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  1. tough_girl
    Well, I'm sorry I can't give you much advise about this topic as I'm quite inexperienced. But I could tell that this guy seems to be happy that everybody knows. He probably wants to get you hurt, so don't let him have the victory. I hope you'll be strong. Since this advise request hasn't got much replies, you could get some help from other people. You could get more attention to your post with some instruction on this page: link removed
  2. tough_girl
    Oh yeah... I forgot that we shouldn't judge people by their looks. Thank you for reminding me. So,I'll give it a go. Thanks a bunch!
  3. tough_girl
    Thanks for the replies,guys but I don't have a relationship with guy yet. We just friends but I don't want it to go over the line yet. I'm not very ready yet, so I how do I keep him at bay while I get myself ready?
  4. tough_girl
    Cheering for you! Go get her!
  5. tough_girl
    Hi. Just replied to tell you that I think the second one is better. Humuor eases the tense situation. So give it a go. Use whichever one you want. Good Luck.
  6. tough_girl
    I agree with QTpie87 and Langeveldt. I think that you go and apologize to her and take her back. You said that nothing went wrong and it was such a perfect relationship. Why throw it away? A least give it go.
  7. tough_girl
    Well, you didn't state too clearly about what's happening in there. Well that sentence didn't sound too right. You CAN go back and apologize to her. It's not about being weak or strong, it's about learning from our past mistakes. We, as humans are not perfect. We make mistakes and if we do, we should learn how not to repeat it again. And there are times we have to apologize for our own mistakes. Hitting the bars doesn't seem like a great idea either. Too much alcohol can damage your brain, your liver and etc. So please do think carefully before you carry this things out.Good Luck!
  8. tough_girl
    Thanks for the advise,guys but I wonder if there's any method to still be friends and strengthen the relationship.
  9. tough_girl
    I'm so sorry to hear that you lost 4 family members last year. I lost my grandmother to colon cancer, too last year. I hope you take it easy. I know it's hard for you, because it was pretty hard on me with only losing one person. I know how you're feeling, which is four time worse than me. You can PM if you like to talk since we're in the same situation. I don't really know how to make your parents feel better because it was my parents who put up a bold front for me to recover. Anyway I wish you good luck and don't be so sad.
  10. tough_girl
    Well, I just wanted to know how to stay friends with a guy without having that kind of relationship? Just being friends or best friends? No further than that. And how to strengthen our relationship on the hand without him losing interest? Can a guy and a girl actually stay friends at all? Give me your views, some advise and example too please.
  11. tough_girl
    Thanks a lot, neva_black_n_white. It did help! I hope it works out. But there's an issue. I don't really like his friends. Some of them looked like gangsters, Happy 2004 too.
  12. tough_girl
    Come on, mattias. I know it really hurts. Like you said you're a every girl's dreamguy but sometimes things and people aren't what they seem. You can't control everything even if you're the ruler. People still want to go their own way. In the ruler's path there are bandits. Why don't you perfect yourself first? At that time, your feelings might have changed and you wouldn't really want her anymore. Or maybe you wouldn't hurt so much. What's important now, is to focus on something else other than her that can bring you grief. You can change yourself but unfortunately you can't change someone else.
  13. tough_girl
    Wow.. thanks for calling me smart and wise. I'm flatttered It's not a silly dilemma actually. I respect you for the strength and discipline you have. I don't think I would do what you will do now if I faced the same problems. I guess I will learn how to do the right thing when I grow up. I hope you did the right thing too. If you want to talk, pm me anytime.But in two days time, my school will be reopening so I might not be online so often anymore. I have a major exam this year too. I wish you good luck. Take care.
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    I'm so sorry to hear that. But some of these things are unavoidable. All that you can do now is relax. I think you do have some friends in your class, so sit with them. Try not to look at him so that those feelings won't come back. However, you're gonna have to have to try to face him. Push all your fears away. Find someone new. Because you'll have to meet him for quite a long time, so you'll have to handle this situation ASAP. Everytime you see him, try to relax. Count from1 to 20 or something till you're relax. Don't let emotion overcome you. I that you hurt a lot but you need to study there. So, you're gonna have to try your best to face him. I wish you strength and good luck.
  15. tough_girl
    Oh My Gosh! A lot has really happened since the last post. Never thought all she wanted you to be was a dog-walker. Well, at this point there's no going back. You've got to leave her out of your life. No more Mr. Nice Guy or Mr. Dog Walker and I'm sorry to say no more getting her back. Let's say it was really mean of her to do and say all this things to you. First thing you gotta do is cut all contacts with her and her stupid dog. Tell her that you might not be so free anymore or make up another excuse. Then get on with your life. Entertain yourself and improve yourself on your career. Read books to fill up your time. You'll surely get over her. Since you know who she is now, Don't have anything to do with her anymore. Wish you good luck!
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    Don't worry about him or whatever he says. I believe that no age is too old for learning. Go on with the piano class, don't give up. Even if he puts you down, I'll be cheering for you. I think exactly what you are thinking. I don't think he'll ever change. People who are aware of their own mistakes will change but this guy doesn't see anything wrong with himself. If you stay with him, I have a feeling something bad is going to happen. So just kick him out of your life please. I'm sure he wants that kind of order bride your friend got but please don't let him make you his order bride because you are so much better than that. I understand that you'll miss him for the first few weeks or months because you have feelings unlike that demon who'll go find another woman. But there may be a chance that he beg you to take him in because no girl who'll be his order bride would ever have so much brain you have. Since I gather that he doesn't have a good job, you must have done all the paying for him. If that's so. He'll have to live a poorer life without you and make it a reason to come back. Please do not agree to any of his plead. If he says that you're not perfect, he must be the most unperfect person. No one is perfect. I have to agree to that but it doesn't make someone totally handicapped. vanbutterfly, you need and deserve someone better. Please do me a favoor and leave him. You don't want to be with such a man. For the first few weeks, entertain yourself with your friends, sports or whatever that'll get your mind of him, except alcohol,drugs and suicide. You'll soon be able to see what jeerk he is. Wish you good luck.
  17. tough_girl
    I really don't want to be bossy but did you two use protection that night? Because if you don't, you could get pregnant and there might be more problems on the way. Don't tell me if you don't want to. I just want you to be aware of it.
  18. tough_girl
    It's ok, Pat4g.Your post wasn't messy, I'm the one who misinterpreted. I guess you're doing the right thing but is that really how you feel? Don't answer me if you don't feel like. I'm just being bossy. Hehehe... I really hope you two will work out as friends. Good luck! Cheers to you too.
  19. tough_girl
    Need I say more?
  20. tough_girl
    Hi Pat4g, I think I miss out some points in my last post. Forgive me and correct me if I'm wrong. You mean you said no?No to Peter? Uh huh, I understand that you won't have to tell Mary. You're right, why make the situation more complicated. You know best. Wish you all the best with Peter too.
  21. tough_girl
    Well I don't really see where this relationship is going. He's has a one-way mind that will only take and not give. He thinks that women should do the cleaning and men should do the earning. Honestly, I would agree to that role if I was born in the 1600's. Now we've got our own system and confidence. I suppose that after he expects you to do the house-chores, he might be abusing you,saying that he can do whatever he wants. I hate to say this but it's hard for a normal human to change,let alone that possesive partner you have. I don't think it's love he has for you but a need for a wife that would pick up after him. If he really loves you, he would not have tried to make you convert and love you, no matter what religion you are in. If he loves you too, he would not try to change you into a homemaker.. He would want you to be happy if he feels that way about you. He also has no rights to critisize you for what education you took and grew up in. He should respect you for who you are and grew up to be. And believe me vanbutterfly, I trust you that you will be a better bread winner than he can be. He sounds like a lazy braat to me. All he's looking for is probably a maid that he doesn't have to pay for and I'm sure you don't want to be that maid. Thus, after my long reply, you know what I'm going to advise you to do. Leave him... He's not worth it. You need and deserve someone better. Get over him. Telling you that it's his right to look at another girl might end up being his right to have another few wives without your consent. So, before that happens, I suggest you leave him out of life. You will find someone better. Wish you good luck.
  22. tough_girl
    Hi and welcome to enotalone.com. I think you should do more if you want her to like you. I would be quite bored and impatient if a guy I think could be a potiential bf, don't really take any actions. So, I guess you should ask her out sometimes. Ask her out for a movie or for lunchor etc. Talk to her about more personal things and send hints over to her Then when things are more stable, you could give her a single rose. Hope this helped.Good luck!
  23. tough_girl
    Well, Genji05, I don't know whether you should e-mail her or not either. But don't worry about what I said, just follow your heart and do what you think is right. Though I agree with Ebowski that a woman's ego doesn't work like a man's, I would be totally upset if a guy would have done that to me. Since, she wasn't very nice to you, you could do that if you want. Tell her off for once. However, you sound like a very nice guy and would not be one to hurt a girl for nothing. So, you could let her learn her own lesson and hope her consiousness bring her back to earth. But if she doesn't learn her lesson, then you should drop her from the sky, just like she did you. Well, the choice is yours. I hope you make a good choice but remember there is no right answer in life. No one is perfect. Life isn't perfect but it's our reponsibilty to live it to the fullest. Good Luck!
  24. tough_girl
    I'm sorry to say this but stran, YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM. He has all the signs of cheating on you. I agree with neallo82288 and enadevoli. Hire an investigator and file a divorce. Meanwhile don't have sex with him! Since there might be chances he had slept with other women, he might have already got STD's and I bet you don't want to have it to. This marriage isn't going to work either if he doesn't cheat on you because marriage is built on love and trust. You don't trust him anymore and he doesn't trust you enough to let you know where and who he's going out with. So, don't kid yourself. Get an investigator and set yourself free. It might be hard at first but it will eventually get better. I wish you good luck!
  25. tough_girl
    Hello and welcome to enotalone.com. I have to agree with what Cats said. There are a lot of uncertainties in this relationship and a lot of red flags. Drugs is a very dangerous thing, something you don't want to get involved in. It'll ruin your life. So,now when you can get up and flee, I'll say 'Take your chance and run'. But before you do that, since you love him very much, why don't you talk to him when he's not drunk. Let him know how you feel, tell him which area you're not at all comfortable with and etc. If he doesn't change or tell you off, then THAT'S ENOUGH and you should leave. Your sister and his brother might be quite disappointed if that would have happen but let them know what you're suffering and need to let go. Hopefully they'll understand. I wish you good luck!
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