Mike_Wazowski

Well I can say from my own hellish experiences that you seem not to be getting attention from your wife and you are looking for someone to give you some.....This other woman just happened to stare back at you when you looked at her...but i'm sure ANY attractive woman who returned your stare you would find interesting, not only this one now. If you wanna get busy with this other woman, then go for it. I'm not going to judge you. But i'll tell you one thing, just as it happened to me, it's going to come back and Bite you in the Butt! Then you will know what true pain feels like my brother...Good Luck!

I met my wife at a sports gym.....I think its a good place to meet a woman...as compared to a bar or some place like that....With regards to making your move.....Go for it....The line I used to meet my wife was "Excuse me, your doing that exercise wrong, may I show you the proper way?" That line got me in the front door.....Good Luck!

From my own experience, i can say that a friendship between a married man and a married woman is not a good idea.....

I have to learn to walk before I can run.....I took the first little steps today to ending it with this woman.....At work, we kep in contact by cell phone email. Well.....the last few days, i have left my phone at home(purposefully) so She can't contact me. because if she sends me a mail asking to meet..then I will meet her..not that I want to meet her but because it's like an alcoholic not wanting a drink but takes one anyways......So the first step to not meeting her for me is to make it so she has a hard time contacting me.....She is married of course so I know that she would never pass me a note at work or anything like that....in fact, at work we don't even socialize unless it is for a business reason...and even then, she would never say or do anything so that others at work may find out that we meet.... For the advice I have received..thanks.......Ill post again with any new info....

Firstly thanks for the advice...You know..when I am with her....all I think about is my family at home and how daddy should be there and not here(with the other woman)....and yet.....I just can't get my self to say NO whenever she asks to meet me...... I have thought about this a lot....And I think....I would never want this woman as my wife.....or as my gf.....the reason being I just couldn't trust her......and at work..whenever i hear her laughing, I just want to strangle her (not literally of course) but it justdrives me Crazy..probably because someone else is making her laugh and not me........We are only friends now..just friends.....and I guess I am just jealous if she has another male friend besides me...but I must say we meet like almost everyday so she must be some Big Player to meet me everyday, then meet another guy then go home to her husband......That's why i think there is no one elese but i just can't drive these feelings from my mind......I know I need to break it off (the friendship) before it destroyes me.....My heart aches...it literally does..it hurts 24/7.......And I am feeling the effects of it physically too..i'm always tired, nervous........You know that feeling when you lean too far back in your chair and you almost fall over but then you don't?? I feel that way 24/7......

Oh..Isle...I edited my post a little..please read it again....thanks

of course I have strong feelings for this woman... but I am always thinking that she is lying to me or deceiving me, or that she is seeing another guy besides me....I 'm sure it is just my imagination but I can't not help but think bad things about her...As I said...I just wanna forget about her and walk away and never never see or meet her again..but i just can't do it...when I think about doing it I just start shaking all over and I just Lose it! To isle.....I want to stop having coffee with her and seeing her all together...but i just can't do it...I just can't say the words 'I can't meet you anymore'. And it was Her who decided to end the affair...not me.....It has a lot to do with her rejecting me..or finding someone better...I know I shouldn't even have these feelings cause I am married to someone else......I wish I never met this woman in the first place because now I just can't escape her Power......and I really want to...My own mariage has suffered from all this..of course my wife never knows but she is not stupid....I come home later everynight then i usually do before I met this woman.....I can sense that my wife thinks something is happening......And I hate making my wife feel that way......I just want to forget this other woman.......I am weak and afraid.....

For those of you who know my story...having an affair with a married woman from work..I'm married too.....I just can't forget about her....I've tried and tried and tried, but I just can't walk away......The affair is over....but I still have strong strong feelings for her...maybe her feelings for me are not that strong....we meet as friends a lot....I wanna stop meeting her as friends as well but I just can't do it..I just can't say the words, "It's over." We meet after work everyday almost ..just for a coffee and stuff like that....but i am always thinking that she might have other men on the side besides me and her husband...whether that is true or not...who knows but that thought of it makes me sick to my stomach.....I don't trust her, I would not want her as a wife..but I just can't get her out of my head.....I'm sure all this stuff about her being bad is all in my imagination but it eats away at me every day.....I freak out if I don't receive her email or if she can't meet me on any given day.....I'm just an emotional wreck.......As I said...what I need is advice on 1) How to get over these horrible feelings and how to get out from under her SPELL and to never meet her again..... The problem also is that we work together...But i can't quit because I have a family to support...and I'm sure she won't quit either........She laughs and has a good ole time at work where as I am suffering day in day out......My heart aches big time.......Help me! Oh..I just wanted to say that in my previous posts I was punished by the people who replied saying I shouldn'thave had an affair in the first place...that of course is 100% true.....Now I just want to escape from her and never see her or meet her or talk to her again.........But I just can't do it....

WOW! justagirl20f......You hit the nail right on the head! Many guys who are cheating think that their spouse/gf/ mate is being unfaithful as well, thus they are jealous all the time of their mate, watching their every move and scrutinizing every thing they do!........Your post put things in Context for me about things in my own life! Peace!

Jealousy is probably the World's most evilest emotion.......It can eat you alive..... Whenever i saw my gf at work talking to another guy or laughing with him, and I wasn't part of it, it would drive me ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!! It came to the point where I couldn't function whenever another guy was close to her.... Then I asked the reason for my jealousy....and mostly it has to do with the person who is feeling the jealousy......They have a lack of self esteem...low confidence..... For me.....I just started to workout more....now at work, everytime i see her talking with another guy, i take a little break, go to the storage room and do Push ups....It's come to the point where I'm pumping out about 500 a day.....In the evenings I go to the gym..hit the heavy bag, work out..etc......I'm a body building machine and it has drastically increased my self confidence..... But really..it all comes down to trust..if he trusts you, he shouldn't freak out so much..if he doesn't trust you, then he should break it off with you..oh..and maybe he should find some female friends too...Peace!

If I ask a girl out on a date, I pay. if she asked me, I pay half. If we both agree about going on a date (no one person asked the other), then I pay half...... A guy can't be expected to flip the bill each and every time.

jealousy is an evil emotion......A hurting emotion...why would you intentionally want to inflict pain on someone you care about!?? You do that intentionally his happiness for wanting to be with you will disappear and he'll find another.......think about that!

Well...I know how he is feeling...the woman that I want to be with said the same thing..That I was smothering her........ She too wanted to break it off so I told her that I would back off, and that is exactly what I have been doing...I don't email her as much, I don't see her as much, I don't act like a Lovesick fool anymore. I've stopped buying her flowers and gifts all the time.....I'm just Chillin! And it is hard for me to do so mostly I just fake it......I think your guy should try the same thing....it's hard but if he respects and values you then he can do it....One thing that helped me to Back off, is thatthe woman in question said that her feelings for me haven't changed but she just wants me to stop coming on so strong and just to slow down......

The woman that I really really love, doesn't return my feelings...I mean she loves me but not as much as i love her. She says that I ask too much of her with regards to loving me back, talking about her thoughts and feelings etc..... She recently said that she can't meet me as often as she used to because she is busy at work...I think it is just an excuse to get me to back off a little. Or maybe a precursor to breaking up.....I must admit I do smother her with gifts and love and maybe too much emotion......Any good advice out there...i'm desperate!

Bro.....Your 13 yrs old for crying out loud! You should be more concerned about sports, getting in trouble, egging windows, then worrying about being Gay or not....Dude....if you wanna experiment sexually....I'd advise you to go after DA Ladies......God..nothing is better than resting your head on a girls lap as she runs her hands through your hair......Heaven!

Would I want to know if my wife cheated on me? Well...If it was a one time thing and she had made a promise to herself NEVER to do it again, then I would NOT want to know it. If she told me, I could never trust her again...The saying goes "What you don't know can't hurt you"....... On the other hand, if she had been in a long term cheating relationship, then I would be glad if she told me..that way, I could divorce her get custody of my kids and start over...... Peace!

Well...If you wanna stay with her, and she wants to stay with you then you need to have a long talk with her and tell her that she NEEDS to change her life....meaning....give up drinking and become a responsible adult....If she can't do that, then it's time to leave her..Trust me bro..I know how hard it is to leave someone ...but for your own well being...you will have to do it if she doesn't Change her life...Good luck!

Well...I've gotta disagree with you guys.....It's called Self defence....You women take it to defend yourselvess against Rapist and abusive husbands..You learn how to fight back..How to protect yourselves...I think this young guy should be a loud the same right to defend himself......Enough said.......

Well...he did mention that he may get it lasered....Why don't you do a little research yourself on the subject, find a few salons in your area and then present the info to him....It's a subtle hint! Peace!

"Violence never solves anything" This idiom has been around for many many decades...but it's CRAP.....Pure naked unadultrated Violence has solved more problems in the history of our planet than any other form of "Negotiation" technique..... If the Allies didn't stand up to Hitler, just imagine what kind of world we would be living in...... If you don't stand up to the Bully, he will keep on hitting and hitting and hitting......My advice to you my brother is to fight back enough to make him Stop then call the police....... Remember this....Bullies are Cowards...they only attack because they think the person won't fight back.....When you fight back, the Bully usually runs and hides, and leaves you alone! It's sad that your father does that to you..But you have a right to defend yourself...either fight back or buy a Stun Gun! Peace!

Nothing turns more heads than a guy walking on the beach, tanned and muscular....From a girls point of view of course......However......a romantic and caring man will win the girl in the long run almost every time. Now a ripped guy who is also romantic and caring...well.....he can write his own Ticket! Peace!

Well....For you guys who don't like hair on your chest, then you should move to Japan where I am...Most men here have no chest hair, no arm hair, no leg hair, and some I know only need to shave their beards like once a week. Being a foreigner in Japan with some chest hair...Not a jungle but some...the Japanese woman find it a refreshing change..In fact all the girls at my office love stroking my arm hair.....Gotta love that! Personally however..I really don't like having body hair...I'm 6 feet 85 kg and ripped...spent over 12 years in Da gym to get where I am today....I wanna show it off.....As one poster said ....either get it waxed (The pain...just suck it up) or if you got da Bucks....Laser hair removal! Or as I do....just rip it out with your hands.....Ouch!

You are a nice girl......good with morals...I wish every girl was like you! I wish you happiness!

Yo bro..I feel your pain.....Nothing hurts more than finding out the woman you love has been with another man.....It's the kind of pain that rips you apart......And it takes a while for that to heal..... Even though she cheated on you, I'm sure you still love her a lot and maybe you are thinking of trying to work it out with her and try to save your relationship. The problem is bro...and trust me, I know it, You'll never be able to trust her again, and when she is not with you, you will always be wondering what she is doing and who she's doing it with....This pain and this kind of thinking will eat you alive....... It may be hard to realize it now, But you got to let her go......Take the pain for however long it takes for yoyu to heal and then move on with your life..... I was in a situation where I was involved with a married woman..I loved her so much and still do...but one day she got really drunk and slept with another guy.....she said she doesn't remember to well, but really, who knows what happened....now, I can't trust her and I always wonder who she is with when she wasn't with me.......Anyways...I have broken it off with her and the pain of not seeing her is horrible (We work at the same company) but I know that this pain will soon go away..well not soon, but it is temporary, compared to the pain I would feel each day if we were still together........Anyways.my advice to you would be to let her go...and find a woman that you can trust...a nice girl...and average girl.....Good Luck Bro!

Well....This may be my last post on this thread....The awful miss has finally come to a conclusion...and here it is..... 1) The man in question resigned from the company..His last day was Friday Jan. 7th. 2) The other woman.. has started her period so it seems that she did not get pregnant. The other woman's husband told her that there will be no third chance...He will forgive her this once for getting so drunk(To the point of unconsciousness). He doesn't blame her for the man's actions but he said that it could have been prevented if she acted more responsibliy. The woman told her husband that she will change her life. To act more like an Adult and be more responsible. I'm sure her husband told her that if it ever happens again, or if she ever gets involved with another man, that he will divorce her.....I am sure she does not want that. With regards to her and me....well....I think about my life before I met her and compare it to my life while I was seeing her. I must say that life was a lot simpler and a lot happier without her in my life. I say this not because I dislike her, but because I loved her so much that it hurt.....not a good hurt, but a painful hurt in my heart 24/7. She's cheating on her husband saying she loves me etc... but then she goes and gets drunk and look what happens.......I believe her when she says she was raped and doesn't remember most of what happened, but there is always that little part inside me saying that I will never really know what happened that night..... My friend said that because this woman sortof cheated on you too, now you know the feeling that comes when someone you love is unfaithful....I know it and it's not good...but ALL MY OWN FAULT....As I mentioned, it's over between us...I am friendly with her at work but basically thats all......i'm sure her and I will have a bond that will take years to get over/ break but I deserve all the pain I got......I'm trying to get it right with my wife and kids....... I asked myself a serious question: Would I be happier or more sad if this other women was my wife? I must say that I would be sadder, more stressed etc..... i'm glad I have an awesome woman at home . And I hope I can get it right with her! PEACE!