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  1. zerohalo
    I just want to say that big or small, I'm just glad women have them. That's my helpful post for the day.
  2. zerohalo
    There's your answer.
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    Some of what you're saying worries me a little. The fact that she is comparing you at all to her first love, openly, seems strange. That it's like he is back in her life... I don't know. And that she wants to love you like she loved him... It really makes me wonder.
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    Huh, interesting. So telling someone you like them is bad? Honestly I wouldn't have guessed that. But hey, I haven't dated since high school so what do I know?
  5. zerohalo
    Jennifer Aniston?! Over Scarlet?! Screw that.
  6. zerohalo
    There was more info in her original post. I believe mine makes more sense in that context. Otherwise, I disagree with you entirely.
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    I turned 30 just last year, and only now do I start to feel a little bit like an adult. Don't worry so much about the age thing. My twenties just zipped right on by, but man things have slowed down now. I used to think I'd be dead by 50 because it seemed so far away. Fact is, as the years go by you'll keep pushing the date back when you think you'll start to feel old. Just keep being you, doing the thinks you like. I've been a Transformers lovin, videogame playing freak for 15 years, and I don't intend to stop being that. You don't have to look at what's happening to you now as being an end, just a change. And change, although scary, is good.
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    There's nothing wrong with being selfish to a point. Your feelings mirrored my ex's, she felt I was holding her back because she wanted to figure out who she was. We got married young, and we did it because we loved each other and it seemed like that's what we should do. You either get married, or you break up. She spent years trying to make me happy, and eventually she blamed me for her unhappiness because of her sacrificing. Only she never told me she was unhappy, not until close to the end. You're blaming your husband for your unhappiness because you don't know who you are whereas he seems to be happy. Like it or not, you made a committment to this man. You may find out he's not as happy as you might think, and you may also find out he very much wants to help you on your path. But to just go off for a month with the intention of finding yourself so that you can give him an ultimatum when you return? That's cruel and unfair to him.
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    No one, and I mean no one is going to judge you because some bastard molested you. You have nothing to feel responsible for, no matter what the situation was. If someone took advantage of you, used you, then you need to get angry and stop feeling like somehow any of it is your fault. Please see a professional therapist or psychologist. A pastor isn't a bad place to start, but in the end you'll be more comfortable paying someone to listen to you. You're buying their time for them to listen to you and to help you, and when you're better you can move on. Little tougher to 'move on' when it's your pastor. For your relationship's sake, take that last step and look up a therapist in your area and make an appointment. It is harder than hell to do, but I swear you'll feel better once you get some of this out.
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    You have to very honestly ask yourself why you feel this way, even if it leads you to an ugly place. It's not rational at all, especially since you are having sex with her.
  11. zerohalo
    You're going to have to get over that you weren't the first guy to stick his toe into her pond. If you were a virgin yourself, you'd have at least some ground to stand on, but as you're not it's a very cruel double standard. Ever think to ask if it bothers her that you're not a virgin?
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    In fact, as much as I hate to say it, it sounds like that good housekeeping article might not suck. I've read from many different sources that sometimes the best thing you can do with marital sex is to just do it sometimes even when you aren't in the mood. Sex isn't just about one person and what they want, and sometimes you have to make that ultimate sacrifice of having an orgasm or twenty for your partner. That being said, it's a two way street. You'll have to respect that sometimes she just absolutely won't want it.
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    Intellect + Sense of Humor = Sexy beast. Rooowwwwwrrrrr.
  14. zerohalo
    Romance is fun. However, if the other party expects it all the time, it stops being romantic and instead becomes work. I think one of the nice things in a long term relationship is being romantic occasionally to remind the other person how much you love them. But if you do it all the time, how is that special anymore? It's like having prime rib for dinner every night, eventually you just say "Whoop dee freakin doo, Prime Rib. Again." If you want this guy to send you a text message every morning for 2 years, are you telling me you'll find it romantic and loving every single time? More likely you'll just expect it, and his gesture becomes meaningless. Putting someone up on a pedestal in the early part of a relationship is pretty much status quo. But at some point, reality has to set in and the real world has to butt its big ugly nose into your business. Those insane, daily romantic gestures become harder and harder to do, that's just life. It doesn't mean it has to stop completely, but if the only reason you're with someone is to be lavished with attention by these gestures I think you've got deeper concerns.
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    I keep telling my therapist that, but he insists on the shock therapy anyways.
  16. zerohalo
    LOL, I just watched that the other day.
  17. zerohalo
    ... I'm not precisely sure how orgasms and turkey sandwhiches go together, but why not. As long as you don't pull it out from under the pillow immediately after you orgasm. My ex occasionally cried after she orgasmed, it freaked me out pretty good the first couple of times but after a while I realized it probably was a cathartic thing. She always felt bad when it happened which made it hard for it to become a 'light' issue.
  18. zerohalo
    These same magazines are what help perpetrate the unreasonable physical expectations on women (and to some degree, men). Stop the cycle, stop reading magazines with cleavage on the cover.
  19. zerohalo
    I notice, and I love it.
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    I've only been with one woman, and she was a C cup. I'd like to think that as long as I found her attractive and loved her personality, breast size wouldn't matter to me. But after 13 years of being 'trained' on larger breasts, I dunno...
  21. zerohalo

    flirting

    zerohalo replied to sparkly's topic in Dating Advice

  22. zerohalo
    I don't get why I never get approached. I wear my favorite polyester Optimus Prime button up shirt, I plop down my Liono and Cheetarah action figures onto the bar, then I have them pretend-makeout while making kissy noises. If that doesn't get the ladies attention, what will?
  23. zerohalo
    This really doesn't sound that surprising. If I had to guess, he's got some mixed emotions. Part of him wants you, but another part is telling him, "Dude, she broke your heart. What are you thinking?" Did you ask him if he was drunk after the latest text message? Did you ask him if he wanted to get back together after that text message? If the answer is yes to both of those questions, then he is really conflicted about what he wants. It's the heart waging a weird war against the mind. I kinda doubt it's an intentional game he's playing, but this is me offering advice from my part of the frozen tundra to your part of the frozen tundra. Not like I know the guy, so grain of salt and all that.
  24. zerohalo
    Guys are a quiet bunch when it comes to sex. Don't expect much noise until, well, you know.
  25. zerohalo
    I've never worn enough cologne for a woman to actually come up to me and compliment me. That could mean that I just stink, but I'm going to go with my original assumption that I just don't wear much. My ex could be turned on at the drop of a hat if she got a whiff of my aftershave though. Very Sexy for men from Victoria's Secret. She had to already be hugging me to notice it, but once she did I had to pry her off of me with a crowbar.
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