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For the full story on my situation please see my previous posts, Heartbreak and how to get her back, Is it really worth taking her back? My ex is currently "kinda" seeing someone else right now and I was wondering if it was okay for me to do so too. We have been taking a break for about a week and a half right now, and I am showing signs of liking somebody else. I really don't want to get involved with somebody else right now because if my ex wants to get back together at any point, I don't want to hurt the new person I would be with. I don't think it's a bad idea to at least see if there is anything there, and begin to see this person because I have to be able to move on from my ex, but I don't know if right now is the best time. Any advice people can offer would be extremely helpful. Thank you so much.

I am so confused right now. I really have no idea what my ex is/ was thinking about when she wanted space away from me. We were so totally in love (at least I thought), and suddenly it just ended. She said that lately (for a month or so) she was just not as happy with me as she once was. She aslo brought up how she wasn't single for more than 3 months in 3 years and wanted to be on her own for awhile. This was my first heartbreak after my first serious relationship (and she was also my first for everything else), so naturally I did everything wrong in the beginning, I contacted her way too much to the point she said she was starting to get annoyed with me. I also learned from one of her friends that she was kinda seeing somebody else, and she told that friend that she didn't appreciate me calling her friends to get info from them, but I didn't do that they called me and gave me that info, I only asked one friend of ours for it and I realize now that was a mistake. I realize that I screwed up in the beginning of the "space" issue, but I still really miss her. Is there anyway that I can still get her back, will the NC rule still be able to help me at this point? If not what can I do to get her back? Please help me to understand what she is feeling and if there is anyway to get her back. For reference we had been going out for a little over a year, and have been apart for a little over a week. Thanks so much for any help you can give.

Recently my ex decided that we needed to take a break from our relationship, if you want to know more please read my other posts. But recently I have been getting phone calls from at least two of her better friends who said they still wanted to be friends with me, one of them even told me about things that was going on with my ex (stuff that my ex had told her about me and her). My ex then called this friend and lied to her to get info from her, my ex claimed that she had already talked to me about her new guy she was kinda seeing and I said I already knew. That was a lie because I hadn't talked at all because I am trying to respect her space that she wants. My ex then told the friend (I know this because the friend talked to me again) that she was upset that I was calling her friends for info about her, but that's not true the one called me with the intent on telling me these things, I never called any of them for info. Another thing that confused me was that my ex then ran into one of my good friends and told him that she wasn't going to be talking to any of her friends (at least not these two, yes there was another I talked to about her but he called me) because they were suppossed to be her best friends and they were spreading lies about her. She also said that there was no new guy. She then told him that all she really needed with me was time, and he said that she was almost in tears when she told him. I'm just so confused now. On one hand it sounds like she still really cares about me and wants to be back with me......eventually. But then on the other hand it also sounds like she may have been telling the truth about the new guy and was lying to my friend. What exactly is going on here?

I have written two posts on here (Heartbreak and how to get her back, and Is it worth getting her back) and the advide is really helping me. Even though I keep hearing the same advice from people about giving my ex space sometimes it really is difficult. The major thing that I really can't seem to deal with is her being with somebody else. That's what kills me so much, no matter what I do I'm always have this feeling. And when I am doing something that I enjoy to do, most of the time we loved to do that together, and I naturally start to think about her and become depressed. What can I do to stop thinking about her? Also I have gotten all of the great reasons for why she needed space from me, mostly from web sites that give me a better understanding of what she is feeling when she wants space. The day she said to me that she needed space she told me that she was not a happy with me as she was in the beggining and she didn't know why. She also told me that she really had only been single for three months in the past three years (the first relationship lasted one and a half years, the next 8 months and with us a little over a year). With the help of all of you and these other websites I understand why she needed space and the answers to why she is feeling this way, but I don't know if she understands it yet. When we do talk should I bring up these things that I found out or not? Because I really want to help her figure out why she became unhappy with me, that is if she doesn't know that yet. Should I refer her to these websites so she may have a better understanding of what she is going through?

I had posted a message before, Heartbreak and how to get her back, and I have new info to share. I recently found out that my ex is prone to making rash decisions, she will not think them out very much and make a snap judgement. She then later usually regrets that decision. I also learned that she is now "kinda seeing" somebody else right now. It hasn't even been a week since we broke up! She had told me in a past conversation that she wouldn't date anybody else during or down time, but she was going to act like her, meaning having a good time, some flirting, and if she sees somebody it would happen. I understand that, and it's all good and everything but not even a week she is seeing somebody else! She swore before that she wasn't leaving me for anybody, with massive amounts of tears in her eyes. When she decided she needed a break and needed space she cried like I had never seen her cry before. I really have a tough time deciding if she is or ever has been genuine with me. I would take her back in a heartbeat if she wanted to, but right now I am in the state of mind of just calling it quits completely. This guy that she is seeing right now is a friend of a mutual friend of ours, more so her friend than mine, but she never mentioned him to me. When she said she was hanging out with the mutual friends, she never mentioned this guy to me. But now all of a sudden from one of her good friends, I had heard this info ( the snap decisions, the other guy, and how she tends to bounce from guy to guy). The only problem is that this friend is mad at my ex for kind of abandoning her and she has tendancies to exagerate. I don't know who to believe or what to do! I want to just sit and talk with her, but she doesn't want to right now, and is growing increasingly aggetated with me. So I was planning on calling her next week and sitting down and discussing things. I really am planning on just breaking things off completely with her, but this may bring her back to me too, knowing that I don't want her anymore. See part of her problem is she wants what she can't have, according to the info friend. I still really want her back, and if she decided she wanted me again I would do it in a heartbeat. I guess I'm just looking for some advice on the situation.

My girlfriend of a little over one year has recently broken up with me. I should also mention that this was my first longterm relationship along with my first heartbreak. She wants space to be on her own, but i don't know really how to do that. She broke up with me almost a week ago and i have called her 5 times since then. I am not going to call her now for at least a week, and maybe wait until she calls me. She says that she was starting to feel less happy with me and the relationship and wanted some time to be on her own for a while. I realize now how much i had actually changed during the relationship and how she could be less happy with me. At one point we were totally in love, so open-mined and on what i call a "perfect love" moment. We could talk to eachother and not worry about what the other person would think about us, we were so happy. She begged me at that point to never change back, but slowly and surely i did just that. Hence the unhappiness started to set in with her. I learned also that i was taking her for granted more and more. I always thought that she would be there for me, so i didn't take the best steps in keeping the relationship a happy one. The problem is i understand that her space, i'm just worried that it will make her drift furthor away from me instead of bringing her back. She recently told me too that she hasn't really been single for more than three months in the past three years. She says that she thought she gave herself time to heal before she met me, but it really didn't seem that way now. I don't mean to call her all the times that i did, and i don't want to hurt my chances with her anymore, but i think it may be too late for that, call it a hunch. She said that she is getting annoyed a bit with me calling her so much, but she still tells me that she loves me when i say it to her. How long should i be waiting for her? How long should i wait to call her again, and what do i say in order to get her back. I need to show her that i have changed and i can make her happy again, but mine and her problem with that is how does she know that i won't go back again when i already broke that promise to her once? I really want to get her back because she is the love of my life, and i miss her so much. Any advice at all would be greatly be appreciated. I have told her all the things above and how i feel, along with the fact that i still love her, and i want her back so bad. Please help me.