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  1. JohnnyTable
    It doesn't. It gets you back, which has to happen first.
  2. JohnnyTable
    You need to stop calling this person immediately. Seriously, do not call her. She is "unofficially dating her ex"? What does that mean? Unofficially having sex with him? Don't take this from anybody. There is no way to talk through this problem right now. At the minimum, all you will do is delay things or make them worse. Go NC until your head clears. Read the posts on this forum.
  3. JohnnyTable
    It will be hard, but don't worry about this until/if it actually happens. Any plan you make now won't really matter a week or month from now.
  4. JohnnyTable
    I would do so for awhile. Talking to his friends is like talking to him in some respects.
  5. JohnnyTable
    Given that you care how much about how she sees you, you are being a weak person. Whether she sees this or not does not matter. What does matter is that you grow into a strong person. This will result in you not caring about what she thinks about you.
  6. JohnnyTable
    You need to change your life so that you are away from him. You need to be in control if your situation. This probably includes moving. You cannot move forward if you always see your ex.
  7. JohnnyTable
    I echo what everybody else here is saying. The whole "lets be friends" thing is BS. She broke up with you. Now it is time for you to break up with her! This is all done inside of you and actually has nothing to do with her. She wants to be friends because she is weak. She doesn't want to get rid of you, only part of you. Is this okay with you? How would she react if you told her: "I don't want to date you anymore. Instead when I call you, I want you to come over to my house and have sex with me. Then clean up my room a little bit and leave a sandwhiches on the kitchen table on your way out. I don't want to talk to you or hear about your problems." Would she be okay with this? No!?! Then why should you be okay with getting a few crumbs on her terms? This might sound extreme, but I'm not sure how it is different than "I don't want to date you anymore. Instead when I call you, I want you to come over to my house and hear about my problems. Then comfort me and make me feel better before leaving, because my boyfriend is on his way. I don't want to have sex with you." You deserve to get what you want. If it isn't from her, then move on and get it from somebody else.
  8. JohnnyTable
    If you are still hanging out with you ex, than how can you honestly said that you have tried to move on? You can't move on until you actually decide to.
  9. JohnnyTable
    This doesn't sound like a big deal. Don't worry about it. There is never square one. Everyday is different... you cannot go back to the past
  10. JohnnyTable
    Have you seen the beginning of Ace Ventura when he delivers the package? Perhaps that would work
  11. JohnnyTable
    Don't make any plans until 30 days. You will feel totally differently by then, and any plans that you make now will be a waste of time thinking about them. Instead, perhaps you should plan something that you will accomplish in the next 30 days and get to it!
  12. JohnnyTable
    What kind of stuff is in the box? Anything extremely valuable? Does she know that you have these things? If not, then just get rid of it. You are not a storage facility and it is not your responsibility to make the move to give her stuff back to her. Since its been a month, I'd say that the stuff really doesn't matter much to her and you can just throw it away. Anything else is a form of contact in which you will be expecting some reponse, whether you want a response or not
  13. JohnnyTable
    She is saying this to keep you from disappearing It is already working, otherwise you wouldn't have mentioned it in this post. It is making things hard for you. Honestly, what she says now or in the past is irrelevant. What matters now is what you do, how you think, and how you move forward.
  14. JohnnyTable
    Yeah, this is definitely something that is hard to change. If it was still severly bothering you in say a 3+ months, then I would say to move and or find a new job. In the meantime put effort into not to thinking about it (easier said that done!) and eventually you will stop.
  15. JohnnyTable
    If you are looking at her AIM profile, then you are not doing NC. Remove her AIM profile. NC does not mean just not contacting them. It also means not seeking out information or purposefully taking actions that connect you to them.
  16. JohnnyTable
    I was thinking the same thing, about how much this weekend sucked. I missed her a lot. However, I also realized that it was better than the previous weekend and the weekend before that... which is a positive thing
  17. JohnnyTable
    Once you do it, it will seem so silly that you didn't do it earlier!
  18. JohnnyTable
    Check this thread for some help:
  19. JohnnyTable
    I think that was me haha
  20. JohnnyTable
    You can remain friendly if they contact you. The point is that you don't contact them and you don't constantly dwell on them. You don't have to hate them. You just give them a very low priority on what you are willing to think about.
  21. JohnnyTable
    I think that you have a good attitude. Just don't contact him.
  22. JohnnyTable
    You can forgive somebody, but that doesn't mean that you want to be talking to them. Just as you can love your ex but still not want to talk to them. NC really has nothing to do with them. It doesn't say anything about them. It has to do with YOU.
  23. JohnnyTable
    Do not read his email. That is an invasion of privacy for one thing, and can only lead to bad things for you.
  24. JohnnyTable
    I disagree with this somewhat. Sure the person which cheated is horrible. But why was the other person with somebody who cheats? Isn't there fault in this? Sure if it is out of the blue then you might not have seen the warning signs. However I know many girls who are with guys or back with guys that cheated on them. So if they get cheated on again, then I blame them.
  25. JohnnyTable
    Time helps, but what I think is really helping is what you are doing during that time. If you sat in a padded room for years just thinking about your ex, then perhaps time is not helping you. If you take an active approach in getting what you want in your life and moving forward, then it is these activities which are happening "during the time" that are in fact helping you. For example if you are stalking your ex, time will not be helping you. If you were travelling around, meeting new people, and enjoying your life, then of course time will be helping you!
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