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  1. kate111
    You are doing well. Day 1 I was wailing uncontrollably on the floor.
  2. kate111
    Day 22. Still feel like crap.
  3. kate111
    This is so much more mature than my suggestion. That is what I would doo as well.
  4. kate111
    Hmmm. Not sure. Personally I am taking the "not worth your anger" route. But I'm sure others do things differently. I would probably totally ignore him and he can sort it out himself. Write "not at this address" on the letters and put back in the mail. Vent to friends. Let your revenge be to never see him ever again. It is beneath your dignity.
  5. kate111
    To be honest I think that I am friends with exes whom I had things in common and that respected me or else I was capable of forgiving them. I think being in contact with a recent ex is giving them the comfort of knowing you are still around. That they can go back at any time. Also I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't contact you after they found a new lover. Then the hurt will come again. Better to consider them a loser, even if temporarily, and move on. Easier said than done... In terms of your new boyfriend. Could be a good or a bad sign. Depends if he is stringing them along or if things are over. I'd be a little suspicious if you don't know him well.
  6. kate111
    They feel guilt. A way to get rid of guilt is to talk about something. Not sure if it cures it properly.
  7. kate111
    Remove yoourself as much as you can Anna. The ex dumped you. You need to establish a life on your own. If you let the ex be your friend right away in my opinion you are letting them have their cake and eat it too. If they don't miss you then unfortunately you should let them go I think. At least I have decided that if he doesn't call me and fight for a friendship in time, then he didn't care for me enough.
  8. kate111
    Oh harsh. Mine also apologised for being mean and I said I didn't notice! Only later on reflection did I notice.
  9. kate111
    But nobody cnsiders themselves "the lowest common denominator" do they?
  10. kate111
    Yes I agree Anna. Patronising even.
  11. kate111
    I agree with Caro 100%.
  12. kate111
    Oh and I had an ex keep texting me every so often. Not an apology as such, not sure if it was out of guilt. I think it was his version of an apology.
  13. kate111
    I apologised to an ex I dumped. I realised the pain I must have caused him and apologised. It took a horrible break up myself to make me realise. This was 5 years later by the way.
  14. kate111
    Woah weird. It soounds like he has some serious isues though. Maybe he has some kind of personality disorder. Can you tell him to get help, gently, before you go out together? Or work these problems together BEFORE you become involved again.
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    Is it best to call the ex and talk directly to them about financial matters or is an indirect method such as email better? We still have some matters to work out unfortunately, but due to work commitments I cannot sort them out for another few weeks. So I am leaving it until then. But when I can do it, how should I do it? Also should I try to get all I can financially or be a doormat until the end? I'm scared if I insist on getting my way he will tell everyone my secrets... that's irrational isn't it? It's just really hard when someone goes from bestfriend to someone else.
  16. kate111
    Thanks Superdave. You make me feel better. I need to contact mine at some point to discuss the apartment. Is it best to phone or email?
  17. kate111
    21 days It hurts so much that he hasn't contacted me.
  18. kate111
    I think you have to suppose that what he is doing to this other girl he did to you. Unfortunately. Perhaps I am jaded by my own experiences, but the stuff my ex did to others he ended up doing to me. Running away from things suddenly, taking off when the going got tough. He had done it to others but never thought he'd do it to me. You have to ask yourself what he is saying about you if he is saying all that bad stuff about the other girl. Don't get angry at him though. Or else blow up and then do no contact.
  19. kate111
    Thank you for that. Please go on and on all you want. Does this list make anyone else feel slightly better? I suppose it is good to look on the bright side.
  20. kate111
    I'm TRYING to believe these things. Thank you for pointing them out.
  21. kate111
    I always walked around the house nude when my ex was there.
  22. kate111
    ergh. Gross. Just my personal opinion.
  23. kate111
    Not having to hang out and be nice to their annoying friends. More time to read. The incentive to get your life together and be successful- if only for revenge. Hey! Revenge is a very motivating force. Knowing you were the one who had the quality of commitment.
  24. kate111
    The challenge is 30 days? What happens after that?
  25. kate111
    Don't go there.
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