Laughing Sam

WHAT THE *?!£$ the only thing of importance is the number 15. not the age gap or the amount of time you have been speaking or whether you are a leo or a aries or if you live in US or UK or main street china. She is 15 and is to young for a relationship, and you have no evidence she is 15, she could be saying that to make you feel it is ok. What would you do if you found out she was 13. She is 15, imagine if she were your daughter, or sister, have a little respect for the child (for that is what she is) and leave her to grow up.

Just be grateful that she didn't smash the lap top over your head. You sound like you have made the right decision. where did she come from, I need to remember not to book a holiday there if all the women are the same. Chill it is only money, and be thankful you got out when you did.

Not wishing to be nasty Evelyn but it worries me that people don't know the answer to these type of questions till after they have had sex. My only comfort is that there are places like this where you can ask these questions. Ah the ying and the yang

Judging by the amount of negative reaction I take it you will not be making a second post. "be careful what you wish for ...... you might just get it"

Ecoastgirl You are one of the bravest people I know because you have got to a point where you understand and acknowledge all he has done against you. You no longer make excuses for him or look at him through rose tinted glasses. You must make the next step and start isolating him from your life, you know it will be hard and he will try to worm his way back in, but please try. You have a whole community of friends you have not yet met crossing their fingers and praying for you. a mighty big E-hug from me, you are wonderful x

Answer is YES !! Next question please

What a question, firstly in which context is the question being asked. If this is a general how do you keep your partner simmering on a low light then the answer is easy. If on the other hand it is a plea coming from a relationship which is going pear shaped the answer is very different. As a man and speaking totally honestly, yes I want a wife who is also an exciting lover and I am sure she would say the same. thereforeeee what we have done in our relationship is to try and remember the way we made each other feel before we had children, mortgage, jobs ect. The way you do this is to set aside time for each other, it may only be a couple of moments a day but we will often send romantic/sexy/seductive/down right dirty texts to each other, I always ensure she knows it is her I want to be with, we hold hands, kiss in public, tell each other how we feel. Also, once a month we ensure we go out as a couple. This may be just a drink at a local bar, but we do it without friends, family, children, just us two. On occasions we have gone for a meal and (simply because the mood took us) have booked into a motel on the way home - even checked in under different names once just for the thrill of it, (Mr. Simpson and Mrs. Jones) But most importantly, we still speak about sex to each other, we discuss what turns us on, which movie stars we fancy, what excites us, especially if it is something we have never tried and in doing so it opens up new ideas of what WE want to do together. If you can not talk about sex how are you going to have a fulfilling sex life. Don't get me wrong we are not all over each other like a couple of dewy eyed sweethearts but in the knowledge that we no longer have the time (or energy) to spend every evening grappling with each others underwear we make the times we have count. If the question was set as a plea from someone whose partner no longer lights their fire, then you need to talking together, not in a "why don't you do that thing with your tongue anymore" way but in a "lets hug a little more and see what happens" way. Old Joke alert - we have been married so long we thought we would try a new position, we have sex back to back.................... we invite another couple round.\\

Igirl i think you are being really harsh, pianist has given her side of the story so we can only take it from one angle, but the guy sounds like a creep. I agree that you should draw a line in the sand and move on. But a lesson learnt, don't let others know the passwords to your E-mail accounts.

These are great pieces of information, so pleased so many people have taken a moment to reply (keep them coming). any more nuggets of wisedom or actual experiances would be fantastic Laughing S.

Now that is a whole new subject

Body Language tip number 1. Look for the other person to start copying your actions, rather like a mirror image. Taking a drink when you do, holding their hands in the same way as you, sitting in the same position. This shows they are relaxed and in tune with your actions, first sign of attraction.

Hi A couple of days ago I had a long and heated debate about the age old comment "I like a man who makes me laugh". Although this is said by most women, at one time or another, is it true?????? In my experience, looks work as a sudden impact attraction. If you are at a club or bar it is easier to get close up to a woman if you have the eye candy element. In more long term, slow burning, attractions such as work, friends becoming lover's type situations it is the guy (or girl) who has a personality who can rise to the moment. With the invention of texting and instant messages it seems that "a way with words" has become a real asset, but what are your feelings. I would really like to hear from anyone with either a view or experience of this. A counselor friend (who deals a lot with divorce and relationship break ups) and I are looking at going deeper into the subject so ANY thoughts would act as a good springboard. Thanks Laughing

It is not a"lesbian" fantasy but a porn idea of "two blonde 38-24-36 nubile goddesses who just happen to be lesbian's till they find YOU" fantasy which most men have. As for me what would I do with a lesbian, except fight over the same straight girl we both fancy. Now two bi-sexual babes who have a liking for mid 30's stressd out beer lovers..................................BRING EM ON !!

If your girlfriend is pregnant, better call the baby AQUAMAN !!

don't run in like a bull in a china shop, have a beer and enjoy the view before you decide on getting a private dance. Also your profile does not show your age, if you are young it could well be the dancers trying to get you off as a tease, they have to have something to give them a giggle.