Goff

This is certainly true. I really do not mind the kid, but it's entirely possible that she may have gotten the impression that I don't really care for the child. If this had been an issue though, she should be upfront about it so we can set the record straight.

By no means do I see her child as a burden, it is a responsibility which she had to take on due to irresponsible behavior. Had the fact that she had a child EVER been an issue, I never would have been interested in her in the first place. By all means, her child should definitly take priority in her life, it's just unfortunate that she is unable to balance her current responsibilities with the other ones that she creates. I have since given up on any hope that this may work out, for now at least, but is it wrong from me to want to know why it didn't work on her end, and how she truly feels about me?

Ouiy vey, where to being? First some background information, this girl and I have worked together for some time, 3 months ago we began to become interested in one another. Unfortuantly, this girl is the mother of a young child whom she had with a previous boyfriend who abandoned her. She also grew up in a broken household after her parents divorced, leaving her with a very negative opinion towards men. The problems started up right at the beginning. For one thing, communication between us had some serious issues. Due to her commitment she is forced to make with her child, she was almost never able to make time to see me or even call me. When we did talk to one another, it was usually mindless chit chat, never anything serious or substantial. Had it not been for the fact that she continued to express interest in me to friends, I would have given up this relationship and concluded that she wasn't really interested. Despite the fact that she never seemed ito want project her interest towards me, I was led to believe that she was in fact interested in me, and that I simply had to wait until she was able to get her responsibilities under control. So months went by, and eventually the conversation dried up. Despite this, she still projects interest in me towards other people, but never to myself. This causes me to get increasingly frustrated, because it seems like all the right elements are there to make this relationship work, but it's her refusal to make a move that seems to be holding it back. Finally I had enough, I decided to hopefully pursuade her into being straightforward and telling me where I stand by writing her a letter explaining how I feel and why I am growing frustrated with her actions. Unfortuantly for me, my letter and my feeling seem to just sail completely over her head. Now, She continues to project interest in me towards other people, but those people are also growing tired of her nonsense and simply tell her that she needs to talk to me, becasue despite the fact that she really does seem like a sweet and sincere person, her actions in this relationship are really not cool. unfortunately, this is advice which she really does not want to take and adhere to, clearly this girl really just wants to have her cake and eat it too. My problem is not that I am upset with rejaction or whatever, it's just that feeling of uncertainty that she left me with as she's left me hanging by a string over all these months. I don't want to look back at this in 10 years and still have that sense of doubt, ya know? Can anyone give me some insight on this situation, and maybe advise me on what to do and why women act this way? The obvious answer is that she simply never had any interest in me, but that doesn't make sense with the evidence as it is. Is this just a case of the devil in disguise where messed up people do messed up things to other people and it's just part of life? Is there any way I can get this girl to get over her stubborness / commitment issues / whatever other issues she may have and simply have a serious conversation with me about one another? Thanks in advance