eterna2

I think the first thing to do now, is to take a couple of breaths. Calm yourself, relive/remember the pain and the hurt, and the anger, let them fill u up, but dun lost control and erupt. Imagine all these negative emotion slowly leaking, draining out of yourself. Let them slowly ebb out from you. Calm yourself, take regular breaths. Try to imagine a refreshing chill washing throughout your inner soul, just like when u take a cold shower - wash away all the bad emotions. the pain is there, u cannot deny it. but like the chill wash throughout you and dull the pain. It is there, but it is just a dull pulsing pain, a sensation, nothing more, do not let it consume you. And it would be the best, not to see that friend and ur ex for at least a few months. Try not to think, or remind urself of them. Maybe u can get ur sis to tell ur friend and ex that it is best that they try not to see u for sometime in the future, at least until u have recovered. For now, it will only cuz more hurt if u keep on seeing them. The next thing to do is, spend more time doing things u like and wanted to do. Spend more time with ur sis, family. Pick up a hobby, join some other new groups of pple for fun and activity. Redecorate ur room, get ur sis and other good friends to help. Organise and plan u wat u gonna do for the next few weeks, get ur sis to give some suggestions. And at times, cry if u need to, but dun lose urself. Cry and then move on. NEVER dwell in the pain (I noe it is tempting, but dun, it is not worth it), try to smile whenever u can, appreciate the beautiful things around u. Flowers, rainbows, little birds. Smile whenever u see something nice, and breathe the fresh air around. take a walk, look at little children playing in the playground, cuddle little puppies, try to surround urself with things that are lively, cheerful or peaceful. Smile and laugh... its a beautiful world!

ur poems are really nice hahaa can't help ya in this u just have to convince her u r write for the sake of art

my 2cent worth too. er... i dun think 4 years is called "rushing things" I think u shld just be honest and hope for the best. but regardless of the answer, just try to take things easy, at least u tried ur best. take care!

link removed haha just some funny/interesting article i found on the web relaz and have some fun. PS: Guys only, but Girls are welcome as long as they forget whatever they read in there.... enjoy and have fun!

u noe something? the way to treat pple like "Dave...yep...dave" is just to pretend they dun exist. So stop replying to Dave, or flaming him. He is a bug not worth noticing. Period. getting back to the important thing. well, the thing is just relaz when u r been with girls. actually u dun have to talk much if u are with a bunch of them. they will naturally chat alot, and u just sit along and smile/nod once in awhile. the thing is relaz, just treat them like ur guy buddies. dun really need to have any particular aims. just be urself the thing is u must understand tat pple have moods, i think sometimes, pple are just not feeling up to chatting, so learn to just ease up and give them some space and dun take things too hard.

feeling better today. ha! who's wasting space? you? yeah, definitely. neither are u comforting nor are ur comments constructive. btw, after reading up ur other posts in this forum. yeah, u definitely have a problem. either u loosen up and share, so tat everyone can help. Or u can continue this way, in the end, the one who suffers is you, and no one in this world will care. this is the way it is, how the world works - keeping to urself, having some cheap thrill. in the end, the one who suffers is yourself. repent and u will be saved. wahhahahahaa!! but seriously, even if u're just trying to have some cheap thrill, it does not reflect well on urself, and will only hurt urself in the end. not in the physical sense, but it will twist the type of person u might grow into. Lies told often enuff will cuz urself to believe these lies to be the truth.

feeling so sad sorry, dun feel like talking

well, dun have to worry so much, just enjoy urself and things will take care of themselves if they happen. just react what u wish to react (other than obviously illegal reactions). Say hi if u feel like it, if not, just walk pass her. Dun waste so much effort on things tat aren't so important. Why trouble yourself? U may not even chance upon her in the first place. Even if u did, how u react, will change nothing, only cause more hurt to urself if u think so much. just let it be. there is nothing to be gained or lost, even if you meet her. smile, and just take things ez, time will heal all. it did for me. slowly, but verily, the pain will fade into a dull throb, then eventually into a scar, a memory, nothing more. dun ponder too much over what u shld do. just relaz, and let things be.

thanks my fav one too but dun like the feeling sigh* valentine again more booze pls

this is so sweet. luck dude

u need to note tat some guys are pretty much blockheads thou. I'm a very good example. So u might wanna make it even more obvious if the above steps fail to enlighten him. but of cuz, u must see if he is a blockhead or he is subtly telling u "no".

wait lemme sort this one ur step bro's father is not ur father and his mom is ur stepmom, and not ur natural mom. so in reality, both of u din share any common genes at all, in other words, u're only related in name and not in blood. so, i dun think it is incest. although going so quickly is not a good idea. and it is better to think things through, cuz u need to consider, ur dad and mom, how do they feel about this both u and ur bro would be theoretically living quite closely, and if anything happens, the impact will be pretty big on u, him, ur parents, and ur sis. there shld be a few more points to consider, thou i haven't tot of them yet. in short, it is not wrong, but may be a bad idea, unless both of u have tot through things, and accept the price. becuz everything have will have consequences. and not everyone will approve, even thou theoretical it is not wrong.

wat done is done. move on, it needs to be mutual, only u alone who wants to save a relationship will only result in more hurts for urself. give it some time, for both of u. sometimes pushing too hard, and trying too hard will only makes wat u wanted to drift even further. give it some time, and perhaps things would be better in the future. for now, move on, do not be embroiled down in the mess. cuz it is quite clear at this moment of time, he can't accept what u are. give him some time and space to think, give urself some time and space too. take care. hope u are feeling better.

this is so sweet, u shld clean up the typos thou

A Hundred Years She left, thou my love sincere A gap of a hundred years With love, my song I sang to her A love for a hundred years But alas so true, my many fears Her words, I never hear For her, for her, I shed a tear my heart a hundred shears With time, with time, my vision clears Apart are we, a hundred years A hundred years ... ~ Eterna2

thanks santa> true true ... but still war is not good ... killing anyone or anything is bad oh well

Roaming through the golden plains Alone a soul to seek for thee In and within the golden grasses Never will find thy heart's key Raining teardrops from his eyes A love to stream as gentle be In and without the silver skies Night to come and no love seen ~ Eterna2

I think I'm a very strange and self-conflicting person. Few people can really understand me, even myself is confused by myself. I'm shy and not shy. Confident yet not confident. You see, I'm not the typical shy guy, I'm a strange shy guy. I get along with girls better than guys, got more female friends than guys, hang around with them more than my "brothers". Cuz I find, in general, girl groups are more sensitive and understanding. Actually I'm not afraid to ask when I like a girl. It is just this girl tat I'm afraid. Cuz, she's a friend. I'm afraid, cuz, if we are not familiar, things won't be so bad if things dun turn out. Too many mutual friends. This is wat happened the last time when my ex dumped me. All our mutual friends fled to her side. Guess girls tend to stick together. Thou we are still friends, just I'm not included in the group any more. So I'm just very afraid of losing her friendship, and most of my friends. And yes, I'm very very afraid of rejection. Wasn't before. But eversince my last break up, I dun think I can take heart break again. Too many times, too painful ... Each time, it takes me over a year to get over, I can't take depression anymore... I'm 5'7" but i only weighs a measly 115 lbs. Sleepless nights and hardly eating anything, no I dun wanna be depressed again. I'm still depressed now, but it isn't so bad now. sigh* so how's ya counselling coming along?

sound advice. NEVER get involve with ur teachers, at least until u graduate.

Confidence, must have confidence! No risk, no gain. Just relaz and dun be so tighten up when the girl approach. Dun think so much, about what's gonna happen. Just let nature take its course. Worrying solves nothing. Tell yourself that, just relaz and dun be so serious or worry so much. Dun always have to be bgr, just friends is enuff, when u get to noe each other better, it isn't too late ne? Just relaz and dun worry so much, things tend to solve by themselves if you take things in their stride

I'm no expert, but my personal opinion is tat you shld just forget about Audrey. The chances of u 2 getting back together is so small that it isn't worth mentioning. Just leave her and move on. It is hard I know, but it is better to have a clean break, then drag it on. You will only make yourself feel worse. Dun hope that she will come back to u again, cuz she won't. Stop thinking about her, and stop hoping. After a few weeks, ya will feel better, just dun think or remind or see her for the next few weeks. Dragging on, and hoping will only kill yourself. Dun be like me, a lesson I learnt the hard way.

Hope will only kill my heart Heart which yearn for thy sweet love Ashes from ember, cold and dark Fading lights, my forlorn love I beg for love, for thy sweet love My hand retreats with bleeding cuts Thousand eyes to shed their tears This starry night, am torn apart And so I plot my bloodstained chart Not to reach, want no cuts With heavy heart I doth depart O' the world, to thy I shut ~ Eterna2 who says to hope is good? if you do not hope, there would not be disappointment, without disappointments there would not be sadness and pain.

very nice poem. Did u write it? I kinda collect poems, can I add it into my website (er... when I eventually finish making it) I'm a nerdy, insecured, unromantic guy who can't express himself at all. I'm can only express myself thru art or words, but I can't speak or do anything else. And I'm scare of pple. mildy autistic am I. sigh* the more upset i get, the more poetic and metaphoric i get, when i speak. No one can make sense of wat i say then. sigh* Oh well, that is the problem. I tried that once, 3 years ago. But is it too soon to try again? or not to try at all, and do as I had promised 3 years ago? Hope will only kill my heart Hope will only kill my heart Heart which yearn for thy sweet love Ashes from ember, cold and dark Fading lights, my forlorn love I beg for love, for thy sweet love My hand retreats with bleeding cuts Thousand eyes to shed their tears This starry night, am torn apart And so I plot my bloodstained chart Not to reach, want no cuts With heavy heart I doth depart O' the world, to thy I shut ~ Eterna2

nay, its okay. Always better to say it out. Sometimes feelings are hard to control. I can't really give any advices, but maybe u shldn't see her so much. It will only make it hard for u to sort things out. Maybe have some time to "cool" off, both of u, before coming to any decisions in the future. well, as for me... kinda feeling disappointed and sad today, but serve me rite... u see, i dun even get to see her at all... maybe once a month or less... Although both of us are in the university, but we are both doing different courses, and anyway, she's always so bz... anyway, I noe the answer. Forcing an answer will only make things difficult between us. I'm very sensitive to this sort of things, just kinda in self-denial mode. Very similar 2 to ye. Digging my own grave.

Moderation is the key. well, upndowngirl maybe a trifle extreme i would say. But dun think she really totally meant what she said (just some exggerations to get her point accross), thou she may need to consider a few points. One way to get over it, is to stomp on the guy who cuz the hurt, to make urself hate that person. Its a natural reaction. And as with everything, there is good and bad. Consequences. In a way, it helps if u keep telling urself tat he is a lousy guy, and u re not in the wrong. But if used excessively, it will have a negative impact on urself. Human minds are a very strange thing, if u tell urself a certain thing long enuff and hard enuff, u will believe it. And that is a form of self delusion/brainwashing; very bad, cuz u might not realised it, it twists ur mind. u must realise that self-delusion doesn't helps in the long term. U must learn to recognise and accept an event that had occurred. Try not to lie to urself, feel but dun not be controlled by ur feelings. If u feel like do anything (except self-injuries, etc, u noe wat), just do it. It may be pointless, but if u feel like it, just do it. But meanwhile, u must slowly try to accept by trying asking, why are u doing it, why are u feeling this. Do not be blinded or controlled by emotions. To cry blindly serve no purpose. If u wanna cry, cry for the loss of an opporunity, cry for the hurt in ur heart, dun cry for the sake of crying. After u have done crying, imagine urself a lake high up in the mountains. U are water. Everything is calm. A storm may create waves upon ur surface, but seek the depth within urself. So deep, that the storm cannot penetrate, the depth of the lake is peaceful, while the surface may rage. Feel the energy that rage upon ur surface, cry if u wish, but dun not lose urself in the storm. Remember the peace within the depth. The storm will soon pass. And u re the lake, all will be peaceful again. Dwell not on unhappy memories. Curse not the one who cuz u hurt. All these u must come to realise, solve nothing, do nothing. Be peaceful and smile. This is life. Rage and wept, but once the storm has passed, move on and smile. Do not dwell in negative thoughts, do not HATE. HATE is a poison. No goods come from it, only makes u a bitter soul. Forgive if u can, if not just smile but dun not hate. Try not to get back at him or anything. Try not to pretend what u do not feel. If u are sad, be sad, and not afraid to show him. In fact, what he thinks, doesn't matter at all. Doesn't really matter that who is the one who lost out? Who is the one that is in the wrong? Doesn't really meant so much to u tat u wanna show that u can do without him? What is the use? These prove nothing at all if u dun really feel this way. Have the courage to be wat u feel. Help urself, stand up, not because u wanna prove to anyone. Stand up, becuz u love urself! U do not have to proof anything at all!! The heaven knows, the earth knows. And you know. as for upndowngirl well, u may not mean it. But ur statement is disturbing to read, especially for guys. U had practically stomp on every decent guy's toes. feel that u shld be more senstive, this is not a woman's forum where u can rave all u wanna, there are guys around u noe. And most of them, sad and unhappy ones. Guys in general, particularly at a younger age tend to be less mature. This is due to our genetic makeup. But to say that we are dumb and insensitve, tat is a very hurtful thing. Guys and Gals are different. One isn't better than another. They are just different. Nor can one do without another. I just wanna remind u, guys have feelings just like girls. We may not show it as much, or as senstive, but we can feel hurt too! Just hope tat u think about the consequences before u write or speak. Everyone has feelings u noe. when we mean senstive, it doesn't just mean sensitive to ur feelings. It is sensitive to everyone's feeling. cheers.