Boughs
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I suppose i've questioned the same thing. I cried when breaking up with my ex. I don't really know why, but I just felt it. I felt bad to see her go... but I knew it was what I needed.
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hahah. I don't mind either way. I really like the dim lights tho at times... with the light highlighting her hips and her breasts and she rides me in the night. *dreams* Oh wait what were we talking about? As long as the lights let me see what I want to see, i'm all good.
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Hmm good way of looking at it. Ok. *breaths* I just wanted to see it go somewhere but it won't. X-mas is a good time I guess to let it pass through.
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proposal idea help wanted (for a girl)
Boughs replied to 96dcm's topic in Marriage/Long Term Relationships
Simple route of getting him a christmas card that says all you're thankful for and at the end say "marry me?" -
I think you mis-understood what he was saying. He was saying that women were the only ones to respond thus far. Not that women aren't the only evil-doers, but men do it as well. I am a guy, and I responded with having cheated btw OP
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I went on numerous dates with this girl, and ended in her not wanting to deal with some drama that would have been caused if we spent more time together. I fell for her already. I think about her each day and wonder already. I feel like its still possible, but I don't think she will be able to reciprocate. Anyways, I like this girl a lot... almost too much and it was only 1 week of admiration, and 1 week of dates. Its really gotten me upset which is odd. I don't think I've felt like that before. Really upsetting it can't work... but what is this called? I know its not love yet, and I don't lust after her... I just really want to talk to her. Its like I've grown so fond of who she is, and its ripped out beneath me. I feel more distraught of "losing" her than I did with my break-up with my ex of almost 2 years.
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the email i sent closing the hardest chapter of my life! 2 years
Boughs replied to kickedin's topic in Breaking Up Advice
Think that the length makes your ex feel like you are just trying to convince yourself that you are right? -
I've cheated once, and never again. Seems like there are two different personalities to cheaters. "testers" and "constant Doers." It killed me and my ex. So never again.
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Just wanted to tell you, those are some of the kindest words I've heard in a while. Thank you. I couldn't share it with her. I just don't think it would be right.
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I never really had a relationship with my mother so no. But I sure wish I could/did. I don't know where my mindset is right now. I've lost a lot of things in my life recently, I hope I can get back on my feet soon.
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I'm going home for the holidays. Feeling a bit off in my head. So here is a poem I've written to help myself think. I'm coming home mom. If only I could tell you what I've learned. I've figured out the meaning of love, be it love of a friend a girl or family. I have never really told you how much you've done for me. Your hard work to keep me afloat while I I kept trying all the little tiny things in the boat to sink us. I've learned love of a girl, and experienced the loss. Its had me lose heart for a bit, but I'm rebuilding. I've been crying, and I think you know I have. I've been struggling and I know you know I have. I've not been trying, something you think I have. I'm just so sorry mom, I wish I could figure it out. I wish I could win more. I'm kind of tired of losing. I used to think it was helping me, but maybe I'm in a dream world where failure is fame. One day will i wake up? I doubt it. My mind is too set in too strong to aspire and too weak to really believe that my love will return. Whether it be the love of my career love of a friend a girl or even you. I doubt its return.
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I'm sure he is upset... but he is discovering what he needs. You too should go ahead and discover your own needs. Try to figure out if a guy that wishes to date for so long and throw it out in a 3 minute convo is what you want. If you think he did it unsure, and honestly believe him... then perhaps there is a chance of re-uniting. But if you have an ounce of hate of what he did, I don't think it'll work... as it'll haunt EVERY ASPECT OF THE RELATIONSHIP. My suggestion is to keep moving, don't check up on him... don't text him... don't message him, keep the NC rolling. I find that ignorance can help cope, and when time passes by a bit, where you can honestly collect your thoughts, you should really consider what happened. At this moment, let go. Hope that helps
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Like Luck of the Irish's sig is, gotta show strength. Prove you are worth something... but don't be overly confident. Just relax, continue being friendly and things may happen. Don't pursue in the start, you must detect if a girl likes you or not from a general conversation. Throwing parties does NOT get you a girl. Girls don't date party throwers... something I've come to learn.
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Aye its inevitable. Many guys are like that, myself included. Its attraction and makes us do silly things. I "TRY" to be equal to all, but there is just a subconsious thought that overrides my mind... and its sometimes hard to let go of. I don't stare, i find that rude, but giving extra attention is just what they are trying to do by the way they have dressed/gone into your place of work. Its just attraction
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Everyone regrets things they've done, but I don't think they regret the outcome. Failure = growth, and our failures are embarrassing thus make us regret doing them. Overall, I'm glad for my mistakes, even my persistent ones because yes, I'm happy to be who I am.
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Kind of a mix. Emotion after emotion kinda washed over as I wrote. Thought about the next bit and reposted. All pertain to the same situation/topic... kind of the evolution of the situation.
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The grey skies have come! I'm drowning in the rain. Too weak to stand as that gaze has stunned me I'm stuck in this growing puddle. I've never felt so happy in my life. I finally cried tonight. I finally gave into myself. Letting it all wash up on the dock and destroy my boat. As long as it was you, and as long as it was my fault, I'm glad to see my boat rock. The sunrise will be beautiful. Just without you.
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I sailed. I set sail I got to the dock and watched you walk. I sat down because i knew. I saw you stumble I saw you hesitate. I watched you settle yourself look into my eyes. You stood there, for 5 hours, you looked at me. I saw you look to the side, you took off your shoes and you jumped. I sat there, for 5 hours. I sat there for a long time afterwards. I'm not ready to sail, I'm not here to win right now. I must lose more. What more can I lose now?
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Sure is We all gotta lose to understand. Remember this time is also the best time of your life. A time where you really get a chance to think about yourself on a deep powerful level. Make sure you don't let it overcome you. Take each thought and figure it out. Don't lose your sanity, but definitely lose your mind and yourself a bit. Loosen up best you can. That is what I usually think/do.
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Basically a "no". Another girl another time perhaps
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Yeah, I wrote her a message. Lets see the reply
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All I really said was that I broke up with my ex and that my ex was the one having the problem with the break up. Told her that I'd been thinking about it and got it all settled. Nothing really more. She spoke about her ex's and we left it at that. Her ex's don't know EVERYONE like my ex does... so its rather difficult to find someone inside of school. Not that I'm LOOKING for a relationship, its just that this one fell into my lap... and I see its potential, and sad that she is uncomfortable with the fact that my ex is one of her best friends friends. So it'd be weird and she said she doesn't want the drama behind her back. I dunno about you guys, but I completely agree... I wouldn't want to have to deal with crap like that.
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It was the girl's decision not to because she didn't want to be part of the drama. I don't care what my ex thinks. She does tho. So i have to respect that. Sad to let someone that good go. I just don't want to... but I know I should.
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I'm actually really concerned about the girl. I hope she doesn't get affected by my "baggage". At the very least, I want her to be ok. My ex, she needs to deal with it on her own I know.
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So... I made a post about "testing the waters" and well... i did it. And my ex saw me with her. My ex proceeded to "accidentally" text me that she "saw him dropping off some girl". I have talked to the girl I was "testing the waters" with and she knows my ex and my entire situation. So I also felt like it was right to let her know that my ex saw us. So I did, and she basically said that we shouldn't talk and let it blow over. I agree with her, but man timing sucks. We were really getting a long so well. So bizarre. I'm not the one to partake in drama, and here it is, right on a platter. My ex is going to freak out about it and tell the world. My ex was really hurt by the whole break-up. Nothing I can do considering the small school. Think there is anything I can say to the girl that would help her not worry about it? The girl's friends are close friends with my ex... so it certainly doesn't help the situation. Do I just let this one go?