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  1. CHINOOKA
    Hehe wow he is a real cassanova isnt he? He pulled the old switcheroo on you. First he do something to hurt you, then he makes you apologize. This is a good game, because most people will feel guilt when the person pulls the switch.
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    This moment is all there is. This moment is fleeting yet eternal. It is like God it is infinitely small, and it is big enough to hold all of creation. All we can do is relish it and try to feel it. To grasp this moment as it passes. Like singing a song, when you begin to focus on each single note instead of the one before or after it, that is when you really begin to sing from your soul.
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    Well, maybe you could set some boundaries with him about the telephone calls.
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    Being pretty is probably your problem. Lots of people are taken up with beatuy and arent really ready to commit. Don't worry! You can decide what you want and set your own agenda.
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    file for unemployment you might win if they dispute it.
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    Congratulations for saving yourself. Excessive coupling leads to problems. Yes ask her out she might feel the same way about you.
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    Thank you all for the great input! You are all so wise. I will use all of this support to help me handle my situation. Yes, yes, and yes yes. Yes Looorrrddddd. (haha I sing in a gospel choir) I need to spend time with my friends. I will be starting a new job next week too. I know that will help. Just to clarify, the youngest son's girlfriend is the one who was yelling at me,. good insight I do feel as though Ive been used and kicked to the curb lol good call! One more thing, I would throw them all out but it isnt my house! Oh, also, I am 47, my "kids" are 21, 23 and 28! three grandkids, 7, 3, and one week old. (all from middle son's marriage) The child in cps isnt ours. it is youngest son's gf we dont know who the father is
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    Hi Vegan. I read your post, and my heart goes out to you. I am sorry you are feeling this pain. You say you get angry with people for no reason, but if you are angry there is a reason. It might not be something other people agree with, but it is a real feeling. Something inside of you or something in your environment is hurting you. I hope you will take some time to sit down and reason with yourself what it is that is hurting you. About the loneliness. It is a signal to you that you might want to spend time with someone. You can decide how much time to be alone, and how much time to be with others to make yourself more comfortable. I hope you feel better.
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    Hi I am an older person that lives with my son and his family. My daughter in law used to spend time with me and wanted me to move in but now she hangs out with her friends, and acts like I'm not even here. My grandkids do it too it is really hurting my feelings. Is this normal?
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    ps. sometimes we need to teach our loved ones how to love us
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    Wow! interesting responses. May I comment? I will venture to give my feedback, because that is what this forum is all about...First of all I like your avatar. And I don't fault you for your doubting your relationship. It is difficult when your loved one is away. If in fact she is finding comfort with another man while she is away, I think she is distressing you by telling you about it. You could try to tell her that what you need from her while she is away is to reafirm her love for you and that she misses you (if she does) because you are not in a comnfort zone right now. What ever is going on with her little vacation buddy is not what you need or want to hear about. good luck!
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    Oh my! I sympathise so deeply with you those feelings are horrible. I think I have it somewhat too. My mom has had it all her life.
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    Your problems are serious, and dangerous. I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I hope you seek out some help and guidance. Your dad might be suffering from some kind of mental problems to be able to act so badly.
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    I agree with Sonjam, being 17 isn't easy, even when family and friends are supportive. Focusing on yourself, and learning to do things that will help you to become independent, will in the long run become the answer for you as you spread your wings in a few ore years.
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    Wow. Well, er.... Um, that is... Well, this is common stuff nowdays. wow humanity is evolving inito something other than what it once was. You are legal age right? So even though your parents are concerned and responsible for you in so many ways as you are not yet independent, they have no say really. Now it is truly up to you to decide based on your own experience so far, if you wish to honor your parents values on this or not.
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    Hm, maybe some good old fashioned communication might help. Take your sister out to lunch, or for a Latte, and then, gingerly, discuss the whole thing, and let her tell you how she feels. She is disturbed. That much is clear. Communication is so important and you dont need a degree in counseling to know that. We cannot change or fix people, but we can help create unity.
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    In the united states we practice the most viscious and innanely stupid mate selection practices in the entire world. Yes there is a god, and yes he created fiamilies and elders and social structures to help provide us with a mate. We need to start thinking about that. Some countries use wisdom in their famailial practices.
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    Okay, working with people is difficult. They can become unruly. When people chain up like that, a neutral position is sometyimes the best. Remember that ideas cannot be implemented until people agree. Was it a reasonable idea? why did the fellow workers reject it?
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    well, it sounds like your friend is not playing straight with you. If his awareness is that bad with you, how does he figure hiimself out of a wet paper sack? I would be wanting more from a friendship as well. Looks like he prefers to spend his time with others. Do not give him money or other favors. You can't buy friends.
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    Grass on other side of fence is always greener if you are looking. In other words, if you want to be able to commit. then gain the self control skills required to do so which include fleeing from all signs of temptation.
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    We used to stay by a pool or wading pond all day, and also, we used to open up windows and doors after the sun goes down, and keep doors closed and shades down at daylight to keep the house cool.
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    Yes, talk and coo and hum or something to engage the infant! Man, these people are real geniuses. Mom is boring that child to sleep
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    Yes, with someone in prison, and no, I would not subject myself to that kind of cruelty again, however, that goes for close range relationships as well. Lol
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    Well... Yes, it is not good for you to have laundry waved around like that. The message is clear, she will tell her mum. That will change how you respond to her, if it is not comfortable for you to get a bad report. She must be striving to set some kind of a boundary about some seemingly trivial detail. Think now, is there anything that she has "harped" on?
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    I agree with Minty about the larger view on how long a child should bottle (or breast feed) and I really agree with offline guy that the parenting syle differences will lead to later problems. What other differences do you have that could lead to disaster?
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