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google PC muscles. exercise them with keggles. helps keep blood inside penis and thereforeeee allows you to keep hard...even after orgasm. I've been able to routinely come, have my gf rag off the cum and hop back on without losing an erection countless times. feels a lot more sensitive and have to start slow again, but i never get soft and am able to come again whenever the proper stimulation is there.

she may feel uncomfortable with the appearance of her body or self conscious about the smell of her ...area.

oh please... a woman comes on here saying that she "found" porn on her boyfriend/husbands computer and it is seen as a terrible offense that he has committed and is emotionally and physically neglecting her. "porn addiction..." and the like... a guy comes on here saying he is a little weirded out by some porn he found on his girlfriends computer and you all say that he was wrong by getting on her computer in the first place. A little objectivity, maybe?

Google Graffenberg spot. you CAN get girls off with penetration IF you get the angles (which are pretty non-intuitive to hit the G-spot, honestly) correct.

Is this a porn issue? or an excessive masturbation issue? because you say he is addicted to porn, but also that you caught him whacking off in the shower (assumingly without the use of porn).

Usually in the morning when Im reading the newspaper, or after a big meal...

was she conscious?....blind?

Google PC muscles. Exercise them.

Uh, 3 months and you're planning to move in with each other? I'd say that's it. Living on your own for 17 years of your life and then having a live-in girlfriend after only 3 months? Think about the psychological impact that can have on his independence/ego/territorial side. Id agree with Beec -- thinks going too fast. He might just need some time to adjust. Best to back off for awhile, make yourself scarce for a bit. ...P.S. OP: will you marry me?

Two things: -Lubricate your hand somehow. It's not too terribly comfortable if there is too much friction. Licking the palm of your hand works well...and + bonus sexy points if you do it making eye contact with him with a seductive look in your eye. Otherwise, it chafes. -Be gentle, but don't pretend like its made of glass. The worst hand jobs in the world are from girls who are afraid they are going to break my * * * *. Be firm with the penis shaft all you want, its hard to hurt here unless its due to friction burns --- be more gentle with the testicles. That's where you can really cause some pain. Make all your movements in this area slow and deliberate and look at him to gauge his reaction.

you need to align your expectations of a man to behaviors that are attractive to you (not only on paper, but in a subliminal...human instinct kind of way)

well then aren't you, by definition, just a friend? the intimacy and closeness that sex provides in males/females is very powerful. in essense, if he does start having sex with another girl (routinely...as opposed to just a one night stand kind of thing), he is going to naturally feel a stronger emotional connection/trust to this girl than he does to you. this is no fault of yours for not wanting sex, nor his for feeling attached to a girl he is intimate with, but i think you're either setting yourself up for heartbreak, or misrepresenting your relationship with this guy.

I think he's going on the notion that it's generally unwise to inflict physical harm to another person without at least considering paying the consequences (Treat others as you would like to be treated kind of thing) In the male/female model, society has taught women that there are no such consequences so that if they, in a fit of rage or emotion or whatever, hit a man, they will not be harmed and if they are, they can reframe it such that the man is a terrible excuse of a human being and they are simply the victim (for whatever reason). Thus, it is okay for women to hit men, but not okay for men to reciprocate if provoked.

swallowed.

I think "being gangbanged by two total strangers she met hours before in a hotel room" and "not being a virgin when she met me" are two very different beasts, friend.

I'm no scientist, but I've had enough experience playing with my unit to be a PhD. in Penile Physics. No, they aren't being greedy. It could be that they are exceptionally turned on. Lack of control...maybe. If it's been a long time since you've gotten off, generally you tend to be less able to control yourself. Some prefer to whack off about 5-6 hours before having sex so that they are able to last longer. It also depends on the strength of the PC (pelvic floor) muscles (the same ones that you use to stop peeing...boys & girls both have these) which can be strengthened using kegel exercises. If you work at it a bit, you actually gain the ability to flex these muscles (given that you halt sensation for about 5-10 seconds) and you do not enter the refractory period associated with male ejaculation (penis going limp, ejaculation, cant get hard for awhile). If you have really strong PC muscles, you can even prevent ejaculation as altogether, but still have what feels like an orgasm. Stronger PC muscles also allow you to maintain an erection immediately following an orgasm (or regain an erection more quickly if you've already lost it). The most likely culprit for guys who routinely prematurely ejac are either inexperienced, don't spend enough time playing with themselves...or those who just sit down with a stopwatch and try to beat (off) the world record instead of getting used to the feeling of prolonging an orgasm. Masturbation to some people (depending on world view) is seen as dirty, embarrassing, and even an abomination so some may tend to try and get it over as quickly as possible to avoid being caught or whatever reason. And as my HS football coach always said "you play like you practice..." I say routinely because, hey, it happens to us all at one point or another. We all have our off days. Sometimes when Im with my girlfriend in certain positions and she starts working it hard I have trouble controlling myself, but she never looks prouder afterwards. I dont think it matters all that much anyway. Girls va-jay-jay's tend to get sore after a marathon session. Unless its your anniversary, wedding night, valentines day, or the end of the world is iminent, keep it under 45 mins.

word up to DiggityDogg

If you read the post I quoted, I was referring to the former. And what's the difference in a womans "expectation" that a man pay for everything and a mans "expectation" to be repaid between the sheets immediately afterwards? They both reek of shallowness, do they not?

I can't speak for the entire male population, and no...a 5 min phone call is not difficult to do, however, there still seems to be a dispairity between how men and women use cell phones. Men use cell phones generally as a way of conveying pertinent information to people. Meet me here, at this time. How many people are coming? Do you know so and so's phone number? ect. Women use the cell phone to socialize. They see something funny, silly, or gossipy happen, they call their friends to tell them about it or tell them that it reminded them of whatever happened...etc.. look around you. Women are on cell phones in the grocery store, in the car, when they are pumping their gas, when they are standing in line at the movie theatre, when they are in their houses, when they are on the bus.... Listen to the types of coversations they are having. It's mostly just harmless chit-chat. If you see one of the few men talking on the phone, he is usually either just repeating affirmative responses, probably talking to one of the aforementioned women , or trying to figure out some kind of plan or information. Guys use phones for info. Girls use it for socializiation. If you want to talk to him. Call him. Tell him that you saw someone trip in the cafeteria and throw his lunch tray in the air and everyone laughed and it reminded you of him. If you do it enough, and he really is into you, he will return the favor in kind if he knows it's ok with you. It just takes guys a little time to figure out that it's okay to use the phone for chit chat...we mainly use it as a tool to convey information, not as a social voicebox.

Google PC muscles. Work them out. When you feel yourself about to ejac, flex them really tight and if you do it just right you will feel the urge to shoot fade away and you can keep bangin away for at least another 10 min. Plus your soldier will be hard as a diamond mine. I'm here to help.

She's really ...really flexible?

I believe in the western world they call this "prostitution". Unless, of course, you don't have sex with him...then it's called "robbery."

lightly touch your flanks (the side of your body directly under your armpit, but above your waist) with just the very tip of your fingertips (almost like you are just barely touching them, no pressure). do you feel how you get goosebumps, the hair stands up, and your nipples get hard? do this same light touching all over her body. flanks, stomach, below her neck, back, legs, butt, etc. my girl seems to like it. in foreplay you can even do it while kissing. my girl also seems to like it post-coitus as we are both catching our breaths. when you are kissing her neck, move to her shoulder and softly (but aggressively and confidently) bite her shoulder,neck area.

Hmm.. regardless if this is teasing behavior, be aware that guys that pick up a lot of girls hear this a lot...about 30 minutes before they have the girl in the back of their '82 Camero with her panties around her ankles screaming along to Van Halen's "Right Now". Women say this a lot because they don't want to be perceived as easy and to test the mettle of their suitor. On occation, they might even have the intention of wanting to sleep with the guy, but they'll just say this as a disclaimer so that later they can claim that "it just happened" or "they got swept away in the moment". A lot of women get turned on by a man who can take control...there are many reasons. This is a common game that girls (especially ones that hang out at bars looking to get picked up) use, so moral of the story is...be careful who you offer to innocently sleep with, they may still try something (because, as I said, some guys have heard this all before and still end up getting laid) and you may be putting yourself at serious risk if he turns out to be a psychopath.

Interesting... Can you elaborate on this a little bit, please? Thanks. my gf's sex drive is seeming a little out of whack and I think we've been spending too much time with each other. Im good with having me time, and shes on the clingy side...