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  1. pineapplegirl
    In order of priority with rationales: 1. Trustworthy (i'm tired of playing games) 2. Intelligent (i'm tired of having to explain stuff) 3. Funny (i'm tired of being bored) 4. Is good at something (i'm tired of paying when I go out with a guy) tie for #4. Has a passionate interest in something (see above rationale) 5. Confident (i'm tired of having to make every decision in the relationship/date) 6. Sporty/Physically fit (i'm tired of guys that I can't go out and have a play day with) 7. Good looking (i'm tired of guys that I can go out and have a play day with, but people ask me what breed of dog he is J/K - LOL) 8. Sensitive (i'm tired of guys who don't think I have feelings) 9. Well off down below/nice butt (see rationale for #3) 10. Height/Weight (i prefer medium to tall and proportional) **Good question, thanks for making me think...
  2. pineapplegirl
    I AGREE!!! After years of being in bad relationships, it's about time for me to step away from that scene and focus on me. There's nothing selfish about it. Afterall, if you can't love yourself then you can't love anyone else. I'd love to just hang with the perfect trophy guy, be showered with affection, told that I'm beautiful, smart, funny etc., but if I found him, I know I'd fall in love... Good luck.
  3. pineapplegirl
    You sound like a good guy, and you also sound VERY forgiving. -tell her all you want to be is friends -give her time to understand what that means -realize that you are probably to good to have her as your girlfriend since she doesn't seem to know how to treat you nicely -find someone who will treat you the way you treat her
  4. pineapplegirl
    My heart goes out to you. When a break up happens, the hurt is pretty bad...But when the break up is more like the rug being pulled out from underneath you, the pain is likely worse. There's only a couple suggestions I have: *cry *stay in contact with his Mom *realize that even though he was perfect for you, he didn't think the same way about you I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but if this guy's X just fell out of the clear blue sky and he's back with her-then your relationship didn't really have a chance to succeed. It sounds like he always held a part of his heart away from you because of the other girl...
  5. pineapplegirl
    Sometimes actions speak louder than words... You may be jumping to conclusions that your X and the new guy have been planning to hook up, but you also might be right. If you really love her then you'll want her to be happy right? Even if that means that she isn't with you...
  6. pineapplegirl
    How did it go at work?
  7. pineapplegirl
    If we could all be so lucky to have a friend like you... Don't go overboard. BE HER FRIEND without an ulterior motive. She needs someone to talk to and to listen to her. You may freak her out with the drawing, or at least with the writing on it... But, if you really want to be her friend, just be there for her in a non-judgemental way without expecting anything else from her. Good luck, and I hope all goes well.
  8. pineapplegirl
    I don't envy the position you're in. I'm sure you feel pretty heart broken. I do envy her position though. The fact that you're willing to do anything to make this girl happy is admirable. But, you don't want to push her away by chsing after her too aggressively. I'm sorry to say that TIME is really the essense here.
  9. pineapplegirl
    Maybe if you just kicked it with her and didn't worry about getting her to be your girlfriend it would fall into place. I would avoid asking her out again because girls interpret perseverance as kind of creepy stalker like.
  10. pineapplegirl
    Be her friend. She'll need attention and support while her man is gone. And, maybe she'll discover you're not a player. And maybe you'll find out that she's better as a friend. Good luck.
  11. pineapplegirl
    The heart is such a weird thing... Why should you have to keep waiting for this girl to appreciate you? It is sweet and tender that you are even entertaining the idea of getting back together with her, but what happens if she has to "test" the relationship again. Will you keep letting her hurt you and then take her back again? While I admire your willingness to forgive and forget, consider that you deserve more.
  12. pineapplegirl
    BE VERY CAREFUL!!! You are definitely dealing with someone that may not be sure of what he wants, and is dealing with a lot of baggage... actually it seems more like CARGO!!! It's a tough call. I hope it works out for you.
  13. pineapplegirl
    Congratulations on coming out. I'm not gay, but I have a lot of friends who are, and I know what a big step you just made. So, again, CONGRATULATIONS! As far as the girl at work, let it go... Enjoy your freddom and the fun that you can have now that you're finally out fo the closet. Experience all that you can, and who knows maybe you'll find someone else who turns your head and wants you too.
  14. pineapplegirl
    Your post reminds me of how much I don't miss high school, but then I realize that all the same stupid games and rules apply after high school... Should you try to get back at Kendall? No. Whay did she only want to kick it with you when you were with another chick? Are you her "fall back" guy? The one that she'll chill with when no one else wants her? You'll find someone man. Just give it time. Be friends with Kendall, but don't let yourself get all walked over... Good Luck.
  15. pineapplegirl
    Ouch, been there myself... It's hard when you lose your partner in general and it hurts more that you lost your partner to what sounds like just bad timing and circumstance. Working with him makes the pain go away briefly and makes it a million times worse, all at the same time. When i was in your position, I thought I'd be able to get thru it, but I couldn't stand seeing him even TALKING to women platonically. It tore me up too much. I stepped back for a second and knew that if I didn't quit my job, I'd get fired because I spent too much time fixated on him that I wasn't doing my job well anymore. So, I quit. And, even though I still second guess it, I know that in the long run I'll be happier and healthier-even though rightnow I'm unemployed.
  16. pineapplegirl
    Broken hearts when they are healed are stronger. It's okay that you still miss your ex. Grieving is grieving and you should let yourself grieve for as long as you need to. -just don't start boiling any bunnies, because then you really have a problem -
  17. pineapplegirl
    Good for you that you are moving on! Whether or not you really like this new guy or the feelings are just remaindered from your ex is something that will take time to figure out. Remember that hurt begets hurt, and if you feel like you may not be ready to start anew, be honest with the new guy. Enjoy his company and his time. Enjoy the attention and let yourself enjoy those things. You never know, it could've taken your ex for you to appreciate what you have with the new guy. Good luck.
  18. pineapplegirl
    Maybe what's keeping you from being together is his marriage. It's going to be hard for you to esacape how you feel for him. And, maybe you won't. If you are really in love with him, nothing that anyone says will really make a difference...Trust me, I know. But, the one thing I try to repeat to myself is that I've got to be worth more than just being second choice. Sometimes that's why I find myself in bad situations(see my posting), but, I wonder to myself why I don't feel I deserve my OWN partner, instead of someone else's husband/boyfriend. PM me if you want to talk more. In the meantime, enjoy your time with the guy. I don't know how good that advice is, but I know that if you don't you'll end up kicking yourself and wondering about "what could've happened..."
  19. pineapplegirl
    I've been there... I recently ended a relationship with a man that was married. I was with him for over 3 years. Does the wife know that he's dating? Or, is that a secret? I can't say that I regret being with him, we had a lot in common and I loved him more than I can say. But, my relationship was a BIG SECRET because his divorce wasn't finalized. All said and done, I would do it all over again, but just a little differently.
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