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thanks a lot of all these replies, i am taking everyones opinion to heart.

i greatly appreciate all the feedback this has gotten, i should explain that i hope no one has gotten offended, i am not suggesting that "big bad gay guys are stealing innocent girls's boyfriends" i didnt question introducing him to the gay guys i work with, i have even become friends with his gay friends its just that his relationship with his gay friends is different then with his straight guy friends; they chat on the phone like girls chat on the phone, and they will go out to dinner after work together and sit and chat. the reason this has brought up questioning, is because with his straight friends the relationship is very "to the point" they call to find out "when and where" but with jim, its "so how are you, what did you do today, i havent seen you in forever" but my question is when does a relationship with a gay guy become too personal? is it wrong for him to call Jim before his girlfriend whenever something exciting happens in his life? and is it wrong whenever "Jim" calls my boyfriend, he will secretly try and turn the volume down on his cell phone without me noticing and he does get very defensive whenever i ask him if he is "curious". i do not shove gay porn infront of him and demand he come out of the closet. i just notice a bunch of little details that i feel add up to a big detail.

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, (engaged for almost a year) and everything has been perfect up until about 6 months ago when i started questioning his sexuality. the reason for this is because he started working at this place part time where his manager is a gay man. that is fine and dandy, except for the fact that they spend what seems to me, as too much time together outside of work. whenever i will take him shopping and he finds a shirt on sale, he will call his gay friend and brag about his find, and call him for other stupid stuff as well. he used to come visit me at work, but until recently he makes plans after work to go wave running and shopping with his new "friend" and now that my boyfriend and i are back in school for the fall, he has invited him to our house for the weekend, to hang out and get drunk. This seems very weird for me, but i REALLY started to question his sexuality when he did come into my restaraunt where i work and brought a different friend in...another gay guy! he says he simply works with these guys and they are nice when i confront him about if he is gay or bisexual, and then he gets really offended and states that he is NEVER HANGING OUT WITH THEM AGAIN. yet he still does. is my boyfriend just very friendly or is he too ashamed to admit something? i need some one elses unbiased opinion, i feel i am making too many accusations...but we are engaged and i would hate for 10 years down the road after 2 kids, to find out that he is gay.