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  1. dazedandconfusedbydestiny
    Ok where to start. First off I finally heard from bob and we are getting together july 1st to talk about everything. 2nd I told hubby the truth finally. He took it rather well. He said he has suspected all along. He also has said even if Christopher isn't his biological son he is his son he raised him and he won't throw that away. Which helps. I also told him I believe our marriage is at a standstill anymore it is like we are 2 strangers sharing a roof and only using each other for sex with no emotions involved. He said and I qoute "so what's wrong with that." Myself I replied non emotional sex you can get anywhere but shouldn't be in a marriage. I know I have made alot of steps, 1 with bob wanting to talk about everything, 2 telling hubby the truth. But I am still lost as to where to go from here. I do not wish to sever my husbands ties with my son if it comes out that he is Bobs child. I want them to continue their relationship. But I also do want to give Bob a chance to get to know him and find out if what I have always suspected was true. Hubby agrees Bob has a right to know, but hes not exactly comfortable with Bob getting to know Christopher. But really he has no choice in the matter. I know I have come a long way since last time I updated you, and I know I still have a long way to go. Alot I won't know until I talk to Bob about it. Just thought you would like to know whats going on. Wanda
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    only way to tell is to get a pregnancy test.
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    Nothing, hes going to do what hes going to do no matter what. Just I have brought up what I have been deeling with for months now with him to several friends. Most of them has asked if hes moving on, and honestly I no longer care. I use to say if i caught my hubby cheating I would make bobbit look bad. Now I say good for him would make it easier on me. It's a sad shame that after 16 yrs I have no more feelings for my husband then I would for a friend.
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    That you know your marriage is over, when your husband is going out of town for 3 days. You ask him what hes going to do the 2 nights hes by himself at the hotel and he says nothing at all. I can't even feel anything. You would think after almost 16 yrs of marriage that I would feel something. But i feel nothing at all. Almost like if a firned would be going out of town. I know my marriage is over but kind of making me see it when I don't care what my husband does when hes gone.
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    Sorry can't help here never got over my ex, and its been 16 yrs.
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    ty ta ree saw, I know it comes from being emotional abused and stuff growing up. I have delt with alot of the anger I have. But its hard. I also still deal with a Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that started when I was 16 and witnessed a murder. When someone shot 2 people point blank right in front of me. So yes I have alot of demons im exercising. I just try and take one day at a time and hope that eventually they all leave for good.
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    No i can't answer no to those questions. Just that voice loves to poke its head up when ever I choose to do something. I always feel after words that I did the wrong thing etc.. It's a pain the butt.
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    Different things. Afraid to do stuff because the voice in the back of your mind says don't do it you know you will only fail. Or don't say this the person won't like you. ETc..
  9. dazedandconfusedbydestiny
    Anyone have problems with insecurity. Looking for suggestions on how to kill this demon for good.
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    ty very much. I just hope i'm not taking more of a bite then I can chew.
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    My kids are 15, 13 and 12. I do not plan to start a affair. Believe me before we even get to that point hubby is going to know very well that I have left him and filing for a divorce. I do not know where my future lays, but either way I am not staying in this marriage.
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    no hes not a doctor, hes just wearing a blue shirt I bought for him for the pictures. No im not happy at all in my marriage. It has been pretty much over for months now. As to My friend I know I never stopped loving him since we dated 19 yrs ago. I know that he still loves me to, which he told me. Alot of people have a problem that he's in prison. But I have found out through more background checking that hes in there undercover. The reason hes in there shows though on the department of corrections website that he was in possession of a concealed fire arm which set off flags in the first place because he is a deputy sheriff and last time we talked he was checking into going into the state police.
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    sad thing about cervical cancer is, its a std.
  14. dazedandconfusedbydestiny
    pap smears are something you will face for the rest of your life. Especially if you have ovarian cancer in your family. A female healthy or otherwise should have one on a regular basis just to make sure theres no cancer cells etc.
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    My husband has no clue, or not that hes let on that he knows. If you would like to see my family photos they are at link removed as you can see my son looks nothing like hubby.
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    Ouch touchy subject. I think if you have told him that it makes you feel less of a woman that he gets off by using porn when your there. Hes not only being disrespectful of you but purposely making you feel lower then trash. Hes not only degrading you by doing that, but making you feel useless.
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    I am so nervous. I haven't seen him in person in 13 yrs. I haven't talked to him in a few years since he got married. Hes divorced now. It is a good posibility that hes my sons father. I told him that, and he wants to talk about everything. I know I shouldn't be nervous, or worried. But dang the child in question is the only thing I ever kept from him. Basically i'm a coward whos time has come to face up to their actions and afraid to see what happens. I know hope is going to say have you got the paternity test done yet. The answer is no. Hard as heck to get that kind of money together when your hubby plans your checks out before you get them. I can't very well spend 115 dollars on something without him asking why. sinks my head in the sand like a ostrich because I am so dang nervous I don't know if i should jump for joy or hide behind my invisible wall. WAnda
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    on top usually but sometimes on side
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    Hi yes I received counceling for my moms abuse, at the time I was described as angry at the world. Hubby and I have tried counceling and it hasn't worked. Yes his abusive tendencies have been reported to the police he was even in jail a whole day the time he hit me in the abdomen when I was pregnant. A few friends who know, ask if hubby may be cheating. My answer is what made me realize that my marriage is over. I use to say if i caught hubby cheating I would make Bobbit look bad. Now I say good for him, I hope she can make him happy since our marriage has been anything but happy for a long time. I am just tired of living with the choices I made in my life. 1 was marrying hubby when I didn't really love him. Word of advice don't marry on rebound. I finally talked with my mother about everything yesterday. She was really suprising. She said if I feel like im in danger staying here then I need to get out. I just wish it wasn't easier said then done. I am still dazed and confused but i think its by destiny I believe things only happen for a reason, it's up to make the choice to go in the path that is prewritten or if we choose to wander. Wanda
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    As i told another friend just recently. Destiny fate or what ever is going on only can lead us so far. It is up to us to chose to follow the path that is put before us or to follow a different path that we chose. It is obvious shes not happy in her marriage, and more then likely has realized the mistake she has made. Buying a house doesn't mean shes happy. Money can't buy happiness nor love.
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    Speaking from a woman in your shoes. My ex bf who i remained friends with always said he still loved me, we were always there for each other when we needed a shoulder to lean on. But he would never ask either for me to leave my husband, and I myself wouldn't tell him I wanted to either. I wanted him to make the first move. I have to say I have made the first move now, I am just left wondering til we talk if its to late.
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    I believe in soul mates and true love.
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    He currently works for a private college where hes way underpaid for what he does. He was asked by another college to come to a job interview in Kentucky. I do not want to move there, I just don't know how to tell him. I mean yes I have already decided to leave him saving up money to do so. But He keeps acting so excited about possibly going there. Arghh why does life have to be so complicated. I want so bad to tell him I am not going anywhere with you, I am leaving you etc.. But I am afraid to because he is violent when things don't go his way. He didn't get me anything for mothers day. Our anniversary is coming up next month and he hasn't even mentioned doing anything then either. He sure isn't making it harder for me to stay. I just don't know what to do anymore. If life could get any more complicated I think i would pretend like I was a ostrich and put my head in a hole. Wanda
  24. dazedandconfusedbydestiny
    If you do not want to have anything to do with him, and you know that your moved past him. Then to accept calls would be only to give him hope where there isn't any.
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    I would ask her why she thinks your not being assertive. It would be hard to be assertive if shes not letting you know why.
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