Gaz21uk

Thank you for all your replies. I take all of it into consideration and I feel like I cant be way from the child because of how he may develop without me. I do accept responsibilty *for now* and we will see what the dna test says... I just wish that things were different, I wish I concieved this child out of a want for him, not for sex. Now how the hell do I tell the family when they hate her? Thanks for your kind words.

Yes I should do that thankyou. Can anyone else answer my questions Im going mad here! Thanks.

Hello all. I used to post on here when I was younger and I found that there were some really genuine people on here with genuine problems and I found real help. My problem is now that my ex girlfriend of 6 months is having our baby soon. A baby that we tried so hard not to concieve, using the pill, condoms etc. Still, she insists that it is mine despite my disbilief. The problem is that I am no father, I am not ready for kids and probably never will be at the age of 25. She treated me quite badly in the relationship even stole and cheated but I have put that behind us and we still talk occasionally. But my question is do I NEED to be a part of this babies life and do I need to involve my family as she said she WANTS to be a single mother and does not expect anything from me? Im scared of not being there and scared OF being there but I am no father and with work commitments possibly taking me far away its not fair on either of them surely. I dont want to be a father, at least not for quite a while, and I feel I have nothing to give to this baby. And on another note I feel very tired and have no motivation lately, well for the last few months actually and I cant get over it, my coursework is WELL behind for my MCSE that I am studying for and I generally feel like my life is getting worse and worse and out of control. Im on a huge downer I think. But at least I got over the acne, just the scarring now to deal with....but thats another story. Please help.