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  1. persephonesleeps
    is it possible that you were looking for a relationship with no strings, no committment...so that's why you ended up in this situation? do you want her to leave her boyfriend? do you want a serious relationship with her? how about her...what does she really want? think about this...if she is cheating on him, she will cheat on you too...she has already learned that she can have her cake and eat it too!
  2. persephonesleeps
    it sounds like your friends care about you a lot you're lucky to have friends like that be honest with them, so they know the real you I don't know why you are into drugs....there are lots of reasons, I know...but it seems to me like you could choose to do a lot of other cool stuff with these friends of yours do what feels right for you...think about the long-term though if you need to talk with someone, maybe you could find a counsellor...you don't have to worry about hurting a counsellor's feelings...they are there to listen to you
  3. persephonesleeps
    let her go she doesn't want to be close with you, even as a friend...it seems rather obvious, to be blunt just be an acquaintance...say hi when your paths cross, leave it at that meet new people date new people let go of the past...it is hurting you because you are holding on to something that just isn't meant to be right now maybe in the future you two can be friends, but not for as long as you still have feelings for her...it will always hurt she is pushing you away, because she is not interested...actions speak louder than words you know you deserve better, so make the effort to meet new women who will treat with love and respect
  4. persephonesleeps
    wow...slow down! she said she would call you on Saturday, give her the chance to do so. You are acting like you don't trust her...and I'm sure she can sense that. Be patient, distract yourself, post on here, talk with friends, sleep, do whatever it takes to lay off for a bit. If I were her, I'd be running scared! You are pushing too much...I know you don't mean to, but seriously, she might be worried you are going to get obsessive or something! Try to relax...trust that everthing will be as it should be. You cannot force a relationship...it has to have room to breathe and grow and develop naturally. If she doesn't call on Saturday, wait at least 3 more days to give her the chance to call. If you still haven't heard from her, then I say go ahead and call her. Don't pressure her or harass her about why she didn't call...don't even bring it up. Just be cool and casual and calm! If she is ready to talk, she will talk...if she tries to get off the phone right away, you might want to give up for awhile.
  5. persephonesleeps
    I agree. Be honest with her about your feelings...you might lose her forever if you keep playing the game of pretending not to love her, when really you do. I would recommend talking with her face to face...if she won't agree, then write her a letter. Read the letter over, make sure it says exactly how you really feel. Follow your heart...your feelings (crying, feeling sad) are telling you just how much she really means to you! Apologize to her for anything you have done wrong.
  6. persephonesleeps
    HI Heartbroken, I just got your email today...sorry you haven't heard from me...been busy! It sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Are you okay with that? Would you accept an open relationship? ...it sounds like that is what she wants. If you are both okay with dating other people, why not? But it seems to me that you are serious about committment, and are looking for a monogamous relationship. She sounds confused...do you feel like you are being strung along? Figure out how long you are willing to be patient...some people don't mind waiting, others do...and then stick to it. Maybe try to give her a week or two of no contact...if she is still unsure after that, I would have to say move on... If she thinks you are always going to wait around for her, what reason does she have to make up her mind? Don't let anyone play you for a fool...you deserve to be treated with love and respect. Hope this helps. I know it hurts terribly. Stay strong!
  7. persephonesleeps
    well...it seems she is interested in giving it another try! basically, I was open and honest, and she was in return she is asking me to be patient...so I'm going to try my best!
  8. persephonesleeps
    blushing...lots of blushing compare how she acts around you to how other girls act around you...you will notice a huuuuge difference!
  9. persephonesleeps
    it sounds like she is really confused....she needs some time to sort through her emotions by herself if you love her, give her the space she needs...if it is meant to be, you WON'T lose her from your life something you could try, everytime you miss her, write her a letter...don't send the letters though you need to express your feelings, and writing them out will help a lot...trust me, I've done this and it works distract yourself in the meantime...hang out with friends, watch movies, play games, anything healthy that you can manage to do you might freak her out if you don't give her some space...she'll call you when she is ready give her the chance to miss you for real...try no contact for at least a week...she might call you after 3 to 4 days
  10. persephonesleeps
    it sounds like you have a healthy attitude yes...we all reach that point where we have had enough he presently cannot give you what you need...and may NEVER be able to at least now you clearly know what you need, and you can find someone more compatible when you are ready
  11. persephonesleeps
    I agree with you...but you know, easier said that done! Intellectually, we may know that something isn't rewarding or healthy...but it does take awhile to let go emotionally. It's a process. If you want to know why someone called, ask!!! Stop making assumptions...give the person a chance to tell you. If the person can't be honest with you, then I say let go.
  12. persephonesleeps
    I can stronly relate to your situation...I am going through the same thing myself. Trying to understand the mixed messages is emotionally depleting. I think that these people are afraid of intimacy...that's why they act this way. In my situation, we were apart for several months...at times with no contact. Presently, we both wish to try again...but I am feeling incredibly cautious. I too think that this person may be holding on for reasons she herself cannot understand...and I question if she has even truly explored her feelings. push me/pull me is rather toxic...and it is difficult, if not impossible, to be as patient as they seem to need us to be! If I am any more patient, I am going to grow wings soon!
  13. persephonesleeps
    maybe he is developing deep feelings for you, but is a little scared if you love him, maybe try to be patient for awhile go with the flow, if it's not driving you nuts! btw...are u 2 still intimate???
  14. persephonesleeps
    listen to your feelings and follow your heart what does your gut say? if she is as great as you say, you won't stop being your friend if it isn't mutual...she might need space for a bit though to sort through her feelings patience!
  15. persephonesleeps
    have you ever told her that you find her attractive? if yes, how did she respond? is this just a sex thing for you, or do you think maybe you might be in love with her depending on how you feel, your approach should be different
  16. persephonesleeps
    I'm confused...are you the one with the boyfriend or her? If you have a bf, she's probably scared to get hurt.
  17. persephonesleeps
    I'm going through the same thing myself. Today she asked me to be patient with her. I think they need some space to get over the shock. How long has it been since you talked?
  18. persephonesleeps
    I was getting emotionally (not physically) close to a friend of mine. She 'parted' with me, saying it was too intense for her. I missed her terribly. We ran into one another eventually, hugged, held hands, and talked about maybe getting together to talk. I emailed her inviting her to lunch, no response. I gave her some space, and then emailed her again. I told her that I loved her and that I really missed her, that I cared about her wants, needs, thoughts, feelings, comfort level, etc. She emailed back and told me that she is feeling confused, and that she is worried about the intensity and fear she has around relating to me. She said that she will figure out what to do, and promised to tell me when she knew what to do. Should I reply to her email? Should I give her space? What is she afraid of??? Advice pleeeese!!!
  19. persephonesleeps
    getting to know someone is exciting isn't it? go with the flow...try not to overanalyze she wouldn't spend time with you if she didn't like you! sounds like you are rather smitten have fun!
  20. persephonesleeps
    she might just be friendly, some women are giving like that she might need/want a good friend careful... getting close to a married woman can be very messy, but there is no reason why you can't be friends... give her a chance if you like her...she could have a single sister!!!
  21. persephonesleeps
    sometimes straight women are like this...they enjoy the attention she might be bi...who knows? I wouldn't put the moves on a friend though...unless you are willing to potentially lose the friendship be brave...tell her how it makes you feel when you hold her in your arms if you love her, respect her enough to be clear and honest don't play any head games or anything manipulative like that you could kiss her on the check, see if she kisses you back or not...that's not overtly sexual, but she'll respond if that's what she wants too go with the flow figure out how much of this you can handle try to meet some lesbians...that way it won't necessarily be unrequited love!
  22. persephonesleeps
    it sounds like you are being used and taken for granted long term relationships are not like this! figure out what you want and need...sit down with her and talk with her how long can you handle this? you deserve a real relationship
  23. persephonesleeps
    why are you wondering? are you attracted to her?
  24. persephonesleeps
    There are several ways to be attracted to someone...physical, intellectual, sexual, emotional, spiritual, etc, or any combination of these. You may be falling in love with your friend, only you know that for sure. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, nor is there anything wrong or weird or gross about one woman falling in love with another. It might be a good idea to journal about your feelings...be really honest with yourself, and explore what you are going through. It might be infatuation, but again, you know deep down what is going on for you.
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