SuperDave71

Vimora...Hey there and welcome to my challenge. May I ask what happened?Your in good hands...I am sorry you are feeling down....we can help you!-SuperDave71

I say...everyone that COMPLETES the challange successfully owes me DINNER!! WOO HOOO HA HA HA HA....well it sounded like a great idea. *sigh* I will crawl back under my rock until I am needed again. -SuperDave71

I was just teasing ya EB. -SuperDave71

ok ok ok ... gah leee....ebsmith always gangin up pn me... *sigh* he he he KIDIDNG!! I will watch it tonight....and let ya know. -SuperDave71

Final, You must remember.... 2 wrongs don't make a right. Be man enough to let her know you neglected her....on purpose or not...you did. If you want to see or date other people..DO IT...if not...love her enough to let her get on with her life and NOT worry about you going out with friends or dating. Regardless, just be honest with yourself. If you get back with her, and you do it again....she will NEVER forgive you. If you are a worm..be a worm....if you are a man...BE A MAN and learn from your mistakes. Don't use her as a safety net. You go out with yoru friends..she a great looking girl and you want to pursue her...she doesn't give you the time of day and you RUN back to your ex.....Oh joy! You love and respect her sooo much that you make her PLAN "B" or "C" or "D" even. Nice. Put yourself in her shoes. How would it make you feel? Thank about it... **Remember..TALK IS CHEAP....actions speak louder than words SuperDave71

My girl has been bothering me to watch "The Secret" as well. She said it will 'change my life'. I will watch it tonight. The Laws of Attraction are NOTHING new. I am a very positive thinker. I haven't always been but my breakup cause me to reprogram my way of thinking. Why be negative? In the way of science...to negatives repel each other. All magnets have at least one north pole (reckoned positive) and at least one south pole (reckoned negative), and the net pole strength of every magnet is zeroAll magnets have at least one north pole (reckoned positive) and at least one south pole (reckoned negative), and the net pole strength of every magnet is zero. My point is simple...it's NOT A SECRET. ha ha If you promote negativity...you will attract negativity. Example: You sit in a bar or pub and complain about your job or relationship. If you are alone and meet someone...9 times out of 10 they will join you in yoru negative talk. Even friends would join you in such a conversation. Misery loves company. The news is FILLED with negativity. Then finally the last 30 seconds is the "feel good story"...UGH!! If we coudl learn to change our way of thinking to the glasss is half full, maybe we could start to appreciate what we DO have and be thankful. Smile and thankk God your alive. Be thankful for what you have, love and know. Life is short...Make the best of it! Live, Love, learn and share your knowledge.. Your friend, SuperDave71

Finalcloud13, I am going to tell you straight my friend. GROW UP! You playing games (lying to her and hanging out with your friends until she left you) is not the answer. You are trying to just "get her back". On a more mature level, love has no bounds. From my understanding...you are using her as an object just to have instead of love. I know you are in high school. God bless ya man..but if you don;t start treating people (women) with the utmost respect and assuming they will love you no matter what, you will be in for a harsh reality. People have feelings. What you have done is ASSUMED she will be there when you are out having fun and NOT THINKING OR CALLING HER. Now that she is gone, you don't like it. There is an old expression that says: "What's good for the goose is good for the gander".. What it means is....whatever you can do..she can do... The fact is...she didn;t like it...and you don't like it. You feelings for her are very shallow. I am NOT trying to be harsh here. I am a no nonsense kinda guy. Ya don't konw what you've got until it's gone... She's gone....the day you try to get her back...and not appreciate her..is the day you write another post looking for advice yo ualready know the answer to. It's one thing to love someone unconditionally but another thing to have a relationship according to hen YOU say you want one. You are a perfect example of my "Toy box" theory. You pull her out to play with her when YOU want to...but when your done...you put her back regardless of HER feelings. Let this sink in a bit and try BEING HONEST not only with her...BUT WITH YOURSELF. Think about it... SuperDave71

I say they feel with their hands and toes... Just a hunch... -SuperDave71

Ya know..I know I am not a lady... But it would be like loving your pet Dog....they love you unconditionaly but they have trouble keeping the conversation going. I do however agree with RayKay on this one.... SuperDave71

KATE111, Don't make me fly to England and duct tape you down to the floor!!! NC is for you!! STOP wasting your thoughts on visions of him. You must LET GO!!!! Ya have to sweetness.....We are all here to catch you when ya finally do We care about you and want you to heal.... Stay strong! -SuperDave71

hol234, What hapened? -SuperDave71

Thankfully my head is stronger than my heart. GLAD TO HEAR THAT DRUMMER!!!!! PERFECT attitude!!! -SuperDave71

GRAB THE DUCT TAPE SOMEBODY!!!!! TAPE RUSLOI DOWN!!!!! -SuperDave71

Shaker, You, my friend, have come full circle. I watched you struggle with no one BUT yourself. I am soooooo soooooo proud of you, not only becaus eyou finally completed the challenge BUT YOU LEARNED FROM IT. It is one thing to complete 30 days...but its another to LEARN from it. You stuck with it...you hung in there...NOT ONLY ONCE...NOT TWICE...ut 3 times... Do you realize how amazing that is to me? You have demonstrated over and over again how serious you are with completing this challege. To all of those out there that are hurting....SHAKER IS NOW A ROLE MODEL TO YOU ALL! If anyone was to ever doubt your self motivation, spirit, positive energy and love not only for your fellow man, but for yourself....I would call them a liar. There is still much work to be done shaker. Please not only practice what you preach...share you knowledge with those who were once in your shoes. From the bottom of my heart....thank you. Thank you so much for hanging in there... May your days of new found self love set yoru spirit free to fly as high as you want to go... Much MUCH love to you, SuperDave71

Nooooo problem ahhh2jz. My pleasure. SuperDave71 PS. Glad you are doing better today

Hey Oatmeal.... Don't worry about that...the newness wears off and reality has a nice way of showing people what they REALLY look like in the morning and how bad their breath stinks! ha ha You are going to be just fine! and T.J. that sounds like ONS of fun!! I hope you have a great time!!! Congrats! -SuperDave71

STAY AWAY FROM MYSPACE!!!!!! I HATE MYSPACE! ha ha ha -SuperDave71

HA HA HA... You guys need to get a little Sponge Bob and put it in your Bathroom so you can feel good all day! KIDDING!!!!! Again, you uys thank you so much for your kind words. Your friend, SuperDave71

THAT IS INCREDIBLE NEWS!!!!!! I AM SOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH!!! Thank you for hanging in there and I wish you both alllllll thehapiness and love you both deserve with one another. Your friend, SuperDave71

insecure, Hey man! Sit down...grab ya cool drink and sit back. Put on some of your favorite music and relax. Everything is going to be ok and I am going to tell you why. I feel your pain and all I can say, just like the endless supply of caring people on this forum, we ALL CARE. Things are a bit out of control in your life and you are making alot of assumptions based on your feelings that what you really know as fact. Your wife issue....this is hard. You have GOT TO STOP BLAMING and start DOING. How in the world can you accpet that suicide is the answer when you have gone to counseling and it didn't solve your problem. The fact in that statement is YOU HAVE TO CHANGE WHAT YOU WANT. The counseling is for you TO MAKE THE NECESSARY changes. I am NOT trying to simplfy yoru situation. You are validated. I don't want you to go anywhere and certainly NOT YOUR SON. I couldn't imagine not knowing my father!!! Think of someone else man. To your little man...you are EVERYTHING. He needs you not only for food, shelter and protection..he needs you for guidance...confidence...manly talk about sex and how to deal with growing up. To be perfectly honest...you selfish man! DAYUM SELFISH! Sure your situation is hopeless in your eyes...WAKE UP and realize that we ALL have bad days...we all have those weeks or months we "wanna die" but figuratively speaking. You need to look within yourself and find who you want to be and GO GET IT! Only you can make those changes. If you expect everyone to change to please you...you are sadly mistaken. You need to do some serious soul searching and find the coping skills, professionally advised or inner strength....and not deal with it...YOU FIX IT! You can do anything you wanna do my friend! ANYTHING YOU WANT!!! You would rather give up...throw in the towel so you can "end it" and be done with it. I cannot tell you how much you do matter. From a friend in Memphis, TN...YOU MATTER SOOOOO MUCH TO SOOOO MANY PEOPLE ya can't even see it! Your son...go pick him up and hold him. Look into those little eyes and tell him you love him...you tell that special little biy that DADDY IS NOT A QUITTER! DADDY IS STRONG and is having a tough time right now but you are that child ROCK! Do you think for one moment that your sone woudl EVER STOP LOVING YOU?? LOOK AT HIM FOR GOODNESS SAKE! Look at those eye and tell me that he would GIVE UP ON YOU!?? YA CAN'T !!! YA CAN'T because he loves you unconditionally! YOU HAVE ALLL THE LOVE YOU NEED fromo someone...but you need to FIND THE SELF LOVE and RESPECT you threw out the window weeks...months or years ago. Don't blame your wife. You thank God everyday you have what you have..NOT the pain but your blessings! You get up every morning and God give you a ife everyday...called "A NEW DAY".... You can start you LIFE OVER ANY DAY YOU CHOOSE without ending it. You need to get off your "Dark and Gloomy" and find some ineer strength and start saying "I CAN".. YOU CAN !!! YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YA WANT....without ending you life. You were given the gift of life by God and you need to let HIM take I away...NOT YOU. You child is your rock. He is your mind, body and soul. He is of your loins and he needs and loves his daddy more than some of us adults out here without children will ever know. If you child could talk....if he could sit is daddy down and say...Why are you sad daddy? and ya told him...do you think he would say...then end it daddy. HELL NO! HE WOULD PUT HIS ARMS AROUND YOU AND YOU WOULD FEEL MORE LOVE FROM YOU CHILD IN THAT HUGE THAN YOU COULD EVER KNOW. A mother years ago, after her husband walked out on her and their child had her 3 year old son...ask his mother ..Why are you so sad mommy? She said, "Daddy doesn't love me anymore?" The child replied...."I will love you double mommy!" I am soooooo sorry for your pain...If I could lift your burden I would. I would carry your cross. I would be there for you if I could but I am there in spirit. I am there with you and if you need me...or any of the wonderful people here at eNotalone...we are here. YOU CAN SO THIS...WE CAN GETH THROUGH THIS TOGETHER.. All you have to do is ask....PM me if you need to. Hell ...find me on the web...ya wanna talk...Let's talk... I am here....FIND YOU AGAIN....BE DADDY....if your wife doesn't love you...and wants out...do it IF IT MAKES IT EASIER ON YOU. DON'T BE AFRAID TO LIVE AND LOVE!!! We are here for you!! WE ALL CARE..... You son loves you sooooo much. I would give anything to be you right now.... You have what so many of us want.....and I know in my heart that I would go thru HELL and back for my family... Why you ask? Because I am a do'er ..NOT A TALKER and they desever NO LESS. STAND UP STRAIGHT...lift your chin up....take a deep breath and GET TO MAKING YOUR LIFE BRAND NEW AGAIN. You are NOT ALONE!!!! MUCH LOVE MAN! Your Friend, SuperDave71

Well depression is REPRESSED anger! Congrats on your um...er...Glad you can finally get mad...um...er...wait a sec... Hope you throw her picture accross the ....no wait a sec....Um... hmmm ok ok ....Um...congrats? BTW...anger is a GOOD sign. Use it wisely! -SuperDave71

Longhair, We are so proud of you! I wish you the best NO MATTER WHACHA DO! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Your Friend, SuperDave71

You guys are more than welcome!! This was a bit of a shock for me!! I didn't even see this post until today! I know things are difficult for some of you right now but I promise you...things will get better...MUCH BETTER. Be strong....Be true to yourself and most of all... **Remember** of all things....love and respect yourself the most! Thank you guys sooo much! You are all appreciated! SuperDave71

Um...I have to say it's awsome.... I do agree that it is difficult to do...but as far as how things turned out.... it was for the best. -SuperDave71

Just remember... Ya can't change her mind....you can only change yours. I wish you well. Your Friend, SuperDave71