PeteMcAvoy

well actually we were friends for 7 years first, and she asked me out!

Please can someone help me out, my girlfriend is getting all mopey on a weekly basis now and it's doing my head in! I am not a very affectionate person, but that's just who I am, and she interprets this as me loving her less than she loves me and it upsets her. She is probably right that she loves me more as I am quite a cold person and she always wants me to herself and stuff, whereas I'm happy to be with others a lot of the time. But what can I do about that? I can't just make myself love her more, I love her as much as I can love someone, why is that not enough?

My girlfriend was with someone for 7 years before me and I when we started having sex a few months ago, the very first time she said it was amazing, the best she'd ever had! And it's just been getting better & better ever since. What worries her is that she thought she was having good sex before but now it pales in comparison to sex with me (she compliments me and says I'm amazing every time). Before her, I hadn't really been with anyone, so she's worried that maybe this is just ok sex for me and I could maybe be having amazing sex with someone else! When she told me this worry I was like, erm, ok, I don't really know what to say!? But what can you say to that? I told her I thought it was great, but she said I've got no frame of reference to know that! It's really knocked her that sex with me is so much better (she had never orgasmed before me!) How could I reassure her about this? It seems a crazy thing to worry about to me! But I'd like to calm her down about it!

Because of you - Kelly Clarkson I truly feel like this song is about me, it's exactly me. I didn't have an abusive father but a very overprotective mother, I wasn't allowed out to play in the street with other kids, I learned to play on the safe side so I didn't get hurt. My uncle died at age 18 (when I was like 3) and it completely messed up my entire family but I think mainly my mum. She always assumes the worst if she can't contact someone and talks about death & stuff. And I feel like I've closed off my heart in a way to avoid pain, copying her really, like MY heart can't break coz it was never really whole to start with. That sounds pretty depressing actually, I have a good life, it's just that I feel damaged, that I can't really trust anyone and it's not because of anything that's happened to me, it's because of what happened to her!

I was thinking about the feelings involved when I orgasm and it's really hard to pinpoint eaxactly how it feels when it happens, I guess there is a tingly feeling and then a rush of euphoria? I feel like I get some kind of orgasmic amnesia afterwards coz it's really hard to think back about how I actually felt? Can anyone accurately describe the feeling of an orgasm? Just out of interest.

Hi all, I was kissing my girlfriend the other day and she freaked out a little when she realised my eyes were open, I hadn't even noticed myself but it seemed to bother her and she kept checking after that to see if my eyes were open! What's that all about, I get that caught up in the kiss that I don't even know if they're open or not, is that weird? Or is she overreacting and lots of people have their eyes open when kissing?

Hi, I've just started going out with my best friend of 7 years so our relationship is weird to start with, add to that the fact that I'm 25 and I've never been out with anyone seriously (I've had sex, but only one night stands) Basically I'm really into her (don't know about love yet?) I fancy her like mad but she's head over heels in love with me, so we're not on equal footing yet. We've kissed loads and had lots of fun with it, but I don't know what the next stage is? She's only been in one serious relationship and so is pretty clueless as it's been years since she dated (and I've never dated). I think she'd go as far as I wanted but is being very cautious not to spook me. I would love to go all the way with her but I don't think it's a good idea to let my * * * * rule what I do! I basically want to know what people think the next stages should be after just kissing, like I hear people goin on about petting etc but I don't know what to start with. I just don't think we should jump into being full on (especially as at the moment I would feel a tiny bit like I was using her) Please help! Pete.

I was writing my card to my girl the other day and I wrote all kinds of slushy stuff coz I was listening to a pop song; Beautiful Soul by Jesse McCartney, so I think that's well romantic at the moment. It's not at all rocky or punkie but its romantic?

Does anyone believe in people being sensitive to ghosts? I have had a few strange experiences in the middle of the night where I've see 'someone', and I know I definitely wasn't dreaming! Also, when I was a little boy (about 4) my uncle died but they told me he'd gone on holiday. But every so often I would say I could hear music and then I used to see him (usually stood behind my mum pulling faces at her!) I don't really remember but that's what they tell me used to happen! It really used to freak them out! And there have been a few times that I've been going to do stuff like leave my younger sister in the house on her own whilst I went to the shop but as I was about to go I'd hear 'NO' shouted in my ear! It always seems to happen in the same room as well (unfortunately my bedroom!) What do people think? Sound at all familiar to anyone, or you just think I'm crazy!?

I completely agree, the boyfriend will be smelling his fingers in awe, I love that smell, it's weird and I'm not saying it's a good smell, it's just that it reminds you of what you just did and I think it must be loaded with hormones or something coz it just feels so good to sniff it, hope you don't think I'm weird now! But I do think it's a common thing!

I started going out with a girl this weekend and we kissed for the first time yesterday and it was kind of weird as I felt like I was the better kisser? I've kissed more people than her (about 15) but they have all been one offs and I have never had a real relationship until now. She however has kissed only 5 people but has been in a longterm relationship for the last 5 years, so I would have thought she must have perfected it? I don't have any specific technique when kissing I just sort of massage the girls tongue with mine and kind of freestyle! Sorry if that sounds dorky! But she just kind of used a come hither motion over and over, it seemed a bit boring! I tried to push her tongue into some random movement which I think is a good kiss, but she didn't seem to get it. This isn't a big thing and I don't want to say anything to her about it, I just wondered if it was a normal way of kissing or if it's me that has some kind of crazy method? What are peoples thoughts? How do you all prefer to kiss? Pete.

I think it's kinda just as much the mans fault, I mean its caused by the pumping of the penis? I actually think it sort of cool!

I posted here a while ago, my best (female) friend of 7 years recently split up with her husband and told me she had been in love with me for the last 2 years! I was well shell shocked at first! But I decided I wanted to go out with her and she's coming to visit me this weekend, I guess it will be our first actual date! I'm quite nervous which feels really weird as I know her so well and I'm so used to thinking of her as being someone elses. I'll let you know how it goes!

It could be a terrible fetish that he has or something! I'd try to find out!

Ok that kind of explains it, most of them have been in relationships, but some haven't, they have just told me later that they used to have a crush on me. I think BlueAngel read me wrong, It wasn't that I fancied them (although that was the case with some) The vicarious thing makes sense I guess?