perseus

My situation is hard to explain. Girls for whatever reason don't want to talk to me, they have no interest in me, and seem to care less if I existed or not. I will admit my social skills are not that great, and because of that, I feel girls are freaked out by me or something. I will admit I am the worst when it comes to flirting (anyone want to help me in that department?) When I try to engage in conversation (which is hard for me to initiate anyway due to my social anxiety) with them, such as how was your weekend, they say, "it was good" or if i ask did you do anything fun? they say "i didn't do much"...i mean crap how boring! Then when some other guy asks the same thing, she'll tell him "oh i went to this party..." etc etc and go through all the details. WHy to him, why not me? All I want is some female companionship, and for some reason, no one seems to care. Its creating a situation where I am really starting to hate girls. Just because all of thse feelings make me think that everyone is being so shallow. OK so maybe I don't live up to some mega-attractive image, but that doesn't mean you can't talk to me! ANd I know all of you readers are thinking: "well gee you must be a boring person." well no, i am not. I have plenty of interests which I would love to share with everyone. I am skilled at what I do. I recently was happy learning recently that this girl in my class starting crying cause other guys were making fun of her. Well, how can I positively work out my problem? My friends also think I am odd cause I dont talk about girls. Well how can I if none of em give a crap about me? How can I if all of my conversations consist of "hey hows it going" kind of crap? I apologize for the tone of this post. I am mad cause I feel like the only way for a girl to like me is if I live up to some huge image which I can't do cause that is just not me! -perseus

I feel i really might be the only one on this one. I grew up totally not caring at all how I looked as far as clothes were concerned, I went to a preppy high school, where dress code consisted of pants like cargos (no jeans) and button down shirts and nice shoes. I rather enjoyed this change. But then entering college, I totally went back to not caring. All i wear are sweatshirts, jeans, sneakers. I feel I need to find the right style that fits my lifestyle (I am a design student) and I am just totally clueless. Any fashion gurus out there? I really like a preppy look, but I also wish I could look good casual I just dont know of anyone. All i get is boring old navy jeans and structure pants and college brand sweatshirts. I am not good at looking at people and saying oh look ill try that cause I just dont know where to go. Also, I think people may dress according to their musical interests but then again I am mr. clueless here. I know I could look much better, but I dont want to overdoit and make it look like I care too much. Anyone with ideas? -perseus -perseus

OK. There is this girl I am falling for, and whenever I am around her I want her even more. Her friends are awesome. However, they never discuss sex around me and or relationships. Always when other guys are around. I am quite light, but i cant gain weight cause i have an incredible metabolism rate and hypoglycemia (which means i have to eat a meal every hour and a half; which might sound good to some people but damn it sucks) and i feel my weight is preventing my advances in social interaction. Please what can i do?

I have recently started falling for this girl and I am finding it very difficult to initiate anything even if just conversation. I am very shy, and I cant get over it. The more time goes by where I realize how much I like her, the more I keep my distance. I am getting increasingly depressed because of my shyness and anxieties, its preventing me from experiencing what I should be. I want to show her how much I like her without scaring her off. I think about her practically all day. I never know what is right. I want to open myself up to her, get to know her more personally but I just cant do it. When we hang out it's beautiful, but I feel she isnt talking to me as much anymore. She doesnt approach me as much. I was nervous she liked some other guy, but she told me she doesnt like him. But she lightens up around some other guy more than me. He has a gf, I dont think this girl I am falling for has a bf. I have my chance, why can't I take it? The more I think and talk about her the more I like her! Someone help! What can I do?