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  1. kate111
    Don't do it!! I was feeling fine yesterday until I received an email from him in response to one I sent him. Then last niht the insomnia and self doubt thoughts set back in. You will not find out anything new, it will set back your process and you will feel crappy.
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    I felt fine this morning. Positive even. His email made me regress. He is saying all this "nice" stuff. It doesn't make it easier.
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    Another NC question: If they never call you do you never call them ever again? Is that the rule?
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    Does it help to see things from their perspective though? I mean, he didn't think about you in all this so why should you think about him? If the problem is only commitment and he is 34 then it DOES seem to me he has emotional problems.
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    I did look at my ex everyday and think he was special. Truly I did. I'm a romantic sucker. It's actually only now that I can appreciate some of the things about him that never bothered me when we were going out but I can see are a bit incompatible.
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    It's just so sad. How can people throw away years of history?
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    Thanks Pisces. Do you really think we build them up in our minds as so attractive and having people throw themselves at them when it isn't true? Do you start to see their faults and fall out of love with them in time?
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    Oh Rosie. You put such a lot of thought and helpful advice into that post. Thank you very much. You are right, I shall not contact apart from what is necessary (unfortunately there is some necessary contact). Oh and NO I do not want to be his friend. No way! All the way or nothing for me.
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    Starting to think I should not respond. I'm afraid this will make me look hurt or angry though. I am rather fond of the silent treatment when it comes to people and he knows it. Will I look more pathetic if I don't respond to his message?
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    Thanks for your advice. I DO NOT want to be friends with him. No way. I feel insulted he asked. I haven't emailed him and shall not do so. No contact for me I think
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    So what happens when they contact you via email and write stuff about the relationship? What do you do? Do you reply? He wants to be friends in time? Do I reply? To tell you the trut I don't really want to as I KNOW contact sets me back. But it may be rude or perhaps I will come accross as angry. Opinions?
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    My ex emailed me in relation to a financial matter. He also said sorry for hurting me but he wants to be free etc and thinks I'm a great person. He wants us to be friends in time. What do I do? Just leave it? What does it all mean?
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    ^ you say marriage is forever. What happens if your partner changes and becomes abusive or cheats on you?
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    Help

    kate111 replied to Radiohead's topic in Breaking Up Advice

    My guess is that she still cares for you but at 17 she can't commit to one person. Unfortunately. I would do no contact for awhile. If she truly loves you she will come back.
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    Nothing like a new girl to take the mnd off the old girl! I'd take it slow and be honest with this girl. You don't need to go on and on about it, but tell her you are still hurting and want to take things slow. Then don't commit but see what feelings develop. Make sure you take time to evaluate your life and change it for the better to avoid making the same mistakes in this relationship.
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    I agree.
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    I cheated a few times when I was young. I had problems with alcohol and would get myself into bad situations. I also didn't think it was THAT bad a thing to do. Then a partner found out and I felt very sorry for what I had done. Then I fell in love and had it done to me.... it was really painful. I learned why it is s bad. I haven't done it since. So you can learn your lesson, but you have to change your morals first.
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    I think you should let her know and accept it or else just don't mention it. Sure she is lying but I'm sure it isn't anything personal. Perhaps she thinks you wouldn't understand. Seems she is right. Personally it wouldn't disgust me. How does working as a prostitute make her less of a person or change your friendship?
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    Hmm yes the friends are probably covering for him. Nice.
  20. kate111
    Ahhhhh. Get away from this man. You have to wonder what else he is hiding. Unless you are fine with an open relationship this is going to make you unhappy.
  21. kate111
    Thank you. This isn't a clear cut case. It wouldn't be about punishing him but about putting me into a better position financially. I have a moral right to the money but he probably doesn't think so. He probably thinks he can walk away and it is not his responsibility now. What do you think?
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    Personally I think lip waxes can hurt more than brazillians. It really isn't THAT painful for me. I'd rather a wax than the dentist anyway.
  23. kate111
    I'm not in shock anymore. Ruminating about financial matters. Argh it sucks when you are tied together like that.
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    I would be asking for more than may be custom. But this would mean that I have a grip on things. I would be in a much better position. But he will be in the poo a bit. Not too badly but it would take him a while to recover. It is my family who will have to shoulder this financial burden otherwise.
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    Legally I could demand whatever I want because we entered financially agreements together. What I would be asking for would put me in a much more comfortable position. I would be given longer to find a new place to live and there would be less of a burden on family. He planned his getaway and left me in the poo. This would get me out of the poo.
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