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i guess i think dating is seeing someone once or twice aweek. talking on the phone every day or two. because it is away to get to know the other person. i don't want to be to pushy or expect to much thats why i thought i'd ask you guys. thanks for the advice
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hi there never having really dated before i was wondering what are the "dating rules" how much you see each other ?how often you talk? when do you let the other know you want to be exclusive? with dating someone i have just met im not sure how to go about every thing. i dont want to expect too much, but i also dont want to feel not important, or let down. any insight would be great thanks.
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sometime that happens in between periods if your stressed, eating differently. normaly its not something to worry about. but go to a walk in clinic if your worried you might be pregnant. or buy at home test, some can tell right away.
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Need advice about my situation
b8s replied to Sammy28's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
this is the exact thing that happened to me. it came as a huge shock he said he loved me we exchanged keys he wanted me to move in etc..... then one day he cant be in a serious relationship.. we work together and that made the breakup really hard then a couple weeks ago we had a fight at work., because of how weird things were at work. and we dont talk at all anymore. it ended with i never want to talk to you again.. etc well at least it was closure. i felt he was scared by how strong his feelings were. but because we dont talk at all anymore and for him too be fine with that and because that is the way he wants it . it makes me think the honeymoon phase ended for him! and he just wanted out . who knows everyone is different. oh yeah he is 26 im 30 -
she's a girl.. i know i wont give out personal info. and when someone is pressuring me i tend to back right off and not want to talk with them. don,t press to hard!
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thank you!
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no not him i meant the whole fight was imature on both are parts. but you are right. i guess i wouldn't want someone i disliked to wish me a h.b
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well its my ex of 1 and 1/2 months birthday tomorrow. two weeks ago we had a huge blow out fight and he never wants to speak with me again. (imature) it does make n/c easier!! i will see him at work tomorrow and it is birthday . i can't say happy bday, he really wants to never have to talk to me. he broke up with me. and now he hates me... it just makes feel like crap i dont like knowing that someone i loved doesnt want to know me. oh well i just needed to tell someone that! i hope everyone had a good easter
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its true its for the best. my ex played head games with me for 5 weeks and i kept having hope for 5 weeks. finally last thurs we got in a huge fight and he said that was it he didnt ever want to speak again. and that hurt but now i am moving on not waiting or hoping. in a way i think i might have pushed his buttons on purpose so that this would happen. granted i didnt want to leave it this way with him hating me. i would have liked a friendly ending because we work together and now it is devided i dont go out when he does etc etc but since thurs i now want to go out, not stay at home crying and thinking of ways to win him back.
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Premature marriage-talk, good/bad?
b8s replied to elizmdavis's topic in Marriage/Long Term Relationships
me and my recent ex talked about it as well. and it was talked about right up to the night before we broke up! i wish now i never got into all that talk because i thing it hurt me more in the end and it is making it harder to move on because i had everything planned out thanks to him and when he dumped me and broke my heart he also shattered all the future dreams i had. -
thank you to everyone for all the nice things you have said. its too bad i cant find anyone here!! lol
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im working with my ex of a month. and it is hard as hell there are times when i want to quit. i have been there 6 yrs him just under a year i wish he would just quit!!! and i am so sick of seeing him and being social with him. i still have strong feelings and it hurts me to have to pretend that im ok with being friends. it makes me mad to see him happy and over me. best of luck to you, im not having much with it. the one thing i do know is i will never date a co-worker again!
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thanks everyone for replying. i know im just having a bad day. i just thought i was doing so well up to this point. learning about him hooking up with someone set me back. YES i do know im too good for him and i will meet someone. i would just like this blah period over with now.
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well last night there was a going away party for a manager at my work. my ex was there i also got a feeling that he hooked up with a girl (not from work) but someone we met together as a couple. i asked her right out if they hooked up because that would be the only reason he didnt say hi to her when i was around . she said no but there was a delay. i know its none of my business. it just hurts and now i feel like im back at the beginning of the break up all over again, i just started doing ok its been a month now and i cant stop liking him even though im trying. i just want to hate him because this is so easy for him. meanwhile im pretending to have a great life so he doesnt think im sitting at home most nights thinking about him. and at work he comes up and chats with me like we were never together and i dont know how much longer i can do this for.i know our relationship wouldn't have worked but that doesnt make it any easier. i don't know what to do. and im tired of feeling sad and alone and not feeling like i will ever be good enough for someone. i just want to be happy!!
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ok if you have been keeping up to date with me, we broke up a few weeks ago. exchanged things last thurs and on thurs night i called and texted like 5 times saying i love you we can fix this etc.. then nothing i stopped. on sun or mon i put up a post asking if i should send him a text saying sorry about my calls the other night, i thought about your right it wouldnt have worked i hope we can go back to being workfriends like before. everyone said dont and so i did. lol we saw each other at work today said hey hows it going we talked about a couple other things totaly un couple stuff.. any how to the wow part! i had a note up in my restaurent saying i needed a place to stay on sun mon and tues night. i over booked my house with relatives and i just found out today my roommates are not going away etc ... so im not going to tell my little cousins they cant stay here.. they are flying in for interviews and i did promise awhile ago.. so i figured i would stay at a friends or coworkers. lots of people have said sure but...... my ex just called (i didnt answer) and left a message saying he overheard someone saying i could stay at there house so he wanted to le tme know i could allways stay at his house and he also wanted to chat and just see how things were with me. (sorry he started the message) with hi hun!! and said for me to call him back... WOW!! dont worry im not calling him back i will see him at work tomorrow anyways! but i am blown away. shocked. i think it might be because of my text 2 night ago saying lets just be friends. you were right your not the one for me. and he is happy that i am cool with him and he doesnt think i like him that way anymore. im just so confussed .. on to other things i went to speed dating tonight 15 guys 5 min chats ididnt meet anyone. they were all very nice just know conection plus none of them even reached my chin. lol!! i am only 5"9.
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well just to keep you posted, i signed up with plenty of fish someone here gave me the name. and wow you were right so many men to chat with nice guys too, and you can go on there looking for people to hang out with not date right off the bat.. so im having fun with that.. i also have my speed date night coming up on wed im looking forward to that i have never done it before. i signed up and am going to be doing ju-jitsu 3 nights aweek. things are looking pretty good! this is day 1 not being sad at all, i think its going to keep up!!
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yeah the thing is we will end up just avoiding each other at work no eye contact that typr of thing.. and i would like him to know that im fine with it. because i know i will be
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or at the end instead of the civil part i can say hopefully we can just go back to the way things were before we dated. that will only work if he doesnt think im in love with him other wise he will think im trying to get him back.. i now know hes not the one and my feelings for him will go away.
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o.k we broke up 3 weeks ago last thurs we exchanged things. we hadnt talked for real at all since the phone break up. so on thurs he told me why we were breaking up. that night i was so sad sent a couple texts left a couple messages. ( i allready know, dont say it) saying please one more try etc etc... now that a few days have gone by i wish i hadnt let him see how much he hurt me. my question is should i send a text tonight, before i see him at work tomorrow? saying im sorry about my calls on thurs i was upset but i thought about it and you were 100% right it wouldnt have worked out! im glad you ened it when you did. i hope we can be civil to each other at work. or should i not do anything and hope it will be ok at work. i dont think i will be able to look at him properly with him thinking im so hurt and so in love with him and want him back. i dont want him to think im waiting for him .. my calls from thurs said i was going too. ( i know stupid) i dont want him to look at me and say poor her. i want him to think i dont care anymore im moving on!!!!! what to do????
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well the mixer was a bust and i ended up back at home by 9 but oh well, i tried it i have one more on wed if that one is no good then i'm done with them.. the last time i talked to him was thurs night. im definitly glad his phone was off on fri when i called. with him not knowing it makes day 3 n/c. i dont have to see him at work this week until wed. i guess i will say hi and thats it when i do see him. as each day goes by im beginning to think maybe i liked having someone around and not nessisarily him. who knows. if thats the case then im glad he ended it. but this could also be me trying to make excuses!!!
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i'm not really looking for a b/f right now but i would love to meet someone i could hang out with on a sun and watch a movie or go for dinner with. my 2 best girlfriends and only single ones moved, one to england and one is at school in buffalo now. all my other friends are married and will only go out 1 every couple weeks and its usualy just for 1 or 2 beers.
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thanks to everyone the the compliments. i dont see katie holmes!! but its still nice to hear.
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the thing that i have learned from this past relationship i had. i will never get involved with someone who says they are scared to be hurt again. everyone has been hurt i have just been, now and in the past but i have never started a new relationship worrying that this person might hurt me. you will allways have your guard up waiting for it to happen and you will never get to enjoy what you have.. so it will never be healthy if you cant give yourself totaly
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It's hard to be thirty-something and single. Seems like all the ones worth havin' are already taken--those that are available in our age bracket are either still available for a reason or have been thrown back for a reason. Bleah i hope not everyone thinks that because i dont want people to be saying i wonder what her problem is if she is still single at 30...
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thanks! if i went that way i would also be game...