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Ok, so my gf broke up with me a month ago. Since she broke up with me, she has been coming back slowly one day at a time. Then all of a sudden, her friends tell her something bad about our relationship and she backs off. Last week she was talking to me every second I was online, and she was pulling the whole Im bored routine...and have nothing to do. Then that weekend we both visited our college, and she called me as soon as she got there, and played up the hey what are you doing....maybe well see each other. Needless to say after that I didnt talk to her for a few hours and I find out that she stoped by my house, then went looking for me at the bar, then called me again to see what I was doing. I answered and just told her i was going to sleep. The following night we didnt talk. Sunday night, as soon as I signed on, she started talking to me, we talked for a few minutes then she signed off. The following day, I IMed her and told her that I wanted to see her this weekend but got thouhgt it was a bad weekend for us to hang out so I asked her out to lunch. She agreed but we did not set a date. A few days go by and I start to realize that this girl thought I was playing games with her that night she wanted to see me and I didnt. I would be annoyed myself. So i decide to call her and tell her that Im sorry, and that I didnt mean for it to work out the way it did, and she laughs and tells me that she didnt want to see me. I shoulda said why did you call me, then stop by and look gor me if you didnt want to see me, but I did not. She told me that she didnt want to see me, which I knew was not true. So anyway Im in her area the following night, and I think that it is a win win situation if i call her to hang out. She does not answer her phone so i left a message. Then the next day she starts IMing me hey, how was your night, I know you were by me. So I tell her what I did, and she pulls the whole I gotta go routine. And I havent heard from her since. What should I do, Ive been trying the NC thing, but Im not sure if the ball is in my ballpark wheather I should say something to her about us. what to do?

My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. I stoped talking to her, and she keeps talking to me. Last week she started talking to me a lot, and she kept trying to see me one night when we were in school. She called me twice, then stoped by my house, then went out looking for me. I was aware that it was a lose lose situation if i called and I took her away from her friends, so i opted not to call her back or see her for the weekend. She was upset about this but she was still talking to me on sunday night. Now, that were home, and she is alone I tell her that i wanted to see her this weekend, and she got mad at me sorta, She kept saying that she was trying and all that stuff, but i realized it was not the right time. So I decided to ask her out to lunch, to see about the mixed signals she has been sending me. She agrees but we do not set a date. All of monday she seemed to be distant and not talking to me, I said hello to her via IM and she still seemed distant. I ask her what she has planned for the next day, and she tells me that shes going out for an early dinner with her friend. Im thinking its a guy friend. Now, Why would she tell me this, Why would she seem distant all of a sudden once I make an effort to make things right, and What should I say to this girl about me and her?

My Ex broke up with me about a week ago. We are in an awkward situation studying abroad, and weve been going out for 4 months. I know studying abroad is one of the hardest times to have a relationship, better yet start one which we did. She broke up with me really harshly, acting like our relationship did not mean anything. I know shes been real upset about the whole thing, as have I. The other night she talked to me, and I told her that I miss her, and she said she misses me. Her main concern now is that things wont change between us, we have gotten in about 4 or 5 fights in the past 4 months but nothing that we have never resolved. She says shes not a fighter and im not either. To me if we never had conflict something would be wrong, but she feels that we just should never fight. I really want to give this a shot, but how can I tell her that things will be different when we go back home, cause all of the fights arise bc of us going out with our friends, which to me makes sense bc we are both here to have a good time, we just get jealous of each other hangin out wiht our friends. How can I tell her this. I know she loves me, and I love her, to me thats enough. It seems that her heart is telling her one thing, but her mind is telling her that it isnt going to work. What should I do?

I have been dating this girl for 4 months, and about a month ago the LOVE word was dropped. Everything felt perfect for the first time in a while. We had a few misunderstanding throught the 4 months but we always got over them together. I thought everything was fine. A few days ago, we were laying in bed together in the morning and she was telling me how much she loved me. Within a period of 3 days, I do mean 3 days later, she tells me that I am not right for her and its not working. I tell her how I feel about her, and how much I love her and how special our relationship is. She basically responded with how can you possibly think that, I am at a point of hating you. She showed no remorse for anyhting, almost like the past 4 months meant nothing. It was the first time she was ever mean to me. I just dont understand how her feelings can change in 3 days with no warnings.