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thats so funny, i am the same way but it never occurred to me that other guys have the same problem. glad to see im not alone.
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ideas for weekend fun with friends on a Saturday during fall
nuts replied to sfboi415's topic in Friendship and Friends
some of my best times have been the spontaneous moments doing "kid stuff". a short while ago myself and a good friend of mine sat around the house bored when we decided to go rollerblading! we then moved on to getting push scooters from the garage and attacked them... riding around the supermarket... okay maybe i shouldnt advise that part! we spent the rest of the day on the swings at the park. if you dont feel like too much of a fool i would advise little things like this. you'd be surprised as to how much enjoyment you can get out of such small, silly things! and yes, zorbing is a must-do! -
sometimes people can try and play hard to get and it goes awry? perhaps she wanted to make you jealous and watch for a reaction. you know how women like to test us (j/k) if you can pluck up the courage ask her out! at least that way you'll know one way or another! lol
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hi beachieca dont worry about the way you feel, its completely normal and you are most certainly NOT the first to go through it! its natural to "want someone for yourself" when you feel about them the way you do. you should understand however that just because a guy is on good terms with a girl it doesnt necessarily mean that there is anything more there. i have many female friends and when ive had girlfriends in the past i make sure that the fist thing they understand is that i have these friends, and thats what they are, friends, and nothing more. (wow too many commas there) the fact that you can so easily say that he would never cheat on you or lie to you should make you feel more secure about it. try and push the "possibility" out of your head. if it hasnt ocurred in the year youve been with him, why should it now? its clear that this guy is nothing like the last so take confidence in that its not merely a repeat of the last relationship. i hope i was of some help. take care.
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why thank you, lol. but seriously, i totally agree with those saying that there's no need to catergorize yourself. if you are emotionally attracted to a girl... go with it. if the situation presents itself,you never know, you might just find that you then become sexually attracted to them as well. and if physically you like guys, then physically go for guys. sex is natural. if you so choose, sex does not necessarily mean you must form a relationship out of it. its possible the opposite to the girls situation could happen: after sex you might develop an emotional attachment. whatever you decide, dont try and box yourself. be who you are and the rest will follow. as for the posters dismissing homosexuality as "wrong"... okay thats your opinion, good for you. i just hope for your sake that your closemindedness of this topic does not extend to other aspects of life as you will find yourself with difficulties soon enough. not to mention, this site was developed for those in need of guidance, answers or just a little suport. your posts did none of those, in fact quite the opposite. if this is your attitude towards people here, this is not the place for you.
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just wondering... if you dont want to die, and im assuming not pass out either, what makes you want to cut? im guessing by your signature that its something to do with your interest in blood?
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i have to say i think a few of the posters are taking the issue a little too seriously... a red-blooded man likes porn. its not rare and not something you should work yourself up over too much. clearly, if its an issue with you, talk it over, tell him it makes you uncomfortable. but dont jump him on it, it'll only make him feel awkward. maybe he hides it because he's embarrassed? dont forget that what may be rediculous to you may mean nothing to him, in which case try not to make a big issue out of it. either way, if its enough to bother you its worth talking to him. you might find his answer puts you at ease.
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i wondered the same myself. i knew that i liked girls and that i must like guys as well. all the symptoms you described were there! recently i had my first kinda sexual experience with a guy. not a whole lot but something. i didnt really like it at the time yet i still find myself attracted to guys. a lot! i think it was just the wrong guy... not to mention a shock. its something pretty unfamiliar, contrary to what we're raised with. your feelings are clear. dont try and jump in the deep end (like i did, regretably). dont imagine eating out and all that, think of kissing. holding another girl. how does that make you feel? if you feel comfortable with that (or even better, horny! then consider yourself into girls as well! maybe down under isnt your thing? straight, gay, bi, whatever... we all have our limits with sex!
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god its like you're in my head! i think the exact same thing. for a long time now i have slowly come to the realisation that i am very into guys. yet i cant deny the part of me that still likes girls. i used to think that bisexuality was for people who were confused or denying their homosexuality. now i know... its more complicated than that. its because of this that i find myself asking the same questions as you. i dont want to convince myself that i could swing both ways and then when i actually start a relationship with a guy... cant bring myself to do it. so i asked myself something. ive never been in love before, but i know i *could* fall in love with a girl. i asked myself if i could fall in love with a guy... just thinking about it was a big overwhelming yes. i suggest you ask yourself the same. think about a few years down the road. when you see yourself in someones arms - whos is it?
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hahaha i'll keep my fingers crossed for ya
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im one step closer! i spoke to my friend tonight. about a lot of stuff really... but we got a lot of things clear between us, and how we want nothing but honesty between us in the future. i think she knows im kind of hiding something from her. she says we are going to finish the conversation tomorrow. finally - the idea of telling her that i am bisexual isnt a sick-to-your-stomach feeling anymore. it feels like it will be liberating! even if i share this crucial part of myself with only one person... its a hell of a weight off my shoulders. wish me luck!
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christian. episcopalian to be exact. but in all honesty i cant tell the difference between all the lower denominations myself...
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this has always been a difficult topic for me. speaking as a christian, i have grown up learning that homosexuality is wrong in the eyes of the church. well i certainly dont want to piss off god, let alone go to hell! but i refuse to compromise who i am. i cant live a lie so i guess i have to face my faith. coming out would be a little easier if it wasnt such an issue with religion. just wondering... has anyone else had this struggle as well? it would be good to hear how you have dealt with it. thanks.
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well thanks for the help. i cant say ive done anything to work on the situation so far... but just being here talking about it has made a surprising change in me already. im a little happier now that i can accept myself for who i am. any other words of support or advice would be much appreciated.
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My boyfriend hangs out with gay men plase heelp
nuts replied to babe1914's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
well said. however if this dude is gay and lying to you, you will be the one getting hurt. so good luck, im sure it wont be easy. but just to get things straight (no pun intended, honest), do you love him? -
hi ryan. the fact that uni is not too far from home might tempt you into allowing home to become a crutch for you - dont let it! the more you let yourself go back, the more and more difficult it will be to leave it. not just at uni, but in life. i would advise you busy yourself as the others have said. i think that going home every so often wont let you move on. try and find the root of the problem. why this year, why now? if you were fine before, you can be fine again.
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hey dau if you're out there and reading this... drop us a post. hope everything is okay.
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yeah ive definitely been there before. luckily when i first turned 18 i was the first out of all my friends so i got to hang out with a lot of my older, more mature friends who were out for a good night like i was. then i started going out with the people my age and it got a little frustrating at times, for the same reasons as you. i decided in the end that i had 2 choices: i could either deal with them and their idea of a good night out and try and enojoy myself, or just not go out with them anymore. after a while i started going out more with the people who wouldnt just p*ss off at any old time. maybe you should look at goin out with other people? is that an option for you? as for talkin to girls, you're not the only one in that position. if you feel confident enough to talk to a stranger, walk up to the girl who looks like she mite be in your position. that way you have common ground to spark a convo. if you dont really feel confident enough to do that then try inviting a friend along with you, preferably someone who doesnt know the others. that way you dont need to feel left out of anything as you will have someone there who you know wants to be there with you. hope i could be of some help.
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sometimes i comment to my mom on what i want to do for a job when i come out of university. she tells me that its not the best paying and that knowing me (because i come from a somewhat "privilaged" family) it better be well-payed in order for me to be happy. in her eyes it wouldnt allow be to be what she would define as successful. to me, success is not the money you are making, maybe not even necessarily what you have or havent achieved in life. success is pure, untainted happiness. if i die a truly happy man then i would have been more of a success than i could have asked for.
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well it sounds to me like you have the potential to be happy in your skin, just for some reason you lack the confidence to do just that. like many others have said, i can totally see myself when i read about your problem. i agree that your job seems to be part of the reason you are down.. take pride in the fact that you are makin the decision to do what makes you happy, ie going back to school, etc. one thing you may wish to try is something i try and do (andbelieve me its easier said than done!). stop lookin to others for validation, it'll only make your situation worse. this way you can take things one step at a time. you need to realiseyou do not need the approval of others in order to be happy - example, the commens made about your body, the girl you dated. you may find yourself fishing for compliments to feel better. youre only inviting more opportunities for letdown (because although the comment might not be negative, it may not be what you want to hear) so i would avoid it altogether. once you are able to forget about other people, you can then work on yourself and your own self-worth. do what you feel you should to make yourself happy. your plans for the future sound like a very good start. best of luck to you.
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well ive spoken to her lately. she has just started a new job and has moved back to her university area. i can understand things are hectic for her at the mo and thats fair enough. she said that she does miss me tho and wishes we could have seen each other more before we boths head off in separate ends of the country. we're going to meet up soon and try and spend some time together, catch each other up on everything weve missed. i agree that i should probably give her her space to live her life and at the same time get on with my own, but im glad i wasnt so proud as to not work on saving a great friendship. thanks to everyone for the suggestions.
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i really like your point swift44. its hopeful, gives us reason to keep goin. kinda like a "light at the end of the tunnel" sorta thing. like theres purpose for it all.
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Suicide is something a lot of people have wanted to do, attempted to do and in some cases, succeeded at. i know this because i've read a lot of people's posts and can sympathise. its something i think about a lot. i kinda go thru phases where sometimes i dont think of it at all, and sometimes its so consuming that it nearly drives me to attempt... but i never do. so why is it that so many of us feel like there's no escape, like death is the only answer, and yet we remain alive and kicking? i dont quite understand it myself. i think maybe for me, its about knowing that id be cheating myself. i feel like its a coward's way out and that i should just work to make things better. sometimes im not so optimistic... the whole of idea of it does scare me tho. i guess what im trying to say is that for all my big talk (in my head) about wanting to end my life, something is always stopping me. that is the case for (i think) the majority of us. what about other people? why, for all our want, do we not just do it? ***please PLEASE dont anybody reading this think that i am enouraging anyone to go and end their life. im simply interested as to why we do this to ourselves.
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okay ive wanted to get my tragus pierced for a little while now. i can only describe it as the random bit of cartilage on the other side of your earhole,, straight out of the head itself. if you dont know what it is then type it into google, something is bound to come up. im a guy and ive seen it in pictures on both men and women. most of them are total pierce fanatics (which im so not) so it sorta blends in to their image. me on the other hand, its pretty noticeable but in a good way, i like it. im just concerned that if i get it done it might look a little girly. i dont want that! what do you guys think? girly or not so much?
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dude your only 14 so i wouldnt worry about it too much. the good news tho is that a guy can orgasm every time he comes. its just a given you have to get to know your own body and what does it for you before you can expect to get anything out of it. start by getting material: an image in your own head, magazine, video, whatever. id reccomend starting in a sitting position comfortably. grab yourself with your whole hand (whichever you write with) and start rubbing, pushing on yourself over your clothes. keep it goin so you get hard. pick up the pace for a while and then move your hand inside and wrap your hand around it. gently squeeze and keep your hand moving in an up/down motion. the next part may take a while, or it may happen soon, depending on you. take off/pull down your bottom layers of clothing. keep the motion goin and quicken the pace. keep a firm grip and work it a little harder, a little faster. do it as hard or gentle as your comfortable with, whatever feels best for you. when youre ready (and youll know when youre ready) dont stop the action and relieve yourself. some keep goin as they come, some just let it happen. experiment with it. good luck. let us know how it went!