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  1. kate111
    Thanks, yes true. I agree. Pick what up?
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    He contacted me saying he hopes I'm ok and that it has been a difficult time for him. Also asking when I'm going to pick up my stuff. I haven't picked it up because I'm working abroad. What does it mean and what do I do?
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    Day 15. Feeling so so. Could be worse could be better. Two days ago was terrible. My anxiety levels were through the roof. I wish he would want me back.
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    Thanks very much Jobelle. It seems like we are similar in some ways. Of course you are right about the 8 years. It's 8 and a half actually. I agree with you about the timeline. I would take him back but only if he convinced me this is something he wanted after thinking about it. IN the past he always said it was something he wanted but he was quite vague about it. At first when I broke up he tried to convince me out of it and made more vague attempts at planning children or a way to be together. Yet he wasn't stopping me from taking a job abroad. Then when I broke up he seemed rather too resigned to it. I tried to back track at one point and he didn't want me to. Today I was plagued with the thought that perhaps he was just with me because he was too guilty to break up. It's such an awful thought. I think it's day 11 today. I'm on day 2 of my gym regime. Feeling pretty crummy. Still check email etc a million times a day hoping.
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    Thanks Jobelle. I can't deny that I hope he comes to his senses and begs me back. He has always said he wants marriage and children, just not now. So perhaps there is some hope of him changing his mind once he loses me. My fear now is that I pushed him away by saying it was over, it's too late, I'm moving on etc. Perhaps I should have said I was moving on and if he changes his mind give me a call. My pride would not let me do that. But now I'm being plagued with what ifs.
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    Day 9. He still occupies about 90% of my thoughts. I wish he would call and keep checking my phone and email. Yet when he called I ignored it. Maybe I should have called him back. This is awful. When does it get better?
  7. kate111
    Day 7. Feel like death. In denial.
  8. kate111
    Superdave: What do you think about the fact that my ex contacted me to say Happy birthday, but I did not reply?
  9. kate111
    Haha. I like your last line about the tile floor. Very useful info thanks!
  10. kate111
    I'm sure I will have my ups and downs. But on the whole I feel fine. If I can get through this then anyone can.
  11. kate111
    Can I just say that no contact works. Do not contact them. Out of sight IS out of mind. Better to totally cut them off and start anew. I am very happy with life at the moment.
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    Ok update on my situation. It has now been almost 4 months. Wow. No contact since a few days after the split apart from contacts dividing assets, belongings etc. I am dating someone new. My ex knows about it through a mutual friend. He said he "misses me" but has not made any contact.
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    Alright so can a guy be too old? Mine is late 30s.
  14. kate111
    I feel good. I am going on 3 months. I have a love interest and am having fun.
  15. kate111
    It has been about 40 days. I have a new lover. I'm not interested in a relationship but it is taking my mind off the ex. I shall have to make sure I prevent anyone getting hurt in this.
  16. kate111
    It's been 2 months. Starting to think it may be a long time before I hear from the ex.
  17. kate111
    2 months. I moved house. Was extremely sad to be closing the door of our life together shut. But now feel good that I am in a new environment with new things to discover. A new era on my own.
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    Ok then I will. Even though I am not feeling anything for him because it is too early. I hope that isn't too mean. Oh well, I DID let him know the state I am in and shall not mislead him.
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    About 2 months. Went out to a couple of parties with friends. Had a good time, although often felt sad. I felt so old and out of the loop party wise. I've been part of a couple so long that I have forgotten how to play the single life. Met this guy (friend of a friend) quite cute, but felt no chemistry. He asked for my number and I agave it to him figuring I SHOULD get out and date, not because I want to. Bad idea or good?
  20. kate111
    I wonder what is happening with Shaker.
  21. kate111
    I never really counted the days. I'm not much of a counting person. I don't like numbers much. Trust me, as Superdave and others will tell you, I am not at the critical point. No contact IS helping though.
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    It's been approximately 2 months. Today I had a faint glimmer that maybe the ex won't come back and maybe, just maybe, I might be ok with that. I'd be sad but i'd be ok. This is the first time I have not clung to hope. I wonder if this feeling will be fleeting.
  23. kate111
    No way! I'm not waiting 3 years.
  24. kate111
    I wonder what the average time is for people to "get better" after no contact and stop counting the days.
  25. kate111
    Someone else suggested it to me so I can't take credit. You could put the number under "dweeb who is only calling for jerky egocentric reasons" or else "slugman"- whatever floats your boat.
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