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  1. zerohalo
    I couldn't agree with you more. I'm not sure what's happened over the last month or so, but there seems to be less tolerance and helpful advice, and more judging. It sucks. Kudos to you and your wife talking things out. I know I wouldn't have been as forgiving as you were, but that's cause I'm me and you're you. I'm glad that you two have been able to turn this into a positive experience, and I think it's probably smart that you both recognize that maybe bringing in a third person could just make things more complicated. You could have run the risk of losing your wife and your best friend. But hey, the subject has been brought up. Maybe one day you two will be able to build on this experience and feel comfortable and confident enough to pursue it.
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    I'm reminded of first times. The first time we saw each other in person, we crashed into each other and started making out in the airport. Not particularly romantic for everyone else, but it was for us. But a memory that will always stand out in my mind was the first time we slept together... I mean ACTUAL sleeping. She stroked my hair, leaned in close and sang softly to me. I never felt so loved and comforted in my entire life. Heh, I'm tearing up just typing it out.
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    Matter of fact, it could even indicate that she could squirt. It's a totally normal feeling, and there's pretty much no chance that she'll actually pee.
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    It all depends. For me, I'd say 7-8 times, but that'd almost entirely be on the weekend. Work stress absolutely destroys my sex-drive during the week, although I certainly appreciate a romantic encounter during the workday to help blow off that steam.
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    Meh, time to fall in love is irrelevant. My parents got married 3 months after they met and have been together for 33 years (and are still very much in love). If you want to hear him say I Love You while you're making love, then tell him you would love to hear it. In any relationship there are times where you make love, times where you have sex, and times where you do the eff word. It could just be that you two aren't making love yet.
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    I don't know if it's just me, but condoms seem super hard to actually put on. I think I must be somewhere between average and large as far as girth is concerned, cause it hurts trying to put on a regular one and the larger ones tend to slide off. It's VERY annoying.
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    You could try really silly things, like watching a TV show together over the phone and then talk about it afterwards. Look up something goofy on the internet and talk about it. The question game sounds like a great idea too. Long silences can suck over the phone or in person. Sometimes just knowing the person is on the other end of the line, even when you can't think of something immediately to say, can be nice.
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    I've heard from at least a few women who seem to like their sessions a little on the shorter side. In a way I can understand why, if it only lasts 10-15 minutes, chances are things are very intense between the two people. Nevertheless, this does fly in the face of what I've heard most of my life, how women want a guy who can just last and last. It's been hard to re-write my brain to accept this new way of thinking.
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    Awesome man, at least there's some progress. Oh and if things aren't hot and heavy when you aren't living together, don't expect it to increase once you do.
  10. zerohalo
    There is nothing hotter than a woman who does what she needs to get herself off and makes no apologies for it. Sadly that doesn't seem to be the case for guys, but oh well.
  11. zerohalo
    Making her orgasm. Nothing turns me on more than making a woman cum repeatedly. This could be from any number of sexual activities, but I would keep going until she physically can't take it anymore. And at that point, whether I orgasm or not is kind of immaterial to me. There's many many other scenarios, but this one ranks really high up on my list of turn ons.
  12. zerohalo
    Everything I've tried to say comes out spiteful. I find what she's doing massively selfish, and every suggestion I come up with ends up being kind of mean. I've retyped this post about 5 times now. The fact is, you should bite the bullet and don't laugh the topic off. You HAVE to talk with her openly about this. Yeah you could take the subtle suggestion route, but clearly that's not working. That doesn't mean you have to be cruel when you talk about it, but for the love of god, just ask if there's anything you two could do aside from making out that could get her in the mood. If her answer is no, then suggest alternatives. If the answer is still no, consult a sex therapist.
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    Keep hanging in there. I've run into situations like that, like when I cook a meal that my ex and I used to cook together, or I catch the scent of another woman and she happens to be wearing the same perume. Memories come back, and they tend to blindside me. But, you get to the point where you realize you've got your life, and she's got her own.
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    And with that, lets call it good, ok guys?
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    Don't you hate that? It's great when you both have the same rhythm going, but when one of you gets off beat it all just falls to pieces. I found that simply arching my back forced me deeper inside, and that led to her having some pretty powerful orgasms. I still wish I had something good to say about the missionary position, but I got nothin.
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    I knew that was coming from you, TM. And honestly, I don't really disagree.
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    Well to be fair, although my tongue and jaw gets tired when I'm giving oral my ex had the same issue. She still had to work at it, the right amount of pressure from her lips, using her tongue, it was work for her as well. The good part is wanting to give it badly enough that you work past all that.
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    It's interesting to hear so many variations of missionary. Like TiredMan, I really dislike the position because I would end up doing all of the work. At least if she was on top of me, I could push myself deeper into her, play with her breasts, work her clit, etc etc. But if I was on top, it'd just be me doing all the business and her making all the money. Some pretty cool takes on missionary, maybe it doesn't suck after all (with the right person).
  19. zerohalo
    How can you be sure? Talk to him. Ask him. You have to trust him at some point, otherwise it's over.
  20. zerohalo
    It's not so much a matter of judgement, and I'm sorry that my post came off that way. The fact that you're trying to get some input on how to make this better is a really good step. What I was trying to get accross is that as bad as this is for you, it's going to be worse for him. He had a dirty secret that he shared with someone he loved and trusted, and just like you don't want to be judged by us, it's going to be a million times worse if you judge him. Ask a lot of questions, but don't be confrontational about it at all.
  21. zerohalo
    So you forced him to reveal something he wasn't ready to, and now you're repulsed by it which is no fault of his own. Harsh. You have to talk to him, ask questions, and be understanding. If this was his darkest secret, you have to put your own dark feelings aside and be there for him. You dragged this out, you have to be the bigger person and be willing to listen and at least try to understand.
  22. zerohalo
    I sympathize with the smell issue, and actually the taste too. My ex tasted and smelled very acidic, and if she didn't trim, shave or wax it was magnified by... well a lot. You could just try prepping your nether regions for the event, and if he still does the two-licks-I'm-outta-here routine, then you probably need to have that talk.
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    I think that makes the most sense. You know I've never even thought about this topic until now, I'm not sure how I feel about it. I think it wouldn't bother me because the person she'd be wearing it for would be me, not her ex. Ok, I need to stop thinking about this cause it's taking my mind to a naughty place.
  24. zerohalo
    I've had this happen, sorta, and all that really went through my mind was "This is a cool chick." Some guys are threatened by a girl who was had sex with a woman before, I'm not sure why. I think it means she is sexually aware and is willing to experiment. That's a win-win.
  25. zerohalo
    Plan on seeing the therapist by yourself. At some point, he/she may suggest bringing in your fiance but for now this is something for you.
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