RobzGr8

Girls give guys fake phone numbers because they are either 1.) trying to let you down gently, or 2.) doesn't have the nerve to tell you she's not interested. Both these reasons suck because young girls don't realize how damaging it is for a young man NOT to know why he's been blown off. If you try to ask someone out and she acts interested, but then gives you a fake number, that hurts worse than if she simply had the respect and courtesy to tell you to your face that you're not her type, ugly, smell funny...whatever. Now, us being guys...we have no problem telling a girl we think she's ugly, or fat, or uncool. But girls are always taught to be nice to everyone and not hurt their feelings. I swear. It's a written code somewhere that all mothers pass down to their daughters. It's titled "Don't Let Guys Know What's Really Going on in Your Head." It gets worse. Wait til you DO get a girl to date you and you are with her for a while. Then it goes into the whole, "If you don't know what's wrong, then I'm not gonna tell you" stage. THEN you're REALLY in trouble. But I'm getting off subject here. Let me just tell you how to deal with this when it happens again. Ready? Here goes... FORGET ABOUT IT. MOVE ON. DON'T DWELL ON THE FACT THAT ONE LITTLE GIRL OUT OF A QUARTER BILLION DIDN'T GIVE YOU HER REAL PHONE NUMBER. You just go out there and keep asking every girl you find attractive for her phone number. Then, call them all up. The law of averages says you're bound to get ONE real number and that girl will be interested in you enough to let you take her out. Now, when you get to that point...hit me up. I'll help with that one too.

Yup. You were rejected. It sounds like the girl was just being nice by saying that she didn't have any money and didn't want you to have to pay for her. If she really wanted to go, she wouldn't have begged out at the last minute. But, don't let it get you down...we've all been rejected before.

Good job in dumping that chick!! Don't listen to Major. You had to do what you had to do. I've dumped chicks for being annoying. Sure, why not? Where is it written that if we meet a girl and go out with her, that we have to settle for anything less than perfection? If a girl does something you don't like, and you get annoyed with her, you find someone who doesn't do it. Plain and simple. What if a girl had a huge growth coming out of her forehead that you didn't notice before? Would you stay with her? Hell no. What if a girl does drugs or is a whore? Would you stay with her? Nope. If a girl can't shut her mouth for five seconds, and you can't take it one second longer, get rid of her.

Yes...it sounds like she likes you. Congratulations. Yes...you should ask her out. Yes...you should drop the Pimp in Training BS. I makes you sound like a little punk A SS retard.

Wow. I can guarantee that Pimpinaintez is going to have one F UCKED up marriage!! I can only hope that a freak radiation accident will render one or both of them sterile so that they cannot produce even stupider kids than their parents did!! But, since there is no God and Fate is even crueler...I'm sure they'll go on to have many Medical babies and future welfare recipients. I know you told you me to be nice Swingfox...I just couldn't help it!!

If you want to keep your job, I would suggest keeping your work life and your social life completely separate! If he likes you, he should realize that work is not the place to meeting women. If y'all want a date, do to a bar and find someone who doesn't work with you. Take it from a guy who knows. I've lost two really good jobs over interoffice dating. Once I was dating a girl who had been propositioned by the boss to be his mistress. She turned him down of course, but when he found out that I was dating his love interest, I got fired for the first reason he could think of. That same scenario happened TWICE believe it or not!! At TWO different companies. As long as he keeps his ideas to himself, it is okay. If he ever comes out and overtly states his intentions, I think you should politely tell him that you don't date co-workers because it's unprofessional. Or, better yet. Just talk to him about this really great guy you met who you are madly in love with! That will give him a real clear picture of his chances. Unless you are an attention seeker who enjoys this man fawning all over you, I suggest you keep your professional distance. Nothing good will come of this...ever. Trust me.

Any girl who would blow you off over something so trivial as that is not worth your time. At the same time, she owes you no explaination, although one is always appreciated, and you should not waste another second with this girl trying to get one from her. You say you are over it, then be over it and move on. Just let it go man. She's not worth it. And stop trying to be her friend. Stop trying to talk to her. Stop looking for "signs" that means she's forgiven you. She's a just an immature little doofus and you got better things to do. Hopefully.

First of all, I gotta agree with DocZ's post. You can't get a girl because you act like a dork, man! Mature, huh? What kind of mature guy has a footnote that says, "until I get a girlfriend I'm gonna honestly consider killing myself?" What kind of mature guy says that he's in love with some girl and is going to marry her just because she shows him her panties and takes a hit with him? None that I know. Why don't you just try being yourself. Regardless of how fat, ugly, stupid, or whatever, you are, girls only want to be with a guy who is REAL. Not some poser wanna be intellectual.

Man...you are hopeless. Or else you are just making up these posts to sound REALLY pathetic!! First you can't get a girl, so we all give you advice...now you have a girl OPENLY and WANTONLY flirting with you, which you yourself admit is obvious, and you want to know if she is flirting with you and what you should do about it?!?!! I'm going to say this for the last time... if a girl shows interest...she is INTERESTED!! Stop wasting time asking us to shore up your ego and just ask this girl out on a date or something!! Man!!!

Oh Jesus H. C HRIST PEOPLE!! I'm sorry...I forgot the moderators told me to sugar coat my advice! Oops! Sorry SwingFox!! Anyway...y'all got some decent advice, but it's still way off target here. "Have something sweet to give her and something sweet to say?" Okay Willie Wonka!! Why don't you just hand her a Hershey bar with a Golden Ticket in it that says, "Congratulations! You're now my girlfriend!" Have you kissed this girl? What is your definition of going out? Did mommy and daddy drive you or did you drive yourself? You're leaving too much information out for me to really target what you should do. But please...DON'T give this girl DRUGS or ALCOHOL!! Unless you are both over 21 (and I hope you are NOT cuz you sound very immature) giving this girl anything will get you arrested. Here's the best thing I can tell you. First of all...if SHE doesn't call you her boyfriend...you are NOT. You don't get to dictate what your status is..she does. When you grow up in a few years, THEN you get to call the shots. But while you're still in High School, it's a woman's world. Second of all...don't be a loser and ask her, "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" That's just a sad state to be in. Third and finally... just enjoy things the way they are!! What? Do you want to marry her and have babies with her? Are you picking out your tux already? Chill man. Go with it. You don't need a title such as "boyfriend and girlfriend" to be with this girl. Just do couple things and you are a couple. Period. Hope this helps

I'm glad you had the foresight to see that most of those options you were discussing were both weird and desperate! Tracking down a girl's number or showing up at her house are two quick ways to get an Information Card about you filled out by your local Police Department. I'm thinking here...hmmmmmmmmm I'd say the best way to do this would to be a "chance run in." But only try this once. One chance run in is a coincidence...FIFTY is stalking. But now here's a little further advice. In this ONE chance run in, expect it to be quick. You WANT it to be quick. You want to get in, say your hello's and get out. But before you "hi and bye" her, ask her out!!! DUH!! It should go something like this, "Hi *insert name* how are you? Good, blah blah blah blah...well, I gotta get to class (gym, work, yoga, whatever) let me get your number and I'll take you out." Or something to that effect. Just keep it simple stupid. (K.I.S.S.) that's an old military saying. The best plans are quick and simple. Too much time spent on target is a bad thing. You want her to know that you are interested. The best way to do so is to ask her out. If she's not into you, she'll decline. If she says something like, "okay...we'll see." she's blowing you off. If the words, "Sure...what time? When?" Or "Yeah...here's my number. Call me tonight and we'll make plans" don't come out of her mouth, then you aren't going anywhere. So just do it. Just like that. Ask her out. ASK HER OUT!!! Stop fantasing about what it would be like to go on a date with her and FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF. If she declines...well...F uck it. There is more than one girl at your school right? Ask one of them out. Don't waste your time on a girl who has no feelings or time for you. You'll spend your whole college experience CHASING a girl while all your friends are CATCHING THEM. HAPPY HUNTING!!

Okay Bro...first off all...your opening line is the key to your problems...not the fact that you are "chubby." This whole, "I dress like a gansta cuz I am one," is exactly why girls don't want to talk to you. Now, I'm gonna TRY to keep this nice so the moderators don't Private Message me to death, but you have problems which go far beyond your physical appearance. First of all, being a "gansta" ain't cool. And, the fact that you have to tell the world that you are one means that you're NOT. Being a "gansta" as you put it goes far beyond wearing baggy clothes and droppin' a buncha fo-sheesies when you talk. I could go into further, more graphic details of what a REAL gansta is and does, but at the expense of the moderators, I'll spare your feelings and dispense with the advice. Your problem is that you are WAY immature. The fact that you pride yourself on being a gansta probably means you have this tough guy look, walk, talk and all that. All of that is just a bunch of phony BS that you put on to get noticed. Girls don't find that atractive. Try being yourself. You said you've tried changing your wardrobe, so obviously you don't feel comfortable being an O.G. anymore, but try changing your attitude as well. Girls like guys who are confident and manly only if it is REAL. If you gotta fake who you are, you are going to look like a wanna be and no girl wants to be with a geek in 50Cent's clothing. Girls can smell a phony a mile away. Also, girls your age are just hard to understand anyway. They no more know what they want than you do. But, you are shooting yourself in the foot by trying to be something you are not. The chubbiness will go away. I don't know what kinda sports your into regularly, but it doesn't snow year round unless you live in Antartica, so put down the X-Box controller and try getting some excersise outdoors. Most importantly, stop worrying about what everyone thinks about you. Just be yourself and don't try so hard to make everyone like you or want to be your boyfriend. And definitely drop that gansta attitude. You don't come from the streets. You've never put in work, and you'd no more bust a cap in someone's butt than steal a comic book.

Damn bro...I'm feeling you on this one. My girlfriend of almost three years dumped me the day after New Years...over the phone. Three months prior to that, she took away my key to her apartment and told me that she needed time to sort things out. She told me she still loved me, but she was angry with me for something and just wanted time to get over it. She told me she didn't want to break up and that we'd still be together in the end. Then she dumped me. She never gave me a straight answer. Just that I had hurt her and she told herself that she would never let another guy "hurt her." That I can live with. I guess I have no choice. The thing I couldn't live with was the way she treated me for THREE MONTHS prior and the subsequent five months. I was dying in pain and she was going out everynight with "friends" and having the time of her life!! She was totally uneffected by anything. I could ramble, but what I'm trying to get at is that my gf must've never really loved me if she could throw me away so easily. You're gf must've never really loved you either. Maybe this is just how she does relationships...severes all ties and leaves the guy wondering why? And they say that men have no feelings. *beep* THEM I SAY!! I hope you get over this soon. She is not worth all that you are going through...anyone who could do to you what she has is not worth your time, pain or suffering.

Oh my GOD!! Just when I thought I was dealing with a bunch of High School pansies who were too afraid of their own shadows to talk to, let alone have SEX with a girl (in your case TWO girls), someone like you comes along to reaffirm my belief that MEN do exist!! I am so proud of you I could cry!! Lemme tell you WHY you can cheat on this girl you supposedly love. YOU DON'T LOVE HER!! Duh! You are what? Seventeen at best? You don't know the first thing about love. You SHOULDN'T know the first thing about love!! You're TOO YOUNG TO BE IN LOVE!! What you did was completely normal and acceptable to us men. I got a friend who is almost thirty who couldn't pull off what you did!! And having sex with the ex TWICE after you *beep* her best friend!! That was brilliant! Don't let these previous two posters tell you that what you did was wrong. Trust me, as you get older you'll do way worse! That's how you learn. Eventually you'll find a girl and REALLY fall in love and get married and by then you'll be totally faithful to her because you *beep* around and got it all out of your system. I used to be married, and I cheated...A LOT with a LOT of girls. I got divorced (my choice) because I realized that I got married too young and that the desire for other women was still there. Best thing I ever did. Now..enough praise. You are doing ONE thing wrong. DO NOT TAKE THIS CHICK TO PROM!!! You are no longer her boyfriend, you should no longer be her friend. And you *beep* sure as hell shouldn't be paying to take this little broad to prom!! She dumped you, right? Why you gonna pay for her to have the time of her life? Let her go with someone else. Let some OTHER sucker pay her way. You obviously have no trouble getting girls, why limit yourself to just these two? *beep* em...move on bro. Find another girl to take to prom. Get over this "I messed up and I want her back" crybaby crap. The only reason you want her back is because SHE broke up with YOU. If you had dumped her, you could care less if she ever talks to you again. Besides...what you did with her best friend wasn't WRONG...how could it be? That other girl LET you *beeP* HER!! How good of a friend is she if she would sleep with YOU? Not very. Believe me, you have NO loyalty to any of these women...for any reason. You shouldn't feel guilty or sorry for a *beep* THING!!! Just remember playa, use a condom every time or someone will be calling you Daddy very shortly. That, and AIDS is still out there. Be safe and happy hunting!!

Do not attempt in any way to get this guy back what so ever!! Why would you?!? You said yourself that all you two did for the year you lived together was argue! That's not tough love sweetheart!! That's incompatability at it's finest!! Who cares if you talked about marriage or had your non-exsistant daughter's name picked out!! That's retarded! If two people don't get along, they shouldn't be together! Period. I divorced my wife of four years for that same reason. All we ever did was fight! I got tired of always having a fight! I got tired of the yelling and nagging 24/7, so I left. And you know what?!? I feel so much better and happier! Why the hell would I want to be back in that situation!?!? You're just agonizing over this because you were with him for three years and you were comfortable around him, and now that he's gone, you're afraid of having to start all over again with someone else. It's always easier to pick up a bad habit than it is to quit one. And, you have no reason to be this guy's friend. I guarantee that the only reason he is keeping you around is for a booty call when he strikes out at the club. He is keeping you in a false sense of hope cuz he knows that as long as he keeps making it SEEM like there is a chance for you two to get back together he can keep controlling you whenever he wants.

Okay...it's about time I reveal my profession to y'all. Being a police officer in California, I can say with one hundred percent accuracy that every single case of statutory rape was committed by a boyfriend and only reported when the couple BROKE UP!! What am I saying? Hmmmmm...let's do the math shall we? Let's say you start dating this girl with the full support and blessing of the entire family. Then, you decide that you no longer want to be with this girl for whatever reason. Or, more than likely...you'll cheat on her with a girl your OWN age and she'll find out and get really mad at you! So, you dump her, right? Well she goes and tells Daddy what a jerk you are, and he gets all pissed cuz you just broke his babies widdle heart!! So, I get a call from dispatch to go to your house and hook you up for RAPE after her family...who was sooooooooo supportive of this WHOLE thing in the FIRST place...called the cops and wants you arrested. Find a girl your OWN age!! What happens if you strike out with the 16 year olds? You gonna hit up the 15 and then 14 year olds NEXT? Don't say I didn't warn you. See you at the Inmate Recieving Center!!

Man...you got some will power brother! This is why I never dated a virgin! Most guys find it exciting, but I hate it! I want a girl to beg me for sex, not one I got work into it slowly! But, that seems to be what you gotta do in this case. Keep doing what you are doing...going slow. She'll let you in when she is ready and not a minute sooner. That could be tomorrow or next year! But you can't force it or try to talk her into it either... and begging just makes you look pathetic! Go at her pace...once she FINALLY lets you do her...she'll become the fiend you are looking for! She just has to find out for herself how good it feels and you won't be able to stop her man!

I gotta agree with Owlman here. If you came inside her and then two weeks later she had her period, you're fine. Sperm only live inside the uterus for about three days depending on the acidity of the females secretions (sounds like Aliens, huh?). Also, missing taking the pill by two HOURS isn't going to change her body chemistry THAT QUICKLY. And, since she's had one period already, and no other accidents have occurred, you should be fine. I'd go buy a test if you are THAT worried. Get a good one...like EPT or the ones that say "USED BY DOCTORS." Don't go to the 99cents store just to save a buck or two (like you obviously did with those cheap condoms)! That should calm you down. When women are on the pill their cycles are usually pretty set...they come the same time every month...last the same amount of time, etc, etc. When they STOP taking the pill is when stuff starts to become unpredictable...like light vs heavy bleeding, long vs short cycles, etc. I saw it with my ex wife when she stopped taking the pill. If I were you, I'd want to WATCH her take each and every pill!! She might be TRYING to get pregnant by you without your knowledge! Girls do that all the time. Granted, that is all worse case scenario, but stuff I'd want to think about if I were you. YOu can never be too carefull. Everyone thinks it'll never happen to them until it does. Hopefully these aren't new ideas for you!! But if they are...welcome to the nightmare of dating and sex!!

Although I normally don't, this time I have to agree with Gilgamesh. Saying I Love You does not have a time limit. You can never say it too early or too late....only when you REALLY feel it. I've been with girls I have NEVER said it to...girls I've said it to just to get laid...and girls I've said it to because I truly felt it. Don't worry about saying it and not getting a response back...although that does suck!! Most girls feel it RIGHT AWAY and are just DYING for you to say first!! But, something I want to touch on here... Many people confuse love with lust. A lot of people are in LUST for the first few months they are together and they mistake this intense desire for the other person as LOVE. Especially in a relationship that starts with sex. Also, young people in High School and College think they are in love when they are not. They feel something, but it's not love...not yet. Unfortunately, you usually have to be with someone you DON'T love and loose someone you DO before you FINALLY know what love is!! My advice to you on this subject would be to wait a while longer before saying I love you to this girl. You might get to know her better and realize you don't. Or, you might say it too soon...freak her out and get dumped! And, you might get to know her more and realize you love her MORE than you do now! Who knows! But I'd give it a few more months to see if that whole lust thing slows down first. Lust typically lasts only about six months...if you still feel this way toward her THEN, well...it might be love. Just wait and see!!!

Age is no big deal. Whether you are 17 and she is 14, or you are 27 and she is 41 (like my last girlfriend and I). The thing to remember is not maturity, because it's a total BS lie that once you reach a certain age you are more "mature" than someone who is younger. Women do NOT mature faster than boys. It's totally dependant on the individual. I've dated girls my own age who are so immature I had to dump them!! I've also dated girls between the ages of 19 and 23 who were VERY immature! I mostly date OLDER women over 30 because they are mature, have their lives together, and know what they want without having to play all the games that younger women do. I am 27 and everyone says I am way too mature for my age. I credit that with having been in the Marines for four years. But, age is not indicative of maturity. Age does matter in what particular stage this person might be in!! Younger people tend to want to party 24/7! People in their mid twenties are usually deciding that it's time to get serious...find a good job, finish school, whatever. And people above 30 are generally interested in things like marriage, children, buying a house, etc. Then of course you have your sprinkling of EVERYONE who is all over the board and can't decide WHAT they want or at what age they want it!! Anyway...as far as taking this young thang to prom. Remember, she is only 14. I have a 14 year old neice!! And she's all kinds of screwed up in the head right now!! She doesn't know if she's coming or going or which direction!! At 14, most girls are simply NOT ready for any kind of physical relationship outside of the occasional kissing. Except hispanic girls!! Whoo-eee...those little mommas are ready for the husband, 2.5 kids and all the trimmings!! STAY AWAY FROM THEM UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE CALLED DADDY!! Now, you CLAIM that your designs for this girl are purely innocent...to which I resoundly say... I DONT THINK SO!!! You know what you want from her! You know you want to get this young lady and try to talk her into making love to you! But she is not ready! And talking a girl into giving it up before she's ready has so many psychological impacts on her future developement you can't possibly imagine!! Just wait until you are MY age and you are with the same girls that were talked into making love on prom night!! Man...it seems that every girl I've been with was either raped, molested, or lost her virginity too young!! They really get screwed in the head! Now, you're just thinking with your little head, but keep in mind that EVERY girl out there thinks that she is going to marry the man she looses her precious virginity too and when they DON'T, they make EVERY man after him pay for it in spades!!! Okay...I'm going off topic here...Just giving you something to think about. But, age makes no difference. The only thing age determines is where this person is emotionally, physically and financially. And you have to remember where this girl is right now...she's still a baby. She is not even done finding herself right now. You can take her to prom if your plans ARE innocent, but don't try to make love to her or talk her into that. It'll destroy her for many years to come!!

Bottom line...if YOU are unhappy in your current situation, only YOU can change it. Your husband will not change...your kids will not change...only YOU can decide that it's time for you to end this and do what you know will make you happy. You only get one life...don't spend it with someone who doesn't make you see fireworks every time you are with him. I just divorced my wife after only four years of marriage, but seven years together total. I was miserable in our marriage...cheated constantly...and couldn't stand to be in the same room she was in. I couldn't make myself have sex with her, and had trouble saying anything even remotely nice to her. I finally realized that I treated her this way because I was unhappy in my marriage. I didn't want to BE married...to anyone...and I was taking it out on her. When I told her I wanted a divorce, she cried and begged me to not to leave her, but I forced myself to go through with it because I knew that as long as I was unhappy, I would continue to take it out on her and that it wouldn't be fair to her. We've been separated for four months while the divorce is processing. It's been hard. I've been lonely...she's been lonely...I've even considered getting back together with her because of my loneliness, but I know if I do, it will start again. I'll get that feeling back and it'll start all over...I'll be miserable all over again. So, do what makes you happy. Granted, it'll suck at first...and you'll feel like you made a horrible mistake, but in time you'll realize that it's for the best....for him as well as yourself

First of all, since you are obviously still in High School, you shouldn't be looking for the "ONE" until you out of college, with a 50K a year job and a condo. Anyway, your ex may have been a great guy, and you may have gotten along great, but he wasn't the "ONE." You'll never find the "ONE" if you are constantly trying to make every guy you go out with fit your idea of the "ONE" either. Take me for example...I know what things I like and don't like. I know how I want to be treated and what I won't tolerate from women. I know what kind of habits women have that I don't like, or if she's a yeller or a fighter or smoker or a druggy...etc...etc...etc. And, to save myself from ending up wasting my time on a girl who has one or more of these red flag qualities, when I spot behavior I don't like, or a horrible kisser...I just tell her it's not working and then I continue dating so that I can find a girl who is right for ME!! I don't care if she thinks I'm right for HER. MY happiness comes first...always. And I'm very happy with the way things go for me thank you! DATE A BUNCH OF PEOPLE SO YOU CAN FIND OUT WHAT YOU LIKE AND DON'T LIKE.... It doesn't make you a whore to date. It makes you a whore to go out and *beep* 100 guys before your 18th birthday!! Dating doesn't always mean making love either. But, if you WANT to have sex...DO IT!! It still doesn't make you a whore! All you young girls are setting yourselves up for is YEARS of torture if you are constantly on the "hunt" for the "one." Be young...have fun...drinking responsibly...use condoms...and stop putting so much *beep* pressure on us guys by always thinking that we have to get married to you just because we are dating!! Quick tip on that...the more you pressure us...the faster we will dump you! And PLEASE...go ahead...give us an ultimatum while your at it!! You'll find yourself sitting on the curb faster than you can speed dial your girlfriend to tell her to bring some kleenex and some rocky road over for your "just got dumped cry-a-thon!" Stop looking for the "one." You'll find him eventually. And stop looking for the "one" until you are at least 25. Guys aren't the only ones who want to go out and have fun...I know a bunch of 21, 22, 23 and even a 19 year old, who have been with their HUSBANDS since High School...had a kid or two, and now that they are a little older....all they want to DO is go out and have all the fun that they robbed themselves of by marrying their "one."

Dang girl...not only did you *beep* up, but you committed the NUMBER ONE *beep* up of all time by calling his girlfriend!! What were you thinking?!? You had to have known that his girl wouldn't believe you, or else he could give her the "jealous, psycho ex-girlfriend" excuse and be completely off the hook!!! What? Did you expect to "ruin" their relationship so that he would FINALLY see how much you two belong together? WAKE UP!! IT'S OVER!! And, since you've committed the ultimate "other woman" sin by calling his gf and dropping dimes on him, you're just done. Put a fork in you cuz you are done baby!! A word is coming to mind here...hmmmm...let's see...could it be? Yup....it's...it's....DUH!!!!! You know what? Move back home. Save what's left of your dignity and just go home. Oh..yeah..the other part...SECOND CHANCE? You've got more of a chance of being hit by lighting or winning the lottery than you do of getting back together with him NOW!! And, why would you want to? He's dumped you...twice!!

Why are you jealous of the way your girl dresses? Aren't you with her because she is fine? You didn't have a problem with the way she dressed to catch YOU, now did you? You're not jealous...you are insecure... You can't help it if she cheats...she'll do it anyway...regardless of how she dresses...so why drive yourself crazy over it? If you trust her fine...if not...fine too. She'll do what she wants when she wants and you have no say in it. If you try to put her in check...guess what? She's gonna *beep* the first guy she meets and tell you all the XXX details just to prove my point!! Why do that to yourself? Just get over it.

Hey MrsE4, Let me tell you... I agree with you one hundred percent!! Men and women who are married, or in a serious relationship SHOULD NOT...let me repeat that for dramatic effects...SHOULD NOT...have opposite sex friendships! Period. It is not an issue of trusting them, it is all about that fact that you CAN'T trust the OTHER person! You don't know what his "best girl who is a friend" has on her mind. She could be working on him everyday, dropping hints and flirting, or just plain out coming out and telling him what she has on her mind!! And, if he ever talks to her about YOUR problems and flaws, I guarantee she is using that to her advantage...telling him what a Bi tch you are and that she would never treat him as horribly as you do, etc etc. If she is wanting your man...she'll get him...it'll just take time...and once she does...she'll let YOU know...so that you both can dump him!! Great friend, huh? Maybe that's a worse case scenario, but not usually...that's usually a pretty typical scenario!! Every girl I'm with, I 86 all her male friends and I stop talking to any that I have...usally that's zero to begin with, cuz the only girl I'm gonna be talking to are the ones I'm having sex with, which stops once I meet a girl I'm serious about... If she refuses to stop talking to her guy friends, I let them have her back and I go somewhere else. I've been burned by this before. My ex FIANCE, was always talking about "Fred." He is such a nice guy, they go to lunch everyday, blah blah blah blah. They worked together, so he spent more time with her than I did. Eventually, I got so tired of hearing her talk about Fred that I told to stop hanging out with him because it makes me uncomfortable because I know what Fred is up to even if she is to blind to see it. She agrees... So, THEN I start hearing about her new "friend" "Barbara" They are suddenly going to lunch everyday because she knows I don't like Fred. All is fine right? WRONG!!! She dumps me a few months later...just like that...no real explaination, no remorse...just BOOM!! So, I do some detective work of my own. I call up a friend of mine who works with her that she thinks I don't talk to anymore and what do you think I discover?!?! Yup..."Barbara" is Fred...Fred is Barbara...and, according to office rumor, she dumped me for him cuz he is such a great guy and good whatever...So, she lied to me all along...told me not to worry...she loves me...I can trust her...blah blah blah. Bottom line baby...no friends of the opposite sex. You need to tell your man that it makes you uncomfortable and that although you completely trust HIM, it's these other girls you are afraid of. If he doesn't...give him a choice....you are them. If he loves you...he'll choose you and not bat an eye. If he gives you some BS excuse why he can't...I'd hire a Private Detective and find out exactly WHERE he is when he's "at lunch with Bob."