt. But I think it is more in the body language. Touching her waist, look into her eyes, push her hair out of her face. This will give her the hint that you want to kiss. Then go for it, if she seems into it that is. But if she is willing to kiss you, then your body language will let her know.

My best kiss would have to be the first one with my current girlfriend. We had been friends for years before that. We had almost started going out a few times but it had never happened. Well she came over one night and we were sitting in her car. I told her that I loved her and she told me she loved me too. Then I leaned over to kiss her but before i got there she took the back of my neck and pulled my face to hers. As soon as our lips met I was in heaven. I literally could not move my legs afterward, and I was shaking. I looked back over at her and she was shaking too, she said that she had never had a kiss like that. Then we kissed some more. It was just amazing. definitely my best kiss ever.

Hell yeah. I love pleasing my girlfriend. When she starts breathing heavy, oooh, it sends chills down my spine and excites me in a way i cannot describe

I thought that too. I was the nice guy. I would be completely available to the girls I cared about at all times. Then I realised that just because you are nice doesn't mean you have to be a doormat. Like sweetheart230 and janey17 said, confidence is very imprtant. You can be nice and caring, but still show her that you have your own life. I am still just as kind to the girls as i was before, just now I have a life outside of them, I hang out with other frieds, play sports, etc. Thats what gets the girls, being nice and sweet, but still standing up for yourself and haveing some balls, so to speak.

Hey man. It sounds to me like this girl is into you. i think she loves you but she just doesnt want to hurt you. Maybe she jsut cares about you more than those other guys so she wants to keep you out of it. Talk to her about it, it might be awkward but communication helps. Thats just what I think. Good luck dude.

I used to think just like most of you guys do. That V=day is an over-hyped hallmark holiday. But this year I am with someone I truly love, and I have found that my attitude towards the day has changed. i agree that you should do things for the person you love everyday, but I also think you should not let that person know it on that day too. I kind of look at it as an excuse to be overly-romantic with my girl.

If you would do anything for this girl, prove it. Do somethings so sweet that it not only gets her attention, but shows her how you feel. roses, candelight dinner,then tell her how you feel. You seem so in love with this girl that there is no way that she doesn't have any feelings for you. If you are true to your heart, you cannot go wrong.

Well here's the deal. I'm getting to the age where all of my friends are getting drivers licenses. Almost all of the people that I hang out with are older and they can drive. i love going driving with them, it's sooo fun. It's great to have that freedom to do what we want. But there is a problem. My mom. She doesnt want me to drive with any of my friends until they have had their licenses for 6-12 months. this makes me very angry because I have gone with them a few times and e have the time of our lives. They are all very responsible and I know that none of them would drive under the influence or do anything to put anyone in the car in danger. I never feel scared in the car with any of them. What do you guys think? I mean, maybe you think my mom is right, but does anyone have any advice on how I could talk her into letting me go with them?