DropToZero

Changes - 2pac Come on come on I see no changes. Wake up in the morning and I ask myself, "Is life worth living? Should I blast myself?" I'm tired of bein' poor and even worse I'm black. My stomach hurts, so I'm lookin' for a purse to snatch. Cops give a damn about a negro? Pull the trigger, kill a * * * * * , he's a hero. Give the crack to the kids who the hell cares? One less hungry mouth on the welfare. First ship 'em dope & let 'em deal the brothers. Give 'em guns, step back, and watch 'em kill each other. "It's time to fight back", that's what Huey said. 2 shots in the dark now Huey's dead. I got love for my brother, but we can never go nowhere unless we share with each other. We gotta start makin' changes. Learn to see me as a brother 'stead of 2 distant strangers. And that's how it's supposed to be. How can the Devil take a brother if he's close to me? I'd love to go back to when we played as kids, but things change, and that's the way it is. [bridge w/ changing ad libs] (Come on, come on) That's just the way it is. Things'll never be the same. That's just the way it is. aww yeah... [Repeat] I see no changes. All I see is racist faces. Misplaced hate makes disgrace for races we under. I wonder what it takes to make this one better place... let's erase the wasted. Take the evil out the people, they'll be acting right. 'Cause mo' black than white is smokin' crack tonight. And only time we chill is when we kill each other. It takes skill to be real, time to heal each other. And although it seems heaven sent, we ain't ready to see a black President, uhh. It ain't a secret don't conceal the fact... the penitentiary's packed, and it's filled with blacks. But some things will never change. Try to show another way, but they stayin' in the dope game. Now tell me what's a mother to do? Bein' real don't appeal to the brother in you. You gotta operate the easy way. "I made a G today" But you made it in a sleazy way. Sellin' crack to the kids. "I gotta get paid," Well hey, well that's the way it is. [bridge] [Talking We gotta make a change... It's time for us as a people to start makin' some changes. Let's change the way we eat, let's change the way we live and let's change the way we treat each other. You see the old way wasn't working so it's on us to do what we gotta do, to survive. And still I see no changes. Can't a brother get a little peace? There's war on the streets & the war in the Middle East. Instead of war on poverty, they got a war on drugs so the police can bother me. And I ain't never did a crime I ain't have to do. But now I'm back with the facts givin' 'em back to you. Don't let 'em jack you up, back you up, crack you up and pimp smack you up. You gotta learn to hold ya own. They get jealous when they see ya with ya mobile phone. But tell the cops they can't touch this. I don't trust this, when they try to rush I bust this. That's the sound of my tune. You say it ain't cool, but mama didn't raise no fool. And as long as I stay black, I gotta stay strapped & I never get to lay back. 'Cause I always got to worry 'bout the pay backs. Some buck that I roughed up way back... comin' back after all these years. Rat-a-tat-tat-tat-tat. That's the way it is. uhh [bridge 'til fade] Some things never change

Actually, since you keep bringing up the Bible, I've been watching something, one of many things I'm sure contesting it. One...I've never been "in" love, I hardly wonder if it even exists, or if it's just again...another blind faith that controls one's body to an infatuation of such power to another person, call it what you want...I still have yet to really believe it. I find it hard to trust others for one, because time and time again, I only see the strongest of relationships failing. The ONLY, and one and ONLY thing that contests it supposedly...are my own parents, who had some problems earlier in their marriage, then after they both began going to church...have never yet to have one of that same degree(ie. a problem that could have led to divorce easily). But again, even that isn't perfect, because any one person or two people could blindly believe together that some person/religion/book saved their marriage. Whatever it may be, ...8 years or so down the line from that very same church that "saved" their marriage, our entire family stopped going there because of some jealously of power between my mother and the pastor. Back to the bible though, you would agree again if I said, the bible isn't meant to be taken literally...correct? But there are so many stories in it that aren't even possible, or have any evidence of truth, but yet people who believe it with faith...you're fine, no one can touch you or disprove you because you're going to believe it that way. But those who have the slightest of doubt, if you really do your research, you'll find that many of those stories, truly are JUST stories. Did you know during the time that Jesus walked the earth...there was another messiah in another part of the world claiming the same things, with followers, and miracles? So...why is Jesus right? Just because he is in the most popular of books sold worldwide, his story is true and this other unknown messiah isn't? Another thing, in the bible, Jesus was born of the virgin Mary...right? So...think of your current girlfriend now(or if you dont have one, think of a past one)...if you and her hadn't engaged in sex, but she came to you tonight claiming she was pregnant...but also claimed God was the one who made her pregnant, would you believe her? Obviously...you should, because Joseph did...wow. That'd be some pretty hard news to believe...I'd be kicking her to the curb if that were me. I can keep going on...but again, these are things people believe because of faith, and nothing's going to change that. I just happened to be one of the one's who tried and tried, but never "got it"...so here I am now.

Yes exactly, who's to say who's right and who's wrong? That's why I said..until death, or whatever end comes, no one will know. That's why I HATE that all religions believe so blindly that they're RIGHT, and everyone else is wrong. Okay..maybe that was a big generalization, but in most senses...that's how it goes, even if you don't outright tell everyone who follows a different religion. In your heart, you believe you're right, and in the end, that's what matters to you...so keep it that way. The point where you start crossing the line is ...telling others they're wrong and going to hell etc... (I especially hate those guys who come to my college campus and just rant and rave in the middlemost point of campus about sex/drugs/partying...you name it, they're ...in not so many words, butts) Honestly havent you ever heard?...if you want to get rich quick, start a religion. I mean, there are so many common rules between different religions, I'm not going to name them all...but in some context, almost all of them follow the same ones. I even have a link to a video online that talks about how religions use sex as one key to control followers(i.e. how it's bad before marriage, not with someone you're not in love with). If you want to see it, PM me I guess, but I dont think it may be appropriate to post for younger viewers(and that's not in my opinion, because I think censorship is a bad thing, and people should be able to see all of the world and not be confined, but that's up to the admins/mods).

Yeah, I don't agree with it, since I was forced to go to church and such all through my childhood up til I was 18, angered me that my parents made me even though probably around the age of 13-14, I could have made my own decision. I tried for years to see and believe what they seem to believe so blindly(faith)....I never got it, and probably never will. As for judgement day, I know of the whole story, but really...like you said, all there really is...is faith. NO ONE knows the real answer, and NO ONE will ever know until the end of this world comes to(whether it be a real disaster, or just death)...and then, when that day comes...your questions may be answered...we'll all find out who was wrong and who was right.

I didn't say you had to be ignorant, it's okay to KNOW what others think of you, the point is to NOT CARE. Not everyone is going to like you in this world, for one reason or another, -you can't please everyone, so don't try. So..if that person says that, who cares...? What makes them all of a sudden so sure on what makes a person a "freak"? I'm sure she does things personally others dont know about, but they may consider "weird" if she ever did them publicly. The idea is that this is all just based off OTHER's ideas, people believe anything...so what if you can take your full fist and put it in your mouth, I'd think that's cool, others might be thinking of some sexual innuendo at that time haha, but again...it's just all context, and how you view it. (and no, I have no idea if awdree could actually do that, dont ask or accuse lol)

nope, I dont care what others think, I'm not out to prove myself to anyone...it's pointless, because who cares what they think, who said "they're" right, and what "they" say is wrong or weird, or normal, or whatever....it's just based off social norms by mass people(and again, who says they're "right"?). Anyways, yeah I had a great time proving that tonight(also kinda risked my job hah)...but no, live free, live happy, live careless of what others do and think about you, you'll be much happier.

Wow...tough question...reality hit you there didnt it? My opinion, I'm not sure what I believe right now, but I'm leaning more towards agnostic also... If it were up to what I used to believe or was taught all through childhood, you should love your God more, but as myself now...I'd say you should love her more....then again, I don't even know if love exists, I've never been in it or felt it from what I can tell. This is your turning point though...now or never it may seem. As a person who doesn't believe what you believe, Dako's right...she feels 2nd or even lesser.

Yep, just goes into the idea that people need to take more time and LISTEN...see it from the other person's point of view...most people are too set on never wanting to be wrong and would rather argue than face "facts." It's all about having an open mind...It's also about, like he said, the arguments that are actually 'constructive,' people get into too many pointless arguments about literally nothing. Some go that way and even forget in the first place what they fought about. Everyone has flaws, there's no reason to point out or hold them to each and every person...rather embrace and enjoy them, it's what makes us...who we are.

yeah slumps suck, I understand. But...if anyone's gonna do it, I'll push you haha ...>>>>>>GO>>>>>> lol Venting may help from time to time to release all those feelings, but dont keep falling back on it though...or it's all you'll do.

Man...advice isn't going to get you over your lonliness, you've got that all wrong. YOU have got to get over YOUR lonliness, there's nothing in this site that we can say to MAKE you do anything, you've just got to do it. Right now, you seem fine sitting around caring about what's going on with your ex...of course that's going to make you feel lonely. If you really want to DO something about it and stop hurting yourself, DO something... Like I said, I can't make you go out and try new things, meet others, whatever...you have got to make yourself do that. If you don't have that willingness to try, then you're not gonna get anywhere.

Man you're torturing yourself, seriously, like she said above...you've got to stop looking at their pages, each time you give in you're only hurting yourself more. I got curious here and there and found my ex's online journal thing(BAD IDEA), you never want to know every single thought a person has about you....it'll drive you insane. I got hooked for a while too and kept looking at it, I finally realized I was only hurting myself by looking at every little detail of her life with and without me(glad it only took a little more than a couple weeks too). I haven't looked at it in months, even while we dated again...just a bad idea. Forget their passwords, and move on.

Confidence comes with everything, you've got to be sure of yourself. You've got to KNOW that you don't care what anyone else thinks about you, and once you've realized that, then your confidence will shine. When you act how you want, say what you want, do as you please, you're being yourself...and that's confidence. As with anything in this world man, it's going to take practice, and yes you will more than likely fail before you succeed, but keep going at it and you CANNOT be afraid. Fear will control you, you've got to get past that. good luck

lol yeah I agree with the fact she should get out of it....no matter the circumstances. anyways...dont compare relationship trust to police investigations. In this case, she was right...but if she had been wrong, and found nothing incriminating(if this was YOU), how badly would you feel about your privacy being invaded?

I know it sounds bad, but you did go way past your boundaries in finding this out...even though in the end you seem to have found something out that you need to know. If he gets defensive, oh well, you found out. I'd just tell him you caught him, dont tell him how, and get out of it as soon as possible. But...even if you do tell him how you found out, it won't matter, it's not like things are going to end "well," so you dont have to feel bad about how you found out. It's bad that someone could cheat, it's even worse when they're lying about it...so, this isn't someone you really want to be with.

Yeah I think I know what you mean, My ex is like that too. She claims different reasoning as to she acts like she does(I was the one who broke up)...but part of my reasoning in doing it is because she parties too much and doesn't know her limits well enough(I did trust her, but I'm not going to be there everytime she does this to take care of her, she relies on alcohol too heavily to deal with her problems). I'm not sure if every girl goes through it, but as a guy...I sort of went through it, but found out it really wasn't all life was about. I like to drink, I mean, I will party...but it's not like I used to even though I'm still in college. I see what girls mean in saying "what else is out there"(and so should you, so you dont sit around waiting for this girl), and I understand it...so I do date around, I'm not looking to settle down with one girl yet. I think you're better off man, you've got to let go, it's easier said than done, but she's not interested in a relationship, and the last thing you want to do is waste your time waiting for someone to come around. You're going to have to accept it and go meet others, you'll get through it as soon as you meet a few others girls and date around a little. Good luck!

I'm going to tell you what you don't want to hear, but you need to back off your friend and this good girl friend of yours and let them have their way. I know you like her, and it will be hard...but man, you can't hide for 5-6 years that you like someone...if you do, you've got to act on it. She probably doesn't like you like that and you're just a good friend to her because you've never made any moves. I know it sucks, but don't sit and ponder this one girl, go out and meet others man. As for your two friends who like one another...I hope since you're a good friend, you'd want the best for them both(and I know that's the hardest thing to do for someone you like), but what I wouldn't do...is get INVOLVED. I know they're your friends and close ones, but DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT GET IN THE MIDDLE...stay out of it. You will be a crying shoulder to one or both of them if it ever ended badly between them for some reason and it could just lead to a huge problem for your friendships. So...tell your best guy friend you think she's interested, and let him make his moves. As for the other girl, he's allowed to date more than one girl as long as it's not a serious relationship...so let him tell her he'd rather not go out with her if that's what HE wants. You don't have to do your friend's work in dating. I'm sorry this sucks...but there are others, don't wait for this one girl, you're wasting time...I mean look already...5-6 years? You know how many girls you could've gone out with in that time?(I dont know maybe you have been going out with others, but just don't wait for her) Good luck

Um...you talk to them? Except since you were in your car...and you were waiting at a red light, you rev your engine twice, and race lol haha, actually I'm not going to condone racing(eh emm) but in any other circumstances other than being at a red light in your car, you smile at them and if they smile back you go and talk and flirt, easy as that.

It's your own family...you didn't cheat. And no I've never heard of someone being accused of cheating for venting about their wife to someone...even if frequently. Personally though, you should be talking to your WIFE about the problems you're having and take the following actions after you've talked to her. But cheating for talking to someone about your wife? No...

Yeah I never learned to dance in school either,...I had a good time a party when people were in a dance circle, but all I could do was watch cause I didn't know anything(and definitely was afraid to try). So...I'm learning now, but of course it's a different kind of "dance" than you'd be doing with your g/f. Honestly, a lot of people don't really know how to dance, it's more of a confidence thing(just like a lot of things in this world are). You have till the 24th...I suggest you (A) Tell her and have her help you learn, or (B) Look up videos on how to dance, practice on your own some basics, you can pick up some basics in a few weeks, or © don't go at all...but then your girl may be dancing with other guys and that's up to you if you trust her enough to keep her hands to herself in some manner. Choice is yours...I dont know, there's probably more options, but like I said, I'm teaching myself different styles right now, and I love it...but I do it on my own...haven't shown anyone yet haha(maybe in a couple of months I'll go public).

Yeah man, there's being nice...then there is being TOO NICE. in example...being a doormat. That sounds like your problem...what I really think, is you just don't know how to flirt. Flirting in essense IS teasing and making fun, making play roles, being somewhat touchy WITH GIRLS(or guys for the girls reading this). You have to do it in a fun way...yeah you can cross the line a little, but that's the whole point is to test the boundaries and see if she likes you or not. I understand you probably don't get this yet, I didnt get it till I had just gotten out of highschool and how it worked...but that's it. If she responds to your flirting, and is doing it back, then she's probably interested. Now don't get over-excited the first time this happens though, because some people just love to flirt and it can mix signals...which in some sense is the whole point. Girls dont want you to just come out and say "I'm a nice guy, and I like you, would you go out with me"...you've got to have some sense of adventure and make her wonder if you like her or not...and that's what gets you on her mind more because she won't know. I'm the same way with girls too...I dont really want a girl to just come out and say she likes me...in example, I flirted with a girl I worked with a little while back, and heavily, always messing back and forth with one another. Then yes, I wasn't sure if she liked me, but when one time we were messing around at work and poking one another, I grabbed her hand...and she let me hold it...obvious now there...isn't it? We went out like a week later. You'll just have to learn, and don't expect to get it right on the first try...I screwed up a lot before I started to get it too(3 different times at 3 different points to be exact - *asked a girl out(very unconfidently, like I said above when asking a girl out nicely), and she picked up on my fear, I didn't get her number* - *got a phone number, didnt know what to talk about* - *got a couple of dates with a girl, but didnt go for first kiss* See it's all just a learning process. Oh and by the way...I like how everyone is saying "women" will get it when they're 40...and "realize" about nice guys...what the heck, so musicguy, you really want to wait till you're 40 or so to get a date?...I didn't think so. Another thing, there is no "realizations" by women when they hit their forties or become desperate, stop hanging on to some fantasy that all women date are jerks. The point is just to be a MAN, and you'll have your respect.

yeah it's true...people don't choose who they're attracted to...it's just something that happens to you. It can be a great thing, or a horrible downfall too haha, because some people can't see past the attraction and see that a person still is not good for them. But I mean think about it, when was the last time you were in public and saw a pretty girl walk by...what did you think about?...."wow she looks great" or..."I wonder if I'm attracted to her, yes...I am"

Yeah I know what you mean, ever since I got out of highschool, and since I've been in college...I really became a bad procrastinator. I used to come home and do my homework/studies right away, get it all out of the way, then enjoy the rest of my week. Now I do papers last minute and study for tests last minute, and rarely pull off the grades I used to. I dont know, just some things don't intrigue me like they used to and I don't care as much as I should. I'm just finding every day I learn there's more to life than money, and jobs, and learning about things I do not care about. I don't want to end up some person who just gives up on everything, because I do care and do work on things I LIKE. But uhmmm...the best advice, and the hardest thing to do is take your own advice. As Nike says..."just do it."

Yeah man, it's okay to hug a guy...I mean most guys our age would rather do the one arm grab and the other around the back type hug. But either way...as long as you hug RIGHT, it's not feminine. I mean that by...dont hug low and pull your lower bodies together, it's just an upper body hug.

Yeah, not trying to pull this way off topic, but she's right. You don't have to bribe or do sexual favors, but... it is sad in this world that it in some sense works, that it does get you ahead in some areas to look better. One of my part time jobs...you HAVE to look good to get the job, or you won't get it. It's just a bunch of teenagers at a clothing store, but I've seen the manager's interviewing papers...and it'll say straight out "this girl is cute(hire her), this guy is not(dont hire him), this girl is alright(make her work in the back room). So...I know it's sad, but that's how it is. And no this stuff isn't on the official interview forms as if it's a requirement, but the managers do take notice and write it down on separate pages.