Napoleon Bonaparte

Always you like him a lot because besides the chemistry, besides the attraction he is 1. a challenge 2. seemingly unattainable A good or impossible challenge is the one greatest aphordisiac (however you spell it) alive. He might be playing hard to get. He might like the fact that he knows your panties get wet everytime he speaks to you. Either way you are allowing him waaaaaaaaay to much power. Do half the work and if he ain't gonna reciprocate than try someone else.

Turb have you ever had romantic feelings for him at all?

ms He might have a crush on you or he might have been interested and figured you didn't want to take your clothes off around him cuz you saw him as just a friend. Your best bet is to e mail him and tell him what you are telling us. what you will NOT do is have sex with him in a ambigious friendship without a commitment since feelings are already there unless you wanna get hurt

Sara if you dress like your avatar, walk like that, smile like that and carry yourself and your hair like that you will be getting men like maggots on poop.

Dude it's only been a month. People go years without talking and end up together. And it is unlikely he met the girl of his dreams in that amount of time even if he is dating somebody

Sara I see you dyed your hair dark and got a tan. That's a good step in the right direction.

Sara don't worry about it. Looking at your blonde pic you are HOT. Oh crap that's a cartoon I have been wanking too.

Ocean the question you should consider first is if you would be comfortable doing it. It's not for everybody obviously. If you are going to try it with your bf try some of the (women friendly) porn. And not all of it is particularly degrading (stay away from Hustler though)

dude it is obvious because you are with him and not their dad that is why they don't like him. An age gap like that esp when you are 43 is hardly significant.

A smile, friendliness, good hygiene and eye contact are the only universals. Before I answer anything more though what kind of guy are you looking to attract?

Cec oh god I just looked at what I wrote. I was looking at the dukes of hazard movie before i wrote that.

comp happened? I would like everybody to tell me their stories. I think there is definitely an obvious pattern here.

Questions: A) Too the emotionally unavailable (or formerly emotionally unavailable) Anybody ever broken up with somebody or avoided dating somebody that you strongly connected with emotionally because you were afraid of rejection? B) Second Question: How many of you have remained friends with somebody after you broke up with them or they broke up with you? Did it cause any tension/problems?

Why did you break up with him in the first place?

Shy, Love, how long you known your potential partner/closefriend? How long since you've felt feelings for them? Have either of you been intimate with them? Are either of them interested or dating anybody else? (and none of thise info will be used against your P.O.V in debates if you are somebody I frequently disagree with. This info is for my own theorizing.)

It happens. People break up and get back together all the time as you can see on this board. People also become just friends and then get back together. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Elizabeth Taylor was married to Richard Burton twice. Ahhh hummmm. Ted Bundy the charismatic serial killer got dumped, waited a year to get over her, wooed her back, she fell in love with em, then he dumped her at the altar in revenge. (Stranger Beside Me, Ann Rule) My mom and step dad broke up maybe a good ten times over the course of twelve years dating before they married. Usually one person ends up resenting the other too much though when it ends really badly. Sometimes if you know how to make the right play you can get em back and by showing you've changed morally or become more confident. Most of the comedies you mentioned are highly unlikely hollywood BS. The most realistic & common romantic comedies in real life are Love & Sex and Swingers.

well there is shock that can also cause emptiness too. usually the opposite of love is indifference. but of course he could also repulse you because of what he symbolizes more than anything. interesting. either way i really feel bad about what you are going through.

native i agree you should go after her. I am not trying to dampen your optimism. I know you will truly appreciate her and this serendipitous opportunity. i just don't want to see you running off a cliff with your arms outstretched because it seems you have very high expectations before the relationship has really even began. basically my advice can be summed up as this; "great to hear but becareful dude."

shadow is he bipolar? If he changed into a wonderfulman again would you love him again and want to be back with him? Obtuse question but fantacize for just a moment. does he ever still show you love at all?

native you are rushing into this already declaring she is your soul mate (oh how i detest whoever the person was that invented that word). You have only just started the beginnings of a relationship with her and I hear you reminiscing over the sweet lofty ideals of young childrens fantasies. As pleasant as your story sounds it also makes me think you both are building up unrealistic expectations. Becareful. I am not suggesting proceeding with pessimism. Anything but. But do not start boasting she is your soul mate and that this is a wonderful feel good Kasey kasem romance story come true until you both have been deeply involved with each other for a while. Both of you have probably acquired baggage since you were kids and might be investing too much right away based on childhood fantasies/fairytales of each other and what this relationship will blossom into in order to retalliate and validate all the failed relationships/pain you've both experienced since you lost each other. That being said i hope it works out for you wonderfully.

shadow after reading your other post i must say without hearing his pov man that sucks. it sound's like he prefers men. has he tried at all to woo you back and change or is he just attacking? he sound's from your posts like a horrible man.

xplay oh christ. You are having a baby at fifteen???? Who is the dad and what'z he saying?

Brit honestly at sixteen your relationship with in all probability end in either boredom or cheating anyway because both of you are really young. How long have either of them known each other? Is there a sexual history? Does she ever give signs that she wants him sexually while you are around? Do either of them flirt?

bt those guys were not good friends to begin with. A very close friend is just as important as a gf, wife, kids etc. They are a part of you. If the wife got jealous because she was that paranoid then they were real coochies for not settling that before the marriage.

1. If a man wants you, nothing can make him keep away. If he doesn't...then nothing, can make him stay! Yeah but you can do things to make yourself more seductive as long as you aren't too involved. You need to watch the wedding crashers. 2.Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Sometimes you are in the wrong. that's all there is to it. 3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. dude, right on. 4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. What if you are changing something that really is destructive or bad about yourself and your relationships with others? 5. Slower is better. unless you are a quadropolegic running special olympics. 6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. k. 7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. true. 8. Never 'settle' for any relationship, just because... hail mary. might as well have friends with benifits in that case. 9.If you feel like he is 'stringing' you along, then he probably is. true. 10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things still didn't get any better. Oh geeze. everybody goes through tough times in any relationship. You are unneccesarily harsh. 11.The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Unless you got a nice pair of handcuffs and the key or someone without self-esteem. 12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? What if they all died or he's a mormon, or he's changed or he was just marking his territory before he found his real love or somethin'? 13. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. please. Or at least go play in traffic or somethin' if you are gonna be that clingy. 14. Maintain 'boundaries' in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you speak up. amen sister. 15. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. dude if that were true there would be at least one cryin' bi777 out there. but some of us can sometimes keep our mouths shut and just let go. 16. You cannot change a man's behavior. 'Change' comes from within. i agree although i tend to frenzy over good sex, harry's burritos and raw chicken so i can be bribed to change, at least temporairly. 17. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. true. as paris hilton and most hip hop stars prove, anybody can get a good job these days. and education is overrated. i've read over a thousand books now and the only thing i've gained from it is a pair of glasses and knowledge that i still don't know what the &&&& is goin' on. 18. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. c'mon, your no fun. dude what if he has a toga hercules/zena fetish? 19. Never let a man define who you are. i take it your not into bondage. 20. Never 'borrow' someone else's man. k. 21. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. k, mostly true. the exceptions are very rare. 22. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. damn straight. 23. ALL men are NOT dogs. i agree. i am more like a rabid dingo with foam coming out of my mouth, esp when i am hungry since i don't know how to cook. 24. You should not be the one doing all the bending.. compromise is a 2 way street. i agree except when i am giving it to her from behind. 25.You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. damn skippy. 26. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. k i agree. 27. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. unless you get dumped, cheated on or stalked by somebody of ambiguous gender. 28. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know 'where you are', and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. this works both ways. true, very true. 29. Never move into his mother's house. what if mom is terminally ill and he is otherwise perfect for you? He remember elvis. 30. Never co-sign for a man. unless you are engaged and living together who'd be silly enough to do this? opps i forgot there are fools out there. 31. Don't fully 'commit' to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. k i agree