Krystyl

Well....this may sound strange....but the one I feel sorry for here is the dog. I think the dog would be better off with you and your daughter. Do you think there is any way that you could get custody of the dog? Do you think he would give up the dog? I understand the bond to pets. And I have no doubt the dog was severely depressed when you were gone...he misses you and your daughter. If you can't get the dog, either because he won't part with him...or because if you had the dog he would still stay in contact....then it's just best to break all ties. No more doggy visitations and no doggy babysitting. It's a shame for the dog. That may sound strange to some...but I have more love for animals than most people.LOL

Sorry to be so harsh...but I did leave out one very important thing.... I don't know what she may be thinking....but I personally would never embark in a serious relationship with a man unless he accepted and included my son in the relationship. Otherwise I have no need for a man except for maybe an occasional no strings attached booty call. I think your girl is confused....she wants you, but doesn't feel very secure with you just wanting her...but not her child. That would be a very, very unsettling feeling. It feels like rejection on many different levels. And with her having severe trust issues in the first place...it just magnifies the intensity of it. Her having a son is not the problem....it's the expectations you have is what the problem is.

Okay...I'm going to be very blunt here. I think you are wasting your time. You need to move on. She does have commitment issues...it sounds like she didn't have a stable home her entire childhood and that would mess up anyone. And she had her baby's father run off. So she is/has went through hell. I'm not trying to excuse her negativity toward you. Now...as far you go....sorry to tell you, but that child will be #1 in her life as long as it's under 18. I am a single mother raising a son who just turned 6. And I have to tell you that no man will ever come before my son. Not that I wouldn't have a relationship with a man(I'm in one now and happy) or even get married....but my child comes first...that is just a normal mother reaction. And I am not trying to be a jerk....I am just trying to make you understand how a mother who cares about her child thinks. I wasn't really crazy about your statement: Due to her commitment she is forced to make with her child. Ummm...she purposely had the child...and I am sure loves him dearly. I honestly doubt she looks at it like it's the burden you made it sound like. I wasn't very crazy about your attitude towards her child. The child comes with the package in her case and unless you can commit to that child...then you need to drop the whole thing and move on. You didn't come off like you attempted to bond with her child and I am sure that very much unimpressed her. Why she is still talking about you is anyone's guess.....but I think it's best for both of you to go in opposite directions.

First of all, I have to say Melissa, that you approached this situation with your husband WAYYYYY nicer that I would have. If I were in your shoes.....I would have told him that his time with his "little friend" was OVER. "Just friends" do not converse about "fantasizing constantly about the other one". He let it go to another level and it is NOT ACCEPTABLE. I don't care if it is over the internet and not in real life. I wouldn't allow it online or real life. What happened to talking to YOU(his life partner) about things. You should be more his friend than this girl. I think he is enjoying the attention and this girl is stroking his ego BIG TIME. I would not let this go on one more day. I would take matters into my own hands. He would be told that it's over...and that he is to email her and tell her that he is married and has no need to be cavorting online with an underage girl who wants him. I'm serious....I would make him email her and tell her it's over and WHY IT'S OVER. Then you need to change your email address. I can't believe you put up with this. I can't believe his nerve in flaunting this in your face. You and your husband need to have a serious talk.

Lots of people end up marrying their high school sweetheart. So it's more than possible to carry the relationship over after high school. A lot high school romances end once the couples go their separate ways to different colleges....or they just break up to explore their new found adulthood/independence. Some just want to get out there, meet new people(ones they never went to school with), and date a variety. It just depends on the individual person, how much they feel for the other one...what direction they want their life to take after high school....their sweetheart may be a part of it...or it may not. Talking about it with your significant other and making clear your expectations will give you your answer.

There has to be a line drawn somewhere. The consent law of what age it's legal to have sex is a good law. Most kids under 16 are not mentally, emotionally ready or responsible enough to have sex. What my question is: What do these 20+ year old men have in common with underage girls? Other than having sex. If my 15 year old daughter had a 20 year old man coming around...he'd hit the road or answer to the law. And if I had a 20 year old son and I found out he was having sex with a 15 year old girl...it would make my physically ill and I would be ready to knock his head in. Sorry, I can't agree with you on this....I think that a 15 year old and a 20 year old do not belong together...AT ALL. Do your parents know??

Who knows what is really going in her head.....the 5 questions thing on her live journal could be some game of hers......one to which she has no intention of being honest. You never know. It doesn't make any sense at all that she would be willing to spill all on a live journal but not be 100% open with you. I'm telling you...this 5 questions thing is a little game she is playing. At least it's the only thing that makes sense.

How many times do you need to be told that there will not be a video of this?? If that's what you want to see...there are adult video stores that will have something right up your alley.

All I'm saying is that before two people embark on this type of adventure....both parties need to be very clear on what they expect. I didn't do that and regretted it. I'm not about to disclose my humiliation here.....I just don't want it to happen to anyone else. And just for the record....I have/do engage in this type of sex play since then....my current partner respects my boundaries.

I agree with everyone here...go slow at first...because she may get somewhat frightened if she has never done this before. I'm being serious. The first time I tried it I ended up feeling humiliated and scared.....even though it was just supposed to be a game within a 2 year relationship(and it was less than a month after this that I left). He went waaay overboard. In my naive mind at the time...I thought it would be a few spanks...some tweaks....and maybe just my hands tied up....I got the shock of my life...I can't disclose the scenario, but it was too much. You two should talk more before delving into it.....you need to find out what she thinks domination is about...so there are no shocks.

He's going to cry even more if you don't send him a video of that technique. For some reason he believes that can help him get a hard on without using vaigra And you call ME a bad girl? Tsk, Tsk, Tsk....grandpa is the bad one here.

Not really...the one I posted is a real humdinger...I haven't found anything else THAT good. I like to try new things too....and have many times....but I also stick with what works....and feels the best.

you know you're a very bad girl, you made my poor grandpa cry. He was so excited about the practice thing I am so sorry....I didn't want to make anyone cry. Like I said...he can use viagra...that get things working and he can enjoy himself all he wants...so all is not lost. I'm a bad girl, huh?? heh heh heh

Umm....well....I do own some toys....but that doesn't really take any technique. I do have quite a few techniques I use on my partner. It would be pretty x-rated to post, though...at least I think it would be.

If I had that kind of fountain of youth knowledge....I would have stopped having birthdays at 29(I'm 33). Better enjoy your youth while you can....once it's gone....it's gone.

One more quick note about 70 year old men....as men age, their penis will not get hard all the way....just like the skin and muscles deteriorate as we age....well, the penis is just skin and muscle....Viagra is the best defense for elderly men.

Wha??? Haha....I can only speak from a woman's point of view...sorry don't know how a 70 year old man's body on viagra works. And if they are on viagra...I don't think they need any help.

For the gentlemen....this technique can be used by you on your partner. To gain proper access for the technique...you and your partner would have to be on your sides....with you behind her. Drape her leg behind yours and then you will have proper access for this to work. In fact....you could have intercourse in this position and use the technique at the same time.

Hello, ladies. A while back I posted on a thread that I knew a hand technique for masterbation that is guaranteed to bring you to orgasm. This technique is very effective....once you learn it. Anyhow...I had quite a bit of PM's requesting this...and with the help of goddesss38, as my editor, I am making it available to anyone who is interested. This is a personal technique...one that I use whenever I need to. Something I perfected for myself...but am willing to share with others..becasue if you can master it..BOOM!!! If you have any other questions or not sure of something I mean..please feel free to ask. You have to use whatever hand you favor (if you are right-handed, use your right hand, if you are left-handed, use your left hand, if you are ambidexterous, pick a hand)....and it helps if you are "in the mood" before you start to try this technique...get your mind focused and keep it focused on whatever turns you on. Also...it does take some stamina, and beginners may tire out at first, until enough physical stamina is built up to allow you to go as fast as you are going to end up going. You should practice the "movement technique" before you start....hold up the hand you are going to use....hold your pointer finger and middle finger together....now make a "wave" with them.....pretend like you are petting something...only using those two fingers...not the rest of your hand or arm...as you bring down those two fingers, curl them in....as you start to bring them up....straighten them out....as you bring them down, curl them in...etc... That is the movement technique.....it should be fluid and loose (but keep the two fingers together)....not stiff. To begin...lie on your back, preferably on a bed.....spread your legs (they don't have to fully spread...just so you can get access)..... Bring your hand down....place the two fingers over your clitoris...your clitoris should be approximately where the top knuckle line is on your pointer finger on the underside. You middle finger will be slightly above your opening (at the opening..but not in it). Now begin your wave. Your fingers should press down firm enough that your fingers do not slide accross your skin...rather you are using enough pressure to move the skin around. Slowly at first...to get yourself fully aroused....and that's it...continue...going faster as you increase in arousal. It's then that you can use your arm and wrist to move your hand around, manipulating the skin..but still not sliding your fingers or hand (keep pressure on the skin area. Basically...stay in this general area of your vagina...the general idea is to manipulate the skin, increasing blood flow to the clitoris...but you can increase pressure or move slightly around to find the "exact spot". Once you have yourself fully aroused/excited....you will have to go really fast with your fingers..and not so much do the 'wave"...but putting pressue with your fingers on the skin and moving the whole thing back and forth...remember, you will never be directly touching your clitoris..it will remain behind the upper part of your fingers. When done correctly....it will work EVERYTIME. Once you begin to orgasm...slow down some..and keep it as long as you can. This may take some practice....but it is very effective once you get the hang of it. And once you get the hang of it...you will be able to either get off really fast...or learn how to use breath control/hand control to prolong it....I will tell you that when you learn to prolong it...the orgasms will be the best you have ever had in your life...seriously. Good luck!

Trust me....if a woman has no sex drive before the marriage...don't expect her to have one after you are married. That piece of paper is not going to magically transform her into a sex goddess. Either she is a sensual/sexual person or she isn't. Don't expect fireworks. And you say she is cold/not much emotion....again....that piece of paper is not going to change that. You have a lot of work ahead of you if a better than average sex life is important to you. After four years if she is not comfortable enough to make out with you and ENJOY it....you have problems. Being innocent is one thing....but being a cold fish who doesn't enjoy physical contact is quite another.

If he really is sorry...then he will be willing to do more than just "stick it in you" to give you pleasure.... If he can't last once you have actual intercourse....then you need to do other things first...like have him go down on you....use his hand to stimulate you. Or you will have to help him...use your own hand to pleasure yourself...show him how you like it. You should get to orgasm too....he needs to work on you getting off first...then he can. That would be fair and the right thing to do. Couples rarely orgasm at the same time. Good luck!!

I don't have any family members or friends in a gang.....I am a recovered drug addict and knew some gang members....they were drug dealers. I view them now as the scum of society. Is being in a gang worth it?? No way... committing illegal crimes, committing violence, doing drugs, selling drugs, and wasting your life is never a good thing or worth it. I've heard of the Bloods....there is no way you can shut them down...way too many members. And unless you are reporting a specific crime they committed and can prove it you will be wasting your breath....trust me...the law already knows who they are. I feel for you....I hope your brother gets out before he does something that will send him to prison....or he gets himself killed. I know those are your biggest fears. Just keep praying....it's really all you can do.

I am sorry to say it....but you fell for the oldest lines in the book of unfaithful husbands. He was feeding you a crock of sh** when he said "My wife doesn't understand me" "She doesn't like sex".....all a pack of lies. Men like him want their cake and eat it too. He cheats because he can...don't think for one minute that his wife doesn't know he is a cheater. He is a liar....and a cheat. You weren't any different to him than his wife...he lied to you...and cheated. Do you really, honestly believe that in the last 5 years he wasn't having sex with his wife? He will never leave his wife...he doesn't have to. He can find some honey on the side and have a home to come to that he obviously likes....or he would have been out of there years ago. Who knows what the real reason is that he ended it with you....his wife could have given him an ultimatum for all you know. Why would you sell yourself so short? Don't you think you deserve better than being second to his wife? That man would have told you anything to keep getting in the sack with you(I love you...we were meant to be together...blah, blah, blah) 9 times out of 10 the "other woman" is the one who gets hurt and dumped. He was a cad and doesn't deserve his wife or you. Put this behind you and find a single man. Married men are just that...married. In almost every case they will never, ever leave their wife for a mistress. If you go to his house you will make a fool of yourself. Like I said....the wife probably already knows all about you. He is not worth it. Sex is not the basis of a real, genuine relationship.

Ummm...I think it's adultery plain and simple....the gender of the other party has no bearing on whether it's cheating or not. Sex outside the marriage is adultery...period. Threesomes within a marriage rarely work out in the long run. And letting your wife run off to have a fling that could possibly end up as an affair baffles me. She obviously has no intention of asking you to join them....otherwise she would have already..or at least talked about it. She is being selfish and she is cheating. I think you better sit down with her and have a long discussion on what you expect out of this situation.