Smity22

Does your stomach get upset afterwards? Ive only done it a couple of times and it sucked...

Thanks flower! I know in my head how crazy he is, and although I do still have love for him, I know I can never be with him again. If he does it to her, he would do it to me! It's funny how you can love someone and hate them at the same time! The whole NC thing will be even easier too b/c he will be going back to Iraq again very soon.

He just called me crying, begging to take him back! I can't believe the gall of that man!!! **and NO hope, I am definitely not going to marry him... or ever see him again (hopefully!)

Soo, last night I got up the nerve to actually call her. I made sure it was her and made sure he was not home at the time. (I was pretty sure he would be at work.) I told her that her husband had been cheating on her with me the last 2 1/2 years, and I honestly had NO idea he was married, and that I was very sorry. I also told her about all the lies he told me, like who he was living with etc. She was surprisingly calm, and asked me a few questions... she even said that she had a strong feeling it was going on but had no evidence and he is such a good liar nothing ever came of her suspicions when she asked him. I told her I was sorry shhe had to find out from me, and I wasn't trying to do it to hurt her or get him back, but I thought that she should know... she was crying at the end of our conversation but told me thank you, otherwise she would never have known for sure. All in all, it went MUCH better than expected... although I was awakened this morning at about 2 am by a call from him cussing at me, saying "thanks for ruining my marriage..." I just told him that he's the one who ruined it, and he didn't deserve her, and hung up. I'm still a little in shock about it all... thanks to EVERYONE who gave advice!

I know it may seem like I have just bad intentions in calling her, but thats not the case in the least. It wasn't like it was just a "fling" I have the engagement ring and all....

It seems like a lot of you on here said you would want to know if your husband was having an affair... but if I do tell her, what do I say? I'm not trying to beat anyone down about this subject, I just dont have anyone else to turn to because I am embarrassed for being such a fool. You can look at my previous posts to know the full story, but if I were to call his wife what should I say? Thanks to anyone who helps out... Oh yeah, she lives 3 states away so I would have to call her using a phone card which means she couldn't find out my real # if I didn't want her to...

One year isnt a big deal

hmmm, any other opinions? please? I really want to try and do the right thing.

Ok, yes I guess I do need to fix my radar but its not that easy to know when he was in Iraq for a year... I mean I talked to him a lot during the day, sometimes over 5 hours on the internet while he was at work, and he would also call me from his cell phone at night, so its not like he refused to talk to me, and he would come see me once a month... I guess I should have known, but I didn't. Of course hind sight is 20/20...

Ok, well I had posted another topic about how I just found out my LDR that I've been with for 2 1/2 years is married. Someone gave me the idea to do a poll on it to find out since I don't know..... Would you want to know if your husbamd or wife had cheated on you? In my case it had gone on for 2 1/2 years (he was in the army so it wasn't like the signs were completely obvious that he wouldnt come see me on holidays and stuff.) But he also proposed to me about 6 months ago and would continue to tell me how much he loved me and wanted to have kids etc. Soooo the question is, would you want to know if your husband or wife had been cheating on you like this? I paid $20 on the internet and found their unlisted # and his wife answered but I got scared and hung up. I think she should know but I'm worried about his 4 year old son... what do yall think?

I fully don't intend to be the saviour or an angel! Would you want to know if your husband proposed to another girl? Even if I get away from him, Im sure he would cheat on her again. She already knows he has done it once and they tried to work it out. Honestly I don't care if she accuses me, because she will realize (eventually) I'm not the wrong one! I'm not going to blame her for the affair at all, I know it's not her fault, it is his. I'm just scared for his 4 year old son, I don't want things to be ruined for him because of me...

And why in the heck do I still love him??? I hate him so much, but I love him! Am I crazy?????

Yes he did... but wouldn't you want to know if your husband cheated on you and proposed to another woman?

Their # is unlisted. I paid $20 on the internet and found it. I called it, she answered and I hung up. I'm scared. I told him I was going to tell and he said dont do it b/c of his son.... He's done it to her before and I feel bad for her b/c I know how much pain I'm in. He even proposed to me and gave me a ring... I found out because I had a weird feeling and looked up the guy he said he was living withs #. He said that guy had gotten divorced after Iraq too, so they were splitting rent. Well when I called him, a woman answered and I asked if my b/f was there, she said no one by that name lived there. So I confronted my b/f and found out he was still living with his wife... This all happened last night.

Well he is in the army, so it wasn't that suspicious that he couldn't spend those holidays with me. I knew he had been married before but he said that they got divorced and she was living in Maryland