aug104evr
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Thanks everyone for all the advice. I really want to tell my son the older one because he always feels hurt when left out of family issues. When he caught me & my ex in an awkward position ( used by animals ) I said we were naked wrestling. When he was about 7 I gave him a book on sex for his age range. The only thing he had to say was, " You lied about the naked wrestling". He was upset that I hadn't told him the truth. But he was only 4 at the time and I was caught off guard. I am going to tell them but I really need to talk to the ex. He's a scorpio & polish ( no offense to polish people). I don't think this will go over very well w/ him but his 1st cousin was gay and died of AIDS. The kids knew that Harry had a disease & we still showed the kids not to be afraid of him. I am going to need all the ammuntion I can get to support me. I am going to read as many books as I can get my hands on both for me & the ex. I let you know how it goes
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Hi everyone! I haven't been around in awhile b/c I've been working on getting things together. I think I'm almost at the point where I can tell the kids that Jo is my girlfriend. I just got back from the parent/teacher conference and they are doing great in school. Of course my soon to be ex whom they don't live with took all the credit for that!! I have been trying to get our home life together for 4 months now that I've quit my job. 2 people working 6 to 7 days a week you can imagine how bad things got. But now I'm getting things under control and have been thinking about telling Jr 11 1/2 who is so smart it scares me. Smart but still of course naive. Jo and I do share a bed but they have never seen us kiss or anything. And Marie is 7 and starting to ask sex questions. I don't want to scar them or screw them up but I feel it should come from me. They adore Jo and their dad knows about us and they are ok with each other. But I think Jeff will give me a hard time about telling them. I want to have a good christmas this year but I am so tired of having to watch my back when I give Jo a kiss. I'm not talking about making out in front of them but smooches here and there. I would definitaly look into counseling for them. Any advice from someone who's been the parent or the child or the girlfriend would be appreciated.
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Not in love any more. Feels like just friends?
aug104evr replied to allein's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
Why do people have to be so mean? Especially to people they once loved? So you fell out of love, does that mean you get to stomp all over them and treat them like caca? I think when you go see your cats you should mess with her now. Go tanning or put on some fake tan, buy a new outfit, get a new hair do. Let her know your moving on and let it seem that breaking up was the best thing she could have done for YOU!! And then don't stop there. (I'm on a roll here!) Be all secretive about everything. Don't mention anything but the basics. My house will be done whenever. How are the cats? Sound all bubbly too. Make her think about you as the woman she fell in love with and let her remember how badly she treated you in the end. Let her know you'll be just fine without maybe even better. GL -
Really confused, please respond
aug104evr replied to meeko132's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
The one thing about being with the same sex is not about us but about everyone else. People say it's a choice to be gay but why would one chose to be disowned, stared at, mocked, made fun of, scare people, lose out on hetro rights and privliges and all that other stuff. I am divorced with 2 wonderful children. Do I want to tell them Mommy is with another woman? NO! Do I want to tell my father that I am with a woman? NO! But do I want to go on the rest of my life, the one life God gave me, on what everyone else wants? NO!! So be happy you've found love because some people never find it. Deal with everything else one day at a time. And when everything seems to be too much, lose yourself in your love. Good Luck -
Is your boyfriend a real boyfriend or just your savior from her? You might not be able to forget about HER because you miss being with a woman. Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him about your feelings. Tell him you should take time to recover from her on your own. Then decide if you want to get back together with him. You are not going to be happy until you find what's right for you. That's obviously not her but you need space to figure out what you do want. Good luck
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Well one thing for sure you don't want to hurt your friendship by using her as a lab rat. If you kiss her and it doesn't do anything for you then what? You need to tell her "Hey I might be into but I don't know. I'd like to kiss you and go from there". But you need to ask what the consequences will be if she liked it and you didn't. When I fell in love with my girlfriend, she was also my good friend and co-worker. We were drunk and I knew then I wanted to kiss her. She's gay and I was but didn't know it. But instead of having a drunkin episode, I went up to her and told her. I said don't freak out and you have to promise me you won't act weird tomorrow. I made her pinky swear!! The next day she acted normal but I told her I wanted that kiss to go farther and we've been together 2 years. A best friend is okay to experiment with as long as they know what's going on. Good Luck
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HELLO!!! Isn't anyone catching on to what she said? Ok so he's into chunky, that's one thing but the tanning thing says "I'm a control freak"!! He doesn't want you to be healthy and feel proud of yourself but on the other hand he doesn't communicate well or express emotions, which means your not getting compliments from him. Your family doesn't like him and his doesn't know about you. RUN!! Run until you lose all the weight you want!! My girlfriend is over weight and I think she looks beautiful the way she is. But if she wanted to lose weight and tan or get implants or whatever, that's up to her. I love the person on the inside. And congrats on losing the weight!!
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is my coworker flirting with me??
aug104evr replied to JustAHuman's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
Just ask if she wants to go out for drinks after work on a Friday. After a few drinks start talking about being single. Don't mention guys, just generalize. Say how it's nice to go out and blah blah. I think she'll take the moment to say if she's single and if's she's into guys. If she was really rude before I don't think she'll have a problem saying she's gay. Then that's your cue to tell her that your into to her too. Good luck and let us know how it goes. -
Don't worry, I started turning myself on writing it and thinking about doing that! My girlfriend is 15 years older and the two main relationships she had before lasted about 5 years each but they were BORING!! She's 44 (42 when we got together). I knew that certain aspects of our relationship would be hard, so I wanted to make sure that the intimate parts were out of this world. I kind of thought about what I had wanted out of my ex-husband but didn't get and went from there. That is the one very cool thing about being with a woman. You wouldn't know it now but I was nervous about being with her sexually. I really wanted to please her. No that's not right, I really wanted to make her see stars!
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Don't forget foreplay. You can shower together, and then do it on the bathroom floor or anywhere in the house. You can give her a massage and then lick all the way up her back and breathe on her neck and go from there. Sex is always better if the build up is out of control. And then you can also just come out and ask if there's anything she'd like to do or try. I am in my first relationship with a woman and did just that. I told her "Hey I'm new at this and your not I'm so open for suggestions". I think your girl will love you even more if your honest. Have fun
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Have you talked on the phone? I would act like her boyfriend. Just go up to her, give her a shy sexy smile and grab her hand. That way if you do the smile thing she'll know your nervous too but really want to be with her. Girls appreciate it when a guy lets her know how he's feeling. Trust me she has probably been on the phone with her friends asking the same questions you are. Just be yourself and enjoy your new relationship.
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First of all I don't recommend your first time with another woman being in a threesome. I would be alone with her and just do to her what you want done to yourself. You really can't go wrong that way. It doesn't matter that you inexperienced because so is she. Just learn together and be yourself. To start the night out go to dinner. Make it like a real date and then go from there. Have fun!!!
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If you don't send the letter you will regret it. Right now you are saying "hey I was wrong I'm sorry". If you just leave things the way they are you saying "Hey I'm still the jerk I was". So either face rejection and know that you tried, or be the jerk and don't try. On the upside of rejection you'll at least be at ease knowing that you admitted you were wrong. Good Luck
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I agree with DN. If your too nice she will get it in her head she still has you and then will start coming around again. A polite smile, hi how are you but kind of keep walking. Kind of like I'm just being polite and don't really care. But be careful, she might take that as a challenge and try to pull you back in. Good luck
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Well from reading your post I can tell you that she does love you. BUT she's not in love with you. Your her security for when things don't work out the way she wants them to she can come back to you. The more you put her off when things are going her way, the more she will try to contact you. That is unless she is too mad to swallow her pride. When she called your friend and he told her she's was playing games with you. That really did her in. Because of GUILT. Then she does the reversal game and blames you. I think you should just move on. Why waste your life and get hurt waiting for her to grow up. And since the first time you took her back she hasn't taking you seriously. Your a nice guy but you don't want to become a door mat. She'll walk all over you