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  1. pineapplegirl
    >10 years older than you ... and I still trip out on the same thing(graduate school) 8) >Which is to say that I remember wondering if the whole "lots of little spiral notebooks" or a "big huge binder" issue was a HUGE DEAL! And, it really does make a difference when you study. For me, I can focus a lot more easily on what i'm studying if I'm organized. >For me: I switch back and forth a lot. I like the idea of being able to have one notebook for one subject... But I also like the versatility of having a big binder that can hold loose papers (3 hole punch in binder is a MUST HAVE with that system) >TRY BOTH and don't think you're weird. My friends and I (literally all in grad school/med school/law school) still have the same damn issue. >Good luck, and try not to lose the important papers...
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    Okay, something a little trickier... >For the guys: If the girl orders something at dinner that is more than you thought you'd pay for, what do you do? >For the girls: Do you pick what you want on the menu, or do you pick something that is maybe not what you want, but is very affordable? >FYI: When I go out, I like to GO ALL OUT. I usually end up throwing in some $$$ to make up for my extravagant eating/drinking ...that is if I'm going out with a guy that isn't "doing well for himself" (read: balling out of control with money-which is not important, but makes a difference when the bill comes, I think) >Keep the answers coming y'all. I've wondered what people think the etiquette is on this topic... >Thanks to all who've responded...
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    >Good indication that it's time for a break. The little things that we accept about someone in the beginning become the things that we resent later. >You may break his heart, and at some point someone else may break your...it's a part of life and love. You can hope that when his heart heals it is stronger.
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    >What makes him attractive at first glance??? >Well, not to sound like the guys who posted to the question about what makes women attractive, but DEFINITELY GOOD LOOKS. >The shy type doesn't do it for me, and the "life of the party with a lamp shade on his head" doesn't really do it for me either. >I would take notice of the guy that is: ->looking confident and not arrogant, ->not surrounded by females but not looking afraid of them either, ->not the guy who feels the need to tell everyone he graduated from an Ivy league school but the guy who is able to hold an intelligent conversation, ->not the guy who spent more money on his outfit than I do on my rent, ->definitely not the guy who is asking every woman at the event for her number, ->not the guy who looks at the ground when I look at him but the guy who gives a GENUINE smile when I look over, ->not the guy who is bragging about the new modification on his car but the guy who is knowledgeable about the environmental impact of nitrous on cars, and of course now that I know better, ->NOT THE GUY WITH THE WEDDING RING ON!!! >Geez...I guess I'm a little more picky than I thought I was. #-o >Again, good question...Thanks for making me think.
  5. pineapplegirl
    >Wow, overwhelmingly unanimours responses still! Keep the answers coming...
  6. pineapplegirl
    >Good answer... And I agree.
  7. pineapplegirl
    Okay guys and girls... Just a little poll Who is supposed to pay on a date and why? I mean on a DATE! I don't mean in a relationship...I mean the first, second, third date etc...
  8. pineapplegirl
    >I have done that before. It's kind of like the saying, "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas." If you're okay with a "hook up", then I don't see any harm in that.
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    >If a man stands his ground he is called "assertive", if a woman does the same thing she is a "bi%&h". If a man sleeps with a woman on the first date, he is a "stud", if a woman does it she's a "gardening tool"... >While men believe that "women" define sexual patterns in our society, men are also typically the first to judge and label women. Unfamiliar with the idea, read a little of Walt Whitman-the ideas have been around for A LONG TIME. >Our patriarchal society is a little confusing, and more so frustrating. Come on. Let's face it, sex is enjoyable (for most of us anyway). And, if a woman is condemned for enjoying sex and her sexuality then all you perpetuate is that woman are somehow not entitled to the same joys of life that men are, because truthfully women can have sex and walk away just as fast. In fact, the woman can walk away faster since she doesn't have to dispose of the condom!...But, given that, then maybe men should start sleeping with each other more, and quit labeling women... >Keep in mind, I'm not advocating promiscuity, I'm simply advocating a more level playing field where women should not be judged by the actions that men are applauded for...
  10. pineapplegirl
    >FOLLOW YOUR HEART, and forget about the ideas that are imposed on you by society...
  11. pineapplegirl
    >Hey all: Just wanted to express my thanks and appreciation to everyone who read my post. It's NOT something I'm proud of, but it is something I learned from, and I hope some of you did too... aloha
  12. pineapplegirl
    >After this long, it seems like for you to tell the truth would result in a couple of things: You get to clean up your guilty conscience. You get to hurt your wife. You get to come clean about something that has been bothering you for seven years. I think you need to weigh out what is important to you...It sounds like you have a lot of remorse about the affair, and that you still love your wife. It sounds like you are happy with her. But, it also sounds like you're uncertain if she could forgive you for having an affair. If your goal is simply to clean up your conscience then you might want to think twice about telling her. If you need to come clean, in hopes that she will love you even though she knows the worst thing about you, then maybe you should tell her. What's your motivation for needing to disclose the truth this many years later?
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    >Thanks eltee. Judgements on women that are "mistresses" are really easy to make. And so is saying, "I would never get involved with someone that is already married/in a relationship". You are exactly right in your above quote. But, I think sometimes people forget how strong the heart really is. And, how more often than not, it is stronger than the mind. That's why people ask if you know things "by heart"(ie a phone number memorized by heart), and not if you know things "by mind". Anyone that thinks for one second that I opted to be in this relationship has no idea what it feels like. I would never have CHOSEN to feel the way I do about this man. The trade off of pain is simply not worth it, and anyone who thinks that b/c I fell in love with this man that I "deserve" the pain has never walked a day in my shoes...and it sounds like they've never walked a day in yours either. We both deserve more... Take care of you and PM me if you need to vent too...
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    Sage: When you weigh out what you want to do with your wife/kids and what you want to do about your "friend", please take into account that you only live once...While other readers have been explicitly clear that they think this girl is playing you, I can only offer my perspective, having been in your "friend"s position. I wanted nothing more than to make the man that I was with happy. I was patient, and irrespective of how things turned out (he is getting divorced), that is all I still want for him. Whether or not him being happy is with me is still yet to be seen. And, just FYI, I started seeing him when I had just turned 23. I'm neither stupid, or naive, and I knew exactly what I was getting into. I am in a well respected field. I did not play this man for money, or gifts or anything. I had genuine and legitimate feelings for him, and I still do! Whether or not this girl is "plotting" to see if you'll divorce your wife for you to be with her is something that only you can determine. While I am sympathetic to the other readers' opinions, you are still the only one that can judge her CHARACTER, and whether or not she's playing you for a fool...Take care of yourself...
  15. pineapplegirl
    Thanks Sage. PM me if anything develops either way. It's funny the things we settle for isn't it???
  16. pineapplegirl
    16-in high school...Oh how I wish I could go back to then...
  17. pineapplegirl
    >That would work if the woman was really just into it for SEX, but some women confuse sex with love... I see your point though. >In what world does that happen???
  18. pineapplegirl
    I agree with fede21us. Caution: dating your ex-b/f's best friend may create a rift between them...
  19. pineapplegirl
    BEing forward and simple is a good plan. Stick with it. As far as asking her at school or after...play it by ear and di it when it feels right.
  20. pineapplegirl
    Hi Tea: >I've been the other woman. >I've been told to further my education and career, and yet told not to build my life around his... >I've been cheated on...lied too...etc. >I have issues with trust and commitment because of my actions and because how I let others actions affect me. >Peter Gabriel said : "I get so tired working so hard for our survival, I look to the time with you to keep me awake and alive. And all my instincts they return...without a noise, without my pride, I reach out from the inside." (In your Eyes) I gave up a few weeks ago on trying to make my relationship with my ex work. We still talk (it's a bad circumstance-I was the other woman). But, I have slowly been reclaiming me, and for the first time in three years I can look at myself in the mirror and not hate who I see. I am happy being alone now. I finally figured out that I don't have to be someone's personal dumpster to show that I love them. I'm happier alone, than I ever was with the married guy. I like the solitude, and because of good friends, good family and a lot of new hobbies, I don't ever feel lonely, but I do like being alone. I appreciate it now more than I ever did...
  21. pineapplegirl
    >Is it just me, or are we still living with the double standard that a girl that "gives it up" on the first date is a "gardening tool", but a guy that wants it on a first date (or gets it on a first date) is a stud? >I'm tired of the standards set up by this puritannical society. If a woman is horny, she should be able to hook up and walk away the way men do right? ](*,) >I guess I'll never understand. I hope more guys post on this one. I'm still interested to find out...
  22. pineapplegirl
    Time has passed, and while you're freaking out about the imminent encounter, she may not be. Or, conversely, if she is, you'll probably be better off just kind of playing it off as nothing. The first few interactions are bound to be awkward, but that will dimish in no time...Good Luck
  23. pineapplegirl
    As an update on my situation: I got a new job offer on Thursday which is a better job, better benefits, better pay and more healthy environment...See, it is possible...
  24. pineapplegirl
    GUYS, please answer this one...I'm interested in knowing too!
  25. pineapplegirl
    Sage, >i'm not sure what you mean by this. Please clarify...
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