AntiLove_SuperStar

My party stage was 16-17. I personally encourage every girl to do it, do it for life, claw back some of those stupid years of repression. Sigh. But...theres the guilt, the mindgames, the potential for STDs...I couldnt tell you 100% whether Im HIV+, even... Theres no easy answer.

If he did it to me, I'd understand - I've cheated on almost everyone else, he'd be entitled to a bit of light checking-up, no problem. I don't feel tempted to do this out of serious suspicion - its through sheer paranoia. Ive had the most foul moods lately and the sickest kind of thoughts. I'm pretty scared. This should be the LEAST of my worries, but I was nonetheless thinking of it.

They might...but generally, breakups happen for a good reason, and reconciliations arn't very common. I suppose there is always that category of person, myself included, that make relationship decisions etc on a kind of whim, and THEN regret it, in the cold light of day seeing what they ought to have done. So then, perhaps, they realise what a mistake theyve made. Generally - dont get your hopes up. If you loved each other AND were compatible, you wouldn't be apart.

Crikey, thats quite a coincidence...I mean, think how may chatrooms there are out there...that you two should meet, is bizarre. (Unless of course it was one you both go to regularly). Anyway. You've been together less than 2 months, and you're having trust issues? I don't think this is an especially good sign. This may or may not apply, depending on the details I havn't got from this post - Another thing that puzzles me - what KIND of chatroom was it? If it was a hookup one, should you not ask why SHE was there as well as repenting for your own sins? It sounds a bit messed. Why wouldn't you tell her who you were at the time? If you trust her, why didn't you tell her? And...why the heck did you feel the need to tell her afterwards? Surely it'd have been more sensible to just keep quiet and never do that again?

Hmmm.......I'm fairly sure I'll never do it. Its a lot more complicated than it first looks, after all.

Hmm...so: If one were to ever test their S.O character, this'd be the way to do it? Is it wrong to "test?" Don't we do it ALL the time, anyway? Not only in times like this...just in conversation, when we are counting on them to say "I love you" or something. It hadn't occurred to me that there's a difference between testing the water and playing a massive game. I think...I'd send a message, and if he responded blandly/benignly, fine. If he actively sought to chat with this pseudo-girl, I'd follow that until I had enough printable evidence to throw in his stupid face. However, I am quite vengeful! Christ, its tempting now. But I shall not. Although you could say it saves you both trouble. if your partner is going to cheat, youd both be better off apart from each other - you cant be making them that happy if they feel the need do that.

I only just saw this, sorry for late response. At the moment I'm writing my synoptic end of year on Hume, Empiricism, Miracles and the christian response, using Thomas Aquinas. Philosophy of religion always fascinates me, and I'm always drawn into solipsist debate, private language (go Wittgenstein!), Hegelian thought, Kantian ethics, Kantian Synthesis (very much in agreement with), and almost any Descartes, simply because he was/is founding father of modern philosophy, as they say (and cheers, spug )

I'm still undecided. When my jury comes in, I'll be interested!

Who's going to arrest a 16 year old guy, for instance, doing the Myspace thing with his girlfriend? No violence, nothing - just finding out shes a bit of a loser, and dumping her? How is that illegal? And if it is..how the heck is it enforced? People lie ALL the time online!

Well, I havnt done it. But....Im a bit of a one for things like this, so I may do one day. However, I'd have to be sure something was really up first. And I know about the kind of info/image to include. I've read enough case studies to cover tracks. And I'm a damn good actor. I think, perversely, that was the most positive thing ive written on here about myself for weeks. Ironic!

I'm 5ft 7ins, 139lbs, and look nasty. But I'm very "healthy". Sigh....the issue here is, as ever, confidence.

No, I think my current partner is very loving and faithful, but I like having a potential....tool or two to help me should need arise, and so forth. Obviously it isnt a preferable course of action. Complex one.

I might actually give it a go then. I just think people may have done it to me. Yet, no one ever SAID anything, if you know what I mean. I've never met anyone from online whislt with anyone else though, so I never had that problem. Oh wait..I did, but it turns out I hadnt been trapped anyway. Blimey, could open a can o worms.

So. I'll make it clear at beginning AND end of this that I am not actively thinking of doing this. But it has really been on my mind, partially through my own paranoia at being caught in past, I think. Maybe. a) You suspect your partner is cheating. b) Its not more than a gut feeling, and you have no concrete proof - and you cannot get evidence. c) You figure that they are a member of a network like...e.g, Myspace, or similar. Either way, its a community where people have A Page, and people can leave comments/messages. d) They hav their status set to "In Relationship"...but its not enough. e) So. You create a benign but "nice and cute" profile that you think may/may not appeal to them. You send them a message saying that "Hi, I'm new on here, want to chat?" This message ISN'T terribly provocative or anything, but could sow seeds for Something. f) Sit back and wait to see how they respond. A VERY valuable insight to how they *really* respond to people online and why they are a member of such networks? A harmless bit of paranoia-indulgence? Or a cowardly bit of snooping? Although, if they are kosher etc, they have nothing to worry about surely? Any thoughts? (I am not currently in need of advice as to whether or not I should do this; I am seeking input.)

It sounds ridiculous, but sometimes I sincerely cry because millions of years this planet has been in existence - and yet we have millions of people who think, for example, that Celebrity Big Brother is entertainment. It makes me sick. Literally.

Nah, I've got deferred entry. I'm not off to uni for 1.5 years, but i'll know where I'm going by September. I just read novels on speed read all the days im not in college - 3-5 a day is not a problem, and i STILL seem to be bored for hours on end. I'vebeen angry for years, but lately its been making me ill I don't do creative;im crap and it makes me feel even worse about myself. Or, and maybe this is the most undesirable part, the collages/paintings/writings are good-ish, but are so dark/depressing/horrific that it makes me sad to view them afterwards

It's gotten a bit serious. I've started making myself ill trying to control my own thought processes. I've been sick for a week. The pounding in my head will NOT quit. I'm congested, but there doesn't seem to actually be anything there. I feel rather as though I'm falling apart on every level. Physically, I havn't been "normal/healthy/fine" for MONTHS - its ALWAYS either a migraine, a bladder infection, a bad cold, insomnia, severe aches/pains etc, visual disturbances, or bad stomach problems. And I cannot attribute it to any discernible physical cause. It is almost definitely bought on by stress - stress that *I* impose on ME. Yesterday, with no provocation at all, I lost my temper in a busy restaurant with my boyfriend. I think he made a passing comment on a tabloid headline. I yelled at him that he wasnt a stupid man, so why did he have to ACT braindead? Why couldnt he at least pretend he cared about things worth caring about? Normally, I don't care that he and I are different. But it was just a nice catalyst. I ranted on for some while. Then he explained/said I'd upset him etc. I just looked at him, smirked and said I didn't care. I am loathe to admit it, but the only satisfaction I get nowadays is by "asserting myself", sometimes horribly. And I cant seem to break the chain. He didn't, understandably, speak to me for awhile. I have a sadistic streak, I do sometimes enjoy being evil, but mostly I keep it in check...but last night's episode distrubed me. I have a BIG anger problem, but..gosh, I hope to God..I mean, I thought I had a better grip on myself than that. Of course it was all sorted out/forgiven by midnight and etc, but I really, REALLY have a problem. I'm consumed daily by numerous obsessions and very negative feelings, too many and too shameful to list here, all topped with a huge helping of jealousy, paranoia etc. Felt good to get it out, though. And I've gotten some nice offers from very good universities. Need a clear head for that Philosophy Degree...I wish, it was in my grasp?

What's wrong with it? My long, profound answer ; GUILT.

Please get her on the pill! Its awesome - if you are in a committed relationship you can just do it whenever, wherever, and the right one can mean she has no PMS whatsoever, ever again.

Same old problem. You know that she is a different person now - but it doesn't look like you are going to get over it in a hurry. SO... a) Get over it? b) Leave her? c) Get professional help?

If nothing else works.. Get into conventional missionary, and have him penetrate you. Then bend your right leg (carefully!) passing it in front of his face, all the while turning over to be on your stomach - except you don't make it that far, and SHOULD end up on your knees facing away from him..and you'll automatically be in desired position. Alternatively, you could just not be wet enough. Getting really, REALLY aroused will mean he can enter you from almost any angle.

Eh... Well, I uprooted myself from doing Biology/Chemistry to doing Art/Philosophy/Drama. Art and Drama didn't work out either, so I actually felt worse, despite "knowing" thats what I "always wanted to do" However, I've got my first university offer today to study Philosophy, and I may well take it. I mean I'm really quite good at it, and I can go on for hours about it. But make me happy..nope, it doesn't do that, as such. Just putting in a vote for "grass isn't always greener sometimes".

She doesn't love you or respect you, thats why she cheats! Not all girls or guys do this, but the ones who do are simply not worth being with, unless you just want sex (protected, I hope, given the STDs she may have picked up). I've cheated much more than the average Joe/Josephine and it was because a) I was bored b) I enjoy getting people to fall for me c) It gave me something to work on d) I like the shock of the new e) It prevented me having to get really emotionally intimate with anyone

Of course it does. I know I have problems and that i'm a bad person. I don't like having it put down my throat, i guess even if he is right!

Christ almighty...ST, I wouldnt have expected ignorance and patronizing generalizations from you! You're a smart guy. But...I certainly dont just run away. Im not little, I'm fat I've done A LOT of brave things over the past year or so, ive made many massive changes, dont you dare just ..rain all over that Cheers