Hello everyone,
This is my first post here. I'm a 19 year old college student in a very confusing and hurtful situation.
It began last year, first semester of my freshmen year in college. I met a guy and we became extremely close friends. I was closer to him than any of my girlfriends. We helped each other adjust to the newness of living away from home and the stresses of college life. Our friendship began to grow into something more. I began staying over in his dorm on a regular basis and eventually it became "official." We did everything together. It was the happiest time of my life. We were inseparable. Anytime we were together we were happy. It was a very intense relationship; mentally, emotionally and physically.
In the spring, as the school year began to come to a close, things began to change. He became unhappy with our relationship. One night, he told me he would rather just be friends. I was completely crushed to say the least. However, it turns out, when he said he still wanted to be friends, he meant it in every sense of the word. He said he didn't think he could handle it if we weren't still friends. So, we continued to hang out all of the time, like we used to. It hurt me, to be around him so much and still love him, but it made him happy, and, even though it hurt, I still enjoyed his company and couldn't imagine a life without him in it. I stayed confused, because when we were together, he would do little things, like rest his hand on my leg, even though he probably didn't realize it.
The end of the school year came and now he has left for another state to work for the summer. I thought that this may give me the chance that I need to heal so that I can start fresh in the fall semester. I was wrong. We talk almost everyday, and when we don't, I find myself missing his calls.
So, here I am. I don't know if he still cares for me as a girlfriend and he doesn't know how to tell me, or if he just really cares for me a a close friend. I wish desperately that we could get back together. I am afraid to speak with him about it, because I fear losing him completely. However, he does know that I still care for him. More than anything, I can't imagine a life without him in it.
I don't know what to do anymore... Any advice would be welcome.
Thank you.