Tesseract_Witch

Don't we? Perhaps we don't end lives in a physical sense--in such a way we can be viewed, by political standards, as "murders."

Well, have you ever considered crunches? Although they are painful if not performed on a yoga ball--it strains the back otherwise. >

I agree completely!

Oh, don't relate that to another instance I know of; it'll never happen. You have to jump first, I'm afraid. Heh, heh, heh...

I honestly think women--just in my experience with the experimental "play-politician" arrangement of the school system--have absolutely no grasp on politics. Oh, just to prove how truly lost some of those backtime rulers were; Marie Antoinette: "Let them eat cake." More recent ones include: 1) "A species goes out of existence every twenty seconds. Surely a new species must come into existence every twenty seconds."--Helen Chenoweth. 2) "Sexual harassment on the job is not a problem for virtuous women."--Phylilis Schlafly. 3) "Statistics show that teen pregnency drops off significantly after age 25."--Mary Anne Tebedo. *All are cited from the book 267 Stupidest Things Democrats/Politicians Ever Said by Ted Rueter, copyright New York Rivers Press, 2000. These are but examples, not to say all are incapable; but these are factual instances that sadly apply to many of the girls I have encountered over the years. Not only are they ignoramus to a great deal, they have no desire to alter that. Is it okay to not put forth the effort and then cry out about women's rights? No; rights are a privelage, despite the essense of the name, and should be treated as such. It is heinous to think of someone who will bash a government that has gone so far to give "squaking" women (meaning those who put forth no effort and in turn, complain) a say in events that they are totally oblivious to. What name, then, does that give all women; a dispicable one. Those "squakers" are beating themselves down, and then wondering when they'll be able to take a stand in anything.

Cite the book or webpage or encylopedia you pulled this information from for me as well; I am eager to learn. I don't disagree it is a mild form (or at least, it can remain mild) of insanity. But I am not one to judge; I am too pessimistic to know whether it is sunny outside, for I only see darkness in the light (shadows).

ShySoul, I don't find you to be lacking confidence like Monsieur; I hope he turns out to be more like you.

Wow, and I thought I was without esteem. But understand, "shyness" and "lack of confidence" are two very different things. Shyness is simply a desire to be silent, to listen and learn without saying foolish things--trust me, I know what I do wrong (!)--whereas lacking self-esteem is damning, quite frankly. Why would anyone, women in particular, find "unconfidence" appealing? Unless they are controlling people--but then, why would you settle for something like that--who would want to have to raise someone up every time they fell, simply because they themselves don't seem to think they are strong enough to do so? This is no attack on your morality, not to call you parasitical as if you lean on people and cannot and will not fend for yourself. But why dwell in that hole? Is there no other place you would rather be? Why are you so afraid to try and stand up, to move your position to somewhere more habitable? Don't fret if you should be knocked down--for how could you have been knocked down to begin with? You dared to stand up. And if you did it once, it can be repeated. So try it out; what's the worst that could happen--you have one more chance to stand up again if you are knocked down. And standing up is such a great feeling.

A kiss? I am surprised she doesn't flee at the sight of you--be greatful for that! For you have this rather humorous way of stressing out around her--not terribly obvious, but enough to see--CHILL! You and I both know what a worry-wart she is, so don't you go stressing her out as well--and be exceptionally greatful you aren't around her when she slips into one of her moods. @@ Just know she isn't going to take anything well when she is in such a state, so don't induce it (yes, that means even the slightest peck on the cheek). I hope you can manage that, but good luck--girls can be so complicating at times! Just relax--you are starting to sound like her already. Heh, heh; perhaps you are meant to be.

Don't be fooled by this monstrous visage, meine Freunde; for if you should REALLY push the wrong buttons, I promise you a whole world of ugliness...

My GOD, you mean it...I hadn't thought on it for much longer than you shared that with me...

Run where? When can you expect to defend yourself from any abusive relationship if you keep running? When Ailec1987 says "abusive," that doens't necessarily refer to boy and girl friend relationships--what about violent peers--more so in a younger person's respect--or hostile coworkers? Can you always run from your job?

I think that abuse--physical or otherwise, begets what it brings about; more abuse, of course. I am one to defend myself only if attacked. For example, I was so enraged by what one of my friends accused me of, I couldn't help but snap at him. Well, it was a very crude statement, but he wanted to hit me so badly--I beat him to it. Aggressive, violent, or protective?

That sounds extremely uncomfortable--even painful--are you sure people actually enjoy this feeling?

Are you certain you were ready to engage in a sexual relationship with him--I am not denouncing you in any way, I just think some people have a tendency to rush into such relationships and it costs them; perhaps, as you stated, more than any other abstinent relationship. And the fact he managed to find someone else that quickly--either he is an extremely resiliant person, or he honestly didn't feel that deeply for you to begin with. Whatever the case, don't play that jealousy game of "replacing" a loved one; it is spiteful and remarkably childish. Do what feels right--even if that means it doestake a long time.

What sort of "code" is that to abide by? Unless your presense disturbs the peace between you all, I don't see the problem.

I may seem far too young to have any inkling as to what I say, but I do see a terrific pattern developing within my own era--kids get themselves into a mess, and suddenly one takes responsibility and the other wonders where he stands ("he" could mean either "he" or "she," but it suits your purposes to say "he"--I may be a girl myself, but I hardly abide by these insidious "non-grammatically sexist" rules. Is there not a "he" in the words "he" and "she"? But, getting to the point), while things get out of hand and one is losing himself to a problem that isn't necessarily his. This suicidal cycle will mar the very eloquence of those like "Ta ree saw" in saying it is not a way to live life. But if you should find this life is yours, love it as if it was yours and yours alone--if you want it. Children, I have heard, are one thing parents cannot surrender without battling with blood and iron (pardon the expression--I don't suggest you go after your ex with a sword). That baby, if it is yours--is yours, and you should want to be there for it regardless as to what its mother says. Is it not (again, if it is), your life too--not just another's life you must protect? Is this baby not going to be a part of you, and if you should be sorrowed, it would be too; your happiness is shared with it?

It is merely conversation, if you'll recall my quote: "when it does come up." I am not picking on him, as I also mentioned--but why does he cringe at it? What is so disturbing about it to him? *(To Ailec1987)

Oh, yes, he is playing around. I know him quite well.

Well, everyone that is interested in such a topic--in this case, my friend--and he does justify this by saying "I am a guy," I have very little room to aruge against it.

It was a whimsical post, frankly; very out of character, I admit. I aplogize if I offended you all, especially racoon-boy. I won't allow foolishness to play into my threads again.

Tragic, and beautifully worded; I envy the situation, acutally. It is something of interest to write about, to illustrate for everyone. Not to say I am not sympathetic, I hope you will find what you seek, but I love the fact you can, with your tale of experience, open many eyes--including my own.

What is the alarm? Is it really necessary to call each other EVERY day? You do have lives, I trust? And, just as NJRon stated, what posessed you to associate with someone and not have their number? This doesn't sound like a very substantial relationship--look into it to develop your communication skills.

What a mess; I agree with Ailec1987, though--you if your friend won't help herself, what more can you do? This sounds unbelievably cruel, but I think that you should let her learn for herself if she doesn't want to risk your helping her.

It seems to me your irrational fear has begun to take hold of you. Why do they terrify you so? HOW can those little eight-legged creatures frighten you out of sanity? Some traumatic experiece, somehow only loosely related to spiders--say, in childhood? For example, someone may be afraid "indirectly" of bats. If you were somehow lost in the woods for a long time, separated from your party and you found a nest of bats--not to say bats cannot be frightening, but what really startled you is the fact you were lost. Every time a bat is sighted, you recall the immense lonliness and thus fear that which triggers the memory; bats. I myself am not afraid of any reasonable thing; I fear "nothing" in essense. That is, the idea beyond comprehension; oblivion is...what? Man fears that of which he does not understand, and I have such a mindset that I have time to think on eccentric things such as oblivion and nothingness. The thought that I will one day reach oblivion--for I am devoutly athiest--antagonizes me that it is something that I will never know; for the word "oblivion" means unawareness. I want to know about it before I reach it and then it is too late to matter. Just like any religion; why do people want to know whether there is a Heaven or Hell? Just to know. But, if it does exist, of course you'll figure it out. But, of course, that is not the intent. Try to find out why you fear these spiders.