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She wears an unuasual ring should I ask her about it?
Aksinia replied to cowboygill's topic in Dating Advice
Some people aren't big fans of diamond engagement rings, for example, princess Diana had a sapphire engagement ring... There's a chance that the lady you're interested in might also be wearing a sapphire engagement ring. Why don't you just ask her about it? You can casually ask "is that a sapphire engagement ring?" (be sure to emphasize the word "sapphire", not "engagement") If she is not engaged, she'll probably tell you what the stone is, and that it is not an engagement ring. If she asks why your interested in her ring, you can always say something like one of your friends just got engaged and has a plain old diamond ring, and that the blue ring caught your eye because it is so unique. She'll be flattered and you will accomplish your mission to find out if she's taken or not Good luck! -
Ok... but if I stop faking it, it'll be really weird for him. I mean put yourself in his shoes: he's been having sex with his girlfriend for 8 months and she's appeared to orgasm almost every time...and all of a sudden she doesn't orgasm anymore? How will I explain it to him?
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Thanks for the advice, but he does try his best in bed and we've done all kinds of positions (as well as oral sex and manual stimulation.) Nothing seems to work though... I've even been to a doctor and she said that there was nothing wrong with me.
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I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 8 months ago, and have been having sex with him frequently since then. It hurt really badly for the first month, and he was worried and overly careful with me... and somewhat disappointed that I wasn't really enjoying it physically (although I did enjoy it emotionally). After a month, I faked an orgasm so that he wouldn't feel like a failure, and I've faked it ever since. I feel like I'm never going to orgasm, and that I might as well keep faking it to protect his ego - but it feels so wrong to deceive him. What should I do?
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What little things annoy you about your partner?
Aksinia replied to Belinda's topic in Relationship Advice
My boyfriend compliments me all the time, but when I lose a lot of weight (like during final exam week or other stressful times) the compliments increase tenfold. I mean, I'm slim enough to begin with (105 lb) so when I lose more weight it's downright unhealthy...and it bothers me that he's into the anorexic look -
Girly question for all the girlies out there!!!
Aksinia replied to Rozanne's topic in Sex and Romance
When I'm on my period, I just tell him that I'm on my period, or it's "that time of the month," or that it's "girly time" again... Sometimes we have sex anyway though, with the agreement that *he* is responsible for doing the laundry afterwards! -
Dissapointed With Your Marriage Proposal????
Aksinia replied to drahcir's topic in Relationship Advice
I think that the best proposal ever would go like this: Boy: *honest and simple expression of his feelings* Girl: *honest and simple expression of her feelings* Boy: Will you marry me? Girl: Yes... but will my parents approve? Boy: Yes siree bob, I already got their blessing! Girl: Yay! let's go and get some icecream! The end. -
This used to happen to me and my boyfriend all the time, but we've worked out 3 great ways to prevent eye injuries... 1) Sometimes he goes for my neck instead of my lips, gradually kissing his way up to my mouth. This feels nice, and also keeps him on track. 2) If he wants to kiss my lips without going for the neck, he'll aproach my face slowly. That way, he and I have time to make minor adjustments to avoid injury. 3) Since my boyfriend is a big clumsy teddy bear of a guy, my favourite way to kiss successfully during sex is to get on top of him, and be in control of everything Hope this was helpful!
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It usually takes my boyfriend 5-10 minutes to orgasm from oral sex, it depends on whether or not we're going to have intercourse (which, in turn, depends on whether or not I'm on my period, lol). I would recommend using your hands along with your mouth (in the same kinds of motions that he would use when masturbating) and also occasionally play with his balls VERY gently. Good luck
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It's normal to get aroused from kissing. My boyfriend sometimes used to get hard just from cuddling with me, but he doesn't anymore. I kind of miss it, actually... *sigh*
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I don't think that men should shave their penis/balls - it just looks weird. I like my man nicely trimmed (with scissors, obviously) and shower fresh
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It's extremely important to get along with your girlfriend's parents for so many reasons. If the parents like you, then life will be much easier if you choose to marry her someday. Even if marriage isn't in the future, a good relationship with them will help solidify your relationship with your girlfriend. They raised her and have a great influence in her life, and so their opinions matter to her (if she respects them). This means that if they like you, then she will feel more comfortable that she made a good choice, and the relationship will feel more stable. If they don't like you, then she might think about that if you two have a major argument, and then might be more apt to break up with you (if they like you they might put in a good word on your behalf if she's pissed at you.) Luckily it doesn't seem like that's going to happen, and from what you've written it sounds like her parents *really* like you
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Umm... back to the problem of masturbation (this isn't the best place to debate religion) I don't think that it's possible to cause any physical harm simply by masturbating, and I doubt that it has anything to do with your premature ejaculation. I do, however, think that your upbringing may have something to do with it. Perhaps when you used to masturbate, you would rush or worry about getting caught by your parents or other people who disapproved of masturbation. This could translate to sex; perhaps at the back of your mind you are associating intercourse with masturbation, and experiencing some anxiety about getting "caught", or being frowned upon. If that is the case, then the best way to fix matters is to focus on the fact that there's nothing wrong with sex, and that it's highly unlikely that your mother will walk into the bedroom while you're with your girlfriend (unless you're living in her house and she happens to be home, lol). Another thing to try is concentrating on turning your girlfriend on and extending foreplay for her so that she'll be quicker to orgasm, without getting too turned on yourself. Perhaps you can spend most of the time touching or going down on her with minimal reciprocation, and only penetrate her when she's about to come. That way, she won't really care if you don't last long because she'll be ready to orgasm pretty quick, and you won't be as ready to orgasm so it'll take you more than the 4-5 ins and outs you mentioned. Good luck!
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I lost my virginity to my boyfriend almost a year ago, and I still haven't had an orgasm through intercourse. I have found other ways to orgasm though (through touching and receiving oral sex), and my boyfriend has been very enthusiastic about it. It's normal to not orgasm through penetration alone, and if you have a boyfriend worth keeping, he'll understand that and do all he can to pleasure you in other ways. Just communicate your needs to him and try not to worry about it Good luck!
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I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend, so I was 23 years old. The reason why I waited so long was I wanted to be with someone that I really loved and trusted, because it's important to feel 100% comfortable with sex. I'm so glad that I waited until I found "the one" because I've talked with friends who had sex for the first time when they were 14-17 years old, and they all either regret it or say that it wasn't all that great or special. It kind of translates to their current attitudes about sex; it wasn't a big deal when they were younger and it's not a big deal now. I see it differently, and every time my boyfriend and I have sex it's not just a fun thing to do that feels good, it's also a way to reaffirm and strengthen our love I'm not saying that you should wait until marriage or until you meet someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. I'm just saying that you should do it because you love and trust her when you are absolutely emotionally ready for it. Good luck
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Thank god it was a pimple! I had a similar thing - it ended up being an ingrown hair that got slightly infected and became a pimple. You should look carefully and see if there's a hair in there - if so, remove it so it doesn't cause irritation again, and then apply a mild antibacterial (like just a tiny bit of peroxide) to the spot using a q-tip to prevent reinfection.
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lol thanks, but even with that analysis of the web site, it still doesn't answer the oral sex question. It's almost as though the company has completely ignored the issue altogether...
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When guys stare at me, I throw them a sly little "ha ha! I caught you staring" smile. They always look a little embarrassed afterwards, but find it very attractive.
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I have two experiences with lip rings: Back when I had braces, I kissed a boy who had a lip ring and it got caught in the wires. It was painful for him, annoying for me, and generally not fun. Last year I kissed a different guy who had a lip ring (no braces for me this time!) and it was ok, but not all that pleasant. I'd much rather feel a guy's lips natural than some piece of jewelry. So I don't like lip rings, but many people do
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Hi all! I've been considering switching my birth control from the pill (Yasmin brand) to the Nuva Ring, which is a squishy plastic ring that is inserted into the vagina. I'm considering it because it has a lower dose of hormones and I won't have to remember to take a pill every day. Anyway, the company website says that most women don't feel it inside them, and men don't notice it's there during sex, but you can't always trust the website...and my boyfriend is more endowed than normal (lucky me, lol) so that could make a difference. My question is, have any of you been on the Ring, or had sex with someone who's on the ring? Can you feel it during sex? Does it cause a strange taste down there, noticeable during cunnilingus? Has it ever fallen out? What about side effects like irritation and discharge (gross, I know - sorry!) I want a simple and effective method of birth control, but I don't want it to negatively affect sex for me or my boyfriend. I want him to be just as comfortable with my birth control decisions as I am. Thanks for your time, and I'd appreciate any and all advice
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This sounds familiar... On our second date (right after an intense kiss) my boyfriend asked me "what are we" and I said "really really really good friends." He laughed and said that he could deal with that. After about a month of seeing eachother exclusively, he asked me again, and I said "dating" but then asked him what he wanted. He said that he didn't think it was really dating, and that he considered me his girlfriend. I just said "I'm cool with that" and we lived happily ever after. Perhaps you should do as my boyfriend did and tell your guy that you consider him to be your boyfriend. If he really likes you, he'll be ecstatic
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No gift from boyfriend for anniversary...but I got him one
Aksinia replied to liz22's topic in Relationship Advice
My boyfriend forgot Valentine's Day, and didn't call me on Christmas...I doubt that he will remember our anniversary, but it doesn't matter. He makes it clear that he loves me almost every day through his words and actions, and I am secure enough in our love to not expect more. What concerns me is that your boyfriend has been with you for a year and not said "I love you" yet. There's no excuse for that, besides perhaps his feeling that saying those words is unnecessary. Perhaps you should tell him that you love him, and ask him how he feels. Also, if you would like him to remember to buy you gifts on special occasions, praise him on the (perhaps rare) occasions that he remembers to do so, or talk about the cute card or beautiful flowers a friend got from her boyfriend. Don't talk about it for too long though, or else he'll get sick of it and you'll be too obvious. Good luck -
My boyfriend had been hurt many times before he met me (the perfect girlfriend and love of his life, lol) and it really shows. Although he's gradually regained his confidence, being hurt that many times damages your self esteem, and makes it harder to work up the courage to love again. You need to realize that there are many girls out there, and there has to be at least one who will love you for who you are and treat you well. They key is to not give up, and to learn to respect and admire yourself. Confidence is a very attractive quality, and you'll be more likely to be happy in a relationship if you are confident. Also, don't feel as though you are bothering girls when you call. Calling shows that you are interested in a girl, and that you are thinking about her enough to pick up the phone. As long as you aren't calling every single day (in a new relationship) you're fine. As for falling for girls too quickly, perhaps you are idealizing the girls you meet, i.e. imagining that they are perfect and that they are your soulmates before you have the chance to really get to know them. Having a more realistic outlook and getting to know potential girlfriends better (i.e. taking it sloooooow) will probably help avoid some of your heartbreak. Good luck!
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The longer you stay with him, the more you'll resent him for trying to control who you hang out with and for getting in the way of you flirting with other guys. ou might be better as friends, and I would be as considerate yet firm as possible when breaking up with him. Since you've only been together for a week, it shouldn't be that bad, but I agree that you should be gentle and stress the fact that you have little in common and have different needs and expectations. Good luck!
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Hi everyone My boyfriend (25 yrs old) and I (24 yrs old) have been together for almost a year, and he asked me to move in with him a couple of months ago. We are madly in love with eachother and enjoy almost every moment together... but I told him that I don't believe in sharing a place before marriage. He respects my wishes and has done nothing to try to change my mind, but he's been talking about the kind of house he dreams of us living in, asked me what kind of dog we should get, etc ever since that conversation. I get the feeling that he intends to marry me based on these clues and because he said he can't wait to share everything with me, but I need him to clearly state that he wants to marry me, and give me some sort of time frame. I'm going to graduate college this December, and he'll be getting his doctorate four months after that, so I need some sense of permanence in the relationship to justify not moving out of state or pursuing a steady career until he graduates (so that we can make decisions together.) I know that it would be best for me to just ask him what he wants and be specific, but that's so hard to do and I don't know how to approach him. I wish I could just tell him that I want to marry him once we both graduate, and that I don't care about a fancy engagement ring (that he can't afford right now) so he shouldn't worry about waiting and saving up for one...but I don't want to pressure him or be unromantic. What should I do?