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  1. Napoleon Bonaparte
    Do I think everybody has a sole mate? Only if you are standing on em..I mean no, I think there are people out there who have more than one mate. Not just a sole one.
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    Why are you taking what they say they want at face value and presuming that's what they really want? They say that cuz they don't wantn to sound too interested
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    The potential and partial love for him is there - but it isn't totally developed yet. You will increase your chances of falling in love with him once you realize the danger of losing him. Love is as much about the full realization of craving what we didn't realize how much we enjoyed it, as it is about connecting. You are on stage 2, after the relating part. If this sounds like pseudo psychology, it isn't. I swear i had an epiphany about this after lots of research and having my heart broken.
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    You can't be in love at first sight. That is such a lame concept. You don't even know the person. What you are in love with is your concept of the person which is rooted in some psychological experience you had -- that and basic lust. They are cute/laid back or make you feel calm by their voice. But that is far short of love. That doesn't mean infautation at first sight can't turn into love and it's so subtle you don't realize it. Personally I think love starts from liking the person and perhaps sometimes even intimate friendship, where you know them, are attracted to them for some reason, and then it happens or it doesn't. Chemistry is being ready for someone you find (or eventually will find) sexy and who you emotionally connect with. Falling in love is then about being ready to fall in love with the person. I think experiences help retard who we should be (or are) as much as they help us figure out who we are.
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    Hey doc She is playing games with you to make you want her more. It's a form of control. She is threatened by commitment. As much as immature girls like to commit to the guy once they know it's someone they love -- they are slow to figure out who they love. Play games back. Don't be so available. In the long run it is for her own good if you are a good guy. Don't act like she is the only one out there. Make her love you by not being so loving. It's basic supply and demand. People want what isn't readily available the best. Once she loves you, you can be how you wwant.
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    If you guys want them back you gotta play the game. Mess with their emotions. Be available/unavaible/suddenly pop back into their life. Only call if they call you and only after a while. Make them insecure. Insecurity leads to confusion, confusion leads to brooding, brooding leaves to feelings, feelings lead to love. The ends justify the means if in the end you treat them right once they are taking the iniative to get back with you. If you plant it, they will come. I am talking about making them fall in love more here, not using them.
  7. Napoleon Bonaparte
    Honestly I hope you get him back. He is gonna be very disloyal to you,use you, but it sounds like you deserve it. You cheated with him on his ex and he has treated you like absolute crap but you still idolize him. Have fun.
  8. Napoleon Bonaparte
    You know you could try mailing him a letter and articulating how you feel while apologizing and brown nosing a little. It would mean he would have to take the iniative to do the actual contacting.
  9. Napoleon Bonaparte
    This girl reminds me of someone I know.She is trying to get the emotional part of the relationship without giving anything. She is probably seeing someone who she can't get what she got from you. Not talking to you is gonna make her want you more cuz she no longer has power over you. You can get her back if you play your cards right but I am telling you now, it is probably best if you don't. She is friggin nuts! There are so many crazy girls like her out there. If you do talk to her DO NOT SHOW EMOTION! It'll make her want you more but it will also not give her what she is trying to get from you. These are the types that have intimacy issues.
  10. Napoleon Bonaparte
    I should quote that. Man some girl really screwed me up. for my story go to a tale of two screwed up people.
  11. Napoleon Bonaparte
    Letting him go doesn't mean it has to be forever. It isn't like this guy is married to her. You know he has feelings for you. Do not contact him. Try and keep busy. If he has real feelings for you or could have, they won't disapear (and even if they do, they can come back when you remerge in his life.) As long as he ain't married, you got a decent chance of getting him. You just have to be patient, try and see other people and find an interesting one of them, and limit your exposure to this guy for the next year. Absense will either cause his feelings to grow once he sees you are dating again and more over him, or it'll make them vanish. But as long as you just keep in contact, you got a good chance of getting em if the feelings were ever there.
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    She is e-mailing you cuz you do mean something to her and she does miss you. It's usual for people to appreciate people who they like a lot more once they are no longer a part of their life. However this woman sounds very selfish to the core. Regardless of where it's from (low self-esteem etc) she will manipulate you emotionally into staying interested without getting in a closer position where she might get rejected or hurt. Stay away from her until you are totally over her. Then contact her only to see if she is alright and cosider whether she will ever again deserve your friendship.
  13. Napoleon Bonaparte
    Be scarce for now. Stay away, do everything you can to focus on other girls. Try not to think about her (i know it's hard). Then be her friend while focusing on other girls (juggling 4 or 5 possibilities, I am not saying sleep with them). If she enjoys talking to you, talk to her, be available and then don't be. Make yourself scarce on the phone. DOn't answer her for a few days if she calls. Only talk to her for a short while. See other people. People are more suseptable to what they can't have. The words I love you unfortunately have the power to dimish your value before the feelings are mutual. Then, you might just be able to get her.
  14. Napoleon Bonaparte
    I have wanted to make love to the house wife on The Family Guy every since I first laid eyes on her. She is dry, sarcastic, sexy and very loyal. Also I have fallen in love with the little mermaid, the chick in beauty & the beast and I have a thing for the disney chick in Hercules. (now if Lisa from the Simpson would only turn 18...)
  15. Napoleon Bonaparte
    Something doesn't add up. Maybe I didn't understand correctly but she is suggesting she is at the point of hating you? If she was ambivalent she wouldn't say that. However she is definitely trying to sabotage the relationship by making you dump her so she can blame you for its failure. Did she get dumped by someone else before you got with her? She might have a fear of attachment. My advice is suggest you both see other people if she ain't happy and try to be scarce for now. If you act like you are in control, she might second guess herself. She'll then start to miss you (it might take a few months) and start comparing men unfavorably to you. Of course in that time you might find someone else and besides, you might not want to be involved with a psychopath.
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