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hello coolguy, what is new? i am afflicted by love and it looks like you are too!! being apart is tough and i know i can get through! there is a cure and it's knowing people like you!! the sun is shining and i am willing to embrace when my lover comes back i will listen to what she has to say life goes on and that is my new view depends on how big your bank account, then maybe i'll sue!!

i've read all your poems. you're like the poetic queen on this forum. well, goodnight. i gotta get up in 4 hours. I'm feeling better about myself and I hope everyone out there can feel the same way.

haha thank you pimpcess. I'll get better one day. Recommend any good books?

oh no, i have no trust issues. i'm fine with her doing stuff with her guy friends. I'm just saying there are some stuff that can't be help. Just wondering how much trust can you give before you end up hurting yourself. hey, thanks for reading by the way..

i feel like typing retarded things too. not a poet..go easy on me My heart is forever torn Now that we are apart My hate grows deeper Every minute that we've lost I struggle to survive, cause it's just that hard My alcohol tolerance rises And it all made sense I see the dark clouds Looming over my head I slit my wrists And lay me down to bed I cry, and now I'm at rest

i just wanna know what you guys think. I know you guys and girls say you trust your gf/bf when they go clubbing or studying with a guy/girl friend. I trusted my ex too, until i thought of this. here's an example..my girlfriend goes out clubbing with a bunch of her girl friends. normally I would say "Ok, have fun and be safe." Now why are they clubbing when they can be doing other things? The fact is there are a bunch of single people who goes clubbing to meet people. I know they just wanna be social and all, but why can't she just go to and all girls club and be social?? Same reason I don't wanna go to an all guys club. We are attracted to the opposite sex because it's human nature to. Hmm..I hope I'm not offending anyone. Giving the right time, place, and hormones, damn I guess i'm pretty much screwed. Now, knowing this, is it wrong for me to take preventive measures? Because there are people who don't cheat on purpose. Shit happens right? I personally think there is nothing I can do about it. Ok, this is a stupid post, I know. It's late and I just can't sleep. Thanks for reading 8)

you are my long lost toronto brother!! I'm not over it yet so no advice. But I'll tell ya what I'm plan on doing. I'm gonna be the biggest jerk and use women for everything that they are. I'm gonna be a dog from now on. hahahahaha. sorry.

love fades away because love is not real. it is just an infatuation that will go away as time goes on. what is real is your commitment. most women are cowards and will run away from the problems they are dealt with. i know that comment wasn't necessary, but that's how i feel.

woah, that was a nice read. man, i gotta say you're a perfect man for any woman out there. you'd done what you can to save your relationship. she ran and left you alone because she is a coward. man, i'm getting mad just thinking about it.

i've had my chances and i did kinda reacted upon them. i've always thought of myself as the non-cheating type. Is it worth it? No, it's really not. I didn't do anything serious. we didn't even kiss. she was there for me when i had problems with my ex. It's not worth it!! don't ever do anything to hurt the one you love because no matter what happens she doesn't deserve it. at the time i just needed someone to listen to me and not scooted me away. yes, i'm a hypocrit. shoot me pls. i guess i did what i did was because my gf at that time didn't understand me. she didn't wanna deal with the person that i am. i looked elsewhere to find someone who'd accept me for who i am. if you feel things are going wrong with your relationship, don't shut him out. communication IS the key to any relationship. things don't just happen for no reason. if you feel he's cheating on you, then you need to approach him and ask him what's on his mind. even if you know he'll say something you won't like. talk about everything that's on your mind. chances are he's feeling the same way.

lol, i guess i'm only 1/2 the man you are. I'm a nice guy but not very adventurous. I'm not scared of life or experimenting, but i do play if safe a lot to times. I admire you for being so outgoing. speedracer is right though. i used to despise people who'd drink. people that do drink are very social. you just gotta give them a chance. Why not just ask the females on this forum. What do you females really want from a guy? a bad boy type or a nice guy with family values?? lets see how many females will avoid my question.

very inspirational. i like.

Nice guy do finish last. if i was a girl i'll think that nice guys are boring also. really, most nice guys don't really have any adventure in them. i said MOST, so all you mountain climbing, bungie jumping nice guys don't flame me pls but don't worry, usually when the girls are ready to settle down in life, they usually end up with the nice guy. so, i win!@ god damn why do females have to be so complicated..

Hi dmvcc1, Seems like a few people are posting advices, and I know it's not what you wanna hear right now. I know more than exactly how you're feeling. So, let try just try to post what you are feeling. You feel backstabbed by your lover and bestfriend. She has betrayed your love. Even though you guys had problems with your relationship, you know you'd never leave her and will try to work things out. It also feels like 6 years wasted because the only thing you wanna do is make her happy. Now you're hurt and wondering how could she leave someone who just wanna love them. She wants to be friends, but you don't wanna be friends. How can you be friends with someone who just stabbed your heart? I hope i described some of the emotions you're going through right now. This is how i'm feeling, so i'm letting you know you're not alone. I did some crazy stuff and the people here are right. The more stupid stuff you do, the more you're driving her away. I've been talking to my ex these few days trying to work things out. She said everytime i did something stupid, she just wants to get away from me asap because i'm scaring her. If you're thinking about suicide, don't ever tell her this. keep it to yourself if you ever want her back. Be the nice guy again and she'll see it.

OMG OMG!!@ You're scaring me! Man, I just paid a big bill for my stitches and i want to make sure if it's serious before i go see a doctor. Ok, i'm shaking my head and i don't feel anything moving. Everytime i burp though i feel a sharp pain or when i stick my finger in my ear i feel the pain. i do some roller blading but i didn't fall and hit my head. here are some problems i think that may have led to the infection. my ex left me and i have been blasting the music on my headphones pretty loud. and prior to this, about 3 weeks before, i was jumped by about 30 guys. they beat me over the head with beer bottles, golf clubs, and i guess a bunch of size seven shoes. OMG, i'm so worried i'm gonna lose my hearing. please tell me if you've experience any sharp pain while burping. thanks.

sorry, weird topic but don't know whom to ask. my right ear is going death. it feels like i have water stuck in there. i've tried all the over the counter stuff and it isn't helping. i didn't see a doctor yet because i just didn't feel like talking to strangers in real life yet. anyone experience anything like this before? feels like someone jammed their finger in my right ear. it's been about a week already. other than the hearing problem, my right ear is completely wax free. help me please, i feel disabled.

wow about 10 porn posts today. must be the humidity or something..

Yeah, I'm gonna say what you've already heard. Stop giving him sex all the time! You're making it too easy on him. I'm not trying to say it's your fault the way he is, but people want what they can't have. Deny him sex and see what he does. If he's still looking at porn, let him. He hasn't done anything wrong. His ultimatum was probably because he's frustrated. He should still be able to do what he likes even if he's married. As with his staring problems, we all stare. It's human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex. Unless he acts upon it, he's just a normal guy. i used to be jealous about my ex staring at guys in the mall. but at the same time i'd be staring at the chicks there also. now we both stare at strangers together and joke about it. it was really childish of us to be fighting in the first place. as long as he's faithful to you, that's all that matters. maybe even watch porn with him. and if you really can't get over it then it's up to you to do what you think it's best. i hope i atleast ease your pain a little. if not, sorry. i'm trying to get better at!!

In the mean time I think you should just let all your emotions out. break down if you have to. to me, i think it's unhealthy to suppress all your emotions. but the people here said going out with your friends will help you forget about her and past time. I'm waiting for my ex to come back also. if you hang in there, so will i.

Hi AlphaOmega, Thx for your advice. I find it easier to ask girls out from your work place. They are people you're already comfortable with. You're not looking for anything serious and I don't think they'll turn down a free dinner. Or maybe ask one of your friends to set you up on a blind date. Hehehe, sorry, I'm so inexperience and I want to help but don't know what to say.

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I like it. I've been copying everybody's quote from this forum and adding it to my desktop wallpaper. I'm gonna add your poem to it. Thx

Its so hard to stay positive. Thanks for all your replies. I've basically read all the threads here and learned a lot from you guys. I've tried talking to all my friends about this, but there are only so many friends that are willing to listen to the same thing over and over. They do help me forget reality for a few hours, though. It's just that I exploded tonight because today is our 5yr anniversay. I lay down on my bed and I see flashes of our moments together. I also have been having weird dreams. I see my ex (yeah, it does feels weird calling her my ex) with another guy and I'd wake up breathing heavily punching the air. Hehe, I'm going insane. I just want to vent here, because I think my friends are tired of me. please don't feel obligated to reply. This is very theuraputic for me. I get drunk and type out how I feel. It helps me make it through to see another day. Thank you.

just venting... AAHAHAJHAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I HATE YOU1@!!!!!!!!! I'M WAS A MAN OF COMPASSION, NOW I HATE EVERYTHING IN THIS FRICKIN' WORLD!!@ 5yrs relationship over just a lil under 2 weeks ago. she's already talking about wanting to date other guys. i told her that i think it's too soon and kinda disrepectful to me. she told me she's fine if i was dating other people too. the problem is i don't want to start dating, but i told her it's ok if she does (it kills me to say it). i'm a real jealous freak and just learned not to be. my problem is i'm afraid to fall in love again. i don't get how she can forget everything we've had so quickly. are all girls like this? cuz if they are, i can't see myself ever liking another girl in my lifetime. i can't stand the crying and the heartaches any longer. i hate love. love sucks a big one. i hate girls. they all just want the easy way out and end things like it was just a game for them. there are so many things going through my mind right now. i do not want to share them with you, because you'll all tell me to seek help. i've been betrayed, and i'll never search for love again. she gave me some old cliche saying if we're meant to be blah blah blah.. i told her i can respect her decision, and i'll wait for her to come back. but deep down i know she ain't coming back. she wants to leave me so she can go clubbing with her friends while i'm at home worrying about my business. business isn't doing so well so i'm constantly worrying. still doesn't give her any right to go freaking some guy at a club. i don't mind her dancing with guys, but freaking them isn't right. i mean, what guy would like to have their girlfriend getting grinded by some other guy?? also, i have a quick question for all the girls. do you girls feel all tingly with your man all the time? my gf said she doesn't feel that anymore. i know 5 yrs can do that to a relationship. i told her i didn't feel it anymore too, because she doesn't care about me enough for me to feel it. but i do love her like crazy. i think about suicide all the time. please don't tell me i need help. i want the hurt to stop so bad. i just want everything to be ok again. 5 yrs wasted and i ain't about to waste another 5 yrs.

i've been with my girl for 5 years. during those five years she's dumped me about 5 times. our last break up was a week ago. i went through all the emotions every man goes through. sad, mad, angry, HATE!!@ you guys know what i'm talking about. anyways, our most recent break up i get drunk every night and cried for over 1hr straight. wow, didn't know i was capable of crying non-stop for so long. i thought about suicide and all that junk to ease the pain. then i realized that it wasn't her fault that she left me. i was a loser i guess. now i don't hate her anymore. i still drive to her house everyday a few times a day cuz i'm use to it. then i found out about this forum and read a lot about all these problems that are similar to mines. i learned a lot and it has calmed me down. so i took some of your advices and stopped calling her. so about five days went by and she called me. i was to nervous to pick up the phone. so i called her the next night instead asking if we can talk about it. she told me she drove by my house and saw me rollerblading at the park. she said she missed me. hehe that gave me a weird feeling. anyways, to the point. now i guess we're trying to work things out. i'm feeling better, but i also feel like i can't love her the same way i did for 5 years. i mean, i know deep down that i love her to death. it's just that i don't feel the same. why am i feeling like this? i don't wanna feel like this! all you psychologist people out there please tell me so i can save me some money. thanks for reading and GL to all you heart-broken guys out there.