Para_Pryncess

Ok to make things clear, i listed most the things that i like about him so much but not that i do myself for him. Right now he goes to school and i work as i said in my other post. When we go out somewhere i pay for it and the gas for the trip to come see him. I also fix him suppers and pay for all the phone cards. So in other words, i take care of things financially and he takes care of everything else. As an update we're talking and trying to work things out. It isn't him and i know that but what it is really has nothing to do with our relationship. It has to do with all the problems i'm facing in my life right now and it makes it hard on me that i'm stretched a hundred different ways and sometimes i just feel like when i need him to understand the most, he doesn't. I plan to sit down with him tomorrow and discuss things further. I'm having problems in my family, at work, and sleeping problems and thats just to name a few and i'm mentally worn out. He's still young and doesn't quite understand what it's like out in the "real" world yet because he doesn't have anything to worry about. I agree it's mostly me but i am in no way taking advantage of him especially when i'm the one "paying" for this relationship so it can work. I guess i might expect more out of him than i should, but he does that to me too. Just like how he expects me not to be tired after working a whole day then driving the 2 hours to come see him. Or not feel distracted when the people i love the most are fighting. I mean, i felt so dumb tonight because i went to the store and almost forgot to lay an item down on the counter and the lady had to tell me, and that was after i stood and stared at her when it was my turn to checkout. My mind is just everywhere else. I am working on it though. I'm hoping that being with stu and talking with him and just being with him away from everything else will help me out.

Ok, this is hard for me cause usually i'm pretty upbeat about my relationship. I mean, he really is a good guy so whats the problem? This past week i've been feeling very distant from my guy. I've had rough days at work and he gets the gist of it when i get home. Thats my fault and i know that. The thing that gets me is everytime we talk now and try to resolve whatever is going on, it just makes it worse. The thing that bothers me most is.. i'm not even sure what the main problem is. Whether it's me, him, or us just going through a rough time. He wanted me to come home every day from work so we could talk because i was using that time for myself and then when i got home today, he wasn't here but at his friends house. Of course I got mad. I don't even know whether or not i should call him tonight or if he calls which he'll most likely do, if i should talk to him or just let things cool off for awhile so we don't start fighting and making things worse. I dunno. any suggestions?

Hm.. In my opinion, I'd try the no contact for just a little longer. If she's depressed and wants you back or decided she made a mistake she'll contact YOU. Besides, she's the one who changed, not you. Giving her the satisfaction that you'll be a sucker and still be there whenever she gets done going through her phase only causes you pain of not knowing whether she'll be back for you or not. If she was going through a hard time and needed you now, why didn't she stay with you and let you help her through it before? Just a thought and my advice to keep up the no contact and see how things are going to play out. Women change their minds quite frequently so wait and see when she knows what she really wants before you get yourself hurt.

If some of you may know, they're trying to pass a law in which fast food restaurants cannot get sued for obese people. I was more or less just wondering what everyone else thought about this. On my way to work the other day i heard them talking about it on the radio. All i kept thinking was how it's a good idea to pass the law because think about it, person eats fast food{by own choice!}, person becomes obese, person sues fast food restaurant, gets more money to spend on other fast food restaurants if win, become more obese. So why just give them more money to make themselves more obese. In other words, if they're going to blame their bad eating habits on fast food thats just as ridiculous as saying that you blame your money for buying the food so why don't we just sue the money? Ugh! People think. It's sad that society has sunk that low.

allalone, if you really wanted to "tell how it was" you should've tried a different approach. Being negative to a teenager just causes more negativity. Maybe you should think about how you were at that age? I do agree that it is her life and she will have to deal with what may come, but as long as she's willing to do so thats great! And also, you mentioned about education, i do believe that her asking here and at least wanting to learn what goes on with the female body is a whole lot more than i can say for alot of people. Now, for the rest of my input on the subject. I myself never bled at least not that i was aware of. I'm assuming it was caused from one of the other reasons and i was just unaware, most likely the tampon one, lol. Anyway emptysoul, now that you know what happens, just be safe and careful girl. Remember protection is your friend!

obssesion can be a problem if you let it rule the relationship along with jealousy, however you caring about her does not make you a bad bf, but if she doesn't feel the same or act like she cares, maybe it's time to move on? Breaks aren't a good thing for a relationship in my opinion. And usually the one initiating it has other "plans" in mind for the duration. Not saying thats the case here, but it's a possibility, especially since you're still in high school because i remember when i was there, couples would get together and break up and be with other people than get back together and that whole big mess. Why? Because they're not mature enough to handle a real relationship yet. It's more or less social learning and sometimes more.

For some reason lately my life has been one big ball of blah. If you all saw monday i posted about it being stu and my one year anniversary. So why do i feel so down today? Thats what i would like to know! Maybe work is getting to me. All the running around i do. They got me doing like 5 different jobs now, 3 of them in just one dept. Plus i've been getting up early to go in. Then theres things with stu. He started a new job plus goin to school which makes things difficult. My parents are going through a rough time with my uncles and grandfather. But i guess that really isn't the whole reason for my blahness. They're factors in my life but i don't really obsorb their ways to draw out my patience and sanity. Hrm. I went and tanned today.. my first time. I took my little sister with me and she seemed to like to hang out with me which was surprising. I'm starting to think on the overall my lifestyle is too complex and too fast and when i fight it i end up losing and feel dissatisfied and depressed or angry. Then when i go with the flow i feel alot better but start worrying about things. Man i'm such a woman, lol. Everytime i do things for myself i feel guilty, but should i? I mean, i can't be 10 people. I've also been doing alot of thinking lately how i'm kind of caught in the middle of being an adult and yet still a child/teenager. This probly has alot to do with the way i'm feeling lately and theres nothing that can be done other than dealing with it. So yeah if you're reading this sorry it wasn't more exciting but thanks for reading anyway cause i think i just needed to type and get some thoughts out of my head.

I've been coming to this site for a couple months now and most the time i see everyone posting about things that are going wrong in their relationships. Since today is kind of special for my bf and I, thought maybe i'd share why. Last year on this day the 8th of march, 2003, Stu finally got guts and asked me out. It took him forever! I just kept waiting and waiting and waiting... anyway, so here we are a year later, still happy we're together. We've had our share of problems believe me, but somehow everything always works out. He tells me daily and constantly how much he loves me. Tries in every way to make me feel comfotable before we get ready to watch a movie. Fixes me supper on the weekends, and calls every night just to hear how my day at work went and to see how i am. See, those are the things i think about when we have a disagreement or i get mad over the stupid things women get mad at{which i'll agree that we do}. Finally i've found someone I can be myself around, that makes me feel special and important and corrects me when i'm wrong and believe me he does, lol. One year isn't that long, but in a lot of ways it is. We've figured out the things we like and dislike about each other. What our favorite foods are and colors and as childish and jr high as that sounds, it's still wonderful to have that one person you care about know everything about you isn't it. Like I said everything hasn't always been a piece of cake. We have a LDR{long distance relationship}. He goes to school and I work and we live an hour and a half apart. Last weekend he said something that really made me mad and we went at it right there on the street cause we had just got back to his house from auto zone. Now that i think about it, it's actually funny. Later he came in the house after fixing my blinkers AFTER i yelled at him and hugged me. Now tell me how bad i felt because it was pretty crappy. Sometimes I wonder why he stays with me but i guess it's the same reason I stay and put up with him, I love him. It's only been one year today and we've learned that much and found love, I can't wait to see what the next however many bring. Thanks for reading. I dedicate this post to the one I love, Stuart.

I don't think it was the busyness and tiredness that was an excuse to let you go, kungfu. Most the time college LDR's are very very hard to deal with for the simple fact the person going is discovering new things and people. If she was avoiding you or showing she didn't care before college then maybe i could see her being "cruel" and leading you on. But if things were alright with you two before hand then maybe the college life just changed her, you guys drifted apart and she thought it'd be better for the both of you even though she probly should've told you that herself. I do agree that there is a downside to LDR's when college is involved, but there are still those few who manage to make it. Just keep in mind that the person going is subject to change because it's a learning experience and thats just what happens.

Stop and think about this for a minute. Your gf is in college. She's going to have classes to go to, homework, a new environment to adjust to and is going to need time to make friends because frankly, thats what college is all about. Gaining a new experience. Just because you don't get to talk as much anymore doesn't mean she doesn't still care about you, she's just busy improving her education and bettering her life so that when you two are back together, things will go alot smoother. I'm also in a LD relationship. I work during the day and all i want to do when i come home is relax and most the time my bf can't understand why i'm tired and in a bad mood or don't feel like talking when he calls me at night. I do agree that the sneaking around thing may need looked into. But are you pushing her so much that she feels scared and obligated to keep it from you if she goes out with a friend because she feels guilty? I've felt that way to and now my bf knows that i have a set time to myself with my friends, and him. And he understands and accepts that. Just remember she has alot on her plate with college right now. Just be patient and wait till things settle down before you get upset or have thoughts about her doing wrong.

Yes i definitely do. And i'm guilty of taking pregnancy tests before my period starts, but you really should wait until you're late. I'm just an impatient person hoping to fool the test but i know that won't happen. I started my period yesterday after being late 4 days which is unusual for me since i'm on a pretty regular cycle. I had headache, felt a little sick, and other symptoms, but i'm guessing it was just my nerves. Another thing is that some women get so caught up in wanting to be pregnant they go through denial if they're not and the symptoms aren't there or are there but caused by other things. Like for me it was most likely a cause of stress because i knew there was a possibility since we had intercourse around the time i was supposed to ovulate. And i feel weird admitting, but we've only used protection the first time we were together and ever since then he's always stayed in. You might want to wait till the 15th to take another test or even a couple days after that just to make sure that if you are, the test can pick up the hormone hCG.

well.. the weekends is the only time i get to see my bf too because i work during the week and we live a little over an hour apart. We've also had unprotected sex for the past 8 months. I know theres been times where it's been close to my ovulation time but i'm still not pregnant. I think when it comes to us being only to see the guy on the weekends that time wise is a main factor. Since you've already had a child and know you're capable of having one, it may just be the timing or there may be some other factor with the guy. This is what worries me about my situation, but i'm trying to tell myself that if it's meant to be it'll happen and if not there's always adopting a child that needs a loving home.

Thats what i thought, but thanks for the reasurrance guys. As an update i am not pregnant. But that still leaves the possibility of something being wrong. I haven't went to the doctor and had the "womanly" exams done but i'm thinkin it might be a good idea just to make sure everythings the way it's supposed to be. Thanks again for your answers!

Ok, the other night i was checking out some things and apparently the same time of my ovulation and my being with the boyfriend matched, sooo we had a nice long talk. Now, just to make things clear i have no idea if i'm prego or not but we kinda knew the chance was there before we did anything. My bf loves me as i do him and we're financially stable right now if it did happen to be. Ok now to the gravity part since thats the reason you're reading. In our talk we discussed how big the chances are. When i was still in school i was taught that it didn't matter what position, if he's in there and ejaculates, then you're chances of getting prego are pretty high considering if it's your time of ovulation which is a short span of time anyway. He, however, thinks that if the woman is on top that gravity takes affect and theres less chance of getting pregnant. We've been together intimately for quite awhile and i'm not pregnant yet which also worries me that there may be something wrong with one of us because i know theres other times when it's been a close call too. We're not actually trying, but would still enjoy a little one running around if it were to be. Any thoughts?

Ok, if you all haven't read my previous post, my bf and i were at a misunderstanding. I felt like i needed some time to myself to relax after a very stressful time and he felt like he needed more attention and that i was purposely ignoring him. I've come to this conclusion. I went through a rough time when my grandma passed in December{2003} and he was there to help me through it. Right now his mom has a new bf and stu{my bf} thinks they are moving way too fast and it's all kind of much for him. I also agree that the guy is moving too fast with stu's mom. He already wants to be stu's half brother's dad. His half brother is 2 almost 3 and his biological father has nothing to do with him. And they've only went out a couple times in the past two weeks. Let me add that stu's parents have been divorced since he was little and his father does have a big role in his life. Stu's mom has only been dating this new bf for a couple weeks.. just to clear up any confusions. Now, I've figured out that this is the time that stu needs me and i should be more understanding and giving him the attention he needs right? And for his mom, we've talked about how we feel about the situation and both feel it's too fast but the guy is nice otherwise. His mom says i'm part of the family{stu and i have been together for a year}, but her bf doesn't seem to even notice i'm there which really makes me feel awful. I actually think his mom is looking for a father for stu's brother rather then both a father AND mate for herself. I've asked stu if i should mention these things to his mom since her and me have a pretty good relationship, and he said no to just wait and see what happens. What would you guys suggest?