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  1. pineapplegirl
    I have become friends with someone via internet, and I understand why you don't want to come out with the truth...It does lend to some strange glances, considering that the Internet is still a fairly new way for people to meet. I wish I had a better answer for you, but I'll be watching your post to see what is said. I'm interested too.
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    With the exception of re-growth, I agree that shaving is the way to go...
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    ->Thanks to all who posted on my thread. Things are still a little touch and go with me and him. My birthday is coming up in a few weeks, and I'm realizing that I probably won't be having my cake with him. And, I guess that's alright. ->Yes, I'd love to have him with me, and I'd love to think that he'll revert back to the man he was when i first met him. But, in light of all he is going through, it makes sense that he has lost his passion for life, music, art, anything and everything beautiful. All those things we once had in common, but now, I feel like I never knew him. ->As each day passes, and each conversation gets colder, and each interaction becomed less affectionate, I realize that I want to share my life with someone who understands what it is to be in a symbiotic relationship. I don't want to have to be cheering someone up all the time, and he shouldn't have to do that for me. Afterall, that's not exactly a good reason to be in relationship with someone. ->But, I suppose that lends the question what is the reason for being in a relationship? I'm passed the whole puppy love thing...High school ended and so did the fantasy of happily ever after. And now as an adult, I still long for the high that I used to get from a first kiss. Unfortunately, it gets caught in the same league as the ill advised meaningless hook up. ->I didn't make any resolutions this year. I don't think I was ready. But, maybe now I am. Myabe now I resolve to look at love, at life, at me more calmly and just ride the wave wherever it takes me. I'm not giving up, I'm not giving in...I'm letting go, and seeing where I end up... ->Thanks again for those of you that took the time to read and respond...
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    You're right Hope, I'm sure that I'm long over due for a vacation, my cousins keep telling me to come home...but work etc. has me land locked for a while longer...
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    Family originally from Hawaii...Oahu to be exact.
  6. pineapplegirl
    Thanks for the clarification sisterlynch, I certainly don't mind admitting that I have a large part of the blame here. I know that this is a path that I CHOSE, and I will simply have to live with the ramifications of that... But, I guess that's why they say hindsight is 20/20. And while it may have been naive of me 4 years ago to think I could walk away from this whole situation unscathed, I certainly have learned my lesson, and a few that I will never forget... ](*,) Thanks again.
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    Thanks all for your support, I'm tumbling through this one everyday. And I'll get there in time. And, with good support and advice it will make whatever the next step a lot more tolerable. Much Mahalo... CECELIUS: I'm not sure if I understand your question, but it sounds like you might be on to something that open my eyes a little more/maybe even enlightens me...Could you clarify what you're asking, I'd love to know.
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    Hi Sephora, Never had one myself, but from my understanding it's a full wax of the area...As far as where to go to get one, I'd look for a place through a referral from a friend. If the facility you go to isn't clean, I'm guessing you can pick up quite an array of nasty little creatures or some other horrifying thing...Good luck. I'd like to know how it goes. I won't do it, just chicken I guess..
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    applause for the Bored Guy... =D> I like the guys to be trimmed. Just tidy, neat, and clean. I would be overwhelmingly surprised if he waxed. Au natural doesn't go over too well, as men are pretty well endowed with fuzz in the nether regions... As for myself, I'm a shave it all and bear/bare it sorta girl.
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    Ladies: Do you shave or wax the "southern region" and if so, do you shave/wax completely bare or what? Or do you go "au naturale"? Guys: What's your preference for the southern region? **Extra credit for the guys: Do you shave/wax???
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    I feel like a hypocrite posting on your thread, given the situation I'm in. But, I want to express to you that your situation is difficult, and whether or not you believe it, you didn't do anything to create this. While it's true you may second guess yourself as a husband, you did not force her to cheat on you. She did that of her own volition. I wish you luck, I wish you the best.
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    Hi Rock, You want your life to change...you want to be happier. And it sounds like school is the foundation of your unhappiness. What is it about school that makes you so unhappy? Is it that the other kids are mean to you or tease you? Is it something more than that? Based upon what you said that you've cried for the past 2-3 years what you endure at school must be pretty bad. What is it exactly that makes you cry? Facing high school is tough, and I'm certain that it hasn't gotten any easier since I was in high school. I wish you luck.
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    All of the above my friend, all of the above. I have never been to a therapist (although, I'm certain that I'm long overdue for one), but being in the healthcare field, I know many of them... One of the things that they do say about seeing clients is that many clients seek help without helping themselves...They are therapists, not magicians, so keep in mind that it will take a tremendous effort on your part to help get you to the answers you need. Good luck.
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    I think it's that I'm getting tired of trying to figure out how all of this is going to end up... And if it is really worth the struggle, the fight, the adversity and the obstacles. If I could choose to fall in love with a man who is totally available and that I get along with etc., I would pick that over this any day. But, I took the wrong path, so to speak, four years ago. I can't just erase how I feel, but God how I wish I could...It's making me very tired.
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    I agree with the above posts...Get yourself out of this situation and get out as soon as you can. Nothing will make him better in any short amount of time...and the fact that you have kids indicates to me that you owe it to them to give them a better life than an abusive dad... Leave while you can, or am I the only one who followed the Scott Peterson trial...
  16. pineapplegirl
    I think your answer lies in that comment. Life is too short to not feel a love that encompasses you. But, I'd say GO SLOW!!! You do not want to ruin your marriage for a short lived fling... Best of luck.
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    You mentioned that you are 20, out of curiosity how old is he?
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    =D> TRULY EXCELLENT POST... =D>
  19. pineapplegirl
    I'm sorry that you're hurting right now. And the situation that you're in feels heartbreaking...I've been there. What initiated the break up? And how has he been treating you badly? ->I think that if you feel like you're being treated badly and he knows how you feel AND doesn't do anything to be better to you then you are justified in walking away. ->With regards to your parents, I wouldn't worry about that. They love you unconditionally. You'd feel even more embarrassed if you had moved in with your bf and ended up having to move back in with them if the relationship failed. ->As for giving up your whole life for this guy, know that you don't have to be his doormat to show him that you love him. Especially regarding your education. Trust me, guys will come and go, but your intelligent mind is yours forever, and yours alone. ->>Remember that when the heart breaks, it mends to be even stronger. I wish you the best, and stay in school please.
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    Thanks for a posting that doesn't mimic ANY of the other threads I've seen on the site... ->Okay, I agree the situation is a little creepy, as the above readers have noted. ->But, I believe that you can't pick who you fall in love with. And, your relationship will have its own unique complications. ->Bits to chomp on: If her father is unaccepting of the relationship, how will that affect her? And you? Is she strong enough to buck the tide and be with you in the face of Dad's disapproval? Is your LDR with her strong enough to hold on through the face of adversity, a kind of adversity that no other relationship sees? In any case, good luck...
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    Agreed with all the above posts...Wow.
  22. pineapplegirl
    Thanks to all of you who posted: Muneca: As always, pearls of wisdom I receive from you. I would not want him to think I'm bailing out, especially so close to the end of the divorce...But, I wonder if I get out of the water now, instead of say a year from now, maybe I'll be doing something for myself...? Hope: Thanks for making me think. I'll check out your thread. Fantasia: In the long run, I hope I don't make the wrong decision. Sisterlynch: Amazingly, there is still passion, but I think now that the divorce is coming to a close, I'm wondering if there's anything else other than passion... Moon: He has leaned on me in the past 4 years, and still does in the midst of his divorce. I like to be able to help, if not just by listening to him and providing some feedback for him. Going public would be a venture that I'm not certain I can even fathom right now, and when the divorce is said and done...who knows, maybe he or I will be ready to "out" the relationship, but until then, in the closet it stays... I like the question of "How do he and I build a solid relationship...?" I wonder if that is possible. I know that I will undoubtedly have demons in my head about how the relationship began, I don't know how I will fight those demons. Our tacit relationship has made me question a lot about him, about me, about relationships and marriages. Our chemistry is still there, so is the passion, but I guess I just don't know if it's worth me holding on, if it's worth the struggle, if it's worth the fight... Thank you again.
  23. pineapplegirl
    Hi again Muneca, To answer your question: he is unhappy and wants out of his marriage. Any thoughts in light of that?
  24. pineapplegirl
    Quit cold turkey??? What would you propose?
  25. pineapplegirl
    Thank you for being candid. I appreciate your feedback. And, yes, it has been very exhausting keeping it from everyone...
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