elizmdavis

I don't agree Robowarrior, only because he is my boyfriend. Yes I love him, yes I want to be his wife someday, but we are just college students right now trying to make it through. If he were my husband it would be different and there would be no limitations on any of it My love that I have for him is urging me to help him find the money himself, it would only help him. Sometimes love makes a person take the harder route, but it is out of love and that is enough. Thanks again!

I am a senior in college and I will be graudating in May 2007. My boyfriend (possible fiancee/later husband, we'll see!) is graduating December 2007. I love him very much and I want nothing more than to see him achieve his dreams and be happy. I have paid my way through school out of my own pockets and in part out of smalll scholarships and grants. It has been rough but well worth it Anyway, he has a full ride through school from his fathers employer but after this full time summer semester that it paid for, he only has $800 left for the fall and tuition costs well over $2200! I was awarded plenty of money to aid me in my final two semesters. Being the giver that I am I offered my boyfriend the $1400 he would need for fall. He was so happy, he began to make payback promises right then and there! Later that day I wished that I had kept my foot in my mouth because all these thoughts of "My boyfriend owes me money" felt so negative. Today, he said "when you lend me that money..." in a conversation I sort of shut down and he said "whats wrong?" I said I wasn't "sure that I should because I need that money too, it is money that I have saved for my own insurance and security in hard times". And then I said "How would you feel if you had to owe me money? If whenever you went out and decided to blow $100 on a night with the boys, I would feel like you owe me that because I needed it!" So I basically told him it wasn't worth it and that I would help him search for scholarships and grants the way I did. What do you all think? Did I do the right thing? Thank you!

I met my current boyfriend through my job as well. He and I both helped to open the restaurant that we currently bartend in together. We were good friends for over two years until last summer when we discovered there was a lot more to us than that. Well anyways, he has always been a flirty guy, heck, he flirted with me when we were just friends (i'd just roll my eyes at him, lol). But when he would make flirty comments or gestures with the other girls, the girls would turn to me with an expression like "umm Liz, this is awkward", as if they knew he shouldn't do what he was doing, especially in front of me! Well, I shrugged it off because I wanted our personal lives to stay out of the workplace (not the easiest thing ever). There was this one day where he basically had done or said one too many things for me to handle, so after work I pulled him aside and said "Hey, I know you are a very fun guy, quick-witted and such, but sometimes the comments that you make to the other girls here embarrass me." He said something like "Really? I don't mean anything by it!" I said "The girls look at me when you make comments to them, and I in turn tell them you haven't taken your meds yet, haha." Never the less, the flirting died down because he cared about how he was making me feel. If it comes up once in awhile, then I will make a wise-crack (no harm to him) that pretty much re-directs the flirting from the awkwardness that it could become. Remember, when you work with your boyfriend it does add stress to the relationship because you are around eachother a lot more. Ususally work is a personal thing for a person, but a co-worker thing is all business. You guys need to find that line between business and personal and balance it out! Best wishes to you

Ever since my bf and I got together, we always felt like we would get married someday. He just feels like "the one" yunno? I know it sounds cliche folks, but the feeling is out there! I was always told "you will just know" whenever I asked anyone how they knew who they were going to marry. With him, I just know! So, since we got together 8 months ago we sometimes say things like "When we are married..." "For our wedding..." "our kids will...." and its fun, also very exciting. I guess this is because it could happen!! And because I would love for it to. But... we are both in college still, I have 1 more year and he has about 2. Graduating is my goal right now and his as well. We talk about getting married like it is inevitable, but I feel like we could be jinxing ourselves too. We don't know for sure when it will happen, it is almost like we hope that it does (God willing). So is all this talk ruining our current relationship (bf/gf in college young and happy)? Because sometimes I feel uncomfortable, like for example the other day I said "Babe, when we get married, our getaway car will be a Toyota Supra!" And it seemed awkward. What do you all think?

OK, well at least you are legal now. Is your boyfriend religious? How serious is your relationship? Maybe he is practicing abstinence. Sex puts many add-on's to relationships that most people don't think about. Here are a few: STD risk, Pregnancy, drama, lust. Perhaps he is trying to love you instead of lust you. To me, that is commendable. TALK TO HIM

Ok, TMALSS, My guy thought that I was ignoring him in the car this morning. It kinda began when he said "Shut up!" to me in front of his family (it was at the end of a joking-type statement), it threw me off a little but I shook it off. Even through smiling at him and telling him that I was not ignoring him, he still thought so. I wasn't really bothered at all! At the store, he totally walked off and left me to follow him around. I felt humiliated, and I teared up. I caught up with him and asked him "What is your problem!?" He said "You are being mean!" and I was like "How?! Why do you keep walking off?!" Then I just went outside and sat down to wait. He came out about 10 minutes later and said "Let's just go home!" So, on the way home I am trying to tell him "I am not mad and I was not ignoring you!" and he started yelling at me, at the TOP OF HIS LUNGS! That was just, whoa . He yelled "IM GONNA HAVE A HEART ATTACK AND DIE, I SHOULD JUST DIE IT WOULD FIX EVERYTHING!!!" and I was like "Babe, calm down" and he wouldn't! I tried calmly talking to him and he was being very irrational. Everytime we get in to small arguments, he just gives up and says "you win" without working things out. He says "I don't like to fight with my girlfriends, this is not what I do!" (Well no * * * *, does he think I like it??) I serioulsy feel like I am the worst girlfriend ever. He claims he is over all of it and there is nothing more to talk about, even though I am still hurt. I am afraid that if I talk to him about it he will get mad and say "I told you I am sorry!! What else do you want?!!?" I want him to stop acting like a baby. Any comments are greatly appreciated.

OK...here we go! I have had my own apartment for almost a year now. I decided to move in to my OWN place last year because I have had VERY bad roomate experiences with every single roomate I have had. From lack of respect to being taken advantage of...I just couldn't take it anymore. Living on my own has been fun, expensive, but nice. The are two reasons that I am not renewing at this place though. The main one is because the neighborhood is aweful. Cops are here all the time and its a bit scary when I walk outside. 2, I am finding that I may not be able to afford it when my last semester of college rolls around next spring (I can only work 10 hours/week max!). ](*,) NOW... I have found my future husband! He is everything that I have prayed for and more. We talk about our future all the time and how we can't wait until the days come. I have a year of college left and he has about 2. His mom and dad are OK with me spending the night with him when I do (which is almost always), even though sometimes I feek like I stay too much . Anyways, he said "You can live with us, I will ask them!" and of course I am flattered and it would be ideal for my situatuion...but would it be ideal for us as a couple ? My previous boyfriend and I shared an apartment for about a year...but it was a nightmare because he was just as much a nightmare! Am I afraid? Also, I am religious and the bible pretty much says "If you are going to do marital acts (sleep in same bed, live together, sex), you might as well be married!" I don't want to rush anything with this guy because I love him enough to be patient. He is holy and so is his family so I know his offer is out of goodness...am I just letting past living situations bother me, or am I being reasonable that this a VERY big step for us and it is not as simple as "we are living together"? There is a lot more to it than that, and I know this but he does not! Any help would be very appreciated! Thank You,

3 months ago I ended a 3 year relationship (thank god for that) and now I am falling for this terrific person. I have known him for 2 years as a co-worker/aquaintance. We began hanging out more about a month ago and the bond quickly grew. I don't know what it all is but I really am enjoying it. We have the same Catholic faith and going to church with him is "wow" (I've never experienced this with anyone). We have a blast when we hang out together and the MakeOut sessions have got to be the cause of global warming. As did many relationships in my life ( friends or otherwise ), I am afraid that this could just all be gone tomorrow. He is moving to Tucson for college and I will remain here (Phx.) to finish my degree. We aren't officially a couple but what we have is special...I pray for ways to keep the bond alive after this summer is over because it is so beautiful. Life is going to change for both of us but will our friendship transcend all of it?

I have been spending time with one of the greatest guys that I have ever known. We have worked together nearly two years and have always been cool with eachother. He first invited me out to a movie and we had a blast, it was friendly, but you could feel "something" there. Since the movie we have been to a couple of the same parties (each hoping the other was there). I moved to an apartment near my college and he happened to live in the same vicinity. We began to run at night together and afterward we would get in to very long and wonderful conversations until sun-up! A bond grew between us more so than ever and I would wake up each morning feeling like the most special thing on earth. Last week we went together to a dinner at my girlfriend's house. After the dinner we cruised around the city and listened to music. Just an excuse to spend as much time as the night would allow (like always!) It got late and he took me home. He seemed nervous, LoL and admitted he felt like he was going to have a heart attack (in a good way) because of me, I guessed "What do you want to kiss me or something?" and he said "Yep!" The kiss felt wonderful because it was from him, this guy Ive grown fond of over 2 years and bonded closely with just recently. That kiss led to a make-out session of immense proportions \ ! There was a lot of passion between us because of our feelings for one another. It led to us having sex that same day....great great great sex ( now at least 6 more times or so). The next day I felt a little stress and told him that I do want to lose sight of what is imprtant which is the bond God gave him and I . We could do so much with it and, I want to! Sex could make that go away yes/no? Last night, He took me on a beautiful date that has been in much anticipation. The whole time he was heart felt with me but sexually flirty too. I was feeling a little bothered because I do not just want this from him and I want him to know that I have much more to offer than just sex. As remarkably close as we have gotten i would think he knew my capabilities. What is everyone's opinion on two friends (or more than friends) having sex?

Thank you everyone for you helpful advice.

My Nana died this past october and it was a trememdous loss for my entire family. We all were like the planets and she was the Sun, our center. Of course we all took it hard and still to this day are getting over it, but no one has taken it as hard as my Aunt Frances. She blames herself for my Nana's death. She is making up all of these obscene reasons why it is her fault that she died! We tell her "no..." but she is too blinded by her own guilt. SHe has turned to alcohol as self-medication. She doesn't believe in herself enough to turn to anyone or anything beneficial. She is drunk everyday. Her attitude on life has turned so negative. She has turned into such a selfish person. It hurts me becuase I know she is otherwise and she does not see it. I understand that death is a harsh reality and that some take it harder than others, but the alcohol is leading her down the worst path. I know that she is the only one who can help herself, but it is driving us crazy that she thinks she doesn't deserve the help. I know she isn't suicidal but I also know that she says "life would be better without her in it". She is scaring and hurting me and my family. What can we do? How can you "be there" for an alcoholic?

After a year of drama and disrespect, I have decided that it is best for me to move out into my own place while I finish up college. Upon telling my roomate (who is also one of my close friends) this, she immediatley apologized to me for all of the drama and disrespect that she brought to our relationship as roomates and as friends. She says that she understands if I want to get my own place. She is sorry that she put so much strain on the environment for me. Some of you read my topic "My roomate is a cat in perpetual heat" well, yeah that drama. She also apologized for taking my things (clothes, toiletries etc..) without asking, and she apologized for constantly bringing numerous strangers home. Now the problem is, I am thankful that she came to this realization in salvation for our friendship, but I do not feel a compulsion to renew with her. I want to get my own place and still have her friendship. She claims that If I give her a chance she can prove that she will turn everything around...and the environment would be positive. When I think about it, I am more so desiring to move to my own place for the experience and not to run away from the situation. As long as she does good by our friendship, that is enough for me. Any opinions?

Last October is when I had my life-altering interlude. I was out to dinner with my friend and we then went to meet her fiancee's brother who was visiting from out of town. At this time I was with my boyfriend and the fiancee's brother committed too. It wasn't love at first sight or anything, but as the night progressed, I found it hard to keep my eyes off of him I guess it was that I adored his personality and his nature. He had the kindest look in his eyes, yet expressed such a fisty spunk! THERE WAS JUST SOMETING ABOUT HIM! Has anyone ever had the pleasure of such intrigue? I felt a different kind of good around him. He offfered to drive me home that night and there was no mistake of the attraction that was brewing. I ran upstairs and just squealed to myself. I had only visited with this guy for 3 hours and it felt like I knew him for a long awhile. He was only in town for two more days and in that time my friend always had him hang out with us becuase he had no where else to go! I was intrigued by him and the feeling I found out was mutual with him too Before he left, he told me that it was a pleasure meeting me and that I was the "coolest girl he has EVER met!" =D> He said it with passion, and then he hugged me goodbye. That was over 6 months ago and I think of him EVERYDAY! I barely know him but the feelings I got from the whole thing are still strong. Attraction is a crazy thing sometimes and it if funny the way life works. I have not seen this guy since but I hear about him sometimes from my friend and her fiancee. They tell me he blushes whenever they mentioned me to him I hope I can see him again someday, until then, life goes on.

SOMEGUY69 my religious beleifs teach me to "love thy neighbor" and I WILL not cast her aside...I am just concerned for my own well being in this situation and the well being of my relationship (as a roomate) with one of my best friends. Thank you for you reply. God Bless.

If you are like me, then you care a lot about those closest to you. Sometimes what happens then is that you forget about yourself just to help them. Sometimes this is OK, it means you've got empathy and compassion for the happiness of your loved ones. This feeling in excess though is not the best thing for you, meaning that if you display it to everything and every problem that coems about, then it begins to push your feelings aside until the other person is A-OK. It is great caring so much for people isn't it? One of the best traits in a person if having that emotion for those around you. God Bless you for your love to them, just don't let thier problems eat you up, that is when it becomes unhealthy. When a time comes that a friend calls on you for help, and you do not have the absolute strength in you to comfort them, do not push it. Let them know that you are there for them but only talk when you feel OK to (thats when the best of you gets to come out anyway!). Plus this will regualte thier dependency on you to solve thier problems. They will know that you are there but they too need to help themselves with the advice you have already gvien them. Keep your head up and stay strong with yourself.[/i]