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Everything went smooth until last Thursday, when I invited her out for dinner. That night, when I called her, she said she's busy with study. Since I was away to the USA past weekend for Thanksgiving, I text messaged her, but got no reply from her. I don't know why she is suddenly so cold to me......

Hi guys, Let's talk about how did you make the move to start your relation with your bf/gf. who made the confess? where? how?

First a little back ground. I've met this girl for over years now, through a charity organization. She's a very quiet shy person, so even I do see her during those charity events, but have never talk to her anything further. Recently, we've came out after a charity event, because she lives very close to me, so I volunteer taking her back home. During the ride home, it was very quiet because she doesn't talk, so I have to start the conversation. I asked for her MSN, and have added her to the MSN list. We've start talking on the MSN every night, she's still very quiet on MSN too. Since she likes dog, so I invited her to came to my house 2 weekends ago, to play with my dog. We went out for a quick drink, we had a good time. We then start to talk on the phones. Because we went to the same middle school, same high school, and same university, so we have alot to say in the phone, but again, I still do most of the talking. From the school related topics, we develop into more topics, which we now talk every single night for average one hour. At first, I've offer to give her a wake up call, and now, I'm giving her a wake up call every morning, and she is expecting my calls every morning. I try to give her some sweet talk during our phone coversation, because she's so quiet and shy, so when I said things like "you're so cute", she just quickly laughed, and didn't say anything after. We did came out last weekend to study, well, she study her school stuff, while I study my license stuff, it wasn't a very productive afternoon, so I asked her if she wants to kill times in the shopping mall, or heading home, she said shopping mall. So we had a good time in the shopping mall, even thought we didn't do anything or bought anything. Because I'm 7 years older than her, and she's still in her last year in university. She's very busy with school every day, but still manage some spare time to chat with me on the phone (maybe she just wants to take a break from study?) I don't know what's her feeling towards me. I mean, I don't know if she likes me, or she just treats me like a big brother. Should I tell her I like her? or should I wait until everything is firm? I'm just too stupid into this relationship stuff.....](*,)

it's Canada Day this coming Satuday, and I'm inviting a girl to come to watch the firework with me. I first ask her if she's planning anything on Saturday, she said no. Then I asked her out, she said if it's ok to bring her roommate along? i say sure. And she asked me who else I'm inviting, I don't want to tell her it's her only, so I change the conversation to another topic. She then ask me again in few minutes, so I told her I haven't invite anyone yet. After another few minutes, she said she can't promise me anything now, she'll have to get back to me by Friday. Pretty bad eh?

Share us your story. How did you start your relationship with your girl/boy friend? Who proposed first? how?

I'm interested in a girl, we met at a local charity group event. She's a student, all by herself in this city. We exchange contact numbers / MSN emails. We chat few times via MSN, but I seem having problem finding a topic that will maintain the conversation longer. I'm afraid of calling her, because I don't know what to chat. Last week I saw her putting down a MSN nick name that she's sick, I send her an e-card, but no response from her. I need you expert to help, how do I get her attention? Thanks guys!

Can somebody give an example of "top priorities", while it will not annoyed how girls are feeling?

I see many couples were dating after they met each other in a month or so. Any sharing on members of this forums of your story of dating someone that you've been extremely good friends for years, and finally cross the line into a bf/gf status? How will you take the first step?

ok, I wrote a letter to her, to make a confess. She replies me 2 days later, she rejects me. She took 2 days, to think, to ask, and to find a way that will not hurt me. From her e-mail, I can see she must be having a hard time replying this e-mail. ok now...... Now I know she doesn't have feeling to me other than pure friendship / bro-sis type. Is there anything I should do, or could do, to win her heart? I really loved her.

So are you suggest me to avoid any kind of action (call, message) completely, until things are smooth out? I really do cherish our friendship, and I do hope we can back where we started. I had this plan of call her (or e-mail her), tell her everything, but instead of giving her a hard time, I will tell her "I do cherish our friendship, but I also receive the message you've send to me, so I will not cross the line." It hurt me if she turns me down, but it hurt me more if I lose a friend like her.

I have see some cases that 9 years apart relationship works, because the mature guy can take every single need that his young girlfriend wants. One of my best friend told me that 9 years works, but not when you're 27, and she's 18. What do you guys think? If I wait, will time helps? Or that's simply stupid?

I am 27, and she's 19. We both Chinese. We've been good friends for 2 years, and ever since she knew me at 17 years old, she treats me like a big brother, and I treat her like my little sister. Earlier this year, I have found out that I started to like her. She was in her last year in high school, and I'm an old 27 years old man. We phone each other alot, daily before going to bed, text message in the morning, and few calls in between. When she went to Europe on her school trip, she phone me from Europe, and I phone her back too. When I was on my vacation to Asia, I phone her, and she already got a calling card just to call me too. When she's suffering something difficult in her family, she called me, and she even cried out loud in the phone, and I'm always the one to calm her down. Since September, University started for her, she's been busy with school, and I've been busy with work too, so we start to chat less, but whever we got chance to talk on the phone, it usually a 30+ minutes conversation. However, she still updated every single detail that happened in her life, and I will do the same to her too. I have always told her I liked another girl, and she knows that girl too, but the truth is I starting to like this 18 years old girl more and more. I mean, I can't stop from loving her, when that she is so care about you, and you two chat almost every night, etc. From what I've mentioned, this is no doubt a relationship that any dating couple will do, eh? I could be wrong, but a girl who is so close to a guy, make me not to think if she's not like me...... but I didn't cross the line, at least until 2 months later. On a November Friday night, just right after I finishied work, she called me and said she came to help her mom at night school (her mom is a teacher), but found there's nothing to do, and ask if I want to go Unionville (a small romantic place here in Toronto), of course I agreed. So I rushed to picked her up, we walk around in the Unionville, such a beautiful place. It was cold that night, and she's cold, so I took off my jacket and put it on her, she shake it off, and walk away, so I know she doesn't want that. Because she calls me "old brother" in Chinese all the time, and i don't really like her calling me a "brother", so one day I ask her not to call me old brother because i'm not that old, but she's joking (or seriously) telling me that I am old.... oh well.... She has told me earlier this year that she will not like someone who's age is much older than her, and I don't believe I will liked someone who's so much (9 years) yonger than me. But believe it or not, I do liked her more and more. In the beginning of December, she doesn't call me completely, and I am in a weird stomach problem that I am so terribly not healthy. During that period, I do need and want her the way she used to chat with me to ease up my stomach problem (lasted a month), but whenever I called/text messaged her, she doesn't reply/answer. She always been using the excuse she's busy with studying and report, because it's the end of her first year in University, and exams are coming, ok I take that! So I gave her time to study, all I did was sending her those cheering text message, to support her on her busiest period. She finished her last exam on the Dec 19th, and I was expecting she to call me, but she doesn't. I called or text message her, no reply. I waited and waited, finally she came online on the MSN, telling me she's been partying for the last 4 nights, and once until 2:00am. She is never out so late, or at least when we went out, she always the first one that pushes everyone to go home, because she wants to be home by 10:00pm, or a curfew she set for herself. On our recently ski trip to Blue Mountain, we went as a group of 15. She's in my car, but she's not talking to me at all. At the resort, we stayed there for 2 days, she absolutely didn't talk with me, or intentionally not to talk to me, with exception of some ski related stuff since I organized this trip. I asked her sister, what happened with her, her sister told me that for that 4 nights, she has been hanging out with her high school friends, including her ex-boyfriend, who she still can't forget. However, she hasn't mention anything about her ex-boyfriend since April, and one thing I do know is her ex-boyfriend was dating some other girl a year ago. Anyway, I checked my phone bill, the last time I chat with her was Dec 14th, for 30 min, and this was absolutely the last time that we two chat. I tries to find something to talk during our long ride to the ski resort, but she just reply with yes or no answer. She's a very sensitive person, I believe she does sensed that I liked her. She doesn't like me? and think I'm such an old bastard? or does she likes me, but doesn't want to cross the line? I am completely messed up, and it's been driving me very very stress, and I can't even sleep. Should I just go up to her and tell her everything?