DropToZero

It's not always great to have to "try" and make someone jealous...the best way to do it man, is just to move on and find another girl, your last girl WILL find out one way or another. Cause personally, I've got sort of the same problem, even though I'm not sure if I exactly want this ONE girl, I'm still seeing others, and this ONE girl has heard about me and others(now she's calling more often, even though I'm not picking up), this ONE girl will see me with the other girls in person at one point or another, it's just a matter of time. I know it feels like you NEED to teach her a lesson, but trust me, don't try and force it...if it happens, cool...if it doesn't oh well, get on without it.

Yes it still exists, some people just know how to block out all feelings. Personally though, the sex just isn't going to live up to sleeping with someone you really care and feel for though, it's just not going to be the same. I know the difference in just kissing when I'm kissing a girl I really care about compared to just making out, it's not nearly as passionate...so neither would the sex be.

I'll be honest, I get numbers all the time and don't call...not always that I don't plan too, sometimes I just get busy, sometimes I meet other girls, sometimes I just...don't want to call them... Yeah I know, sounds bad...sorry, I'm just not a phone person even though I have my own cell.

I never really thought of that until you just mentioned it...but you're right. I know a girl who I kinda/sorta have a fwb thing going on with here and there. But, you're so right hah, last year after she broke up with a guy she dyed her hair with blonde streaks and cut it. And now a few weeks ago she just broke it off with another guy and I saw that she cut her hair and dyed it reddish brown. Hmph...interesting find though, you pay well attention to detail.

Cause...we're guys, and guys aren't supposed to show emotion. If we do, like others have said, it shows weakness. Personally, I've let myself open up one time completely with one girl, and yeah it would NOT have been as passionate and great as it was if I hadn't opened up...but in the end, I got my heart ripped out and felt pain like I never thought was possible. Lesson learned...and since then I haven't let any others get really close, I sort of just had to say to myself with each girl I've met "I'm not getting attached, and this will be purely a friends with benefits sort of thing/casual dating." And...so far it's worked, cause I haven't even met a girl who was remotely interested in a serious relationship anyways.

I think I know what you mean, I mean I've never had like a serious g/f, but have defintitely felt what you're feeling. I've had those types of pictures and thoughts come into my mind to a point where I feel like vomiting. And if you haven't already, (hope this doesnt happen to you) try dreaming at night, and you're thinking/dreaming back to when everything was great with you two, then when you wake up, you think everything's great for about 30 seconds till you realize it wasn't real and everything's really the same as it was before you went to bed, and it kinda hits you hard. I dont know though, like mel said, they'll go away in time, there's not much you can do to prevent them besides trying to keep your mind elsewhere....good luck

Haha, yeah...I used to be that guy, but to my surprise, just cause I'm someone who has to learn through my own experience...it's really confidence, that's all. When I was younger(like grade school/elementary) I was in with all my friends and keeping up, then everyone else seemed to grow faster or something, and I felt behind, lost a lot of my confidence watching people I used to think were equals to me, now beating me in sports, talking to girls easier, just overall more likeable for some reason. Then it sort of continued all the way through highschool, but each year I slowly figured it out a little more, and yes I did lift, but honestly it never really began to show until I was a senior. I had only had a few dates in HS too, and honestly they were all horrible because of how reserved I was. Past couple of years though, I finally figured it out...it's really just confidence and going out to have a good time...and not caring at all what anyone thinks of you. I still do lift and keep myself in great shape, cause if I didnt I'd still be really small and probably less confident, and now I never thought I'd say this but there is such a thing as "more is NOT always better"...cause girls won't leave me alone now. It does help to work at a very popular clothing store in a mall though haha

bLiNd, you have to go into your User CP and set your options. Right now you have private messaging blocked. Try and find it, hit User CP in the blue line at the top left, then go to Edit Options along the left side, and then scroll down to private messaging, click the box and allow it.

Again, like I said...don't bash, don't tell anyone they're too young to know what love is...yes it may seem that way, and it may be, but don't judge when you don't know. It's not bad when you're older, I agree, but...I'll say this again you really have to GO THRU this to understand it. It's not like this guy woke up today and said, "yeah..I'm gonna go get involved with someone 5 years younger than me"...it's more than likely something you never thought would happen to YOU...cause that's how I felt. I'll PM you when I get back soon, I've got to go and eat something.

Hey man, I'm gonna throw my opinion in here, because...I went through the same exact thing about this time last year. I'm not going to give all my details, but if you want to talk more personally just PM me, and I'll let you know what I went through...then maybe you can understand what you may be getting into...I'm not putting it all out on here. And for anyone who isn't here to help...i.e., would rather bash him for looking into a girl that young, or her for "falling for him" and how it's not possible...please, dont...you don't understand. This is definitely one of those situations you must BE IN to truly understand what's going on. Cause a little more than a year ago I would have been saying the same things as you to this guy...god did that change.

Someone who can keep you on your toes...keep you always guessing, having that sense of uncertainty of what he'll(or she'll) do next. Girls love that...and I love girls who do it back...cause then the moment when you both can't stand the tension of it all any longer and you break only makes that kiss/whatever happens 10times better lol Just make sure guys, keep it up too, don't let off the challenge/flirting once you've finally crossed that line, always keep it up and you'll more than likely have a great, fun relationship of some sort on your hands.

I'm your age, even though I'm a guy answering this hah, I used A&F's Fierce and haven't heard a complaint yet, every girl likes it on me that I've met.

Yeah...there's always an extra rush with the idea of being caught...like you said, "until we get caught" though hah. I've definitely pushed the limits of that, and still am...it's risky...but I know what you mean when it comes to doing something that's considered wrong or forbidden, and I'm not talking about sexual postions.

I've never cheated, and personally, I dont consider alcohol an excuse for cheating. But...when drinking, I do make some choices with girls I know I shouldn't have. There'll be times when I say I'm "done" with this one girl, tired of dealing with her and her issues, but then when I'm drunk and she happens to come by or see me at a party...it all goes away and I forget everything I wanted to do when I was sober. I'm a guy, but I basically become easy once I'm drunk...so I try not to get drunk too often.

Umm....my ears...seriously, you get a hold of them with your mouth and I'll do anything you want...anything.

LoL...I like that, good and straight to the point.

Yeah, it makes sense to prefer someone you're more attracted to, why would I want to waste my time with a girl I wasn't attracted to? It wouldn't be fair to her, or to me. How would you feel if say you were her, and we went out, and somehow it led to us going back to your place, and then I told you I wasn't attracted to you...so, nothing was going to happen. You probably wouldn't feel so great if you had a great night with me and I just ruined it because of the fact that I had to be honest. Sex is not all the same either...haha...seriously...some people are good at it, some aren't...no matter what you look like. Most just need to LEARN though. Anyways..it's human nature to go after someone you're more attracted to...and I second what VIRGOLDY said.

A huge turn on for me I've noticed...I mean, to a point where I would want to JUMP you haha...is a very good challenge. I mean that by saying, if I'm flirting with you, playing around, maybe making fun of you a little, YOU ARE spitting the same game right back at me. It's a huge turn on to me if you don't sit there and make it easy for me to know if you like me(example all over me, saying I look great TOO often, trying too hard)...that's what I mean when I say I like a challenge in a girl.

Yeah I know exactly what you mean, someone(me in this case) always gets attached. First time I'd ever done friends with benefits, and only because her and I *technically* can't be together, after about a month or so of it going on I heard at a party one night that she had gone out with another guy(which he soon became her serious b/f too only a little longer into it). Tell you one thing, I guess it's okay to go out and drink to have a good time with friends to forget a girl, but not when you're AT the party to find out, because I got home only about an hour later only for it all to hit down hard on me...lets just say that was probably the worst night of my life, I didn't sleep at all, and have never felt pain like that before.

I dont know man, you're only a year older than me, what ever happened to people just making out and enjoying a long foreplay prior to having sex?...I would think near my age you could go for a while. I know what you mean though, I've talked to friends who say the same thing you do, that anything too long and they just lose interest and wouldn't even want to continue...I dont know, I guess I'm just not like that. Okay, yeah that's a better word for it I guess...relaxation. Random question though, even though I've been at this site for a decent amount of time...what does IMHO mean? hehe

Ohhh yeah, seriously? You've never met a guy who was more interested in paying attention to you than himself? Wow...I mean, I can't say I don't enjoy sex or anything, but I'll be serious when I say I've literally read up on things and I'm VERY interested in finding new things that would excite a girl. I mean, not to an obsessive point hah, but I mean it when I say I almost study things on the internet(like link removed) or through men's health magazines...or something along those lines that would help me learn as much as possible about what a lot of women like rather than asking her in person(and yes most of it I've learned works VERY well hah). Yes, to the poster and the above too hah, yeah...women love a lot of foreplay, personally I'd rather lure a girl on with foreplay for like an hour or so...I think another thing I'll throw in, because I think I'm going to try this next time with one girl...is like that one guy said to "make her want you." How about with the next girl you're with you try just pretty much teasing a girl until she's begging, meaning by...touching, kissing, lightly rubbing part on her body but where she wants it most until the very end. That's what a lot of girls mean when they say they want build up, or the excitement in being spontaneous(wondering what you'll do next). So yeah...try that, and I'm serious, it should be like mowing your lawn with your hands and mouth, her body being the yard, and then her more prized possessions being like the garden in the middle of the yard that you have to mow around until the end when you go back to weedwack and make it look nice. I love how I keep coming up with these like comparisons hehe

I'm not sure if he can exactly "ask" the girls you've slept with unless you want to hand out a few numbers lol, but I dont think those girls would like that haha j/k Anyways, random thing besides just knowing how to use it, how about endurance?...I think a lot of girls want guys who can go longer than 5 minutes too...just a thought to ponder...good luck.

I know most people will post about others, and songs about relationships...but that's not exactly the thing affecting me the most right at the moment. The song that most makes me think(even though I'm WAY too young to even really know about this band hehe) is Boston and "Peace of Mind". I dont know, I'm in college, but ...it doesn't matter how you plan things out, they always seem to get messed up. Not saying my life is bad or anything, I love it, it's just...I'm feeling some total indecision in my life about what I want to do, and it's hard to make a choice when you've kind of changed your whole outlook on life. I always thought I wanted to just get through college, get a good career, and make a lot of money, that was...basically my goal. Then I came to a bigger understanding(and no I'm not putting anyone down for this, this is just MY realization for ME), that ...I don't want to spend the rest of my life making money, just to spend money...now that I look at it, I hate it, I hate that I even thought it. I'm tired of people telling me what I'm bounded by, and people telling me to stay in school, all the advice...it just never ends, parents, friends and family are constantly on my back about how their once "A" student is doing horribly in college. Trust me, it bothers me too, school used to be the best thing in life I thought I was good at, and now it's gone...so...what am I supposed to do now? I don't want to just work and work and work, just to work my way up a corporate ladder so I'm a big CEO or whatever one day, I ...just want to find out what life's really about...I think there's just a lot more than I thought there was to it, and I want to find out what I was really put on this world to do. Hah...and I definitely ranted on a lot longer than I thought I would...sorry. Now if you're feelin' kinda low 'bout the dues you've been paying Future's coming much too slow And you wanna run but somehow you just keep on stayin' Can't decide on which way to go Yeah, yeah, yeah I understand about indecision But I don't care if I get behind People livin' in competition All I want is to have my peace of mind. Now you're climbin' to the top of the company ladder Hope it doesn't take too long Can'tcha you see there'll come a day when it won't matter Come a day when you'll be gone I understand about indecision But I don't care if I get behind People livin' in competition All I want is to have my peace of mind. Take a look ahead, take a look ahead, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah... Now everybody's got advice they just keep on givin' Doesn't mean too much to me Lot's of people out to make-believe they're livin' Can't decide who they should be. I understand about indecision But I don't care if I get behind People li vin' in competition All I want is to have my peace of mind. Take a look ahead, take a look ahead. Look ahead Boston Peace of Mind thanks for reading too...whoever does...