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    Had to throw in my two cents and agree with 'Charmed'...You're totally right Al - I'm in the north, and go put most weekends in Belfast, yet any women i've been out with have been met in other ways. I've met people through work, through friends ,and my (famous on this site) ex i met via an internet dating/community called Love@Lycos. I don't even bother now to chat up women in pubs & clubs because 90% of them are idiots. Sure i've had one night stands with women in clubs (who hasn't) but that's not really my style any more. I think women in clubs are automatically on the defensive, because of the amount of jerks that try to chat them up, and frankly i just can't be bothered to try and show that i'm a normal guy. Why should I? I shouldn't have to prove myself to anyone.
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    Hi Sensitive I understand and empathise with how you feel. The thing that keeps me going is the knowledge that someday i'm sure to meet someone else who captivates me. Who knows how long it may take, but what other option do we have but to soldier on with an open heart and open mind?
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    Hi Sayer7 Sorry to hear what happened with your bf. Men can be jerks at times, can't they! Firstly i would ask if he is normally like this with you? If so, then maybe he's just not the right person for you. You deserve to be treated with respect, like everyone does. You obviously treat him with respect, and are resentful that he does not reciprocate. If this is a rare occurrence, then maybe it is down to his mood at that time, caused probably by a bad hangover. Either way, i think you need to talk to him about how he has made you feel, and based on his reaction to this, you need to ask whether YOU are getting what YOU NEED from the relationship. Best of luck
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    Hi JoeyTrot Welcome to eNotalone.com Your first loyalty has to be to yourself, so if you feel guilty about the break-up, and think that it might make you feel better to talk to your ex, then maybe you should. I would be careful about the way you do it though, as she may see it as an attempt at reconciliation. My advise would be to talk to her in person, not by telephone or email. It shows respect. Best of luck with whatever you choose - i'm sure it will be the right way.
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    Hi Simon I totally understand what you're going through. There isn't really anything that's going to make you feel better right now. You're just gonna have to ride out the storm. It will get easier. If you have the time, have a read through my story. You might find we share some common ground. I'd be happy to chat on msn if you need some moral support.
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    Hi Pimpcess Beautiful words.....whoever you wrote that for is a lucky man!
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    Hi Cobro Nice post. Very positive! I can empathise with a lot of what you talk about. Last night I had my first 'proper date' since my ex. It was good for me, although it was a weird experience. I found myself trying not to be too interested (self defence mechanism probably due to being hurt), but that only seemed to intrigue this woman even more...go figure!! The other thing was comparing her to my ex. I found myself missing her like crazy while i was with this new woman. Can anyone tell me if this is normal? It's new to me, and it made me feel a little guilty, because this woman is a very sweet person.
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    Hi Cuu Sounds like you're going through a tough time, so hopefully we at eNotalone.com can do our best to help you. It's good that you've accepted that she may not come back to you. Many people in your situation don't reach that step for a long time. I know this from personal experience, and do understand how you feel. The advice you'll get may sound cliched, but that's only because it's true. It will take time. You will get over it. How you go about it is up to you. The most obvious way would be to lean on friends, talk to them about it. Don't bottle it up. Go out and have some fun - something that won't remind you of your ex. It will help you to see a world without her, trust me. Basically, keep yourself as busy as possible, and time will take care of the rest. I know what you mean about not understanding how women can do the things they do at times, but let's face it - us blokes can do it too. We maybe just don't realise it. You'll only torment yourself by trying to analyze what she has done, because you'll never know. Chances are she doesn't fully know herself. Try writing down everything you feel and send it to her, then cut contact. Don't make her feel guilty though, because that will just drive her away even more. Best of luck!!
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    Hi ecko301. Welcome to eNotalone.com. Sorry to hear that your girlfriend is having doubts about your relationship. My advice to you would be cut contact with her, until such time as she realises what she wants. I know this will be hard, given how you feel about her, but regardless of how you feel about her, if she doesn't feel the same, then there isn't a thing you can do about it. She may come back to you, and she may not. Be prepared for that, my friend, but know that either way you'll know how she truly feels. Best of luck!
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    Hi Al Real good news! Another soul saved from self-destruction. Good luck with everything mate - you deserve it!
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    Hi Ashley. Welcome to eNotalone. I understand your predicament, but you must respect this person's wishes. By all means, tell him in no uncertain terms how you feel, but face the fact that he is unlikely to not join the army because of a relationship. You're both still young, so who knows how things might develop when he returns from service. Maybe you could keep in touch with him by letter or email.
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    Al. Don't stress now about what you told her today. It's out there now, but please don't torture yourself anymore. I really think that the more you tell this girl, that the more you're going to put a strain on any kind of friendly, emotional, or working relationship. Have a wild night out with some friends. Talk to them about it. Stay away from this girl for a few days (outside work) and hopefully you'll see things differently. Don't let her toy with your emotions anymore. Take control of the situation! You'll be glad you did, once the dust settles. Trust me.
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    Al - can't give much more practical advice than what's been given here, but i will add one more thing to the mix; From what i've read, my instincts tell me that she may be enjoying the control that she clearly sees that she has over you. That's not good. I'm not saying she's a bad person by any means, but everyone has the capability of being selfish at difficult times in their lives. Don't let her use you as an ego boost. You've told her how you feel, so now just try and put the romantic thoughts out of your head. If you don't, then you're just going to torture yourself. Treat her just like a male friend, and you'll soon see her true colours. Best of luck!!
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    There is life just around the corner. Have faith, my friends. May you reach your own 'turning point' soon...... You live you learn You love you learn You cry you learn You lose you learn You bleed you learn You scream you learn You grieve you learn You choke you learn You laugh you learn You choose you learn You pray you learn You ask you learn You live you learn
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    That's ok. I do know how you feel though. I don't have the problem of seeing my ex in person a lot, but am tortured by reminders of her everywhere i look. I think sometimes that is worse, because you end up idealising things that were average and normal. I wish there was some easy fix, but i don't think there is - for any of us in this situation. You're not alone, my friend.
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    Jeez, i know how you feel on that one. If you wanna chat on msn messenger, add me, and we can share loathing of our situation...
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    It sounds like this relationship has really worn you down, and stripped you of your own identity. You need to think clearly what YOU need from a relationship, and ask yourself if you can get it from this one. Maybe talking to your bf about what you need might help. If you can't get what you need, then maybe it's best to cut your losses and get 'out there' again.
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    After everything that has happened, i think it's quite natural for you to feel this way. Are you sure that your relationship hasn't been damaged beyond the point of repair? Be careful, please!!
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    If the universe is physical entity, and it encompasses everything that exists, then what existed before the universe existed. If nothing existed, then how could something be created where nothing.....................................................................................................................omg my brain just melted.....
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    Did anything happen between him and your 'friend' other than a dance? If not, then I think you may be being oversensitive. Give him a chance to speak to you, and talk to your friend (calmly) about her intentions with him.
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    Have you any idea why he stormed out? Had you said or done anything inappropriate?
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    King Of Wishful Thinking Go West I don't need to fall at your feet Just 'cause you cut me to the bone And I won't miss the way that you kiss me We were never carved in stone If I don't listen to the talk of the town Then maybe I can fool myself.. I'll get over you.. I know I will I'll pretend my ship's not sinking And I'll tell myself I'm over you 'cause I'm the king of wishful thinking I am the king of wishful thinking I refuse to give in to my blues That's not how it's going to be And I deny the tears in my eyes I don't want to let you see.. no That you have made a hole in my heart And now I've got to fool myself.. I'll get over you.. I know I will I'll pretend my ship's not sinking And I'll tell myself I'm over you 'cause I'm the king of wishful thinking.. I'll get over you.. I know I will I'll pretend my ship's not sinking And I'll tell myself I'm over you 'cause I'm the king of wishful thinking I will never, never shed a tear for you I'll get over you If I don't listen to the talk of the town Then maybe I can fool myself.. I'll get over you.. I know I will I'll pretend my ship's not sinking And I'll tell myself I'm over you 'cause I'm the king of wishful thinking I'm the king of wishful thinking I'll get over you.. I know I will You made a hole in my heart But I won't shed a tear for you I'll be the king of wishful thinking I'll get over you.. I'll pretend my heart's still beating 'cause I've got no more tears for you I'm the king of wishful thinking.. I'll get over you.. I know I will You made a hole in my heart And I'll tell myself I'm over you 'cause I'm the king of wishful thinking
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    Have you thought that maybe you're talking to the wrong type of girls? I really think that the more work you have to do to get someone to notice you, the less worthy they are.
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    Hi Paula. Thanks for your kind comments. You are one of a few people recently who have been a pillar of strength for me, and i appreciate it more than you know. It makes me very happy to think that by reading this, you have realised how to make another step towards being over your ex. I hope others find something similar. I was slightly hesitant about posting such a personal email on this site, but now i'm glad i did. Bottom line is that we're all here to share not only problems, but solutions too. Phil
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    Hi Dave. I can really empathise with how confused and bewildered you must be right now. Good advice though to keep it amicable.
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